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Title: Online Dating ?
Post by: jamesww on April 14, 2011, 12:39:51 PM
Anyone tried this ?

What's the over under on it - effort vs rewards ?

I was talking to a friend and he loves it, though he only uses it for female company; he, like me isn't interested in the seduction community type of bullshit.

Conversely I'm not looking for 'happily ever-after', settling down, 'love of my life' etc.

So what have you experiences of it been like ?
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Razgovory on April 14, 2011, 12:43:42 PM
I wrote an AAR.  It's here somewhere.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: jamesww on April 14, 2011, 12:45:39 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on April 14, 2011, 12:43:42 PM
I wrote an AAR.  It's here somewhere.

oh, I remember that, it was rather sweet, well written and intentionally amusing.  :)

Raz, you should try it again.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 12:46:29 PM
I got a match.com account after things fell through with Korea, just to check it out.  At least in my area, 75% the chicks are ugly, and most of the remaining 25% have a greatly inflated sense of their own value in the sexual marketplace.  The only ones I could sort of understand was the hot blonde who made $100k+, who didn't want anyone who made less than 70, and the 6' tall chick who wanted someone at least her own height.

Then there are the ones looking for a "strong Christian man."  I just elide on by.

One decent-looking Democrat agnostic, but a little old for me, who may or may not have been using a high school graduation photo.  I mean, she was like 33.  It's a fine picture, but WTF is up with that?  If she can do that, I can cosmetic-campaign photoshop myself and claim I'm six feet tall.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Razgovory on April 14, 2011, 12:47:30 PM
Things fell through with you and Korea?  I'm sorry.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Josquius on April 14, 2011, 12:48:15 PM
Have a profile on OK Cupid (originally made it for the quizzes there) but don't think I've ever actually messaged anyone. Too few people from my area have accounts to make it really work.
Though, my friend over in Sweden, where even less people use it, actually met his current girlfriend of going on 2 years on there. She's a fatty of course but meh, he likes that.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: jamesww on April 14, 2011, 12:49:19 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 12:46:29 PM
I got a match.com account after things fell through with Korea, just to check it out.  At least in my area, 75% the chicks are ugly, and most of the remaining 25% have a greatly inflated sense of their own value in the sexual marketplace.  The only ones I could sort of understand was the hot blonde who made $100k+, who didn't want anyone who made less than 70, and the 6' tall chick who wanted someone at least her own height.

Then there are the ones looking for a "strong Christian man."  I just elide on by.

One decent-looking Democrat agnostic, but a little old for me, who may or may not have been using a high school graduation photo.  I mean, she was like 33.  It's a fine picture, but WTF is up with that?  If she can do that, I can cosmetic-campaign photoshop myself.

H, you're a fine lad, with a pretty good personality, so I'd guess the real world isn't a problem for you.  :cheers:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 12:50:58 PM
Quote from: RazThings fell through with you and Korea?  I'm sorry.

S'alright.  I mean, odds are I'm gonna be alone for a while, but that's what my home pornography business is for.  Prostitution?  No, it's recorded: that's expression, my friend.

Quote from: MongersH, you're a fine lad, with a pretty good personality, so I' guess the real world  is problem for you. 

I don't know exactly what this means, but it's probably true, I guess. :hmm:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Razgovory on April 14, 2011, 12:52:46 PM
http://languish.org/forums/index.php?topic=2251.0

There's my AAR.  I tried that stuff for a little while.  I was surprisingly successful at it.  Possibly because, though my writing is poor by Languish standards, it's above average in the real world.  I did come to a distressing conclusion though.  I don't really like people that much.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: jamesww on April 14, 2011, 12:57:19 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 12:50:58 PM
Quote from: RazThings fell through with you and Korea?  I'm sorry.

S'alright.  I mean, odds are I'm gonna be alone for a while, but that's what my home pornography business is for.  Prostitution?  No, it's recorded: that's expression, my friend.

Quote from: MongersH, you're a fine lad, with a pretty good personality, so I' guess the real world  is problem for you. 

I don't know exactly what this means, but it's probably true, I guess. :hmm:

Sorry about the typos, I can't do both eating and posting at the same time; it's a compliment.  :)
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 12:57:48 PM
:)
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: dps on April 14, 2011, 01:09:17 PM
I tried it a bit years ago when I first moved back to WV and found that I no longer really knew anybody locally.  It was mostly a waste of time, because most of the women on the site (I don't even remember which service it was) were single mothers and I wasn't interested in hooking up with someone who already had a kid.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Norgy on April 14, 2011, 01:10:02 PM
Quote from: jamesww on April 14, 2011, 12:39:51 PM
Anyone tried this ?

