Referring to my boyfriend to people who do not know I am gay

[Martinus]

Well, I started this thread because I was bored - it has really no purpose other than throwing some ideas at the wall that is Languish and seeing what sticks.

[garbon]

What a dick.

[derspiess]

Impressed?

[Razgovory]

Well, again, this is not about me introducing him to other people, but talking about him in a conversation. And there is nothing I hate more than people who refer to some third person (that the person are talking to has never met) with their name only.

As in, "Oh, Dawid told me today that XYZ." I always want to ask "Who the fuck is Dawid"

That's the way to play it, though.  If you don't want relationship bullshit part of the equation, use proper nouns only.  Let them worry about who the fuck Dawid is.

lol, "Dawid".  Hunting wabbits.

This seems to be the best idea, because it's unlikely anyone is likely to really care what Marty is talking about anyway.

[katmai]

What is Rent Boy in Polish?

[crazy canuck]

Here's an easy enough safety tip:  don't talk about shit at work that isn't about fucking work.

Yep,

And Marti, if you cannot overcome your nature and you must attention whore at work then at the very least dont tell the people at work how much you pay your boyfriend to be in the relationship with you.  The people at your office will likely draw the same conclusions about you that we have.

[crazy canuck]

Marty formulates everything he says like a lawyer.

Since when?

[Martinus]

Here's an easy enough safety tip:  don't talk about shit at work that isn't about fucking work.

Yep,

And Marti, if you cannot overcome your nature and you must attention whore at work then at the very least dont tell the people at work how much you pay your boyfriend to be in the relationship with you.  The people at your office will likely draw the same conclusions about you that we have.

Go fuck yourself. The only time I would be interested to hear anything you got to say is a report that your wife or kid(s) have died.

[Grey Fox]

So, what are you going to do Mart?

[crazy canuck]

Here's an easy enough safety tip:  don't talk about shit at work that isn't about fucking work.

Yep,

And Marti, if you cannot overcome your nature and you must attention whore at work then at the very least dont tell the people at work how much you pay your boyfriend to be in the relationship with you.  The people at your office will likely draw the same conclusions about you that we have.

Go fuck yourself. The only time I would be interested to hear anything you got to say is a report that your wife or kid(s) have died.

By the way I think Katmai's post just before mine was much better and more to the point.

[Valmy]

Here's an easy enough safety tip:  don't talk about shit at work that isn't about fucking work.

Yep,

And Marti, if you cannot overcome your nature and you must attention whore at work then at the very least dont tell the people at work how much you pay your boyfriend to be in the relationship with you.  The people at your office will likely draw the same conclusions about you that we have.

Go fuck yourself. The only time I would be interested to hear anything you got to say is a report that your wife or kid(s) have died.

That showed him.

[Ed Anger]

I don't know if Mart can give the evil eye over the internet. Quick CC, ward it off!

[garbon]

I don't know if Mart can give the evil eye over the internet. Quick CC, ward it off!

His occult powers are weak.

[Josquius]

Interesting its so troublesome in Polish. Gay guys I know in similar situations tend to just speak of their partner.
The awesome thing to do would be to just non chalantly in the middle of a conversation go "...oh yeah, I heard that, my boyfriend told me....." and then enjoy the reaction.

Or you could just mention him as being a friend. Fuck being decietful. I never mention girls I know in that way to people who aren't in that part of my life (parents, work people, etc...)

[OttoVonBismarck]

Never once heard a straight person refer to their fuck friend as a partner.

Yeah maybe it is just here.  I get this all the time.  I was recently at a funeral recently where the widow was even referred to as the man's 'partner for over 60 years' keep in mind they had been married most of this time.

It's not common around here, but it is something I've seen when you're talking about a couple in a very long term relationship who have basically combined houses, to some degree finances, maybe even have a kid together etc. Basically people who for all purposes other than the paperwork are married, but for various reasons have not legally married. The one couple I can think of that both uses the term and actually explained themselves, the woman said calling her male SO her "boyfriend" made it seem like their relationship was less serious than it was, since they've lived together over 10 years and have a child together, but she even says that partner is a iffy word for this scenario and that really there isn't a "normal" term for two heterosexuals who have decided to be married-in-all-but-name.

I'd guess Austin, being the hippy hell hole it is, probably has a lot more people around than here that for various hippie liberal reasons have chosen to be in long term heterosexual unions without marrying, as some sort of atheist stick-it-to-the-man mentality or something.