In one of my history classes, the desks are set up in a square formation, so I sit across the room face-to-face with another girl that I do not know.
We have been doing eye dances for a while, but I do not yet understand eye protocol. I will catch her looking at me, and she will catch me looking at her. If a class situation warrants laughter, she will look to me to share the laughter. If she sneezes, she looks up to see if I noticed. She has also done the sizeup on me when I walked into classes, looking me from head to toe. For now, I look away each time a gaze is met. Frankly, I am not interested in making a move due to lack of time and resources (so don't bother me about asking her out), but I enjoy looking at her and do not want to turn her off/weird her out. It keeps me going through the 1.25 hour class.
Do I continue the look-away maneuver, or does she want me to give her a locking gaze even if noticed?
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dammit where is Ed Angerbutt when i need him!
Sorry, can't help. Gays don't have these hangups.
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 12:16:38 AM
Sorry, can't help. Gays don't have these hangups.
How do non-acquaintance gays look at each other?
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 12:20:17 AM
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 12:16:38 AM
Sorry, can't help. Gays don't have these hangups.
How do non-acquaintance gays look at each other?
:perv: :boff: :mmm:
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 12:20:17 AM
How do non-acquaintance gays look at each other?
If you look and he looks and you both are looking...you know.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 12:11:04 AM
Frankly, I am not interested in making a move
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Dude, WTF?
Oh and does Languish now have a Seedy in training? (I like to look at her but I don't want to touch...)
I'd have said Grallon but I didn't want to imply a like of prepubescents. :blush:
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 02:03:51 AM
(I like to look at her but I don't want to touch...)
I can relate to that. Relationships, no matter how uncommitted, require time and work. And that heavily outweighs the sexual benefits for me.
Quote from: Syt on March 26, 2009, 02:10:12 AM
I can relate to that. Relationships, no matter how uncommitted, require time and work. And that heavily outweighs the sexual benefits for me.
And thus the hookup.
Quote from: The Nickname Who Was Thursday on March 26, 2009, 02:01:55 AM
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 12:11:04 AM
Frankly, I am not interested in making a move
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Dude, WTF?
Quoted for fucking true.
L.
I think we're gonna need some more pics before your problem can be fully solved.
:yes: Topless ones would be quite helpful.
Protocol is catch glance, look away, look up again and maintain eye contact for a few seconds and smile.
Then... and this next step is very important, so pay attention... ready...?
Get off your fucking ass and talk to her.
Message ends.
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 04:51:20 AM
Get off your fucking ass and talk to her.
Yes, spend hours getting acquainted and learning all about her boyfriend who is taller wealthier smarter prettier than you so you can sit there and listen to all the interesting plans she has for the wedding and zomg he did the sweetest thing just the other day and we just got back from the islands and it was so romantic and
Here's a better fucking idea; keep glowering at her and try to make her read your mind about how you're going to handcuff her to the showerhead and beat her with a martini mixer until her face is imprinted on it.
:lol:
Glad you're back Seedy.
QuoteFrankly, I am not interested in making a move due to lack of time and resources (so don't bother me about asking her out)
Seriously, stop making excuses, grow some balls and ask her out.
Next class, call me, I'll ask her out over the phone for you.
No american girls should be able to resists the accent.
Why do you have her picture if you're not yet on speaking terms with her? Are you friends with her friends? :unsure:
He's internet stalking her and broke in to her photobucket.
Quote from: Savonarola on March 26, 2009, 07:07:59 AM
Why do you have her picture if you're not yet on speaking terms with her? Are you friends with her friends? :unsure:
Facebook
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 26, 2009, 06:04:10 AM
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 04:51:20 AM
Get off your fucking ass and talk to her.
Yes, spend hours getting acquainted and learning all about her boyfriend who is taller wealthier smarter prettier than you so you can sit there and listen to all the interesting plans she has for the wedding and zomg he did the sweetest thing just the other day and we just got back from the islands and it was so romantic and
Here's a better fucking idea; keep glowering at her and try to make her read your mind about how you're going to handcuff her to the showerhead and beat her with a martini mixer until her face is imprinted on it.
+1, except for the extreme part.
