Do you want your wife to use your name?

[garbon]

Didn't really crop up for me and my wife as she had a very common last name that she was glad to lose.

I know a girl who's definitely keeping her name. If she took her boyfriend her initials would be ASS

Glad it's not an issue for me though.

Sometimes, I gotta think that such acronym-phobia is pretty sad as well.  I doubt people before recent modern times cared if their initials created a dirty word. 

Nor did they really care about proper hygiene.

[Eddie Teach]

Sometimes, I gotta think that such acronym-phobia is pretty sad as well.  I doubt people before recent modern times cared if their initials created a dirty word. 

It's all that leisure time we have to sit and think about stupid shit.

[Neil]

Pretending surprise that it is still an issue strikes me as odd; it historically hasn't been an issue, as accepting the last name of the husband had overwhelming general acceptance. Feigned shock that anyone still 'clings' to that practice when in fact any controversy lies in the comparatively recent rejection of a very longstanding practice by what remains a fringe quarter of society is disingenuous.

I'm not seeing anyone saying they're surprised. Personally, I said that I was amused.

People having different priorities - hilarious.

I don't think it's genuine amusement.  I think it's passive-aggressiveness.

[The Brain]

Pretending surprise that it is still an issue strikes me as odd; it historically hasn't been an issue, as accepting the last name of the husband had overwhelming general acceptance. Feigned shock that anyone still 'clings' to that practice when in fact any controversy lies in the comparatively recent rejection of a very longstanding practice by what remains a fringe quarter of society is disingenuous.

I'm not seeing anyone saying they're surprised. Personally, I said that I was amused.

People having different priorities - hilarious.

I don't think it's genuine amusement.  I think it's passive-aggressiveness.

[merithyn]

Pretending surprise that it is still an issue strikes me as odd; it historically hasn't been an issue, as accepting the last name of the husband had overwhelming general acceptance. Feigned shock that anyone still 'clings' to that practice when in fact any controversy lies in the comparatively recent rejection of a very longstanding practice by what remains a fringe quarter of society is disingenuous.

I'm not seeing anyone saying they're surprised. Personally, I said that I was amused.

People having different priorities - hilarious.

*shrugs* I don't find pratfalls funny; you don't find this funny. The beauty of diversity.

[merithyn]

Pretending surprise that it is still an issue strikes me as odd; it historically hasn't been an issue, as accepting the last name of the husband had overwhelming general acceptance. Feigned shock that anyone still 'clings' to that practice when in fact any controversy lies in the comparatively recent rejection of a very longstanding practice by what remains a fringe quarter of society is disingenuous.

I'm not seeing anyone saying they're surprised. Personally, I said that I was amused.

People having different priorities - hilarious.

I don't think it's genuine amusement.  I think it's passive-aggressiveness.

I've been called lots of things, but passive-aggressive isn't usually one of them. In this case, I'd have to be a whole lot more invested to bother with that.

Why my amusement offends garbon, who knows? Or cares for that matter. I think it's silly to worry about this stuff and I think it's funny when others do. He's like a dog with a bone now, though, and since it offends him, he's going to gnaw on it until he feels like he's somehow gotten to some supposed marrow that just isn't there. He's really good about putting thoughts and feelings on me that just aren't there because of his own pre-concieved notions what I do or don't like.

[Jacob]

Smith & Wessen can become Smessen, Wessith, etc.

LOL?  Well I guess that is one way to do it.

Yeah... I knew a guy who did that. Combined Peele and... something, Stevens, maybe... to get "Steele". Sounded like a comic book hero.

[garbon]

I don't think I've actually said anything about your thoughts and feelings. I've just noted a few times what a bitch* you're being on this issue. We already understand you find this amusing because you tell us every few posts.

*like when you posit that it must be virile masculinity that causes people to care about this issue.

[merithyn]

I don't think I've actually said anything about your thoughts and feelings. I've just noted a few times what a bitch* you're being on this issue. We already understand you find this amusing because you tell us every few posts.

*like when you posit that it must be virile masculinity that causes people to care about this issue.

Given that this poll was entirely with men in mind as specifically stated in the OP, I'm not sure that that's out of line. And if stating my opinion is "flip" and being a "bitch", too bad. Opinions were asked, and mine was given. If you're offended that I don't particularly care how others name themselves or their spouses, too bad. If you're offended that I think holding tightly to a naming convention that has no real value to our current societal norms is a bit of a joke, again, too bad. I'm not alone in my opinion, as the poll shows and others have stated, but somehow my opinion is suspect and worthy of being called a "bitch".

As for the rest, you make a habit of deciding what people mean rather than what they say, and regularly take the time to tell me what a bitch I am for those very thoughts that I never had. Honestly, if anyone's a bitch around here it's you, but that's not really news, is it?

[DGuller]

  Does it have to be an either/or proposition?

[garbon]

Given that this poll was entirely with men in mind as specifically stated in the OP, I'm not sure that that's out of line. And if stating my opinion is "flip" and being a "bitch", too bad. Opinions were asked, and mine was given. If you're offended that I don't particularly care how others name themselves or their spouses, too bad. If you're offended that I think holding tightly to a naming convention that has no real value to our current societal norms is a bit of a joke, again, too bad. I'm not alone in my opinion, as the poll shows and others have stated, but somehow my opinion is suspect and worthy of being called a "bitch".

Other people said they didn't care, which doesn't seem to be the case with your person. You clearly care enough to mock those who might think differently (unless you are going to suggest that laughing at people isn't demeaning).

As for the rest, you make a habit of deciding what people mean rather than what they say, and regularly take the time to tell me what a bitch I am for those very thoughts that I never had. Honestly, if anyone's a bitch around here it's you, but that's not really news, is it?

Oh cry me a river. Can you point out where, in this thread, I indicated the thoughts that you've had?

Besides, I'm upfront about it.

[Jacob]

To answer your question, Meri, no it's not news.

[garbon]

To answer your question, Meri, no it's not news.

It would be very bizarre if it was. I think I've called myself that plenty of times.

[Jacob]

You are being judgmental about it though.

Judgmental? On languish?

Sounds like she fits right in.

[merithyn]

Other people said they didn't care, which doesn't seem to be the case with your person. You clearly care enough to mock those who might think differently (unless you are going to suggest that laughing at people isn't demeaning).

Yes, and? Mocking people who think differently is kind of the heart of what Languish is, or had you forgotten where you are? Or is it just that I'm not allowed to do it for fear of being called a "bitch" since it's not really a woman thing to do?

Oh cry me a river. Can you point out where, in this thread, I indicated the thoughts that you've had?

Besides, I'm upfront about it.

Who said that I was talking about this thread?