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I met my wife at work. She reported to me.  :ph34r:




They say the majority of couples meet through their job, despite everyone saying it's a bad idea.

I also met my wife through work.  While she didn't report to me, I thought work romance would not work.  There were too many complications, too many possibilities of things going wrong, and no way of keeping it a secret. 

So I dated her immediately after I was transferred out of the department. 

Years later, she told me that she would have said no while I was still in that department  :ph34r:

Never.
Although I did twice go see movies with a coworker, on what in retrospect may or may not have been a date. :unsure:

Never shit where you eat.  Even the dumbest fucking animal knows that.

I drunkenly made out with my legal assistant many years ago - right before she threw up in my living room.  I was game the next day to pursue a relationship, but she decided not to (and she got back together with her boyfriend a few weeks later).

I also dated a fellow lawyer (well articling student) before that.  That was a disaster in the end, but not because of the work stuff.

Quote from: CountDeMoney on May 16, 2011, 10:20:50 PM
Never shit where you eat.  Even the dumbest fucking animal knows that.

I don't want to know what kind of things you do in your romantic life. : :yucky:

Quote from: CountDeMoney on May 16, 2011, 10:20:50 PM
Never shit where you eat.  Even the dumbest fucking animal knows that.

I considered using that term as the thread title.  :lol:

I have both seriously dated and casually slept with co-workers, though never at a real job.  It was mostly in my younger life working in restaurants and bars. 

In my current life I am a contractor and am in and out of places of business and I have dated people I have met at work, but we weren't co-workers.  I would not date someone I directly work with but would date someone who works in the same building I might happen to be in.

I've dated people met on when at theater, tv station and on film jobs.

Quote from: sbr on May 16, 2011, 10:41:44 PM
I have both seriously dated and casually slept with co-workers, though never at a real job.  It was mostly in my younger life working in restaurants and bars. 

That's a good point. My case was a restaurant job too. There is a difference between that and a professional career job. I was already engaged by the time I had one of those...

Quote from: sbr on May 16, 2011, 10:41:44 PM
I have both seriously dated and casually slept with co-workers, though never at a real job.  It was mostly in my younger life working in restaurants and bars. 

That shit doesn't count.  That's just fucking high school with ashtrays.

But on the other hand, if not from work, I have absolutely no idea where to find romance.  I'd probably still be single, and a virgin by now. 

I would, of course.

I don't think I'd pursue someone who reported to me, unless all those Naughty America videos are an accurate representation of reality.

Quote from: MadImmortalMan on May 16, 2011, 09:35:43 PM
I met my wife at work. She reported to me.  :ph34r:

Now the tables have been turned, right.

Sadly no. Then again most lawyers are fugly.

Quote from: Martinus on May 17, 2011, 12:48:55 AM
Sadly no. Then again most lawyers are fugly.

Really? Is this some sort of penance?

You're not even making it fun.

Don't shit in your bed.

yes. it didn't turn out well lol

Nope. I can't recall any girl at any of my workplaces that I had any interest in.

The person I replaced in my first real job married the boss. I later got my hands on her employment files and had she not hooked up with our boss she would have been fired and sent back to Indonesia.

Quote from: MadImmortalMan on May 16, 2011, 09:35:43 PM
I met my wife at work. She reported to me.  :ph34r:

"Mr. MiM, I've got some reports I'd like you to see."
"I've also got something I'd like you to see, baby..."

Anyway, I voted 'no'.

I don't shit where I eat.

That said, I did heavily flirt with a cheating coworker, to the point that we made out. She left for another job because she was getting infuriously too few hours and she was constantly harassed by a jerkass supervisor, and I left it at that.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 07:13:55 AM
I don't shit where I eat.

That said, I did heavily flirt with a cheating coworker, to the point that we made out. She left for another job because she was getting infuriously too few hours and she was constantly harassed by a jerkass supervisor, and I left it at that.

So you didn't stand up for her ?

Nope.

I wanted to bang my secretary, but never did.

Quote from: Ed Anger on May 17, 2011, 08:49:21 AM
I wanted to bang my secretary, but never did.

Your sense of duty and honor are an inspiration to us all noble Ed Anger.

duty? More like a love of my paycheck.

No wormance so far.

I started dating my wife when we were both working at the same restaurant.

We kept it "secret" for like, 8 months or so. But after we stopped hiding it, we asked one of our friends how long people knew we were dating.

Apparently everyone else knew we were dating before we were actually dating! I wish someone would have told me!

Quote from: Ed Anger on May 17, 2011, 09:10:45 AM
duty? More like a love of my paycheck.

So now you're safe to bang her :contract:


providing the child bride approves.

Never.
And the fact they're my employees would make it not only awkward, but highly unadvisable.

L.

Dated, no, not while we were co-workers. Sex, yes. People communications and marketing are slutty.

