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Poll
Question: Your opinion?
Option 1: I'm in favor. votes: 5
Option 2: I'm against. votes: 4
Option 3: Depends entirely on the destination. votes: 7
Option 4: Squee! votes: 4
Title: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:27:20 PM
My brother just told me he wants to do a destination wedding with his soon-to-be-fiancee.

What do people think about this, have you ever been to (or had) one, etc.?

My initial thought is "fine with me, as long as you're paying."  He confirmed he would be and would probably only be for me and Princesca, his girl's siblings (and not all of them, for some reason), and both sets of parents.

Initial thoughts on the destination are Ireland ( :blink: ) or Spain ( :yeah: ).

Love,
Caliga
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 02:29:42 PM
I haven't been to one, or invited.

Wait - he's paying for you to go?  Not what I would have expected.

My thoughts are "it's your wedding, do whatever you want, but don't be offended if people don't go".  That's a big commitment.

I'm somewhat dreading the almost-certain Brazil wedding for my brother, but that's somewhat different circumstances...
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:31:20 PM
Quote from: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 02:29:42 PM
My thoughts are "it's your wedding, do whatever you want, but don't be offended if people don't go".  That's a big commitment.

This
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: jamesww on May 02, 2011, 02:40:26 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.

Conspicuous consumption FTW.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:44:01 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:46:30 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.
Yes, what Mongers said.  Basically "Look how badass I am, I can afford to fly everyone to some tropical paradise to witness me get married." :)

My brother is expecting to lose his (albeit well-paying) job soon because he works for T-Mobile and alot of shit is going to be eliminated in the merger with AT&T.  However, his girlfriend is a chemical engineer for du Pont so even if he gets laid off and can't find something in the immediate future they'll be ok.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:48:13 PM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:31:20 PM
Quote from: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 02:29:42 PM
My thoughts are "it's your wedding, do whatever you want, but don't be offended if people don't go".  That's a big commitment.

This
That was basically the first thing I said to him, and his reply was "I'm good with that."

He cares even less about what people think of him than I do, which is saying a lot given how little I care. :)
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: derspiess on May 02, 2011, 02:53:09 PM
Between me and my two best friends, all of ours have been destination weddings.  Mine was in Buenos Aires and the other two were on a Caribbean cruise and Vegas.  We had a few friends/family fly to Argentina for ours, the cruise was just my wife, me, and the couple getting married, and Vegas had a fair number of people fly out since it was fairly cheap.

When I compare any of the three to my brothers' bland, generic weddings I'm definitely glad we decided to do the destination thing for ours.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:57:10 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:48:13 PM
He cares even less about what people think of him than I do, which is saying a lot given how little I care. :)

How come whenever you say something like this you always put a little smily face at the end?
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:57:39 PM
Quote from: derspiess on May 02, 2011, 02:53:09 PM
Between me and my two best friends, all of ours have been destination weddings.  Mine was in Buenos Aires and the other two were on a Caribbean cruise and Vegas.  We had a few friends/family fly to Argentina for ours, the cruise was just my wife, me, and the couple getting married, and Vegas had a fair number of people fly out since it was fairly cheap.
Does yours really count?  I mean, your wife is from there so presumably her family was all there, right?

By that standard I had a destination wedding, too. :P
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:46:30 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.
Yes, what Mongers said.  Basically "Look how badass I am, I can afford to fly everyone to some tropical paradise to witness me get married." :)

My brother is expecting to lose his (albeit well-paying) job soon because he works for T-Mobile and alot of shit is going to be eliminated in the merger with AT&T.  However, his girlfriend is a chemical engineer for du Pont so even if he gets laid off and can't find something in the immediate future they'll be ok.

I would assume it's more of "Let's do something special for our wedding."

My sister has this dream about getting married in Hawaii, and I think it's a splendid idea. Of course, they're not well-to-do by any stretch even if they're both gainfully employed so it's probably going to be a small wedding party. However, I say go for it: You're only supposed to get married once. I'll happily help them a bit along the way.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:59:26 PM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:57:10 PM
How come whenever you say something like this you always put a little smily face at the end?
I put a smiley face at the end of most of my posts.  It's sort of becoming a schtick of mine.  I got bored with the tits schtick so I replaced it with some others, such as signing off with a smiley face.  I was kind of inspired to do it by Arky who used to sign off with a mean face because "people tell me I have that expression a lot in real life".  In real life I'm like a Smiling (Laughing) Buddha figure. :)
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 03:00:14 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:59:26 PM
I put a smiley face at the end of most of my posts.  It's sort of becoming a schtick of mine.  I got bored with the tits schtick so I replaced it with some others, such as signing off with a smiley face.  I was kind of inspired to do it by Arky who used to sign off with a mean face because "people tell me I have that expression a lot in real life".  In real life I'm like a Smiling (Laughing) Buddha figure. :)

