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Title: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 09:53:02 PM
I haven't had an attention whoring thread in a while, so here goes.

I haven't been able to really enjoy anything for almost a year now.  I can't bring my self to read a book, play a video game or even watch movies or television.  I'm not sure why.  When ever I try to watch a film I get bored or nervous and stop before it ends.  Sometimes I play old Skirmish maps of Company of Heroes but that's about as much as I can bring myself to do.  I do not know why I'm having this problem, and it's gotten worse I think.  Ahedonia is symptomatic of people like me, so maybe that's it.  I dunno.  Mostly I just sit around sort of listlessly.  I can post on Languish, cause that's like not doing anything, but I have been having a harder and harder time doing anything else. :(
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Eddie Teach on September 20, 2011, 10:03:39 PM
Yeah, I'm having similar problems. I think it stems from being out of work so long. Free time just isn't as sweet when you have 168 hours a week of it.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: CountDeMoney on September 20, 2011, 10:15:48 PM
You should find a basketball, see how many times you could bounce the ball in a day, then try to break that record.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Lettow77 on September 20, 2011, 10:29:07 PM
 Maybe try short animation?

There are shows that are 4-5 minutes long, or movies that go for about 17. You could take babby steps.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Ideologue on September 20, 2011, 11:00:57 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 09:53:02 PM
I haven't had an attention whoring thread in a while, so here goes.

I haven't been able to really enjoy anything for almost a year now.  I can't bring my self to read a book, play a video game or even watch movies or television.  I'm not sure why.  When ever I try to watch a film I get bored or nervous and stop before it ends.  Sometimes I play old Skirmish maps of Company of Heroes but that's about as much as I can bring myself to do.  I do not know why I'm having this problem, and it's gotten worse I think.  Ahedonia is symptomatic of people like me, so maybe that's it.  I dunno.  Mostly I just sit around sort of listlessly.  I can post on Languish, cause that's like not doing anything, but I have been having a harder and harder time doing anything else. :(

Dig it.

Quote from: Eddie TeachYeah, I'm having similar problems. I think it stems from being out of work so long. Free time just isn't as sweet when you have 168 hours a week of it.

Also dug.

I'm like the last person to give advice, and God strike me down that I'm echoing Lettow, but the idea of a creative-type hobby isn't that bad a one.  I draw.  It's like controlling little people that I can do anything to (I have a deeply scarred personality).
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: HisMajestyBOB on September 20, 2011, 11:27:56 PM
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on September 20, 2011, 10:03:39 PM
Yeah, I'm having similar problems. I think it stems from being out of work so long. Free time just isn't as sweet when you have 168 hours a week of it.

Me too.
Sucks that my favorite hobby is launching model rockets, and at $7.50 for 3 engines it's too expensive to do often.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: viper37 on September 20, 2011, 11:35:54 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 09:53:02 PM
I haven't been able to really enjoy anything for almost a year now. 
I really tought you enjoyed trolling my threads.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 11:37:25 PM
Quote from: viper37 on September 20, 2011, 11:35:54 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 09:53:02 PM
I haven't been able to really enjoy anything for almost a year now. 
I really tought you enjoyed trolling my threads.

I was not trolling. :)  I genuinely don't understand why you and grallon are like that.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: HisMajestyBOB on September 21, 2011, 12:16:09 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 11:37:25 PM
Quote from: viper37 on September 20, 2011, 11:35:54 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 09:53:02 PM
I haven't been able to really enjoy anything for almost a year now. 
I really tought you enjoyed trolling my threads.

I was not trolling. :)  I genuinely don't understand why you and grallon are like that.

French?
:P
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Razgovory on September 21, 2011, 12:35:10 AM
That was one my guesses.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Josquius on September 21, 2011, 01:33:42 AM
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on September 20, 2011, 10:03:39 PM
Yeah, I'm having similar problems. I think it stems from being out of work so long. Free time just isn't as sweet when you have 168 hours a week of it.

Agreed.
Even now I`m working its hard to get back into free time being precious and wonderfull.
And even things which weren`t necessarily common as muck aren`t as fun as they once were- getting out to the pub and the like
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Tamas on September 21, 2011, 01:45:41 AM
We are getting older, gentlemen.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:38:11 AM
I know this sounds trite, and not sure if that is applicable/doable in your situation, but both "real life" human contact and being busy with things alleviate these feelings. So getting a job that would fill your day would be a solution. Another would be volunteering for some social programme - like helping old people, or some such.

That being said I am not sure if that's helpful at all as I don't know if you can get a job or would your anxieties affect that - and also it may be a deeper medical condition, as you say yourself, in which my common sense advice would be insufficient.

The bottom line is that variety of experience helps a lot with these things. Doing the same thing (reading different books and watching different movies counts as the "same thing" for this purpose) over and over tends to bring ennui.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Razgovory on September 21, 2011, 02:43:46 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:38:11 AM
I know this sounds trite, and not sure if that is applicable/doable in your situation, but both "real life" human contact and being busy with things alleviate these feelings. So getting a job that would feel your day would be a solution.

That being said I am not sure if that's helpful at all - and also it may be a deeper medical condition, as you say yourself, in which my common sense advice would be insufficient.

What you say maybe true, but I'm not sure how useful it is.  I'm really not good around people and it's doubtful anyone would hire me.  Job interviewer are often put off by the subject talking to himself or an inanimate object.  Or simply not remembering the last time I held a job.  Best Buy might work though, since the answer to the question of "What is your strongest asset", would be answered by something along the lines of "causing human suffering", which I was once quite good at.  When I was young and hated my fellow man.  I'm not sure I could even do that anymore.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: The Brain on September 21, 2011, 02:44:59 AM
Mart, I don't think volunteering for a pogrom would work in America.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:45:28 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 21, 2011, 02:43:46 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:38:11 AM
I know this sounds trite, and not sure if that is applicable/doable in your situation, but both "real life" human contact and being busy with things alleviate these feelings. So getting a job that would feel your day would be a solution.