What's the over under on it - effort vs rewards ?

I was talking to a friend and he loves it, though he only uses it for female company; he, like me isn't interested in the seduction community type of bullshit.

Conversely I'm not looking for 'happily ever-after', settling down, 'love of my life' etc.

So what have you experiences of it been like ?

Yes. It is effortless and yields a variety of women, from the crazies to the shy, but dirty. I have never tried it to find a partner, but to pass time and keep the bed warm, it's even better than singles bars. You barely have to make introductions, yet you know you don't need to stagger home alone.  :)
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:12:57 PM
Wait, dirty as in they're sexually liberated, dirty as in they smell bad, or dirty as in they do not maintain proper protocol for anal?

Anyway, I could probably deal with a preexisting kid, since I decided if I ever did have a kid I'd probably adopt so as to practice a little home eugenics and cut the bipolar off with me (and my sister's gay, so presumably it's worked itself out on that end).
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: garbon on April 14, 2011, 01:16:45 PM
I wouldn't call it "dating" but it is pretty much a given among city dwelling gays.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Norgy on April 14, 2011, 01:20:57 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:12:57 PM
Wait, dirty as in they're sexually liberated, dirty as in they smell bad, or dirty as in they do not maintain proper protocol for anal?


Sure.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: DGuller on April 14, 2011, 01:22:40 PM
It works at meeting women for me, although expect many to significantly understate their level of fatness in their pictures.  It certainly a good way to meet women if you're shy and not a natural player.  Only one woman I met seemed a little off mentally, and I think she was just depressed more than anything.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 01:24:20 PM
Try it and do a running AAR.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:27:05 PM
Quote from: Norgy on April 14, 2011, 01:20:57 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:12:57 PM
Wait, dirty as in they're sexually liberated, dirty as in they smell bad, or dirty as in they do not maintain proper protocol for anal?


Sure.

Well, one out of three ain't bad in that regard.

Quote from: DGullerIt works at meeting women for me, although expect many to significantly understate their level of fatness in their pictures.  It certainly a good way to meet women if you're shy and not a natural player.  Only one woman I met seemed a little off mentally, and I think she was just depressed more than anything.

I put slender in my profile even though at 170 and change I'm really not, but it was because I was assumed "average" was code for "fat."  And perhaps not even technically code, just factually correct. : /
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Josquius on April 14, 2011, 01:30:55 PM
Average means fat? :unsure:

Disagree with it being good for the shy, much harder to send a message to someone online than to just open your gob in reality.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: garbon on April 14, 2011, 01:34:32 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 01:30:55 PM
Average means fat? :unsure:

Online? Yes.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:34:42 PM
I have no idea.  But they say we're an obese nation, and I'd bet the average of people using online dating skews even fatter.  Also, people do tend to inflate (or, here, underinflate : / ) their good points in a personals ad.  I mean, I don't say I have a drinking problem, I just say I don't drink.

I'm also "smoking, but trying to quit." :goodboy:  Which may, if I actually get into it, be downgraded to "non-smoker," which is an "outright lie," but I can fake that.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 01:36:32 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 01:30:55 PM
Average means fat? :unsure:

Disagree with it being good for the shy, much harder to send a message to someone online than to just open your gob in reality.

Dude, it's America.


You should. Try cougarsonline.com. It's an hoot.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:40:07 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 01:36:32 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 01:30:55 PM
Average means fat? :unsure:

Disagree with it being good for the shy, much harder to send a message to someone online than to just open your gob in reality.

Dude, it's America.


You should. Try cougarsonline.com. It's an hoot.

That url doesn't work.  meetlocalcougars.com does, however.

BIOINICWOMAN1: do not want. :Embarrass:

Besides, you don't need the Internet to find old women to fuck.  That's easy.  Even I find that easy.

Edit: easy does not mean without value, of course.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 01:48:04 PM
There's million of dating sites. Pick one. Enjoy.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: garbon on April 14, 2011, 01:59:37 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 01:36:32 PM
Dude, it's America.

I don't really think it's that, it's more that people online have a tendency to describe themselves in a rosy light. So like Ide said, someone with extra pounds on them will describe themselves as average.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Norgy on April 14, 2011, 02:02:24 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 01:59:37 PM

I don't really think it's that, it's more that people online have a tendency to describe themselves in a rosy light. So like Ide said, someone with extra pounds on them will describe themselves as average.

