Would you consider your spouse getting fat a good reason for divorce?

[garbon]

If your partner wants to let themselves go, you have to let them go.

If you love someone...

[DGuller]

Two different things. Fat=/= unhealthy.

Pretty strong correlation, though, and for any given person, all else being the same, more fat is worse than less fat.

[Valmy]

Two different things. Fat=/= unhealthy.

It is a risk factor.  Smoker =/= unhealthy either. 

[Barrister]

So yeah, everytime a bunch of men go off about how fat women are and it's because they're just not trying hard enough, I roll my eyes. 

Eh.  For the most part everybody was condemning the 'fat acceptance' movement or whatever rather than giving women, in particular, shit.

No there was plenty of advice about how fat people (and fat women in particular) just aren't trying hard enough.

[garbon]

So yeah, everytime a bunch of men go off about how fat women are and it's because they're just not trying hard enough, I roll my eyes. 

Eh.  For the most part everybody was condemning the 'fat acceptance' movement or whatever rather than giving women, in particular, shit.

No there was plenty of advice about how fat people (and fat women in particular) just aren't trying hard enough.

I though the discussion was around people who had given up / simply decided they were healthy as they currently are.

[merithyn]

But to answer your question, if Max was a diabetic and refused to take his insulin, I would not leave him, no.

You wouldn't have to.  He would be leaving this earth soon enough.   

Heh. My dad held on for years and years, dying a very long, very painful death. Mostly due to not taking care of his diabetes.

[garbon]

But to answer your question, if Max was a diabetic and refused to take his insulin, I would not leave him, no.

Gotcha. I, personally, would leave someone if they were bipolar and then decided they were no longer going to take their medication.

[katmai]

I thought she was just upset she took 4 days to weigh in on the issues.

I was on vacation, eating a lot, drinking a lot, and relaxing a lot. I think I gained three pounds. I'm a happy girl.

poor woman, max will be leaving in 3,2,1...

[CountDeMoney]

I, personally, would leave someone if they were bipolar and then decided they were no longer going to take their medication.

But what about the days they were OK?  Would you go back on those days?

[Valmy]

No there was plenty of advice about how fat people (and fat women in particular) just aren't trying hard enough.

LOL no there wasn't.  We spent most of the thing debating marriage.  I have participated in this thread and never even addressed the question.

[garbon]

I, personally, would leave someone if they were bipolar and then decided they were no longer going to take their medication.

But what about the days they were OK?  Would you go back on those days?

That sounds unduly tiring.

[Barrister]

Two different things. Fat=/= unhealthy.

Pretty strong correlation, though, and for any given person, all else being the same, more fat is worse than less fat.

But that's the thing though.  The correlation is stronger as the weight gets higher.  But it's lower as weights go lower.  It's been the subject of some controversy whether someone who is only somewhat overweight how unhealthy that might be.

[merithyn]

Two different things. Fat=/= unhealthy.

It is a risk factor.  Smoker =/= unhealthy either.

And when it affects his health, I'll talk to him about getting healthy, not about getting thin. When the focus is on fat, it takes on the appearance of it being about looks, not health. Why do that to your spouse when it may never affect their health?

[Valmy]

But that's the thing though.  The correlation is stronger as the weight gets higher.  But it's lower as weights go lower.  It's been the subject of some controversy whether someone who is only somewhat overweight how unhealthy that might be.

Well that is the moderation joke I made earlier.  'Fat' is generally not 'somewhat overweight' unless you have the mental pathology of Ide.  So when we say 'fat' I am thinking pretty obese.

[garbon]

Two different things. Fat=/= unhealthy.

Pretty strong correlation, though, and for any given person, all else being the same, more fat is worse than less fat.

But that's the thing though.  The correlation is stronger as the weight gets higher.  But it's lower as weights go lower.  It's been the subject of some controversy whether someone who is only somewhat overweight how unhealthy that might be.

I'm not sure that was relevant to the discussion here though. I don't know what we had anyone that said kick a spouse over a few pounds.  In the article we had a woman who said she was chubby at 160 and then gained 40 extra pounds.