What would you rather do....

[merithyn]

I'm curious. Given your choice, which would you rather do? Have a wedding (small, large, simple, extravagant, doesn't matter) or elope with just your partner?

I had both, and while the wedding was a fun party, I can think of a whole lot more fun ways to spend the money. The eloping wasn't as exciting, but it felt more real. Over all, I prefer eloping over a wedding.

[Razgovory]

So does this mean you are going to stop posting about Max and your kids?

[merithyn]

 

[garbon]

I've no idea, so I'll just say I hate this narrative about one and one's partner.

[Grallon]

What's (an) elope?



G.

[Admiral Yi]

What's (an) elope?

It's a verb.  You spirit your future spouse away from her parents' house and get married on the sly.

[ulmont]

I'm curious. Given your choice, which would you rather do? Have a wedding (small, large, simple, extravagant, doesn't matter) or elope with just your partner?

I did the wedding...probably large but not extravagant, as these things go (say 200ish guests, buffet dinner).  No celebrities were hired.

...if I had it to do all over again,* justice of the peace and get the hell out of town all the way.  My brother did something similar to my thoughts - sent an email to all the relatives from Vegas with pictures of the chapel.**

*And I won't.  This is a one and done situation.  Win or lose, only getting married once.
**Very tasteful.  Looked more or less like a church.  No Elvis impersonators or anything.

[Barrister]

We got married.  250 people, married in a church in a nearby town, reception in the town hall in my wife's home town.

Wouldn't have done it any other way.  It was an amazing party - people had a lot of fun.

And it doesn't have to be expensive.  For 250, we probably paid a few thousand dollars.  A whole bunch of aunts and grandmas came out to cook the food.

[PDH]

Did the wedding, smallish, ok service, nothign special.

If I were to do it again, I would go for the marriage license and pay the court 25 clams.

[Admiral Yi]

Grallon:

Longer answer.  Elopement (the noun) has connotations of going against the wishes of one's parents (or hers, or both) and the expectation of no support.  Meri (who is Mexican you recall and often struggles with English words) seems to be using he word to mean "small wedding" or "simple justice of the peace ceremony." Or "cheap."

[Razgovory]

I thought this was a round about way you to say you just ran off with some guy.

[Razgovory]

Grallon:

Longer answer.  Elopement (the noun) has connotations of going against the wishes of one's parents (or hers, or both) and the expectation of no support.  Meri (who is Mexican you recall and often struggles with English words) seems to be using he word to mean "small wedding" or "simple justice of the peace ceremony." Or "cheap."

Don't confuse grallon.  An Elope is a type of deer.  An Elopement is wall made up of elopes.  Mostly it refers to the neolithic fortifications of north Africa.

[merithyn]

Grallon:

Longer answer.  Elopement (the noun) has connotations of going against the wishes of one's parents (or hers, or both) and the expectation of no support.  Meri (who is Mexican you recall and often struggles with English words) seems to be using he word to mean "small wedding" or "simple justice of the peace ceremony." Or "cheap."

To elope is to run off and get married without telling the family. That's exactly what I meant.

[DGuller]

Having a wedding sounds like a nightmare to me.  So much nerve-racking preparation required, so many people in one room, so many speeches.  Not wanting to have a wedding is the second biggest reason I'm still single (after not having a woman that wants to marry me).

[Admiral Yi]

To elope is to run off and get married without telling the family. That's exactly what I meant.

You can elope and have a wedding or you can elope and go to city hall.  You have the same options if you don't elope.  Your either/or is not an either/or.