Ah gotcha.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:00:45 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
However, I say go for it: You're only supposed to get married once. I'll happily help them a bit along the way.
Cool, I'll let my brother know a random Scandinavian racist dude is going to help out the cost of his wedding. :)
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:01:17 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:59:26 PM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:57:10 PM
How come whenever you say something like this you always put a little smily face at the end?
I put a smiley face at the end of most of my posts.  It's sort of becoming a schtick of mine.  I got bored with the tits schtick so I replaced it with some others, such as signing off with a smiley face.  I was kind of inspired to do it by Arky who used to sign off with a mean face because "people tell me I have that expression a lot in real life".  In real life I'm like a Smiling (Laughing) Buddha figure. :)

:secret: It often lends your posts a sarcastic tone.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:02:00 PM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 03:00:14 PM
Ah gotcha.
I try to use a smiley face to sign off at times where it's most inappropriate, too (examples: I just fired someone, my dad had a stroke, etc.) :yes:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:02:06 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:00:45 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
However, I say go for it: You're only supposed to get married once. I'll happily help them a bit along the way.
Cool, I'll let my brother know a random Scandinavian racist dude is going to help out the cost of his wedding. :)

What does it matter that I'm racist if I'm about to give them money?
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:02:29 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:01:17 PM
:secret: It often lends your posts a sarcastic tone.
I refer you to my: followup post. :cool:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:03:09 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:02:06 PM
What does it matter that I'm racist if I'm about to give them money?
Would you give my brother money if he was marrying a negress? :contract:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 03:04:36 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:57:39 PM
Quote from: derspiess on May 02, 2011, 02:53:09 PM
Between me and my two best friends, all of ours have been destination weddings.  Mine was in Buenos Aires and the other two were on a Caribbean cruise and Vegas.  We had a few friends/family fly to Argentina for ours, the cruise was just my wife, me, and the couple getting married, and Vegas had a fair number of people fly out since it was fairly cheap.
Does yours really count?  I mean, your wife is from there so presumably her family was all there, right?

By that standard I had a destination wedding, too. :P

Same here - a few dozen friends and family travelled from Manitoba to Alberta for our wedding.

Weddings are what you make it.  I'm sure spending a week in the Bahamas (or wherever) for a wedding would be lovely, but that could also be pretty generic.  On the other hand my wedding may have been in the town community hall of a hick Alberta town, but everyone had an absolutely awesome time.   :cool:

Just as the long-rumored Brazil wedding will not be a "destination wedding" by my count...
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:05:59 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:03:09 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:02:06 PM
What does it matter that I'm racist if I'm about to give them money?
Would you give my brother money if he was marrying a negress? :contract:

I wouldn't give him money under most circumstances, the race mixing wouldn't really sway me one way or the other. I was simply curious why you'd need to tell your brother that I'm a racist when informing him I'd pay for his wedding. Would he not accept my money in that case?

Regardless, my sister is marrying a guy whose father is Romanian. I'm not exactly thrilled about it, mostly because he's a red socialist, but he could pass for a Swede most of the time.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:07:53 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:05:59 PM
I wouldn't give him money under most circumstances, the race mixing wouldn't really sway me one way or the other. I was simply curious why you'd need to tell your brother that I'm a racist when informing him I'd pay for his wedding. Would he not accept my money in that case?
I really don't know how to distinguish you from other Scandinavian types except by this attribute. :blush:  Oh, I guess I could tell him you're a Scandinavian kitchen salesman. :bowler:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:12:31 PM
I think my brother is basing his preference for this in part on my wedding, which in his opinion sucked.  He has valid reasons for saying so, I think:

* We had several hundred guests, most of whom I didn't even know, thanks to my mother-in-law basically inviting everyone she's ever known in her entire life;

* Though nearly everyone did bring a gift, a lot of them basically ate dinner, dropped their gift off, and left the reception;

* He was bothered by the fact that we had a religious (Episcopalian) ceremony, even though we are both atheists--again, another thing done to placate Princesca's family.