Quote from: mongers on May 17, 2011, 07:52:34 AM
So you didn't stand up for her ?

I leave the "prince charming" role to suckers, my role was being her boy toy. :perv:

When I was with her the "harassment" was mostly him being very anal with her time off-work chatting with me. I thought she was exaggerating, she was a bit of a drama queen.

Plus we kept it low profile for very obvious reasons, because it was known she had a bore at home.

Quote from: Pedrito on May 17, 2011, 11:21:20 AM

And the fact they're my employees would make it not only awkward, but highly unadvisable.

L.

You're no real Italian.  <_<

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 12:49:04 PM

Quote from: mongers on May 17, 2011, 07:52:34 AM
So you didn't stand up for her ?

I leave the "prince charming" role to suckers, my role was being her boy toy. :perv:

Are you allowed to use :perv: or "boy toy" or call other people "suckers" in this context if you didn't actually have sex?  It seems like you're overselling it.

Quote from: Norgy on May 17, 2011, 12:49:58 PM

Quote from: Pedrito on May 17, 2011, 11:21:20 AM

And the fact they're my employees would make it not only awkward, but highly unadvisable.

L.

You're no real Italian.  <_<

Nah. It appears Pedrito is white after all.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 12:49:04 PM

Quote from: mongers on May 17, 2011, 07:52:34 AM
So you didn't stand up for her ?

I leave the "prince charming" role to suckers, my role was being her boy toy. :perv:

When I was with her the "harassment" was mostly him being very anal with her time off-work chatting with me. I thought she was exaggerating, she was a bit of a drama queen.

Plus we kept it low profile for very obvious reasons, because it was known she had a bore at home.

No, I meant from the perspective of a normal human being.  ;)

Bullying in the workplace shouldn't be tolerated by the other workers.

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 12:52:21 PM
Are you allowed to use :perv: or "boy toy" or call other people "suckers" in this context if you didn't actually have sex?  It seems like you're overselling it.

Know a lot of girls who makes out on their workplace with a coworker, when having a boyfriend at home? :huh:

We didn't risk having sex at work, and she resigned from her job before we could arrange anything outside of work. It ended there, it was fun, we moved on, end of story.

Quote from: mongers on May 17, 2011, 01:17:33 PM
Bullying in the workplace shouldn't be tolerated.

Especially when it's not in fact bullying, but her pulling some drama. She just didn't like the supervisor and anything he'd say was "harassment".

She was strong enough to resolve the issue herself, and she did : she left of her own accord.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:25:06 PM

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 12:52:21 PM
Are you allowed to use :perv: or "boy toy" or call other people "suckers" in this context if you didn't actually have sex?  It seems like you're overselling it.

Know a lot of girls who makes out on their workplace with a coworker, when having a boyfriend at home? :huh:

Yes.

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 01:33:53 PM

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:25:06 PM

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 12:52:21 PM
Are you allowed to use :perv: or "boy toy" or call other people "suckers" in this context if you didn't actually have sex?  It seems like you're overselling it.

Know a lot of girls who makes out on their workplace with a coworker, when having a boyfriend at home? :huh:

Yes.

Outside of Reynholm Industries, please.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:35:47 PM

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 01:33:53 PM

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:25:06 PM

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 12:52:21 PM
Are you allowed to use :perv: or "boy toy" or call other people "suckers" in this context if you didn't actually have sex?  It seems like you're overselling it.

Know a lot of girls who makes out on their workplace with a coworker, when having a boyfriend at home? :huh:

Yes.

Outside of Reynholm Industries, please.

:D

Ah Drakken being all badass and awesome because he once kissed a girl at work.

If only we could all be so hard core as you lady killer.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:25:06 PM

Quote from: Ideologue on May 17, 2011, 12:52:21 PM
Are you allowed to use :perv: or "boy toy" or call other people "suckers" in this context if you didn't actually have sex?  It seems like you're overselling it.

Know a lot of girls who makes out on their workplace with a coworker, when having a boyfriend at home? :huh:

Yes. she left her boyfriend too... and then went crazy. never again.

Quote from: Valmy on May 17, 2011, 01:38:48 PM
Ah Drakken being all badass and awesome because he once kissed a girl at work.

If only we could all be so hard core as you lady killer.

And you, what did you kiss at work outside of your boss' ass, mister "girls don't like me nice guy"?

As I said, I don't shit where I eat usually. She was the exception, we had a bit of fun, and it ended when she left her job.

Quote from: HVC on May 17, 2011, 01:43:46 PM
Yes. she left her boyfriend too... and then went crazy. never again.

She left her BF to be with you?  Were you informed of this plan?

Quote from: Valmy on May 17, 2011, 01:45:53 PM

Quote from: HVC on May 17, 2011, 01:43:46 PM
Yes. she left her boyfriend too... and then went crazy. never again.

She left her BF to be with you?  Were you informed of this plan?

