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Apparently for heteros the "goldilocks" area is 8-12:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/12112876/Revealed-The-goldilocks-average-number-of-sexual-partners-to-have.html?sf19360973=1&sf19363220=1

I made a quick count and could name 25 but probably I missed at least 5.

 :hmm: :blush: :ph34r:

Woohoo, I don't feel so slutty any more.  :showoff:

Pointless count. You could do it once with 100 and you'd have had lesa sex than if you did it 20 times with 6. Which would be horribly low.

Just your mom.

Quote from: Martinus on April 02, 2016, 03:28:45 PM
Woohoo, I don't feel so slutty any more.  :showoff:

At least you could name yours.  :Embarrass:

Martinus is like a partition of Poland. Every German and Russian gets a turn.

Define partner.

13

Fuck I don't know.

Not many.

Bet some people here are inflating their totals by counting their left hand and their right hand separately.

Quote from: 11B4V on April 02, 2016, 06:56:11 PM
Fuck I don't know.

:lol:

I dunno...it was a lot and I have more than my share of Super Bowl rings, but it was all so incredibly compressed between 1989-1997, and then just, well...

Dating?  More like Carbon Dating.   :lol:

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Six. Pretty sure it is six.

Edit: 8 if you count my hands, as dps suggested.

I'm in the 11-20 group.  Don't know the exact number, but I am sure of at least 11 but I can't get to 20 without including individual fingers.

Looks like Raz voted.

Is Jaron a: sinner?

http://eom.byu.edu/index.php/Premarital_Sex (http://eom.byu.edu/index.php/Premarital_Sex)

Quote from: Peter Wiggin on April 03, 2016, 12:15:43 AM
Is Jaron a: sinner?

http://eom.byu.edu/index.php/Premarital_Sex (http://eom.byu.edu/index.php/Premarital_Sex)

:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Crimes committed before one's arrival in Zion can be forgiven.

Don't they require the sinner to be, you know, repentant?  :P

Wow, Languish is sluttier than I thought.  :lol:

Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

Considering the average age of people on languish I don't think people stand out as too slutty. Even with 20+, for most of languish, assuming virginity lost at 20, we'd be talking 1 or 2 a year.

Several people here have been married for a while or have had stable relationships though.

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

Admittedly it also hinges on a definition of a sexual partner. I assumed that a sexual partner is someone in the presence of whom I either had or attempted to have an orgasm.  :hmm:

Quote from: Martinus on April 03, 2016, 04:15:07 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

Admittedly it also hinges on a definition of a sexual partner. I assumed that a sexual partner is someone in the presence of whom I either had or attempted to have an orgasm.  :hmm:

Wouldn't work for me, I ride the subway a lot.

I'm with Jos, I don't see anything odd with these results.

Will the oculus rift change the count when languishtas start having virtual sex with supermodels?

1-2 new partners per year = unability to form secure and lasting relationship.

Unless, of course, one continues the sexual relationship to prior partners while gaining new ones. That would be pretty slutty though, IMO.

Quote from: The Brain on April 03, 2016, 04:19:20 AM

Quote from: Martinus on April 03, 2016, 04:15:07 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

Admittedly it also hinges on a definition of a sexual partner. I assumed that a sexual partner is someone in the presence of whom I either had or attempted to have an orgasm.  :hmm:

Wouldn't work for me, I ride the subway a lot.

:lol:

Ok let me add a caveat - the person participated willingly for that specific purpose.

Quote from: Brezel on April 03, 2016, 04:55:14 AM
1-2 new partners per year = unability to form secure and lasting relationship.

Unless, of course, one continues the sexual relationship to prior partners while gaining new ones. That would be pretty slutty though, IMO.

Oh good, glad we could bring in a traditional values opinion. :rolleyes:

Quote from: Tyr on April 03, 2016, 03:34:47 AM
Considering the average age of people on languish I don't think people stand out as too slutty. Even with 20+, for most of languish, assuming virginity lost at 20, we'd be talking 1 or 2 a year.

Still suspiciously high for a group of nerds though.