I think my wedding was basically the wedding Princesca wanted to have, but really wasn't the wedding I wanted to have, nor would ever have again.  However, for my part--and I've explained this to my brother countless times, but he either doesn't understand or doesn't care--the ceremony itself was totally meaningless, so whether or not it was 'the wedding I wanted' really plays no role in my life.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 03:30:58 PM
I've always favored the small wedding, large reception model.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 03:33:20 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:12:31 PM
* He was bothered by the fact that we had a religious (Episcopalian) ceremony, even though we are both atheists

He is aware he can have a small wedding without any evil religiosity being involved without having to leave home right?
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 03:34:12 PM
Ugh, home weddings.  :yuk:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 03:35:45 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:12:31 PM
* Though nearly everyone did bring a gift, a lot of them basically ate dinner, dropped their gift off, and left the reception;

Well that's why your wedding sucked.

We actually had a second, informal, invite list - we could only squeeze so many people into the hall, but we knew some of the older invitees would leave - so quite a few people were invited to come over after dinner.  I don't think they were expected to bring a gift (although hell - nobody was expected to bring a gift).
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 03:38:48 PM
Quote from: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 03:35:45 PM
Well that's why your wedding sucked.

Well I am not sure if the fact Cal's brother didn't like the wedding is solid proof of that.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Ideologue on May 02, 2011, 03:49:38 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:02:06 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:00:45 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
However, I say go for it: You're only supposed to get married once. I'll happily help them a bit along the way.
Cool, I'll let my brother know a random Scandinavian racist dude is going to help out the cost of his wedding. :)

What does it matter that I'm racist if I'm about to give them money?

It doesn't to me.  Give me some dough, fellow white dude.

Anyway, my favorite wedding is the kind they do half at the probate court and half at the bank.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: The Brain on May 02, 2011, 03:53:15 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on May 02, 2011, 03:49:38 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 03:02:06 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 03:00:45 PM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
However, I say go for it: You're only supposed to get married once. I'll happily help them a bit along the way.
Cool, I'll let my brother know a random Scandinavian racist dude is going to help out the cost of his wedding. :)

What does it matter that I'm racist if I'm about to give them money?

It doesn't to me.  Give me some dough, fellow white dude.

Anyway, my favorite wedding is the kind they do half at the probate court and half at the bank.

Did you ever do a prison wedding?
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: derspiess on May 02, 2011, 03:54:38 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:57:39 PM
Does yours really count?  I mean, your wife is from there so presumably her family was all there, right?

By that standard I had a destination wedding, too. :P

Did your friends & family have to fly to another continent?  From my perspective it was very much a destination wedding.  From my wife's perspective it wasn't, but who listens to women anyway :)
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 04:53:07 PM
Quote from: derspiess on May 02, 2011, 03:54:38 PM
Did your friends & family have to fly to another continent?
Given how some of them bitched, you would think they did, yeah. :wacko:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 05:06:30 PM
Quote from: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 03:35:45 PM
Well that's why your wedding sucked.
Honestly, this didn't bother me at all, but I guess it bothered him... not sure why.  I didn't even notice that a lot of people did that... I was too busy getting drunk off of the nonstop drinks my uncle was getting for me.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 05:10:41 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 05:06:30 PM
Quote from: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 03:35:45 PM
Well that's why your wedding sucked.
Honestly, this didn't bother me at all, but I guess it bothered him... not sure why.  I didn't even notice that a lot of people did that... I was too busy getting drunk off of the nonstop drinks my uncle was getting for me.

Well, to me the ONLY thing that's important about a wedding is that people are having fun.  So if they're leaving early maybe they weren't having fun.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 05:11:55 PM
Open bar = fun.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 05:20:26 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 05:11:55 PM
Open bar = fun.

If your friends and family are anything like my friends and family, open bar = drunken fools.

An at-cost bar is the way to go. :thumbsup:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 05:29:34 PM
Important point for consideration: Baptists don't drink. :)
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 06:45:29 PM
Quote from: Barrister on May 02, 2011, 05:20:26 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 05:11:55 PM
Open bar = fun.

If your friends and family are anything like my friends and family, open bar = drunken fools.