Tell her you're a HoI 3 beta. She'll understand you only have time for sex.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 07:51:41 AM
Quote from: Savonarola on March 26, 2009, 07:07:59 AM
Why do you have her picture if you're not yet on speaking terms with her? Are you friends with her friends? :unsure:
Facebook
Oh brave new world that has such people in it.
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 26, 2009, 06:04:10 AM
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 04:51:20 AM
Get off your fucking ass and talk to her.
Yes, spend hours getting acquainted and learning all about her boyfriend who is taller wealthier smarter prettier than you so you can sit there and listen to all the interesting plans she has for the wedding and zomg he did the sweetest thing just the other day and we just got back from the islands and it was so romantic and
Here's a better fucking idea; keep glowering at her and try to make her read your mind about how you're going to handcuff her to the showerhead and beat her with a martini mixer until her face is imprinted on it.
Oh for goodness sakes. Just smile at her the next time you make eye contact. Nothing perverse, mind you. Then the next time the chance permits, say hello.
Can't we all get along?
Quote from: katmai on March 26, 2009, 12:12:36 AM
dammit where is Ed Angerbutt when i need him!
1 am? You are kidding, right?
QuoteWe have been doing eye dances for a while, but I do not yet understand eye protocol. I will catch her looking at me, and she will catch me looking at her. If a class situation warrants laughter, she will look to me to share the laughter. If she sneezes, she looks up to see if I noticed. She has also done the sizeup on me when I walked into classes, looking me from head to toe. For now, I look away each time a gaze is met. Frankly, I am not interested in making a move due to lack of time and resources (so don't bother me about asking her out), but I enjoy looking at her and do not want to turn her off/weird her out. It keeps me going through the 1.25 hour class.
Do I continue the look-away maneuver, or does she want me to give her a locking gaze even if noticed?
Now that I actually read the post instead of rating the chicks in the picture, smile at her you dork. Jesus Tapdancing Christ, you kids these days. You don't have to stare her down, just return the damn look.
harumph.
Perhaps the best thing you can do, I have this on good authority, is to plan out the next few months or years with her in advance. Take to thinking about her exclusively, plan the conversations you will have with her, and imagine the places you will go. After you have done this for a few agonizing nights or so, awake until 4 am with the tortured imagined romance in your mind, imagine that she will eventually act like any other young person, and the two of you will begin to drift apart, culminating in a drunken party where the two of you fight and then she sleeps with that one guy who rock-climbs and gets all the chick. Then, the next time she looks at you, look right back and think, "Bitch."
Either do this, or keep in mind that she might be staring at you because she thinks you look weird.
Poor girl, making eye contact with a freak like you.
A good man really is hard to find.
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 26, 2009, 08:41:13 AM
Now that I actually read the post instead of rating the chicks in the picture, smile at her you dork. Jesus Tapdancing Christ, you kids these days. You don't have to stare her down, just return the damn look.
harumph.
+1
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 08:52:40 AM
Poor girl, making eye contact with a freak like you.
A good man really is hard to find.
And a hard man is g... never mind.
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 08:53:59 AM
And a hard man is g... never mind.
TLC did that in a song on Fanmail! :w00t:
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 26, 2009, 08:32:05 AM
Quote from: katmai on March 26, 2009, 12:12:36 AM
dammit where is Ed Angerbutt when i need him!
1 am? You are kidding, right?
I knew where you were, but i wanted your rating system. ;)
Just read the first couple of posts. Holy crap you guys are a bunch of idiots. How much is a cup of coffee these days. Its not like you are asking her to marry you for God's sake.
Just walk up to her an talk to her. WTF.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 09:52:59 AM
Just walk up to her an talk to her. WTF.
:rolleyes:
Like this ever worked.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 09:52:59 AM
Just read the first couple of posts. Holy crap you guys are a bunch of idiots.
hi you must be new here!
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 09:52:59 AM
Just read the first couple of posts. Holy crap you guys are a bunch of idiots. How much is a cup of coffee these days. Its not like you are asking her to marry you for God's sake.
Just walk up to her an talk to her. WTF.
How bout you read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AM
If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
I knew I liked you.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AM
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 09:52:59 AM
Just read the first couple of posts. Holy crap you guys are a bunch of idiots. How much is a cup of coffee these days. Its not like you are asking her to marry you for God's sake.
