Destination Weddings

[MadImmortalMan]

Usually the problem with such weddings is not many guests can afford to go.

Not necessarily a problem in my book.

[Martinus]

Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people. 

[Monoriu]

Some people in HK like to do destination weddings.  This is a way to avoid inviting friends and family - the "we want the romance of getting married in some exotic island but we can't afford to invite too many people there" excuse.  Almost like eloping.  This isn't too popular though, because the parents hate it.  Often the mothers insist on a traditional Chinese wedding banquet either before or after the wedding anyway. 

I've never been invited to one, and I don't know anybody who does it.  The lure of the wedding banquet to the parents is too strong. 

[Slargos]

Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people. 

You're such a people person.

[Brazen]

I went on holiday to Jamaica (to stay with a relative working out there) and came back married, but that's probably not the same thing.

I'd do it all over again

Would I fuck, get real.

[The Larch]

My brother just told me he wants to do a destination wedding with his soon-to-be-fiancee.

What do people think about this, have you ever been to (or had) one, etc.?

My initial thought is "fine with me, as long as you're paying."  He confirmed he would be and would probably only be for me and Princesca, his girl's siblings (and not all of them, for some reason), and both sets of parents.

Initial thoughts on the destination are Ireland ( ) or Spain ( ).

Love,
Caliga

Where in Spain?

[Caliga]

He spent a summer on Menorca, so I would expect it figures into his plans.  He's constantly talking about how he wants to take us all there.

[The Larch]

He spent a summer on Menorca, so I would expect it figures into his plans.  He's constantly talking about how he wants to take us all there.

It's a beautiful place, take your bathing suits for the trip.

And try the local mayonaisse, it was invented there after all. 

[garbon]

Define a destination wedding.

A wedding that is also a vacation.  Like getting married in the Bahamas when nobody associated with the wedding is from the Bahamas.

Then against. It would force me to spend more than one evening with these people. 

You're such a people person.

As if Marti will be getting married.

[garbon]

You're only supposed to get married once.

That's why I think marriage should be entered with this approach:

You must know again my reluctancy to marry, my feeling that I shatter thereby chances in work which means so much to me.

In our life together I shall not hold you to any medieval code of faithfulness to me, nor shall I consider myself bound to you similarly.

I may have to keep some place where I can go to be myself now and then, for I cannot guarantee to endure at all times the confinements of even an attractive cage.

I must extract a cruel promise, and that is you will let me go in a year if we find no happiness together.

[Zanza2]

A colleague of mine married on the beach in Hawaii. The reason was that his wife is from Japan, so they figured that Hawaii was "halfway" between Japan and Germany. Going by the marriage pictures, they had maybe ten guests or so each. But I don't know whether they paid for all of them.

It's fairly common to marry in some kind of castle or old noble mansion or so in Germany and often these places are a bit away from the normal place people live.

[MadImmortalMan]

A colleague of mine married on the beach in Hawaii. The reason was that his wife is from Japan, so they figured that Hawaii was "halfway" between Japan and Germany. Going by the marriage pictures, they had maybe ten guests or so each. But I don't know whether they paid for all of them.

It's fairly common to marry in some kind of castle or old noble mansion or so in Germany and often these places are a bit away from the normal place people live.

Honolulu -> Tokyo: 3856 miles or 6205 kilometers

Honolulu -> Frankfurt: 7445 miles or 11982 kilometers

If that's her definition of halfway, I'm guessing he does more of the compromising in that relationship. 

[Valmy]

It's fairly common to marry in some kind of castle or old noble mansion or so in Germany and often these places are a bit away from the normal place people live.

Heh I figured you had those things every couple kilometers out there.

[derspiess]

Open bar = fun.

My brother's wedding was a Catholic wedding due to his mother in law's insistence.  I figured at least the reception would be good, but no-- everything was done on the cheap.  They had horrible boxed wine and (IIRC) Coors Light as the "open bar" and a cash bar for anything worth drinking.

The worst of it was that they procured *one* bottle of champagne (technically it was cava) for the reception.  One.  It was just enough for the bridal party to have a little in each of our glasses, and there was like a half-sip left over in the bottle.  I killed that last little bit, certain that there'd be more and my sister in law had the audacity to bitch at me for "drinking all the rest of the champagne"

Now I'm not a proponent of lavish, expensive weddings.  But if you're not willing to do what is IMO the bare minimum for your guests (at least a glass of bubbly plus some decent free drinks from the bar), why fecking bother.

Thankfully my own in-laws are wine enthusiasts.  I probably killed 2.5 bottles of Mumm at my own wedding reception.

[derspiess]

You're only supposed to get married once.

That's why I think marriage should be entered with this approach:

You must know again my reluctancy to marry, my feeling that I shatter thereby chances in work which means so much to me.

In our life together I shall not hold you to any medieval code of faithfulness to me, nor shall I consider myself bound to you similarly.

I may have to keep some place where I can go to be myself now and then, for I cannot guarantee to endure at all times the confinements of even an attractive cage.

I must extract a cruel promise, and that is you will let me go in a year if we find no happiness together.

As homely as she was, she should've been ecstatic that anyone wanted her to marry him.