An at-cost bar is the way to go. :thumbsup:

I like to think my generosity is opening doors and gaining valuable allies.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 06:48:15 PM
I think my bar was open, but I can't recall for sure now. :hmm:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: MadImmortalMan on May 02, 2011, 07:38:57 PM
A friend of mine did this in Miami. Bought a huge block of seats for the New Year's Dolphins game for all the wedding guests. Neat idea.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Josquius on May 02, 2011, 07:45:45 PM
Where the people being married are paying? Wow....that's....bizzare. But awesome.
Usually the problem with such weddings is not many guests can afford to go.

I rather dislike weddings anyway so its all bad for me.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: C.C.R. on May 02, 2011, 08:46:50 PM
Just for the record, I *am* an ordained minister & have performed three weddings so far, so if anybody ever wants to do a destination wedding to Peru* then just let me know...

;)








*Peru, Illinois
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 08:49:26 PM
Quote from: C.C.R. on May 02, 2011, 08:46:50 PM
*Peru, Illinois
:lol:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: C.C.R. on May 02, 2011, 08:51:14 PM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 08:49:26 PM
Quote from: C.C.R. on May 02, 2011, 08:46:50 PM
*Peru, Illinois
:lol:

:shifty:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: MadImmortalMan on May 02, 2011, 09:49:40 PM
Quote from: Tyr on May 02, 2011, 07:45:45 PM
Usually the problem with such weddings is not many guests can afford to go.


Not necessarily a problem in my book.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Martinus on May 03, 2011, 01:58:15 AM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:44:01 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people.  :yucky:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Monoriu on May 03, 2011, 02:04:29 AM
Some people in HK like to do destination weddings.  This is a way to avoid inviting friends and family - the "we want the romance of getting married in some exotic island but we can't afford to invite too many people there" excuse.  Almost like eloping.  This isn't too popular though, because the parents hate it.  Often the mothers insist on a traditional Chinese wedding banquet either before or after the wedding anyway. 

I've never been invited to one, and I don't know anybody who does it.  The lure of the wedding banquet to the parents is too strong. 
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Slargos on May 03, 2011, 02:37:20 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 03, 2011, 01:58:15 AM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:44:01 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people.  :yucky:

:lol:

You're such a people person.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Brazen on May 03, 2011, 03:14:46 AM
I went on holiday to Jamaica (to stay with a relative working out there) and came back married, but that's probably not the same thing.

I'd do it all over again :wub:

Would I fuck, get real.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: The Larch on May 03, 2011, 05:31:01 AM
Quote from: Caliga on May 02, 2011, 02:27:20 PM
My brother just told me he wants to do a destination wedding with his soon-to-be-fiancee.

What do people think about this, have you ever been to (or had) one, etc.?

My initial thought is "fine with me, as long as you're paying."  He confirmed he would be and would probably only be for me and Princesca, his girl's siblings (and not all of them, for some reason), and both sets of parents.

Initial thoughts on the destination are Ireland ( :blink: ) or Spain ( :yeah: ).

Love,
Caliga

Where in Spain? :shifty:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Caliga on May 03, 2011, 05:32:49 AM
He spent a summer on Menorca, so I would expect it figures into his plans.  He's constantly talking about how he wants to take us all there.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: The Larch on May 03, 2011, 05:36:31 AM
Quote from: Caliga on May 03, 2011, 05:32:49 AM
He spent a summer on Menorca, so I would expect it figures into his plans.  He's constantly talking about how he wants to take us all there.

It's a beautiful place, take your bathing suits for the trip.

And try the local mayonaisse, it was invented there after all.  :P
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: garbon on May 03, 2011, 09:39:31 AM
Quote from: Slargos on May 03, 2011, 02:37:20 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 03, 2011, 01:58:15 AM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:44:01 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people.  :yucky:

:lol:

You're such a people person.

As if Marti will be getting married.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: garbon on May 03, 2011, 09:41:38 AM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
You're only supposed to get married once.

That's why I think marriage should be entered with this approach:

QuoteYou must know again my reluctancy to marry, my feeling that I shatter thereby chances in work which means so much to me.

In our life together I shall not hold you to any medieval code of faithfulness to me, nor shall I consider myself bound to you similarly.

I may have to keep some place where I can go to be myself now and then, for I cannot guarantee to endure at all times the confinements of even an attractive cage.

I must extract a cruel promise, and that is you will let me go in a year if we find no happiness together.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Zanza2 on May 03, 2011, 10:48:41 AM
A colleague of mine married on the beach in Hawaii. The reason was that his wife is from Japan, so they figured that Hawaii was "halfway" between Japan and Germany. Going by the marriage pictures, they had maybe ten guests or so each. But I don't know whether they paid for all of them.