Just walk up to her an talk to her. WTF.
How bout you read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
Heh I'm not sure I get what it is you want. Continual flirtation without any more? That's easy - just keep doing whatever you are doing, as it appears to be working so far.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AM
u read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
Jesus fucking Christ, what is the world coming to where young blokes have no problems picking up women but need advice from an internet forum in
looking. If that's all you want, weird her out all you like. Try staring at her cleavage while licking your lips, then look up and waggle your eyebrows. Idiot.
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 10:20:47 AM
Jesus fucking Christ, what is the world coming too where young blokes have no problems picking up women but need advice from an internet forum in looking. If that's all you want, weird her out all you like. Try staring at her cleavage while licking your lips, then look up and waggle your eyebrows. Idiot.
Anybody can stick a dick in a pussy. It don't mean you're good at it.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AM
How bout you read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
:frusty:
So then ignore her. Done.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AM
How bout you read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
In your original post you were concerned about "wierding her out". Your concerns were justified.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AM
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 09:52:59 AM
Just read the first couple of posts. Holy crap you guys are a bunch of idiots. How much is a cup of coffee these days. Its not like you are asking her to marry you for God's sake.
Just walk up to her an talk to her. WTF.
How bout you read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
You really have good moral standards eh?
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:24:30 AM
:frusty:
So then ignore her. Done.
Nah. I enjoy looking at her. And if she ends up being horny enough to make a move, I would be a fool to ignore it.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:34:48 AM
In your original post you were concerned about "wierding her out". Your concerns were justified.
Nah. The trick is to be the weirdo and nerd on an internet forum called Languish, and the cool guy in real life.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:36:11 AM
Nah. I enjoy looking at her. And if she ends up being horny enough to make a move, I would be a fool to ignore it.
Why dont you just approach her to find out. :frusty:
It does bring me back to my college days. I would be in class and make eye-contact with a girl, walk up to her after class and chat a bit and then ask her to go out. She would say 'yes that sounds like fun' and I am thinking all 'score'.
Then later on she would call or we would talk and she would be like 'wait is this a date? I just want to be clear since I have a boyfriend going to school in Pittsburgh (so some shit like that).'
Um...no it isn't moron I always go up to random people in class and ask to hang out with them. :P
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
This is what you do:
Next time she makes eye contact, quickly stand up, and raise your left foot to crotch level. Say "look at my foot, look at my foot". She will look at your foot, and immediately realise that you have unzipped your fly and are holding your manhood out in the open.
This will disarm her completely - her natural bashful, defensive reactions will have never encountered a scenario like this. She will therefore be compelled to accept any request you make for a coffee or dinner date.
I've never tried this, so do post here on how it all goes.
Quote from: Tyr on March 26, 2009, 10:34:51 AM
You really have good moral standards eh?
Agree. I invented party hookups.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:38:08 AM
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:34:48 AM
In your original post you were concerned about "wierding her out". Your concerns were justified.
Nah. The trick is to be the weirdo and nerd on an internet forum called Languish, and the cool guy in real life.
Well at least you got the first part down pat.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:36:11 AM
Nah. I enjoy looking at her. And if she ends up being horny enough to make a move, I would be a fool to ignore it.
Chances of her making a move are extremely low. You have to do it.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:39:05 AM
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
Our experiences in University are quite different.
Quote from: Warspite on March 26, 2009, 10:39:06 AM
This is what you do:
Next time she makes eye contact, quickly stand up, and raise your left foot to crotch level. Say "look at my foot, look at my foot". She will look at your foot, and immediately realise that you have unzipped your fly and are holding your manhood out in the open.
This will disarm her completely - her natural bashful, defensive reactions will have never encountered a scenario like this. She will therefore be compelled to accept any request you make for a coffee or dinner date.
I've never tried this, so do post here on how it all goes.
Finally. Some useful advice. :D
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AMIf I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
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Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:41:10 AM
Our experiences in University are quite different.
My University sucked tremendous ass socially. My God what a weird atmosphere that was.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:39:05 AMThen later on she would call or we would talk and she would be like 'wait is this a date? I just want to be clear since I have a boyfriend going to school in Pittsburgh (so some shit like that).'
