Question for breeders: why the freak out over cheating?

[Martinus]

So I watched another movie recently where the central plot was the guy cheating on his wife once and then she freaking out over it for a year or so and them trying to "rebuild it" and whatnot.

So my question is: are you heteros really like that? Is this so much of a big deal if your partner cheats on you (assuming this is really a small fling or a one night stand, and there are no complications/consequences out of this, like STDs, or unwanted pregnancies and whatnot?) and is not leaving you?

For most gays I've talked to such behavior would seem abnormally hysterical - if you like to be with someone, what does it matter if they have an occasional sex on the side. So is this like another Hollywood cliche, or do you guys really freak out over cheating?

[grumbler]

My impression is that gays are more inclined to be hysterical over cheating, based on the gays I've talked to.  My guess would be that you know as much about heteros as you do about the US.

[Slargos]

Some sort of biological/reproductional imperative, I would presume. Anything else would surprise me.

[Razgovory]

My impression is that gays are more inclined to be hysterical over cheating, based on the gays I've talked to.  My guess would be that you know as much about heteros as you do about the US.

Or gays.

[Martinus]

My impression is that gays are more inclined to be hysterical over cheating, based on the gays I've talked to.  My guess would be that you know as much about heteros as you do about the US.

What the hell are you talking about? I asked a question whether a behavior often found in movies is real - where the hell do I claim to "know about heteros?" Are you retarded or just drunk?

[Lettow77]

 I realize I cannot speak for everyone, but infidelity is the only unpardonable sin in a relationship I can think of offhand. I would cast out a woman who betrayed my faith in such a way, and so would most people I know, male and female.

[Viking]

So I watched another movie recently where the central plot was the guy cheating on his wife once and then she freaking out over it for a year or so and them trying to "rebuild it" and whatnot.

Yes, I too use fiction as a fundamental basis for figuring out how the world works.
Now, stop using Hollywood to try to understand "us Breeders".

Having some personal experience in this, I didn't cheat, she did; with me  :wink: . They used her getting caught to hash out some of the real problems in their relationship; which to my knowledge will still be over when the youngest is old enough to tell mommy if daddy got drunk and hit her. What we do know (from autobiographies and divorce proceedings) is that it does happen and people don't seem to freak out about it long term. People either hash it out there and then or they move on. For gods sake, look at Bill and Hillary. People are much more practical than Hollywood gives them credit for, but then again, if the plot had been man cheats gets caught, they talk it out and resolve their issues in the first act then there wouldn't have been much of a movie. 

[DGuller]

There are things called "emotional bonds".  You wouldn't understand.

[The Minsky Moment]

I recently saw a movie as well.  It takes place a long, long time ago.  Since there are a lot of history buffs here who know about weaponry, I was wondering - is it really true that a trained guy with a laser sword can deflect bullets from a laser gun?

[Darth Wagtaros]

I recently saw a movie as well.  It takes place a long, long time ago.  Since there are a lot of history buffs here who know about weaponry, I was wondering - is it really true that a trained guy with a laser sword can deflect bullets from a laser gun?

As Almanzo Hiyabashi wrote in his famous Book of 7.6 Rings, "Fuckin' A you fuck that shit up."

[garbon]

There are things called "emotional bonds".  You wouldn't understand.

Indeed. When one is paying a "lover", one can't really demand exclusivity as said lover pays his bills from the generosity of many.

[DGuller]

There are things called "emotional bonds".  You wouldn't understand.

Indeed. When one is paying a "lover", one can't really demand exclusivity as said lover pays his bills from the generosity of many.

Foot, meat scrotum. 

[Ed Anger]

I recently saw a movie as well.  It takes place a long, long time ago.  Since there are a lot of history buffs here who know about weaponry, I was wondering - is it really true that a trained guy with a laser sword can deflect bullets from a laser gun?

Is there tackling involved?

[Ed Anger]

There are things called "emotional bonds".  You wouldn't understand.

Indeed. When one is paying a "lover", one can't really demand exclusivity as said lover pays his bills from the generosity of many.

Foot, meat scrotum. 

meat?

[Martinus]

Foot, meat scrotum. 

Don't diss it until you try it.