It's fairly common to marry in some kind of castle or old noble mansion or so in Germany and often these places are a bit away from the normal place people live.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: MadImmortalMan on May 03, 2011, 10:55:35 AM
Quote from: Zanza2 on May 03, 2011, 10:48:41 AM
A colleague of mine married on the beach in Hawaii. The reason was that his wife is from Japan, so they figured that Hawaii was "halfway" between Japan and Germany. Going by the marriage pictures, they had maybe ten guests or so each. But I don't know whether they paid for all of them.

It's fairly common to marry in some kind of castle or old noble mansion or so in Germany and often these places are a bit away from the normal place people live.

Honolulu -> Tokyo: 3856 miles or 6205 kilometers

Honolulu -> Frankfurt: 7445 miles or 11982 kilometers

If that's her definition of halfway, I'm guessing he does more of the compromising in that relationship.  :P
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Valmy on May 03, 2011, 11:00:17 AM
Quote from: Zanza2 on May 03, 2011, 10:48:41 AM
It's fairly common to marry in some kind of castle or old noble mansion or so in Germany and often these places are a bit away from the normal place people live.

Heh I figured you had those things every couple kilometers out there.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:15:02 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 05:11:55 PM
Open bar = fun.

My brother's wedding was a Catholic wedding due to his mother in law's insistence.  I figured at least the reception would be good, but no-- everything was done on the cheap.  They had horrible boxed wine and (IIRC) Coors Light as the "open bar" and a cash bar for anything worth drinking.

The worst of it was that they procured *one* bottle of champagne (technically it was cava) for the reception.  One.  It was just enough for the bridal party to have a little in each of our glasses, and there was like a half-sip left over in the bottle.  I killed that last little bit, certain that there'd be more and my sister in law had the audacity to bitch at me for "drinking all the rest of the champagne" :frusty:

Now I'm not a proponent of lavish, expensive weddings.  But if you're not willing to do what is IMO the bare minimum for your guests (at least a glass of bubbly plus some decent free drinks from the bar), why fecking bother.

Thankfully my own in-laws are wine enthusiasts.  I probably killed 2.5 bottles of Mumm at my own wedding reception.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:17:40 AM
Quote from: garbon on May 03, 2011, 09:41:38 AM
Quote from: Slargos on May 02, 2011, 02:57:43 PM
You're only supposed to get married once.

That's why I think marriage should be entered with this approach:

QuoteYou must know again my reluctancy to marry, my feeling that I shatter thereby chances in work which means so much to me.

In our life together I shall not hold you to any medieval code of faithfulness to me, nor shall I consider myself bound to you similarly.

I may have to keep some place where I can go to be myself now and then, for I cannot guarantee to endure at all times the confinements of even an attractive cage.

I must extract a cruel promise, and that is you will let me go in a year if we find no happiness together.

As homely as she was, she should've been ecstatic that anyone wanted her to marry him.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: garbon on May 03, 2011, 11:19:23 AM
Quote from: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:17:40 AM
As homely as she was, she should've been ecstatic that anyone wanted her to marry him.

Very fair but beside the point.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Admiral Yi on May 03, 2011, 01:13:40 PM
Quote from: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:15:02 AM
It was just enough for the bridal party to have a little in each of our glasses

:hmm:

I was locked and loaded to mock and humiliate you into ragequitting, but maybe the groomsmen and the bridesmaids are collectively known as the bridal party.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Ed Anger on May 03, 2011, 05:01:32 PM
Quote from: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:15:02 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 05:11:55 PM
Open bar = fun.

My brother's wedding was a Catholic wedding due to his mother in law's insistence.  I figured at least the reception would be good, but no-- everything was done on the cheap.  They had horrible boxed wine and (IIRC) Coors Light as the "open bar" and a cash bar for anything worth drinking.

The worst of it was that they procured *one* bottle of champagne (technically it was cava) for the reception.  One.  It was just enough for the bridal party to have a little in each of our glasses, and there was like a half-sip left over in the bottle.  I killed that last little bit, certain that there'd be more and my sister in law had the audacity to bitch at me for "drinking all the rest of the champagne" :frusty:

Now I'm not a proponent of lavish, expensive weddings.  But if you're not willing to do what is IMO the bare minimum for your guests (at least a glass of bubbly plus some decent free drinks from the bar), why fecking bother.