That's true. And there are some really flattering pictures out there. So if you see someone actually looking average on an online dating site, they are either a) hideous or b) in dire need of a marketing team.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: DGuller on April 14, 2011, 02:03:31 PM
Quote from: Norgy on April 14, 2011, 02:02:24 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 01:59:37 PM

I don't really think it's that, it's more that people online have a tendency to describe themselves in a rosy light. So like Ide said, someone with extra pounds on them will describe themselves as average.

That's true. And there are some really flattering pictures out there. So if you see someone actually looking average on an online dating site, they are either a) hideous or b) in dire need of a marketing team.
GFY.  :mad:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: HVC on April 14, 2011, 02:06:40 PM
Quote from: Norgy on April 14, 2011, 02:02:24 PM
That's true. And there are some really flattering pictures out there. So if you see someone actually looking average on an online dating site, they are either a) hideous or b) in dire need of a marketing team.

There's also the "model effect" Some people, even without taking extra steps, look really good in photos but not in real life. 3D just does not suit them. there are some people who are the exact opposite too.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: The Brain on April 14, 2011, 02:07:02 PM
Apparently you have to post lots and lots of pics of you rock climbing, sailing or offpisting. At least that's what people do in Sweden.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Valmy on April 14, 2011, 02:09:05 PM
I found it useful to keep my confidence up while seeking women in other ways.  Knowing I had a few dates lined up made it easier to approach women for some reason.

I did not really notice the ones I met online were that inferior to the ones I met elsewhere though.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: DGuller on April 14, 2011, 02:09:28 PM
Quote from: The Brain on April 14, 2011, 02:07:02 PM
Apparently you have to post lots and lots of pics of you rock climbing, sailing or offpisting. At least that's what people do in Sweden.
Same in US.  I wonder if anyone ever spends any time at home, every single chick seems to just LOVE traveling.  :rolleyes:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Legbiter on April 14, 2011, 02:13:39 PM
Quote from: DGuller on April 14, 2011, 02:09:28 PM
Same in US.  I wonder if anyone ever spends any time at home, every single chick seems to just LOVE traveling.  :rolleyes:

Don't forget the 463 essential prerequisites you must fulfill before even thinking about contacting them.  ;)
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: The Brain on April 14, 2011, 02:14:45 PM
I don't have a problem with them. I'm 8 ft tall and make 3 million a week.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 02:30:16 PM
Quote from: DGuller on April 14, 2011, 02:09:28 PM
Quote from: The Brain on April 14, 2011, 02:07:02 PM
Apparently you have to post lots and lots of pics of you rock climbing, sailing or offpisting. At least that's what people do in Sweden.
Same in US.  I wonder if anyone ever spends any time at home, every single chick seems to just LOVE traveling.  :rolleyes:

People take less photographs when they're sitting around at home.  :P
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 03:08:28 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 01:40:07 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 01:36:32 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 01:30:55 PM
Average means fat? :unsure:

Disagree with it being good for the shy, much harder to send a message to someone online than to just open your gob in reality.

Dude, it's America.


You should. Try cougarsonline.com. It's an hoot.

That url doesn't work.  meetlocalcougars.com does, however.

BIOINICWOMAN1: do not want. :Embarrass:

Besides, you don't need the Internet to find old women to fuck.  That's easy.  Even I find that easy.

Edit: easy does not mean without value, of course.

I remembered it's cougarlife.com
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Camerus on April 14, 2011, 03:15:59 PM
I haven't used it in years, but during the couple years when I was using it, I probably ended up meeting like 30-40 girls.

The biggest problem was finding out whether you actually would have any chemistry in real life and not just in emails.  Most dates ended up sucking, and not in the good way.

Mostly it is just a way to combat boredom and get off your ass and do shit during lean times.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Valmy on April 14, 2011, 03:25:55 PM
Quote from: Pitiful Pathos on April 14, 2011, 03:15:59 PM
I haven't used it in years, but during the couple years when I was using it, I probably ended up meeting like 30-40 girls.

The biggest problem was finding out whether you actually would have any chemistry in real life and not just in emails.  Most dates ended up sucking, and not in the good way.

Mostly it is just a way to combat boredom and get off your ass and do shit during lean times.