Um...no it isn't moron I always go up to random people in class and ask to hang out with them. :P
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
Yes, that was (is?) really annoying. But it seems a lot of girls seem to assume a different paradigm of male/female interaction than men do. In 95% of cases, men do not ask a girl out to dinner for a pleasant evening of platonic interaction. Yet fully half of girls will assume this is the case.
The other half, ironically enough, will get all stressed with their girlfriends at home, "Oh God oh God, I really hope he meant it as a date! Do you think he meant it as a date? Please tell me he wants a date!".
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:39:05 AM
It does bring me back to my college days. I would be in class and make eye-contact with a girl, walk up to her after class and chat a bit and then ask her to go out. She would say 'yes that sounds like fun' and I am thinking all 'score'.
Then later on she would call or we would talk and she would be like 'wait is this a date? I just want to be clear since I have a boyfriend going to school in Pittsburgh (so some shit like that).'
Um...no it isn't moron I always go up to random people in class and ask to hang out with them. :P
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
Woah, my experience was 180 degrees different. University was woman paradise, never since have there been so many chances to meet good looking unattached women just spoiling for a good time - and often having their own apartments or rooms for the first time.
My only regret is that I was too shy to take as much advantage of it as I should have.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:38:42 AM
Why dont you just approach her to find out. :frusty:
Risk and time management.
Pursuing sex takes more time and energy and than just accepting sex.
Why should I make the classroom environment awkward just for curiosity when I do not even have time to date the girl and already have others readily available?
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 10:44:46 AM
Woah, my experience was 180 degrees different. University was woman paradise, never since have there been so many chances to meet good looking unattached women just spoiling for a good time - and often having their own apartments or rooms for the first time.
My only regret is that I was too shy to take as much advantage of it as I should have.
I wasn't that shy at all...not that it did me much good. :P
I sure had lots of friends who were attractive women I tried to date though. <_<
Quote from: Warspite on March 26, 2009, 10:42:58 AM
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:39:05 AMThen later on she would call or we would talk and she would be like 'wait is this a date? I just want to be clear since I have a boyfriend going to school in Pittsburgh (so some shit like that).'
Um...no it isn't moron I always go up to random people in class and ask to hang out with them. :P
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
Yes, that was (is?) really annoying. But it seems a lot of girls seem to assume a different paradigm of male/female interaction than men do. In 95% of cases, men do not ask a girl out to dinner for a pleasant evening of platonic interaction. Yet fully half of girls will assume this is the case.
The other half, ironically enough, will get all stressed with their girlfriends at home, "Oh God oh God, I really hope he meant it as a date! Do you think he meant it as a date? Please tell me he wants a date!".
This thread reveals two things to me:
1) it will be a miracle if this generation of university students produce any offspring;
2) if things continue this way my two boys will have no competition and will have their pick of females on campus.
Why dont you guys actually communicate. What is so hard with saying "do you want to go out on a date"
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:46:36 AM
This thread reveals two things to me:
1) it will be a miracle if this generation of university students produce any offspring;
2) if things continue this way my two boys will have no competition and will have their pick of females on campus.
Why dont you guys actually communicate. What is so hard with saying "do you want to go out on a date"
Why are you so gay?
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:46:36 AM
This thread reveals two things to me:
1) it will be a miracle if this generation of university students produce any offspring;
2) if things continue this way my two boys will have no competition and will have their pick of females on campus.
Why dont you guys actually communicate. What is so hard with saying "do you want to go out on a date"
Oh please. I mean how fucking dense do people need to be? I like to think there is more subtlety to the dating ritual than having to knock her over the head and take her back to my cave.
No women after University ever had a problem knowing what I was asking. 'Hey would you like to get coffee sometime?' to a stranger is hardly fucking subtle.
Quote from: Warspite on March 26, 2009, 10:42:58 AM
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:39:05 AMThen later on she would call or we would talk and she would be like 'wait is this a date? I just want to be clear since I have a boyfriend going to school in Pittsburgh (so some shit like that).'
Um...no it isn't moron I always go up to random people in class and ask to hang out with them. :P
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
Yes, that was (is?) really annoying. But it seems a lot of girls seem to assume a different paradigm of male/female interaction than men do. In 95% of cases, men do not ask a girl out to dinner for a pleasant evening of platonic interaction. Yet fully half of girls will assume this is the case.