Thankfully my own in-laws are wine enthusiasts.  I probably killed 2.5 bottles of Mumm at my own wedding reception.

Ugh. I forget how much my booze bill was. Mainly because I drank soft drinks and one glass of champagne. I just sat at the head table and watched amused as my friends and her friends got blitzed and attempt to dance while blitzed.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 05:03:08 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on May 03, 2011, 01:13:40 PM
Quote from: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:15:02 AM
It was just enough for the bridal party to have a little in each of our glasses

:hmm:

I was locked and loaded to mock and humiliate you into ragequitting, but maybe the groomsmen and the bridesmaids are collectively known as the bridal party.

I've heard it called both "wedding party" and "bridal party".  "Bridal" is more appropriate IMO since the whole wedding is centered on the bride.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Monoriu on May 04, 2011, 01:58:40 AM
Quote from: derspiess on May 03, 2011, 11:15:02 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on May 02, 2011, 05:11:55 PM
Open bar = fun.

My brother's wedding was a Catholic wedding due to his mother in law's insistence.  I figured at least the reception would be good, but no-- everything was done on the cheap.  They had horrible boxed wine and (IIRC) Coors Light as the "open bar" and a cash bar for anything worth drinking.

The worst of it was that they procured *one* bottle of champagne (technically it was cava) for the reception.  One.  It was just enough for the bridal party to have a little in each of our glasses, and there was like a half-sip left over in the bottle.  I killed that last little bit, certain that there'd be more and my sister in law had the audacity to bitch at me for "drinking all the rest of the champagne" :frusty:

Now I'm not a proponent of lavish, expensive weddings.  But if you're not willing to do what is IMO the bare minimum for your guests (at least a glass of bubbly plus some decent free drinks from the bar), why fecking bother.

Thankfully my own in-laws are wine enthusiasts.  I probably killed 2.5 bottles of Mumm at my own wedding reception.

I served tea for 5 people. 
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:12:36 AM
What's the ratio of huge dinner parties (usually involving renting out a hotel or a restaurant, with people sleeping over or even continuing into the next day) to smaller reception events (a glass of sparkling wine, some meal, and everybody goes home in a couple of hours) in the US culture?

In Poland, it used to be the former (with wedding parties often lasting for several days) but now it is often more "trendy" to go ahead with the latter (and the difference is not just the cost - the huge parties were usually done on more shitty food and drink for example).
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:14:09 AM
Quote from: garbon on May 03, 2011, 09:39:31 AM
Quote from: Slargos on May 03, 2011, 02:37:20 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 03, 2011, 01:58:15 AM
Quote from: Valmy on May 02, 2011, 02:44:01 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 02, 2011, 02:33:35 PM
Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people.  :yucky:

:lol:

You're such a people person.

As if Marti will be getting married.

I meant it from a perspective of a guest, not a groom.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:14:42 AM
Incidentally, in same sex weddings, are both participants called "brooms"?  :hmm:
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: The Brain on May 04, 2011, 04:09:27 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:14:42 AM
Incidentally, in same sex weddings, are both participants called "brooms"?  :hmm:

Myth.
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: citizen k on May 04, 2011, 04:15:31 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:14:42 AM
Incidentally, in same sex weddings, are both participants called "brooms"?  :hmm:

I thought they were called "bridezillas".

Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 05:12:40 AM
Quote from: The Brain on May 04, 2011, 04:09:27 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:14:42 AM
Incidentally, in same sex weddings, are both participants called "brooms"?  :hmm:

Myth.
:D
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: garbon on May 04, 2011, 09:44:38 AM
Quote from: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:14:09 AM
I meant it from a perspective of a guest, not a groom.

I think it would be quite easy to slink off and do your own thang. ;)
Title: Re: Destination Weddings
Post by: Malthus on May 04, 2011, 04:09:35 PM
Quote from: Martinus on May 04, 2011, 03:12:36 AM
What's the ratio of huge dinner parties (usually involving renting out a hotel or a restaurant, with people sleeping over or even continuing into the next day) to smaller reception events (a glass of sparkling wine, some meal, and everybody goes home in a couple of hours) in the US culture?

In Poland, it used to be the former (with wedding parties often lasting for several days) but now it is often more "trendy" to go ahead with the latter (and the difference is not just the cost - the huge parties were usually done on more shitty food and drink for example).

I think a song can answer that:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZTFufbcx8DI