Yes.  Do not waste time having an e-relationship.  You want to say hi and meet IRL ASAP if you are interested.  But yeah mostly that last part though it just so happens I met my wife online.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:33:09 PM
I think pretty much all the guys I dated/had sex with I met on online dating sites (one case was a "misconnection" type of thing so not sure if it counts). Make of this what you will.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:34:10 PM
Quote from: Valmy on April 14, 2011, 03:25:55 PM
Quote from: Pitiful Pathos on April 14, 2011, 03:15:59 PM
I haven't used it in years, but during the couple years when I was using it, I probably ended up meeting like 30-40 girls.

The biggest problem was finding out whether you actually would have any chemistry in real life and not just in emails.  Most dates ended up sucking, and not in the good way.

Mostly it is just a way to combat boredom and get off your ass and do shit during lean times.

Yes.  Do not waste time having an e-relationship.  You want to say hi and meet IRL ASAP if you are interested.  But yeah mostly that last part though it just so happens I met my wife online.

Agreed with that. Some of the worst cases of disappointments come from stoking the fires too much before you first meet.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Malthus on April 14, 2011, 03:35:31 PM
Quote from: Valmy on April 14, 2011, 03:25:55 PM
Quote from: Pitiful Pathos on April 14, 2011, 03:15:59 PM
I haven't used it in years, but during the couple years when I was using it, I probably ended up meeting like 30-40 girls.

The biggest problem was finding out whether you actually would have any chemistry in real life and not just in emails.  Most dates ended up sucking, and not in the good way.

Mostly it is just a way to combat boredom and get off your ass and do shit during lean times.

Yes.  Do not waste time having an e-relationship.  You want to say hi and meet IRL ASAP if you are interested.  But yeah mostly that last part though it just so happens I met my wife online.

Here's a watershed moment (sits back in rocking chair, puffs pipe): I remember a time, and not so long ago, when people would have been amazed by that; and then I remember a time, shortly after, when they would be ashamed to admit that.

Now, it is simply and boringly normal and unremarkable in any way.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:37:30 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 01:16:45 PM
I wouldn't call it "dating" but it is pretty much a given among city dwelling gays.

Yeah, I think it's quite a different dynamics for us. If you don't feel like hooking up in gay bars (I don't), and are not really into obvious queens, then trying to find dates in real life would be too much of hit and miss.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:39:25 PM
Quote from: Malthus on April 14, 2011, 03:35:31 PM
Quote from: Valmy on April 14, 2011, 03:25:55 PM
Quote from: Pitiful Pathos on April 14, 2011, 03:15:59 PM
I haven't used it in years, but during the couple years when I was using it, I probably ended up meeting like 30-40 girls.

The biggest problem was finding out whether you actually would have any chemistry in real life and not just in emails.  Most dates ended up sucking, and not in the good way.

Mostly it is just a way to combat boredom and get off your ass and do shit during lean times.

Yes.  Do not waste time having an e-relationship.  You want to say hi and meet IRL ASAP if you are interested.  But yeah mostly that last part though it just so happens I met my wife online.

Here's a watershed moment (sits back in rocking chair, puffs pipe): I remember a time, and not so long ago, when people would have been amazed by that; and then I remember a time, shortly after, when they would be ashamed to admit that.

Now, it is simply and boringly normal and unremarkable in any way.

Yeah. Online dating has its own pitfalls and advantages that make it quiet different (but neither better nor worse) than "analog" dating.

In fact both can be summed up with a single word: Choice. And the illusion of it.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:42:44 PM
Quote from: The Brain on April 14, 2011, 02:07:02 PM
Apparently you have to post lots and lots of pics of you rock climbing, sailing or offpisting. At least that's what people do in Sweden.

In Poland, at least on gay sites, it's "me standing next to a palm" type of thing.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:43:33 PM
Anyway, I heard that on US gay sites, you have to now post at least four pics, including face, full body and a nude (not necessarily with face), or you get ignored. garbose, true or false?
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:53:03 PM
Btw, out of curiosity, how advanced/sophisticated are profiles on straight dating sites? For example, the entries on a fairly advanced gay dating sites (and it's not just a sex site, but also relationship/etc.) includes these categories (taken from the most popular European site):

City
Area
Country
Language   Polish, English
Stats   
Body & Ethnics   
Hair   
Body Hair   
Eyes
Piercings
Tattoos
Smoker
Sex
Relationship   
Looking for   Friends/Date/Sex/Relationship
(Ages)
Profession
Religion
Food   
Music   
Sport   
Travel   
Night life   
Interests   
Personality:
Home boy          Party Animal
Pedantic      Chaotic
Planned      Spontaneous
Shy      Forward
Dicksize   
Cut/Uncut
Position   
Fucking
Fisting   
Safer Sex   
S&M   
Dirty   
Fetish   
Write something about you
Webcam   Yes
Messenger

We like to be specific as you can see.  :lol:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Faeelin on April 14, 2011, 04:37:39 PM
Eh, it depends. I met someone I dated for college for two years on it, and I have a friend who met his current gf of a year and change on okcupid.

Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: szmik on April 14, 2011, 05:17:10 PM
Quote from: Malthus on April 14, 2011, 03:35:31 PM
Quote from: Valmy on April 14, 2011, 03:25:55 PM
Quote from: Pitiful Pathos on April 14, 2011, 03:15:59 PM
I haven't used it in years, but during the couple years when I was using it, I probably ended up meeting like 30-40 girls.

The biggest problem was finding out whether you actually would have any chemistry in real life and not just in emails.  Most dates ended up sucking, and not in the good way.

Mostly it is just a way to combat boredom and get off your ass and do shit during lean times.

Yes.  Do not waste time having an e-relationship.  You want to say hi and meet IRL ASAP if you are interested.  But yeah mostly that last part though it just so happens I met my wife online.

Here's a watershed moment (sits back in rocking chair, puffs pipe): I remember a time, and not so long ago, when people would have been amazed by that; and then I remember a time, shortly after, when they would be ashamed to admit that.

Now, it is simply and boringly normal and unremarkable in any way.
I first met my wife online too and people are still amazed.

But I live in Polish hell.  :(
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Josquius on April 14, 2011, 05:21:35 PM
Average as fat: I've never observed this. hmm....wonder what I'd put instead, I'm sure not athletic.

QuoteHere's a watershed moment (sits back in rocking chair, puffs pipe): I remember a time, and not so long ago, when people would have been amazed by that; and then I remember a time, shortly after, when they would be ashamed to admit that.

Now, it is simply and boringly normal and unremarkable in any way.
True.
But then thats the same with any relationships on the internet really. 15 years ago admitting to spending your nights chatting to people on the internet would ring all sorts of strange and dodgy bells.

Quote from: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:53:03 PM
Btw, out of curiosity, how advanced/sophisticated are profiles on straight dating sites? For example, the entries on a fairly advanced gay dating sites (and it's not just a sex site, but also relationship/etc.) includes these categories (taken from the most popular European site):

We like to be specific as you can see.  :lol:

Asking men their dicksize...yeah...I'm sure that works well.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 05:29:54 PM
A guy at work met his girlfriend on eharmony.com.  They're moving in together next month.  General consensus from those around me is that match.com has devolved over time to adultfriendfinder.com without the fetish subcategories.  Total hook-up site.

I refuse to engage in any form of online dating, as it is a proven scientific fact that women online are only looking for 5'10" or taller.

That's what totally sucks about being 40; you're too old for the young ones, and too young for the old ones.  It is: a dead zone.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:31:21 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 05:21:35 PM

Asking men their dicksize...yeah...I'm sure that works well.

I never actually bothered to measure. That question would certainly catch me off-guard if I were signing up.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: garbon on April 14, 2011, 05:32:14 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 05:21:35 PM
Asking men their dicksize...yeah...I'm sure that works well.

There really isn't much incentive to lie too egregiously. If you say you're 9 inches and show up at his door with a piddling 4, you're liking going to be bounced out rather quick.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:33:13 PM
So, uh...in what state are you expected to measure it?
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: garbon on April 14, 2011, 05:33:43 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:33:13 PM
So, uh...in what state are you expected to measure it?

Is this a trick question? :unsure:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 05:34:04 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 05:32:14 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 05:21:35 PM
Asking men their dicksize...yeah...I'm sure that works well.

There really isn't much incentive to lie too egregiously. If you say you're 9 inches and show up at his door with a piddling 4, you aren't going to get invited in.

Yeah, whereas if you are a 4-inch dick size, racoon furry fetishist power bottom who enjoys eating green tomatoes and going to death metal concerts and say it in your profil - there is a chance you will find someone who is into it.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:35:03 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 05:33:43 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:33:13 PM
So, uh...in what state are you expected to measure it?