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 05:30:16 AM

Oh good, glad we could bring in a traditional values opinion. :rolleyes:

Well the whole idea of being "slutty" requires that there are some values don't you agree.

Also, I personally would prefer to have a lasting relationship (with someone I find attractive) instead of several random partners. That would provide me with way more sex as well.

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

On some level, I wish I was inflating it.
But the fact of the matter is that all that insecurity and low self-esteem led me to lead a life of a man slut.
Going to my 20s drunk probably helped. I'd gladly trade my 120 plus "partners" for a life in a loving, stable relationship. But that just didn't happen.
Now I am just a crazy old cat guy that no-one would touch with a barge pole.

Quote from: Brezel on April 03, 2016, 06:17:00 AM

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 05:30:16 AM

Oh good, glad we could bring in a traditional values opinion. :rolleyes:

Well the whole idea of being "slutty" requires that there are some values don't you agree.

Also, I personally would prefer to have a lasting relationship (with someone I find attractive) instead of several random partners. That would provide me with way more sex as well.

That's great that you have a preference doesn't mean that everyone shares in that.

Besides, who says they have to just be random partners? :huh:

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 06:27:48 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

On some level, I wish I was inflating it.
But the fact of the matter is that all that insecurity and low self-esteem led me to lead a life of a man slut.
Going to my 20s drunk probably helped. I'd gladly trade my 120 plus "partners" for a life in a loving, stable relationship. But that just didn't happen.
Now I am just a crazy old cat guy that no-one would touch with a barge pole.

I got to my 20s pretty drunk too and with no self-esteem and I'm nowhere near that!

Quote from: Brezel on April 03, 2016, 04:55:14 AM
1-2 new partners per year = unability to form secure and lasting relationship.

Unless, of course, one continues the sexual relationship to prior partners while gaining new ones. That would be pretty slutty though, IMO.

Sure.
I wish I had less (could do with cutting a few out for sure) and instead had more with some of the others and better quality ones overall.

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 07:08:13 AM

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 06:27:48 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

On some level, I wish I was inflating it.
But the fact of the matter is that all that insecurity and low self-esteem led me to lead a life of a man slut.
Going to my 20s drunk probably helped. I'd gladly trade my 120 plus "partners" for a life in a loving, stable relationship. But that just didn't happen.
Now I am just a crazy old cat guy that no-one would touch with a barge pole.

I got to my 20s pretty drunk too and with no self-esteem and I'm nowhere near that!

I guess you had standards. I didn't.
I found myself waking up next to some real porkers thinking "OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE". Found my clothes and did a Houdini on them.
If it was Saturday morning, I found a bar and went full circle on Sunday morning.

It could also be that Scandinavian women are extremely easy. I also had a "thing" for female bartenders. They tended to like me and took me home after work.

Now I couldn't score in a brothel.

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 07:16:25 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 07:08:13 AM

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 06:27:48 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

On some level, I wish I was inflating it.
But the fact of the matter is that all that insecurity and low self-esteem led me to lead a life of a man slut.
Going to my 20s drunk probably helped. I'd gladly trade my 120 plus "partners" for a life in a loving, stable relationship. But that just didn't happen.
Now I am just a crazy old cat guy that no-one would touch with a barge pole.

I got to my 20s pretty drunk too and with no self-esteem and I'm nowhere near that!

I guess you had standards. I didn't.
I found myself waking up next to some real porkers thinking "OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE". Found my clothes and did a Houdini on them.
If it was Saturday morning, I found a bar and went full circle on Sunday morning.

It could also be that Scandinavian women are extremely easy. I also had a "thing" for female bartenders. They tended to like me and took me home after work.

Now I couldn't score in a brothel.

Oh yeah, bartenders. Two of what I consider my four most important relationships were with bartenders. Free drinks were always a key to my heart at the time (and other way less romantic things).

I have never had a "waking up besides a crocodile" experience, but I suspect some of the girls I got laid with did. Beer googles work both ways...