The other half, ironically enough, will get all stressed with their girlfriends at home, "Oh God oh God, I really hope he meant it as a date! Do you think he meant it as a date? Please tell me he wants a date!".
They generally don't assume it, they just like the attention but aren't actually attracted enough to you to put out, or already have other committments (but are perfectly happy to get some flirtatious ego-boosting on the side).
The solution is to ask out twice as many. :D
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 10:44:46 AM
Woah, my experience was 180 degrees different. University was woman paradise, never since have there been so many chances to meet good looking unattached women just spoiling for a good time - and often having their own apartments or rooms for the first time.
My only regret is that I was too shy to take as much advantage of it as I should have.
Yep,
About the too shy bit, I think we all have a bit of the "if I only knew then what I know now" I would have taken up even more opportunities.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:48:34 AM
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:46:36 AM
This thread reveals two things to me:
1) it will be a miracle if this generation of university students produce any offspring;
2) if things continue this way my two boys will have no competition and will have their pick of females on campus.
Why dont you guys actually communicate. What is so hard with saying "do you want to go out on a date"
Oh please. I mean how fucking dense do people need to be? I like to think there is more subtlety to the dating ritual than having to knock her over the head and take her back to my cave.
No women after University ever had a problem knowing what I was asking. 'Hey would you like to get coffee sometime?' to a stranger is hardly fucking subtle.
Asking someone out on a date is knocking the over the head....? A couple posts up you said that women often got confused about whether you were asking them out socially or for a date. :P
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 10:49:15 AM
They generally don't assume it, they just like the attention but aren't actually attracted enough to you to put out, or already have other committments (but are perfectly happy to get some flirtatious ego-boosting on the side).
The solution is to ask out twice as many. :D
Yeah well that is what I did. I had zillions of dates after I got done with College. Just it was a frustrating nightmare during college.
Again trust me this had alot to do with the bizarre social dynamics of my school than anything horribly wrong I was doing. I mean I was inexperienced and inept and all but it was getting really ridiculous.
Quote from: PDH on March 26, 2009, 10:48:15 AM
Why are you so gay?
Its the old nature vs nurture debate. Not sure yet.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:46:36 AM
Why dont you guys actually communicate. What is so hard with saying "do you want to go out on a date"
I don't have time for dates. I get one free weekend if I am lucky because I am either fulfilling my officer duties with my Army Reserve unit, going home to help my immigrant parents, or working on business developments. That is why I just want to look at the damn girl while still leaving room open for the chance that she will initiate something with minimal effort on my part.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:51:14 AM
Asking someone out on a date is knocking the over the head....? A couple posts up you said that women often got confused about whether you were asking them out socially or for a date. :P
Practically.
'Hello imbecile I am talking to you after we looked at each other in class because I am attracted to you. I would like to date you.'
Please.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:52:14 AM
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:46:36 AM
Why dont you guys actually communicate. What is so hard with saying "do you want to go out on a date"
I don't have time for dates. I get one free weekend if I am lucky because I am either fulfilling my officer duties with my Army Reserve unit or working on on business developments. That is why I just want to look at the damn girl while still leaving room open for the chance that she will initiate something with minimal effort on my part.
Well then just talk to her without asking her out. That way she will learn about your time restrictions and she will understand your circumstances. Then if time permits you can pursue her if you wish.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:52:32 AM
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:51:14 AM
Asking someone out on a date is knocking the over the head....? A couple posts up you said that women often got confused about whether you were asking them out socially or for a date. :P
Practically.
'Hello imbecile I am talking to you after we looked at each other in class because I am attracted to you. I would like to date you.'
Please.
I am beginning to understand you lack of success back in the day. You need to work on your approach.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:52:14 AM
That is why I just want to look at the damn girl while still leaving room open for the chance that she will initiate something with minimal effort on my part.
Then do what Monkeybutt said.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:39:05 AM
It does bring me back to my college days. I would be in class and make eye-contact with a girl, walk up to her after class and chat a bit and then ask her to go out. She would say 'yes that sounds like fun' and I am thinking all 'score'.
Then later on she would call or we would talk and she would be like 'wait is this a date? I just want to be clear since I have a boyfriend going to school in Pittsburgh (so some shit like that).'