Is this a trick question? :unsure:


Nope. Semi truck or Optimus Prime?
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Barrister on April 14, 2011, 05:51:00 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 05:29:54 PM
A guy at work met his girlfriend on eharmony.com.  They're moving in together next month.  General consensus from those around me is that match.com has devolved over time to adultfriendfinder.com without the fetish subcategories.  Total hook-up site.

I refuse to engage in any form of online dating, as it is a proven scientific fact that women online are only looking for 5'10" or taller.

That's what totally sucks about being 40; you're too old for the young ones, and too young for the old ones.  It is: a dead zone.

:huh:

You're perfect the perfect age for all kinds of milfy divorcees.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 05:59:54 PM
Quote from: Martinus on April 14, 2011, 03:53:03 PM
Btw, out of curiosity, how advanced/sophisticated are profiles on straight dating sites? For example, the entries on a fairly advanced gay dating sites (and it's not just a sex site, but also relationship/etc.) includes these categories (taken from the most popular European site):

City
Area
Country
Language   Polish, English
Stats   
Body & Ethnics   
Hair   
Body Hair   
Eyes
Piercings
Tattoos
Smoker
Sex
Relationship   
Looking for   Friends/Date/Sex/Relationship
(Ages)
Profession
Religion
Food   
Music   
Sport   
Travel   
Night life   
Interests   
Personality:
Home boy          Party Animal
Pedantic      Chaotic
Planned      Spontaneous
Shy      Forward
Dicksize   
Cut/Uncut
Position   
Fucking
Fisting   
Safer Sex   
S&M   
Dirty   
Fetish   
Write something about you
Webcam   Yes
Messenger

We like to be specific as you can see.  :lol:

Everything but the more specifically gay stuff.  Some have fields for dick size et al, some don't.  The more (presumably?) relationship-oriented ones don't seem to.  (I forgot, I also have an adultfriendfinder account, but I'm pretty positive that shit's not worth it, if not an outright scam--what is the likelihood of someone there worth fucking that I couldn't just pull off the street?)

Does shy/forward mean the same thing in the homosphere, or is it like dirty?

And safer sex?

Quote from: CdMThat's what totally sucks about being 40; you're too old for the young ones, and too young for the old ones.  It is: a dead zone.

That's what lying is for.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 06:01:01 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:35:03 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 05:33:43 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:33:13 PM
So, uh...in what state are you expected to measure it?

Is this a trick question? :unsure:


Nope. Semi truck or Optimus Prime?
:lol:
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Josquius on April 14, 2011, 06:15:55 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 05:29:54 PM
I refuse to engage in any form of online dating, as it is a proven scientific fact that women online are only looking for 5'10" or taller.

Most hot women are short. And there's more short than tall women to begin with. Doubt its that much of a drawback.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Caliga on April 14, 2011, 06:20:41 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 06:15:55 PM
Most hot women are short. And there's more short than tall women to begin with. Doubt its that much of a drawback.
:huh:

I don't think I would have any problem using one of these sites, because:

* I prefer tall women... the taller the better (I guess maybe 7' wouldn't work too well).
* Because my eh... well known preferences are so extreme, I don't even care if a chick is fat as long as the fat is distributed in a way that I like.
* Prefer older women.
* Don't care about hair color, eye color, etc.
* Don't care about race.

Really, when it comes to sex appeal, I was always more interested in a woman's skill than in her appearance... which is something you can't "see" from an online profile, I don't guess.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: garbon on April 14, 2011, 06:26:32 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:35:03 PM
Quote from: garbon on April 14, 2011, 05:33:43 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on April 14, 2011, 05:33:13 PM
So, uh...in what state are you expected to measure it?

Is this a trick question? :unsure:


Nope. Semi truck or Optimus Prime?

You didn't buy me that Tiffany's tennis bracelet, so I'm disinclined to let you join our club. <_<
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 06:28:36 PM
Women like ridiculously tall dudes.  I dig that.  I like women who weigh 100 pounds.  But I am aware that other body types exist--indeed, are prevalent--and height is far stupider criterion for rejection anyway, within ordinary bounds.