Free drinks, someone you could talk to while drinking. Dating bartenders = good.
Another thing was that the other patrons would ogle them and you knew you were the one they'd take home.  :blush:

I guess the mystical aura of working with "something creative" often worked on them. I both miss and loathe those years.

Quote from: HisMajestyBOB on April 02, 2016, 04:50:26 PM
Just your mom.

She is so fat she counts as five.

Quote from: Brezel on April 03, 2016, 06:17:00 AM

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 05:30:16 AM

Oh good, glad we could bring in a traditional values opinion. :rolleyes:

Well the whole idea of being "slutty" requires that there are some values don't you agree.

Also, I personally would prefer to have a lasting relationship (with someone I find attractive) instead of several random partners. That would provide me with way more sex as well.

Actually, if you are looking at it from a purely sex satisfaction perspective, having 3-5 rotating partners is probably the best as it lets you know each other better while at the same time keeping things fresh and interesting.

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 07:16:25 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 07:08:13 AM

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 06:27:48 AM

Quote from: celedhring on April 03, 2016, 02:55:56 AM
Or we are just men inflating our sexual pedigree. Business as usual.

On some level, I wish I was inflating it.
But the fact of the matter is that all that insecurity and low self-esteem led me to lead a life of a man slut.
Going to my 20s drunk probably helped. I'd gladly trade my 120 plus "partners" for a life in a loving, stable relationship. But that just didn't happen.
Now I am just a crazy old cat guy that no-one would touch with a barge pole.

I got to my 20s pretty drunk too and with no self-esteem and I'm nowhere near that!

I guess you had standards. I didn't.
I found myself waking up next to some real porkers thinking "OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE". Found my clothes and did a Houdini on them.
If it was Saturday morning, I found a bar and went full circle on Sunday morning.

It could also be that Scandinavian women are extremely easy. I also had a "thing" for female bartenders. They tended to like me and took me home after work.

Now I couldn't score in a brothel.

I accidentally left a place with a not unattractive but rather large gal once before asking where we were going; turns out she lived like 45 minutes the wrong direction.  She gave me a ride home the next morning and I had her drop me off at my buddy's house and walked 2 miles home so she didn't know where I lived.   :blush:

Wise

My interest in hiking may have begun as a way to find my way home after particularly weird nights, when I think of it.  :hmm:

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 07:16:25 AM

I found myself waking up next to some real porkers thinking "OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE".

Never really had that experience, even with all the drinking I did in college.  Partly it was I don't think I had the typical drunken problem of girls getting better looking the drunker I was, but mostly I think it was that drinking didn't really increase my self-confidence any.  If I had the self-confidence during my teens and early 20s I have now, I'd say my score would be considerable higher.  Though it's not really self-confidence;  it's more the understanding that getting turned down isn't the end of the world.

My craziest "getting laid while drunk" story is when me and a mate (pasty skin, blond hair) put on Ajax shirts, got drunk, and pretended to be Dutch tourists during one of Barcelona's big festivals in August. We made up the language (hey, we were 19 and not too smart) but somehow it worked. Of course the girls were pretty drunk too.

Best part of all if that the drunkenness somehow started to clear up while we were going to the girls' place, and I got such a huge WTF I'M DOING moment of realization that I have never been able to forget.  :lol:

In college I picked up a girl solely based upon the hockey jersey I was wearing.  Required zero effort, beyond putting on the jersey.

As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

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Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

So not fair.  :mad:

Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 03, 2016, 12:21:15 PM

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

So not fair.  :mad:

If you're jealous of her ability to get laid anytime she wants, you could get a sex change.

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

And yet. So. Fucking. Many. Women. Just don't recognise how easy they have it.

I've tried pointing this out to female friends before and they just don't accept it. Instead they get worked up about politics and wingmen and other such nonsense that is completely unnecessary for women. :frusty:

Quote from: dps on April 03, 2016, 12:28:39 PM
If you're jealous of her ability to get laid anytime she wants, you could get a sex change.

Heels kill my lower back something fierce.

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 06:31:38 AM

Quote from: Brezel on April 03, 2016, 06:17:00 AM

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 05:30:16 AM

Oh good, glad we could bring in a traditional values opinion. :rolleyes:

Well the whole idea of being "slutty" requires that there are some values don't you agree.