Um...no it isn't moron I always go up to random people in class and ask to hang out with them. :P
College girls were just not mature enough to ever say no. What a shitty time to date that was.
Those with partners should be made to wear special badges <_<
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:55:16 AM
I am beginning to understand you lack of success back in the day. You need to work on your approach.
Well too late now. ;)
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:46:26 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 10:44:46 AM
Woah, my experience was 180 degrees different. University was woman paradise, never since have there been so many chances to meet good looking unattached women just spoiling for a good time - and often having their own apartments or rooms for the first time.
My only regret is that I was too shy to take as much advantage of it as I should have.
I wasn't that shy at all...not that it did me much good. :P
I sure had lots of friends who were attractive women I tried to date though. <_<
The problem then was that you were too polite.
When I did get around to overcomming shyness and asking out a girl, and it became apparent she wanted a gossip buddy or just to flirt with a "friend", I'd generally make a choice: was I actually interested in this person enough as "a friend" or not? In most cases the answer was "not", and I'd basically drop them.
I think the hardest thing for a young guy to accept without taking a hit to the ego is that
some women just aren't sexually attracted to you, and if they aren't there is nothing to be done about it. Those are the attractive women who will "like you as a friend".
The solution is to realize there isn't any shame in this and that there are plenty o' fish.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:23:07 AM
Anybody can stick a dick in a pussy. It don't mean you're good at it.
No, no I can't.
I would suggest a form letter:
Dear (Man/Woman/Other),
I noticed you were (looking at me/staring in horrid fascination at me/not throwing up when looking at me), and I was (curious/flatulant/bi-curious) as to what that meant. Could it be that we (can hit it off with some wild sex/not proceed directly to the restraining order like my last date/can set up a nice healthy stalking relationship)?
Please remember, I am (not gay/totally gay/gay because it is cool) and I think this could (be great/never work out as you are actually breathing and thinking/be a feature on America's Most Wanted).
Love
(That weird person in class/that weird person in class/that weird person in class)
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 10:57:28 AM
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:23:07 AM
Anybody can stick a dick in a pussy. It don't mean you're good at it.
No, no I can't.
Their is a difference between can't and won't
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 10:56:43 AM
The problem then was that you were too polite.
When I did get around to overcomming shyness and asking out a girl, and it became apparent she wanted a gossip buddy or just to flirt with a "friend", I'd generally make a choice: was I actually interested in this person enough as "a friend" or not? In most cases the answer was "not", and I'd basically drop them.
I think the hardest thing for a young guy to accept without taking a hit to the ego is that some women just aren't sexually attracted to you, and if they aren't there is nothing to be done about it. Those are the attractive women who will "like you as a friend".
The solution is to realize there isn't any shame in this and that there are plenty o' fish.
Dude...I am 31 now and about to be married and have been in several relationships and dated many many women. I knew I needed some work on my game but I had never even been in a relationship or on a date before back then and was just trying to feel my way and find out what to do. They made it really freaking hard, totally merciless at wasting my time. I was just as inept at 22 out of college but I got lots of dates and eventually figured out what worked and what didn't. College just sucked ass.
Quote from: PDH on March 26, 2009, 10:59:01 AM
I would suggest a form letter:
Dear (Man/Woman/Other),
I noticed you were (looking at me/staring in horrid fascination at me/not throwing up when looking at me), and I was (curious/flatulant/bi-curious) as to what that meant. Could it be that we (can hit it off with some wild sex/not proceed directly to the restraining order like my last date/can set up a nice healthy stalking relationship)?
Please remember, I am (not gay/totally gay/gay because it is cool) and I think this could (be great/never work out as you are actually breathing and thinking/be a feature on America's Most Wanted).
Love
(That weird person in class/that weird person in class/that weird person in class)
I wish we had post of the month up and running
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 10:59:15 AM
Their is a difference between can't and won't
No it is really a can't. Sucks back into the body and whatnot.
Quote from: PDH on March 26, 2009, 10:59:01 AM
I would suggest a form letter:
Dear (Man/Woman/Other),
I noticed you were (looking at me/staring in horrid fascination at me/not throwing up when looking at me), and I was (curious/flatulant/bi-curious) as to what that meant. Could it be that we (can hit it off with some wild sex/not proceed directly to the restraining order like my last date/can set up a nice healthy stalking relationship)?