Yes. Things just moved quickly. Playful flirting turned into a lot more. then she went back to ex, snapped and started accusing random people of sexual harassment (at the BF's behest). I got really paranoid and printed out like text logs (not actual script, receipt and sent logs) and phone logs. Thankfully i was never mentioned and when she was threatened with a  court battle she took back her claims and disappeared.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:45:14 PM
And you, what did you kiss at work outside of your boss' ass, mister "girls don't like me nice guy"?

I am way too passive aggressive to kiss any of my boss' asses :P

Anyway never had anybody I was even interested in kissing at any of my jobs.  I did not even get to fail ineptly by being "nice" (though I am not really that nice I am a bit of jerk really).

I just ain't got what you got playa.

Quote from: HVC on May 17, 2011, 01:48:12 PM
Yes. Things just moved quickly. Playful flirting turned into a lot more. then she went back to ex, snapped and started accusing random people of sexual harassment (at the BF's behest). I got really paranoid and printed out like text logs (not actual script, receipt and sent logs) and phone logs. Thankfully i was never mentioned and when she was threatened with a  court battle she took back her claims and disappeared.

This is why it's better not to shit where we eat. No use risking his job and professional reputation over a female getting ideas.

Quote from: HVC on May 17, 2011, 01:48:12 PM
Yes. Things just moved quickly. Playful flirting turned into a lot more. then she went back to ex, snapped and started accusing random people of sexual harassment (at the BF's behest). I got really paranoid and printed out like text logs (not actual script, receipt and sent logs) and phone logs. Thankfully i was never mentioned and when she was threatened with a  court battle she took back her claims and disappeared.

Woah.  You were not paranoid at all that could have been your career.

Quote from: Drakken on May 17, 2011, 01:52:07 PM
This is why it's better not to shit where we eat. No use risking his job and professional reputation over a female getting ideas.

in this case it was mainly her dickhead ex. It all started because i offered encouragement for her to leave him (without ulterior motives, really, i swear :P ) and then things kind of spiraled. but really she had other issues didn't see until it was too late (probably cause she was hot). i know plenty of people who had successful workplace relationships. i just seem to attract (or be attracted to i guess :D ) slightly crazy girls which in the workplace offers other challenges. so for me it's a never again type thing.

Quote from: Valmy on May 17, 2011, 01:54:39 PM
Woah.  You were not paranoid at all that could have been your career.

indeed. i only found out because her boss was my friend. she was a new hire. He(her boss) knew about us because she told him. so i had that going for me too.

Quote from: HVC on May 17, 2011, 01:55:35 PM
in this case it was mainly her dickhead ex. It all started because i offered encouragement for her to leave him (without ulterior motives, really, i swear :P ) and then things kind of spiraled. but really she had other issues didn't see until it was too late (probably cause she was hot). i know plenty of people who had successful workplace relationships. i just seem to attract (or be attracted to i guess :D ) slightly crazy girls which in the workplace offers other challenges. so for me it's a never again type thing.

Even if she was sane and square, you never know what can happen if things get sour, or if you do the wrong advances at the wrong time, or on the wrong person. It takes only a scorned former hook-up reporting you for harassment just to piss you off and get back at you to put your career and reputation in jeopardy.

Ain't work the risk, when there are so many girls outside of work.

I once hooked up with a former co-worker. There was some flirting when she was still working with me, and when she left the job and was going to leave town we hooked up for a couple of sleepovers.

Also, when I was interning at the beginning of my career a hot, cute and big tittied co-worker with which I had fairly good chemistry hit on me during the work-sponsored Christmas party. It took steel nerves to resist that urge. A month afterwards she left the company and went to Indonesia for some NGO work with her boyfriend. Damn did that boat sail far away.

I miss pics of larchettes.

I met aa at work, but we didn't hook up until after we were no longer working together.  Actually, the same thing happened at a different job with SocialWorkerGirl.  In both cases, pretty much everybody at work knew we were going to hook up after we quit working together before I even knew.  That was because both of them had told my boss at that particular job that they wanted to date me, and asked about what company policy said about it.  (At the job where I worked with SocialWorkerGirl, it was a major no-no, but at the job where I worked with aa, it was OK, it not exactly encouraged.)  In both cases, the boss decided it would be fun to tell the rest of our co-workers about it, so everybody knew.  Though I think both aa and SocialWorkerGirl had already told some of our co-workers about it before the boss did.

Actually, CollegeGirlfriend, the 3rd woman I've ever been serious about, and I briefly worked together, but that was a completely different situation--she and I worked together almost 20 years after we dated. 

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Quote from: Norgy on May 17, 2011, 12:49:58 PM

Quote from: Pedrito on May 17, 2011, 11:21:20 AM

And the fact they're my employees would make it not only awkward, but highly unadvisable.

L.

You're no real Italian.  <_<

Nah. It appears Pedrito is white after all.

:sleep:

L.