Also, I personally would prefer to have a lasting relationship (with someone I find attractive) instead of several random partners. That would provide me with way more sex as well.

That's great that you have a preference doesn't mean that everyone shares in that.

Besides, who says they have to just be random partners? :huh:

Where did he say he speaks for everybody? :unsure:

Quote from: dps on April 03, 2016, 12:28:39 PM
If you're jealous of her ability to get laid anytime she wants, you could get a sex change.

Oh yeah. Being a transwoman is great. Everybody lining up to have sex with you.

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

Yeah that was my wife as well. It is always sad when some lady feels all bad and slutty about it. Those guys will always have that time with you to feel like they were this stud.

Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 03, 2016, 12:33:20 PM

Quote from: dps on April 03, 2016, 12:28:39 PM
If you're jealous of her ability to get laid anytime she wants, you could get a sex change.

Heels kill my lower back something fierce.

Well just start hitting it with men.

Quote from: Valmy on April 03, 2016, 12:37:44 PM

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 06:31:38 AM

Quote from: Brezel on April 03, 2016, 06:17:00 AM

Quote from: garbon on April 03, 2016, 05:30:16 AM

Oh good, glad we could bring in a traditional values opinion. :rolleyes:

Well the whole idea of being "slutty" requires that there are some values don't you agree.

Also, I personally would prefer to have a lasting relationship (with someone I find attractive) instead of several random partners. That would provide me with way more sex as well.

That's great that you have a preference doesn't mean that everyone shares in that.

Besides, who says they have to just be random partners? :huh:

Where did he say he speaks for everybody? :unsure:

How about his first post that reeked of judgment that people with new partners each year were sad sacks?

Quote from: Peter Wiggin on April 03, 2016, 12:35:33 AM
Don't they require the sinner to be, you know, repentant?  :P

:grr:

Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 03, 2016, 12:21:15 PM

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

So not fair.  :mad:

Just because men are the privileged gender doesn't mean being a woman doesn't have advantages. :)

Quote from: Tyr on April 03, 2016, 12:32:52 PM

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

And yet. So. Fucking. Many. Women. Just don't recognise how easy they have it.

I've tried pointing this out to female friends before and they just don't accept it. Instead they get worked up about politics and wingmen and other such nonsense that is completely unnecessary for women. :frusty:

This assumes that a woman having sex with the first random drunk asshole who comes along is an advantage. If it is, then a man can just as easily get the first ugly chick that comes along. And she might not even be an asshole, so it's even better!

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 01:38:36 PM

Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 03, 2016, 12:21:15 PM

Quote from: merithyn on April 03, 2016, 12:00:43 PM
As many as I wanted. :)

I'm female, and while no great beauty, not particularly ugly either. If I wanted to get laid, I got laid. Most of the time it was with my first pick of the night, but sometimes it'd be number two. Rarely did I have to dip to number three unless I was doing a particularly bad job of figuring out who was in a relationship.

So not fair.  :mad:

Just because men are the privileged gender doesn't mean being a woman doesn't have advantages. :)

Men are the privileged gender?  :hmm:

Quote from: dps on April 03, 2016, 10:47:00 AM

Quote from: Norgy on April 03, 2016, 07:16:25 AM

I found myself waking up next to some real porkers thinking "OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE".

Never really had that experience, even with all the drinking I did in college.  Partly it was I don't think I had the typical drunken problem of girls getting better looking the drunker I was, but mostly I think it was that drinking didn't really increase my self-confidence any.  If I had the self-confidence during my teens and early 20s I have now, I'd say my score would be considerable higher.  Though it's not really self-confidence;  it's more the understanding that getting turned down isn't the end of the world.

It didn't build my confidence much, but since I used to look quite good, I was approached by women. My biggest regret is that I didn't try a bit harder to retain a certain Swedish waitress.

But what is done is done. I probably wasn't a very nice person. Nowadays, I feel lonely and rather ashamed of my past. I guess that is my punishment.