MiM: standard practice is to measure hard.  Soft measure is 1)variable and 2)a poor predictor.  Maybe gay dudes use a different technique than doctors, however.  I understand they like that half-chubby deal.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Josquius on April 14, 2011, 06:30:52 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 06:28:36 PM
Women like ridiculously tall dudes.  I dig that.  I like women who weigh 100 pounds.  But I am aware that other body types exist--indeed, are prevalent--and height is far stupider criterion for rejection anyway, within ordinary bounds.
Some women have a fetish for freakishly tall guys.
I'm merely of above average height though so pick up on none of that, I am however too tall for a lot of regular girls who don't like guys a foot taller than them. Which is lame.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Razgovory on April 14, 2011, 06:33:34 PM
Maybe when I sane up a little this summer I'll try this again.  Currently, I'm doing a bit better.  I'm taking an anti-psychotic that is really, really helping.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ideologue on April 14, 2011, 06:33:43 PM
I've never noticed that around here.  Women seem to gravitate toward the Richard Kiel-esque.

I knew one couple the mental image of whom having intercourse was quite comical.  Like 5' and 6'4.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Ed Anger on April 14, 2011, 06:34:35 PM
Never used 'em. Other than to look through the pictures at J Date.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 07:43:16 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 06:15:55 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 05:29:54 PM
I refuse to engage in any form of online dating, as it is a proven scientific fact that women online are only looking for 5'10" or taller.

Most hot women are short. And there's more short than tall women to begin with. Doubt its that much of a drawback.

Yes, and guess what: most short hot women that use those dating sites ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR 5'10" OR TALLER WHAT FUCKING PART OF THAT DID YOU NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND YOU FUCKING GYPSY
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 07:48:30 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 07:43:16 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 06:15:55 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 05:29:54 PM
I refuse to engage in any form of online dating, as it is a proven scientific fact that women online are only looking for 5'10" or taller.

Most hot women are short. And there's more short than tall women to begin with. Doubt its that much of a drawback.

Yes, and guess what: most short hot women that use those dating sites ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR 5'10" OR TALLER WHAT FUCKING PART OF THAT DID YOU NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND YOU FUCKING GYPSY

MSG THEM ANYWAY. It's like with job offers & 5 to 10 years experience. 4 might be enough!
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 07:52:20 PM
Quote from: Barrister on April 14, 2011, 05:51:00 PM
That's what totally sucks about being 40; you're too old for the young ones, and too young for the old ones.  It is: a dead zone.
Quote
:huh:

You're perfect the perfect age for all kinds of milfy divorcees.

Maybe up there in Soviet Canuckistan it is, but just like your use of the metric system and Monopoly money, your perspective is incorrect and does not translate to US standards.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 08:06:14 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on April 14, 2011, 07:48:30 PMMSG THEM ANYWAY. It's like with job offers & 5 to 10 years experience. 4 might be enough!

:lol: For a people who pride themselves on knowing the rules of love, you Pepe Le Pew types are so naive sometimes when it comes to chicks.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: PDH on April 14, 2011, 08:08:20 PM
I would never go out with anyone who lowered their standards enough to hook up with me online. I have principles.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Josquius on April 14, 2011, 08:09:47 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 07:43:16 PM

Yes, and guess what: most short hot women that use those dating sites ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR 5'10" OR TALLER WHAT FUCKING PART OF THAT DID YOU NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND YOU FUCKING GYPSY
I don't believe you.
Unless internet dating is where all the height fetishists and tall women go in the US.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 08:16:28 PM
Quote from: Tyr on April 14, 2011, 08:09:47 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 07:43:16 PM

Yes, and guess what: most short hot women that use those dating sites ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR 5'10" OR TALLER WHAT FUCKING PART OF THAT DID YOU NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND YOU FUCKING GYPSY
I don't believe you.
Unless internet dating is where all the height fetishists and tall women go in the US.

You fail to understand the illogical mind of the American Woman;  in much the same manner that they'd vote Sean Connery's incontinent ass as "Sexiest Man of The Century", only in America would chicks under 5' tend to want to date 6' dudes.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: PDH on April 14, 2011, 08:20:31 PM
Thank god I am 6' tall. Chick magnet.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: sbr on April 14, 2011, 08:22:12 PM
Quote from: PDH on April 14, 2011, 08:20:31 PM
Thank god I am 6' tall. Chick magnet.

Are there any women in Wyoming?
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 08:23:25 PM
Thread closed.
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: Neil on April 14, 2011, 08:39:10 PM
Do you have Short Guy Syndrome?
Title: Re: Online Dating ?
Post by: CountDeMoney on April 14, 2011, 08:40:45 PM
No, I have Stupid Bitches Are Fucking Stupid Sometimes Syndrome.  Big difference.