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Started by jimmy olsen, January 04, 2012, 06:41:53 PM

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garbon

Quote from: Phillip V on January 05, 2012, 02:14:31 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on January 05, 2012, 02:04:44 PM
Quote from: Phillip V on January 05, 2012, 01:56:29 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on January 05, 2012, 01:46:10 PM
Look at the house she's living in.  I think she saw a chance to move in to some decent digs and took it.

We need more people to see the practical sides of marriage.

No.  We don't.

"Love" is destroying us.

Doesn't really seem practical considering that someone can always drop you and they can take steps to prevent you from getting half.
"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.

Razgovory

I've given it serious thought. I must scorn the ways of my family, and seek a Japanese woman to yield me my progeny. He shall live in the lands of the east, and be well tutored in his sacred trust to weave the best traditions of Japan and the Sacred South together, until such time as he (or, indeed his house, which will periodically require infusion of both Southern and Japanese bloodlines of note) can deliver to the South it's independence, either in this world or in space.  -Lettow April of 2011

Raz is right. -MadImmortalMan March of 2017

dps

I find it interesting that people will complain about states with 18 as the age of consent having it too high, then wring their hands over someone marrying a 16 or 17 year old (unless you want to make a case that the age at which one can get married should be higher than the age at which one can give consent).

Razgovory

Who here is complaining that that age of consent is to high?
I've given it serious thought. I must scorn the ways of my family, and seek a Japanese woman to yield me my progeny. He shall live in the lands of the east, and be well tutored in his sacred trust to weave the best traditions of Japan and the Sacred South together, until such time as he (or, indeed his house, which will periodically require infusion of both Southern and Japanese bloodlines of note) can deliver to the South it's independence, either in this world or in space.  -Lettow April of 2011

Raz is right. -MadImmortalMan March of 2017

Malthus

Quote from: dps on January 05, 2012, 03:12:57 PM
I find it interesting that people will complain about states with 18 as the age of consent having it too high, then wring their hands over someone marrying a 16 or 17 year old (unless you want to make a case that the age at which one can get married should be higher than the age at which one can give consent).

Well, there are two things here:

(1) A large age gap appears particularly glaring where the younger partner is very young; and

(2) Marriage is supposed to be a reasonably long-term committment. In most people's lives, there is the feeling that there ought to be a time of fooling around and dating casually before one leaps into making it, so that one is fully informed (assuming of course they decide to marry at all).

Add these two together and an older person marrying a very young person immediately as they become "legal" looks like a bad idea, thus worth social disapproval.
The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane—Marcus Aurelius

garbon

Quote from: Malthus on January 05, 2012, 03:22:05 PM
Quote from: dps on January 05, 2012, 03:12:57 PM
I find it interesting that people will complain about states with 18 as the age of consent having it too high, then wring their hands over someone marrying a 16 or 17 year old (unless you want to make a case that the age at which one can get married should be higher than the age at which one can give consent).

Well, there are two things here:

(1) A large age gap appears particularly glaring where the younger partner is very young; and

(2) Marriage is supposed to be a reasonably long-term committment. In most people's lives, there is the feeling that there ought to be a time of fooling around and dating casually before one leaps into making it, so that one is fully informed (assuming of course they decide to marry at all).

Add these two together and an older person marrying a very young person immediately as they become "legal" looks like a bad idea, thus worth social disapproval.

Yeah, I agree. I'd say that casual sex requires less foresight than committing to someone for life.
"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.

dps

Quote from: Razgovory on January 05, 2012, 03:18:53 PM
Who here is complaining that that age of consent is to high?

Everytime that age of consent laws are brought up around here, pretty much everybody who has posted on the subject has agreed that 18 is too high.  The arguments have usually been between those who feel that about 16 or so is about right, and those who argue for a lower limit.

MadImmortalMan

If one's worldview requires committing for life prior to sex, that somewhat alters the decision-making process.
"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

"Complacency can be a self-denying prophecy."
"We have nothing to fear but lack of fear itself." --Larry Summers

MadImmortalMan

Quote from: dps on January 05, 2012, 03:36:46 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 05, 2012, 03:18:53 PM
Who here is complaining that that age of consent is to high?

Everytime that age of consent laws are brought up around here, pretty much everybody who has posted on the subject has agreed that 18 is too high.  The arguments have usually been between those who feel that about 16 or so is about right, and those who argue for a lower limit.

