Would you have trusted your parents to make an arranged marriage for you?

Started by jimmy olsen, October 30, 2013, 12:36:09 AM

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Would you have trusted your parents to make an arranged marriage for you?

Yes, with regards to both personal compatibility and wealth/familial alliances.
11 (25%)
Only in regards to wealth/familial alliances.
7 (15.9%)
Only in regards to personal compatibility.
0 (0%)
Not at all
24 (54.5%)
My parents actually aranged my marriage! (Tell us how it went!)
2 (4.5%)

Total Members Voted: 43

Valmy

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PDH

Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 09:30:34 AM
Quote from: PDH on October 30, 2013, 08:50:39 AM
Given that the question posits being raised in a society where that was the norm, of course.  It would be natural for me.
People can go against social norms.

They can, for the most part they don't.  That is why they are norms.
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merithyn

Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 09:30:34 AM
Quote from: PDH on October 30, 2013, 08:50:39 AM
Given that the question posits being raised in a society where that was the norm, of course.  It would be natural for me.
People can go against social norms.

And I'm glad some do. :hug: :wub:
Yesterday, upon the stair,
I met a man who wasn't there
He wasn't there again today
I wish, I wish he'd go away...

viper37

Quote from: jimmy olsen on October 30, 2013, 12:46:47 AM
Yeah, but for most people that's how it was from the invention of agriculture on until the 19th century or later depending on the country.
for higher classes.  Most peasants & poor workers were free in that regard.
I don't do meditation.  I drink alcohol to relax, like normal people.

If Microsoft Excel decided to stop working overnight, the world would practically end.

viper37

My father first tried to get me to date some rich kid.  Than he tried to arrange something with some lumberjack women (yuck).  So, hell no, no way I would have let them choose.
I don't do meditation.  I drink alcohol to relax, like normal people.

If Microsoft Excel decided to stop working overnight, the world would practically end.

Maximus

Quote from: PDH on October 30, 2013, 09:51:52 AM
They can, for the most part they don't.  That is why they are norms.
Right, but it's not a given.. Unless you consider yourself incapable of defying said norms. Which I doubt.

Valmy

Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 10:40:12 AM
Quote from: PDH on October 30, 2013, 09:51:52 AM
They can, for the most part they don't.  That is why they are norms.
Right, but it's not a given.. Unless you consider yourself incapable of defying said norms. Which I doubt.

Well I would need a good reason to defy norms.
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

derspiess

Quote from: merithyn on October 30, 2013, 10:01:26 AM
Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 09:30:34 AM
Quote from: PDH on October 30, 2013, 08:50:39 AM
Given that the question posits being raised in a society where that was the norm, of course.  It would be natural for me.
People can go against social norms.

And I'm glad some do. :hug: :wub:

I shun those who do :angry:
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Malthus

Quote from: Valmy on October 30, 2013, 10:41:38 AM
Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 10:40:12 AM
Quote from: PDH on October 30, 2013, 09:51:52 AM
They can, for the most part they don't.  That is why they are norms.
Right, but it's not a given.. Unless you consider yourself incapable of defying said norms. Which I doubt.

Well I would need a good reason to defy norms.

Matchmaker, Matchmaker, plan me no plans ... [/Fiddler on the Roof]  ;)
The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane—Marcus Aurelius

Admiral Yi

I find the concept of a Quebecker lumberjill intriguing.

How big was she Veep?

Maximus


The Brain

I'm sure they'd pick a nice girl from a respectable family. But personal stuff, no.
Women want me. Men want to be with me.

Valmy

Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 10:52:47 AM
Quote from: Valmy on October 30, 2013, 10:41:38 AM
Well I would need a good reason to defy norms.
Any reason is a good reason.

No, defying societal norms requires effort and sometimes sacrifice.  I would rather be using my efforts to do something more interesting and important.
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

Malthus

Quote from: The Brain on October 30, 2013, 10:59:36 AM
I'm sure they'd pick a nice girl from a respectable family. But personal stuff, no.

For one, it would most likely have been a human girl.  ;)
The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane—Marcus Aurelius

Malthus

Quote from: Valmy on October 30, 2013, 11:01:45 AM
Quote from: Maximus on October 30, 2013, 10:52:47 AM
Quote from: Valmy on October 30, 2013, 10:41:38 AM
Well I would need a good reason to defy norms.
Any reason is a good reason.

No, defying societal norms requires effort and sometimes sacrifice.  I would rather be using my efforts to do something more interesting and important.

I'll put my fork and knife on the same side of the plate if they kill me for it!  :mad:
The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane—Marcus Aurelius