That being said I am not sure if that's helpful at all - and also it may be a deeper medical condition, as you say yourself, in which my common sense advice would be insufficient.

What you say maybe true, but I'm not sure how useful it is.  I'm really not good around people and it's doubtful anyone would hire me.  Job interviewer are often put off by the subject talking to himself or an inanimate object.  Or simply not remembering the last time I held a job.  Best Buy might work though, since the answer to the question of "What is your strongest asset", would be answered by something along the lines of "causing human suffering", which I was once quite good at.  When I was young and hated my fellow man.  I'm not sure I could even do that anymore.

I edited the post to add another solution - volunteer for some social help programme. They are much less picky about their candidates, and you may find some satisfaction in it, that is greater than working for Best Buy. :)
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:46:30 AM
Quote from: The Brain on September 21, 2011, 02:44:59 AM
Mart, I don't think volunteering for a pogrom would work in America.

It's gotta start somewhere. He could poison the wells or bake cakes out of Christian babies' blood. Think out of the box.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Ideologue on September 21, 2011, 03:16:18 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:45:28 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 21, 2011, 02:43:46 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:38:11 AM
I know this sounds trite, and not sure if that is applicable/doable in your situation, but both "real life" human contact and being busy with things alleviate these feelings. So getting a job that would feel your day would be a solution.

That being said I am not sure if that's helpful at all - and also it may be a deeper medical condition, as you say yourself, in which my common sense advice would be insufficient.

What you say maybe true, but I'm not sure how useful it is.  I'm really not good around people and it's doubtful anyone would hire me.  Job interviewer are often put off by the subject talking to himself or an inanimate object.  Or simply not remembering the last time I held a job.  Best Buy might work though, since the answer to the question of "What is your strongest asset", would be answered by something along the lines of "causing human suffering", which I was once quite good at.  When I was young and hated my fellow man.  I'm not sure I could even do that anymore.

I edited the post to add another solution - volunteer for some social help programme. They are much less picky about their candidates

You'd be surprised. <_<

Raz gave me an idea for a poll, though.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Duque de Bragança on September 21, 2011, 03:28:00 AM
Quote from: HisMajestyBOB on September 21, 2011, 12:16:09 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 11:37:25 PM
Quote from: viper37 on September 20, 2011, 11:35:54 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 20, 2011, 09:53:02 PM
I haven't been able to really enjoy anything for almost a year now. 
I really tought you enjoyed trolling my threads.

I was not trolling. :)  I genuinely don't understand why you and grallon are like that.

French Canadian?
:P

FYP :)
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Brazen on September 21, 2011, 04:27:19 AM
I like exercise as a way of killing time. Not only does it make you look and feel better, it gets you out in daylight which elevates your mood. Changing, working out, showering and changing again can easily kill two hours. I only get time to read on my commute and having time to watch an entire film is so rare I really appreciate the time to sit down and watch them.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: CountDeMoney on September 21, 2011, 05:27:43 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 02:45:28 AM
They are much less picky about their candidates, and you may find some satisfaction in it, that is greater than working for Best Buy. :)

I don't know, man...those employee discounts at Best Buy are fucking boss.  When I worked part-time there one summer a few years ago, I think I actually spent more than I earned.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:10:33 AM
Quote from: Brazen on September 21, 2011, 04:27:19 AM
I like exercise as a way of killing time. Not only does it make you look and feel better, it gets you out in daylight which elevates your mood. Changing, working out, showering and changing again can easily kill two hours. I only get time to read on my commute and having time to watch an entire film is so rare I really appreciate the time to sit down and watch them.

Yeah, that's true. Exercising does improve one's mood - it's both chemical (it releases endorphins) and the sense of doing something with yourself/improving that is rewarding.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: CountDeMoney on September 21, 2011, 06:12:14 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:10:33 AMYeah, that's true. Exercising does improve one's mood - it's both chemical (it releases endorphins) and the sense of doing something with yourself/improving that is rewarding.

Meh, fitness clubs are such a pain in the ass.

"...and here is one of our stair machines, and here are our stationary bikes."
"Where's the ashtray?"
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:14:15 AM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on September 21, 2011, 06:12:14 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:10:33 AMYeah, that's true. Exercising does improve one's mood - it's both chemical (it releases endorphins) and the sense of doing something with yourself/improving that is rewarding.

Meh, fitness clubs are such a pain in the ass.

"...and here is one of our stair machines, and here are our stationary bikes."
"Where's the ashtray?"


Yeah, a reason I got a personal trainer - otherwise I lack motivation to go there every week.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: CountDeMoney on September 21, 2011, 06:15:13 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:14:15 AM
Yeah, a reason I got a personal trainer -

He did explain to you that blow jobs don't come with the regimen, right?
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:16:50 AM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on September 21, 2011, 06:15:13 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 21, 2011, 06:14:15 AM
Yeah, a reason I got a personal trainer -

He did explain to you that blow jobs don't come with the regimen, right?

I'm working on it. He may be gay - you never know.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Grey Fox on September 21, 2011, 07:08:08 AM
Solution is : Yard work.
Title: Re: I'm not getting enjoyment out of anything anymore.
Post by: Gups on September 21, 2011, 07:17:27 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on September 21, 2011, 02:43:46 AM

What you say maybe true, but I'm not sure how useful it is.  I'm really not good around people and it's doubtful anyone would hire me. 

That's just an excuse for not trying.

Do some voluntary work. Do some exercise.

You won't get any better at interacting with people but not interacting with people.