I assumed it was a stab at the Polanski supporters.
"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

"Complacency can be a self-denying prophecy."
"We have nothing to fear but lack of fear itself." --Larry Summers

Eddie Teach

I think generally shielding young people from making decisions until they reach maturity just makes them postpone reaching that maturity, as it's those decisions and their consequences that make one grow.
To sleep, perchance to dream. But in that sleep of death, what dreams may come?

MadImmortalMan

Quote from: Peter Wiggin on January 05, 2012, 03:43:08 PM
I think generally shielding young people from making decisions until they reach maturity just makes them postpone reaching that maturity, as it's those decisions and their consequences that make one grow.

Yes, and the consequences tend to get more severe when you get older. For most things anyway.
"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

"Complacency can be a self-denying prophecy."
"We have nothing to fear but lack of fear itself." --Larry Summers

Razgovory

Quote from: dps on January 05, 2012, 03:36:46 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 05, 2012, 03:18:53 PM
Who here is complaining that that age of consent is to high?

Everytime that age of consent laws are brought up around here, pretty much everybody who has posted on the subject has agreed that 18 is too high.  The arguments have usually been between those who feel that about 16 or so is about right, and those who argue for a lower limit.

Nothing I payed much attention to.
I've given it serious thought. I must scorn the ways of my family, and seek a Japanese woman to yield me my progeny. He shall live in the lands of the east, and be well tutored in his sacred trust to weave the best traditions of Japan and the Sacred South together, until such time as he (or, indeed his house, which will periodically require infusion of both Southern and Japanese bloodlines of note) can deliver to the South it's independence, either in this world or in space.  -Lettow April of 2011

Raz is right. -MadImmortalMan March of 2017

Phillip V

Quote from: Peter Wiggin on January 05, 2012, 03:43:08 PM
I think generally shielding young people from making decisions until they reach maturity just makes them postpone reaching that maturity, as it's those decisions and their consequences that make one grow.

Yah, New Jersey's 2-year "safety" delay of driver's license for youths from age 16 to 18 resulted in skyrocketing traffic accidents/fatalities in the age 20 group.

alfred russel

Quote from: Malthus on January 05, 2012, 03:22:05 PM
Quote from: dps on January 05, 2012, 03:12:57 PM
I find it interesting that people will complain about states with 18 as the age of consent having it too high, then wring their hands over someone marrying a 16 or 17 year old (unless you want to make a case that the age at which one can get married should be higher than the age at which one can give consent).

Well, there are two things here:

(1) A large age gap appears particularly glaring where the younger partner is very young; and

(2) Marriage is supposed to be a reasonably long-term committment. In most people's lives, there is the feeling that there ought to be a time of fooling around and dating casually before one leaps into making it, so that one is fully informed (assuming of course they decide to marry at all).

Add these two together and an older person marrying a very young person immediately as they become "legal" looks like a bad idea, thus worth social disapproval.

I'd agree with this, but go further. I've never encountered a 16 year old married to a 56 year old. I'd be appalled if I did. I can't imagine any parent agreeing to that. Making some assumptions, I'd think this girl came from a poor family background, and the man found her easy to influence and control. I'm going to guess that they didn't have a very deep relationship, and he kept her cut off to a degree from the world at large (which would obviously disapprove). For him it wasn't about anything other than control and sex, for her staying in the relationship was probably about security (both with him as a provider, and the potential for abuse she split). She was on a path to having no future (hopefully now people will notice, and get her help).

A 16 year old is just a kid. She had no way to hold her own in a relationship with a 50+ year old.
They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.

There's a fine line between salvation and drinking poison in the jungle.

I'm embarrassed. I've been making the mistake of associating with you. It won't happen again. :)
-garbon, February 23, 2014

alfred russel

Quote from: dps on January 05, 2012, 03:36:46 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 05, 2012, 03:18:53 PM
Who here is complaining that that age of consent is to high?

Everytime that age of consent laws are brought up around here, pretty much everybody who has posted on the subject has agreed that 18 is too high.  The arguments have usually been between those who feel that about 16 or so is about right, and those who argue for a lower limit.

Obviously 16 (and younger) are going to have sex, and a big problem is criminalizing relationships around the cutoffs. But when the other party is in their 50s, things are different.
They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.

There's a fine line between salvation and drinking poison in the jungle.

I'm embarrassed. I've been making the mistake of associating with you. It won't happen again. :)
-garbon, February 23, 2014