Your spouse dies--Do you remarry?

[Grey Fox]

I'd look for a new partner, yes. Marriage? I don't think so (okay, maybe).

In order to remarry you need to get married a first time.

It's just an archaic word for an archaid state.

[HVC]

You're on Tyr's side. Think about that. Carefully.

[merithyn]

You're on Tyr's side. Think about that. Carefully.

Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

[Grey Fox]

You're on Tyr's side. Think about that. Carefully.

Tyr's on the side that he's still too emo to be in a steady relationship. I'm saying that the state has no business into regulating our relantionships. Telecoms & Banks, yes. Marriage, no.

[garbon]

Should he die before me, why would I invite another person in who could potentially make more of a mess?

Because you love that person and want to be around them?

[merithyn]

Should he die before me, why would I invite another person in who could potentially make more of a mess?

Because you love that person and want to be around them?

I just can't imagine that being a good enough reason. 

[crazy canuck]

Ironically, a sizeable majority of Languishite posting in this thread will be out lived by their wives/femaile partners. 

I certainly hope so.  I have expressly forbidden my wife dying before me.

[Richard Hakluyt]

You're on Tyr's side. Think about that. Carefully.

Tyr's on the side that he's still too emo to be in a steady relationship. I'm saying that the state has no business into regulating our relantionships. Telecoms & Banks, yes. Marriage, no.

Marriage is convenient, from my point of view, because it lets the state know that we regard a relationship as serious.....there are rights to property, widows/widowers pensions, houses and so on. There are also responsibilities, toward the children mainly.

You are in a serious relationship with a child. I'm not sure how it works in Canada, but people in the UK have had an unpleasant surprise when their partner has died, since they are not next of kin. It is one of the reasons why the right for gays to get married is so important; in the past a person's blood family could cut in and simply ignore the "other half".

Perhaps some of the Canadian legal folk can chip in on this, the rules may be different from the UK. But, in the UK, the straightforward and easy way to protect your partner's rights to property etc is to get married.

[Richard Hakluyt]

Ironically, a sizeable majority of Languishite posting in this thread will be out lived by their wives/femaile partners. 

I certainly hope so.  I have expressly forbidden my wife dying before me.

Same here, bloody selfish of us really, but then that is the way blokes are 

[garbon]

Should he die before me, why would I invite another person in who could potentially make more of a mess?

Because you love that person and want to be around them?

I just can't imagine that being a good enough reason. 

So you'd be like I love you and want to spend time with you - but you can't come into my house / let alone live together?

[Barrister]

You're on Tyr's side. Think about that. Carefully.

Tyr's on the side that he's still too emo to be in a steady relationship. I'm saying that the state has no business into regulating our relantionships. Telecoms & Banks, yes. Marriage, no.

Marriage is convenient, from my point of view, because it lets the state know that we regard a relationship as serious.....there are rights to property, widows/widowers pensions, houses and so on. There are also responsibilities, toward the children mainly.

You are in a serious relationship with a child. I'm not sure how it works in Canada, but people in the UK have had an unpleasant surprise when their partner has died, since they are not next of kin. It is one of the reasons why the right for gays to get married is so important; in the past a person's blood family could cut in and simply ignore the "other half".

Perhaps some of the Canadian legal folk can chip in on this, the rules may be different from the UK. But, in the UK, the straightforward and easy way to protect your partner's rights to property etc is to get married.

You are entirely correct.  Being married is a simple means of ensuring a number of legal consequences happen.  Your spouse and children inherit your property (otherwise your spouse might get nothing).  The husband is presumed to be the father of children (not at all automatic otherwise).  It also forms a guarantee to each other party of a certain level of commitment to the relationship, and that the relationship can not be terminated without certain rights falling to both parties.

Now all of that can be done without being "married" but it is actually much more complicated.

[merithyn]

So you'd be like I love you and want to spend time with you - but you can't come into my house / let alone live together?

They could come in. Just not stay.

[CountDeMoney]

So you'd be like I love you and want to spend time with you - but you can't come into my house / let alone live together?

Worked for me for years.

[garbon]

So you'd be like I love you and want to spend time with you - but you can't come into my house / let alone live together?

Worked for me for years.

Sure Seedster but that's because you and I aren't the marrying/cohabiting kind.

[merithyn]

So you'd be like I love you and want to spend time with you - but you can't come into my house / let alone live together?

Worked for me for years.

Sure Seedster but that's because you and I aren't the marrying/cohabiting kind.

Then why are you judging me??