Would you consider your spouse getting fat a good reason for divorce?

[derspiess]

Well this is begging the question - is 200lb on a woman "pretty obese"?

Maybe depends on the height, but I'd say yes.

That just sounds like a lot of weight for an average height woman.  I'm sure some wear it better than others.

[CountDeMoney]

'Fat' is generally not 'somewhat overweight' unless you have the mental pathology of Ide. 

Ide likes 'em like the highway from Dallas to Fort Worth:  no curves.

[derspiess]

I have heard some pretty mean things said about women who are only somewhat, or even slightly, overweight.

Oh, I have as well.  But it's usually only been when she's full of herself & just needs to be knocked down a couple pegs.

[DGuller]

There you go, Valmy. I knew someone would eventually go there.

How shocking that a notorious numbers guy would resort to using numbers rather than cherry-picked anecdotal evidence or selective extreme statistical scrutiny.

[derspiess]

Accountants

[garbon]

I have heard some pretty mean things said about women who are only somewhat, or even slightly, overweight.

Oh, I have as well.  But it's usually only been when she's full of herself & just needs to be knocked down a couple pegs.

Or when people are being pigs which isn't uncommon.

[DGuller]

Accountants

Where? 

[merithyn]

Appearance shouldn't be the end-all-be-all, but it still matters.  If Max doesn't shave or bathe for a week, his health would probably stay the same, but I'm sure you'll have a word with him about that.

Having a word =/= divorce.

[merithyn]

There you go, Valmy. I knew someone would eventually go there.

How shocking that a notorious numbers guy would resort to using numbers rather than cherry-picked anecdotal evidence or selective extreme statistical scrutiny.

I'm more surprised that a self-proclaimed numbers guy would use numbers meant for the volume to apply to the single unit.

[DGuller]

Appearance shouldn't be the end-all-be-all, but it still matters.  If Max doesn't shave or bathe for a week, his health would probably stay the same, but I'm sure you'll have a word with him about that.

Having a word =/= divorce.

Of course that's always the case, no one serves divorce papers as the first reaction.  What if Max kept not shaving and not bathing despite repeated conversations?

[merithyn]

Appearance shouldn't be the end-all-be-all, but it still matters.  If Max doesn't shave or bathe for a week, his health would probably stay the same, but I'm sure you'll have a word with him about that.

Having a word =/= divorce.

Of course that's always the case, no one serves divorce papers as the first reaction.  What if Max kept not shaving and not bathing despite repeated conversations?

Dunno. Guess it would depend on why.

[DGuller]

I'm more surprised that a self-proclaimed numbers guy would use numbers meant for the volume to apply to the single unit.

I'm not at all surprised that you don't remember the last time I shot down this argument.

[Barrister]

I have heard some pretty mean things said about women who are only somewhat, or even slightly, overweight.

Oh, I have as well.  But it's usually only been when she's full of herself & just needs to be knocked down a couple pegs.

Why does a woman who is "full of herself" need to "be taken down a couple of pegs"?

[MadImmortalMan]

I support the right of people to decide for themselves how they feel about how they look. Besides, a bunch of men sitting around talking about how their wives can lose weight if they just do x, y, and z is a joke. Women aren't built like men, we don't lose weight like men, and it's not as easy for us as it is for you. So yeah, everytime a bunch of men go off about how fat women are and it's because they're just not trying hard enough, I roll my eyes. 

I don't particularly care about how others look, how much weight they have on them, or whether or not they're happy that way. It's, quite frankly, none of my business. When it comes to my spouse, it's more of a factor of his health. So long as he's healthy, his weight is a non-issue to me. Since there are plenty of healthy folks with extra fat on them, the weight won't be what I focus on, and it certainly wouldn't be a reason to leave him.

Hey my wife has much less difficulty staying fit than I do. She's always been thin. That's not why I started the thread.

[derspiess]

I have heard some pretty mean things said about women who are only somewhat, or even slightly, overweight.

Oh, I have as well.  But it's usually only been when she's full of herself & just needs to be knocked down a couple pegs.

Why does a woman who is "full of herself" need to "be taken down a couple of pegs"?

'Cuz she ain't all that.  Duh.