The Languish marriage poll

[DontSayBanana]

Why?

Use you money for stuff that matters, like a nice place to live.

That's implied, and should be taken care of within the next several months (hopefully).

[Malthus]

In those provinces having common-law protections, they are not "the same" as marriage - the *support* obligations are the same, but the *property sharing* is different.

It would be effectively the same here if Lola wins. In the Cour d'Appel decision the judges invalidated all dispositions of the Civil Code over the obligations after separation, except those touching property sharing.

But the core of the problem is in the alimony to the ex-partner. That's what makes it unpalatable to most Quebecers, and the fact that in Quebec de facto unions are considered a flexible manner to provide for a family and child support after separation, outside of the complications surrounding marriage. You live together, you break-up, and the only common obligation is toward any child you have had together.

From a social POV, it is desireable - particularly if "traditional" marriage has gone by the wayside.

Support obligations prevent the poorer of the couple from (on average) being more likely to fall into into poverty and be supported by social services.

[crazy canuck]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

[HVC]

In those provinces having common-law protections, they are not "the same" as marriage - the *support* obligations are the same, but the *property sharing* is different.

we had a thread about that recently. I disagreed with you. That's all i recall.

Oh, and that CC was on my side that you were evil

[The Brain]

If you depend on your non-husband man for support maybe you should make an effort to keep him. Don't put on weight, do anal etc. Just a thought.

[Malthus]

In those provinces having common-law protections, they are not "the same" as marriage - the *support* obligations are the same, but the *property sharing* is different.

we had a thread about that recently. I disagreed with you. That's all i recall.

Oh, and that CC was on my side that you were evil

Eh? Far as I know the law is as I have stated it - dunno what there is to disagree with.

[Malthus]

If you depend on your non-husband man for support maybe you should make an effort to keep him. Don't put on weight, do anal etc. Just a thought.

Haul a big load of hay, don't attract too many flies, keep the stable clean, that sort of thing.

[Malthus]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

That is particularly painful. 

[HVC]

In those provinces having common-law protections, they are not "the same" as marriage - the *support* obligations are the same, but the *property sharing* is different.

we had a thread about that recently. I disagreed with you. That's all i recall.

Oh, and that CC was on my side that you were evil

Eh? Far as I know the law is as I have stated it - dunno what there is to disagree with.

we were arguing the ethics of the law, not the law itself.

[HVC]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

20% of people my age group does it that way. Never tried, but i'm not opposed to the idea.

[Malthus]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

20% of people my age group does it that way. Never tried, but i'm not opposed to the idea.

You will be - when you find out the person you've spent time communicating with and really seemed to "click" with online has given you a pic taken ten years and fifty pounds ago. 

[garbon]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

That is particularly painful. 

Is it?

[crazy canuck]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

That is particularly painful. 

Is it?

Yes it is.  To watch anyway.  I can understand how people forced to use such tools might downplay their plight.

[Malthus]

I guess it sounds like a good thing to avoid if one's whole goal is to hurry up and find the one.

The main point is watching people my age go through internet dating.

That is particularly painful. 

Is it?

To watch? Yup.

For one, people in their mid-40s generally did not grow up using the 'net and often aren't real comfy with using it for such intimate matters. They aren't used, for example, to the sheer level of bullshit that must be filtered.

[HVC]

First clue is that if the 18 year old belly dancer is interested in you there's a good chance she's a male truck driver