Your boyfriend/girlfriend friends and you

[Valmy]

[Back in the day it would have been very difficult to date someone to the point of becoming their boyfriend/girlfriend without coming into contact with their friends since the main method of meeting people was through actual social contact. 

That is why I would take  classes and do things away from my friends.  Granted internet dating was still alot quicker and easier.  Dating for the lazy man.

[viper37]

dated a girl 10 years younger last year.  Worst mistake of my life.  Never met her friends, spent two months with her, spent a little more than 2000$ in various things, and last time we spoke the words "gift" and "breast implants" were in the same conversation, so I freaked out and left never to return.

If you did not expect the relation to become serious with that ho golddigger, why did you waste 2,000 bucks on her?

The spending should have been a clue...

Yes, it should have.  But it's a long story.  And not for this part of the forum.

[viper37]

[crazycanuck]Was she a hooker?[/crazycanuck]

A hooker would probably have been cheaper.

[viper37]

He doesn't want his friends fucking up his chances with you. He'll wait until things are more stable. No big deal, IMO.

I think he doesn't want Marty to fuck his friends, period.

[The Brain]

He doesn't want his friends fucking up his chances with you. He'll wait until things are more stable. No big deal, IMO.

I think he doesn't want Marty to fuck his friends, period.

He of all people should know that the risk is fucking close to zero.

[Slargos]

dated a girl 10 years younger last year.  Worst mistake of my life.  Never met her friends, spent two months with her, spent a little more than 2000$ in various things, and last time we spoke the words "gift" and "breast implants" were in the same conversation, so I freaked out and left never to return.

If you did not expect the relation to become serious with that ho golddigger, why did you waste 2,000 bucks on her?

The spending should have been a clue...

Yes, it should have.  But it's a long story.  And not for this part of the forum.

Considering the high standards that TBR are held to, I would probably not consider any part of the forum.

[garbon]

I might start seeing someone that I wouldn't want anyone to meet.

[Eddie Teach]

last time we spoke the words "gift" and "breast implants" were in the same conversation, so I freaked out and left never to return.

You just walked out on Cal's fantasy come true

Were the implants made of gravy?

[dps]

Do you just want to meet them or also start hanging out with them?

I would like to meet them. I find the fact that I haven't met any of them rather weird. Anyone here dated someone considerably younger and could weigh in (I suppose it's a bit different from "normal" then).

You meet 'em when you meet 'em.  It's normal for both people to have their own friends.  But if your S.O. is actively resisting the idea of you meeting their friends, there may be a problem.  Or maybe not.  Back when I was dating SocialWorkerGirl, for the most part she had no problem with me meeting her friends, but there were a couple of guys that had sort of been substitute big brothers for her (she was an only child)--nothing romantic, but they were guys she'd know since she was a little kid who had kind of looked out for her when they were in school--and she was afraid that they'd be hostile towards me because of the age difference.  When I finally did meet them, there was no problem--I don't know that I'd say that they necessarily liked me, but they saw that I was an OK guy and treated her decently, so they didn't have any problem with me at least.

[Jaron]

So this is, in fact, an advice thread for Marcin.

[Monoriu]

Ok, how long into a relationship would you expect to get to know friends of your boyfriend/girlfriend. This is not technically an advice thread - I just wanted to see what people find acceptable in this respect (because I got such varying responses from "real life" people).

We've been married for more than 8 years.  I've known her for more than 13. 

I still refuse to meet her friends 

[Ed Anger]

Anyone here dated someone considerably younger and could weigh in

170 lbs.

[Grey Fox]

Anyone here dated someone considerably younger and could weigh in

170 lbs.

Is that the total weight of all your kids?

[Ed Anger]

Anyone here dated someone considerably younger and could weigh in

170 lbs.

Is that the total weight of all your kids?

Just my weight.

And I think I wasted that joke on this crowd.

[Grey Fox]

Anyone here dated someone considerably younger and could weigh in

170 lbs.

Is that the total weight of all your kids?

Just my weight.

And I think I wasted that joke on this crowd.

Oh.

185!