Please remember, I am (not gay/totally gay/gay because it is cool) and I think this could (be great/never work out as you are actually breathing and thinking/be a feature on America's Most Wanted).
Love
(That weird person in class/that weird person in class/that weird person in class)
Warspite and PDH win this thread.
Quote from: PDH on March 26, 2009, 10:59:01 AM
I would suggest a form letter:
Dear (Man/Woman/Other),
I noticed you were (looking at me/staring in horrid fascination at me/not throwing up when looking at me), and I was (curious/flatulant/bi-curious) as to what that meant. Could it be that we (can hit it off with some wild sex/not proceed directly to the restraining order like my last date/can set up a nice healthy stalking relationship)?
Please remember, I am (not gay/totally gay/gay because it is cool) and I think this could (be great/never work out as you are actually breathing and thinking/be a feature on America's Most Wanted).
Love
(That weird person in class/that weird person in class/that weird person in class)
:lmfao:
You are on a roll today, fine sir.
Do you write comments like this on your student's papers when you grade them?
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 11:01:47 AM
:lmfao:
You are on a roll today, fine sir.
Do you write comments like this on your student's papers when you grade them?
I do write little "thank you" notes when they tell me with an great big arrow that they ideed have written more, that they didn't stop their test in mid-essay, and that I should turn the page.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:59:40 AM
Dude...I am 31 now and about to be married and have been in several relationships and dated many many women. I knew I needed some work on my game but I had never even been in a relationship or on a date before back then and was just trying to feel my way and find out what to do. They made it really freaking hard, totally merciless at wasting my time. I was just as inept at 22 out of college but I got lots of dates and eventually figured out what worked and what didn't. College just sucked ass.
I'm glad I didn't go to your college. :D
U of T in the early '90s was a paradise ... if you couldn't get laid, you needed to call 911 to check if you still had a pulse. :lol:
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 10:59:40 AM
Dude...I am 31 now and about to be married and have been in several relationships and dated many many women. I knew I needed some work on my game but I had never even been in a relationship or on a date before back then and was just trying to feel my way and find out what to do. They made it really freaking hard, totally merciless at wasting my time. I was just as inept at 22 out of college but I got lots of dates and eventually figured out what worked and what didn't. College just sucked ass.
I have a college friend who likes hanging out with guys but she doesn't want to go on dates/have a relationship right now. She always hopes that guys asking her for coffee just want to be friends. :(
This reminds me of this:
QuoteSo I Came Over Here To ask You To Dance...
...but I'm kind of concerned. I mean, we could hit it off really well, end up having a few drinks, next thing you know you're giving me your number because I'm too shy to ask for it, I finally get up the nerve to call and we take in a movie, have some dinner, I relax, you relax, we go out a few more times, get to know each other's friends, spend a lot of time together, then finally get past this sexual tension and really develop this intense sex life that is truly incredible, decide our relationship is solid and stable, so we move in together for a while, then a few months later get married, I get a promotion, you get a promotion, we buy a bigger house. You really want kids, but I really want freedom, but we have a kid anyway, only to find that I am resentful, the sparks start to fade and to rekindle them we have two more lovely kids, but now I work too much to keep up with the bills, have no time for you, you're stressed and stop taking really good care of yourself, so to get past our slow sex life and my declining self-confidence I turn to an outside affair for sexual gratification. You find out because I'm careless and a lousy liar, you throw me out (justifiably so) and we have to explain to the kids why mommy and daddy are splitting up. That's just too sad. Think about the children. For God's sake, if you dance with me and we hit it off, let's just keep it sexual, because we both know where it's going.
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:06:34 AM
This reminds me of this:
QuoteSo I Came Over Here To ask You To Dance...
...but I'm kind of concerned. I mean, we could hit it off really well, end up having a few drinks, next thing you know you're giving me your number because I'm too shy to ask for it, I finally get up the nerve to call and we take in a movie, have some dinner, I relax, you relax, we go out a few more times, get to know each other's friends, spend a lot of time together, then finally get past this sexual tension and really develop this intense sex life that is truly incredible, decide our relationship is solid and stable, so we move in together for a while, then a few months later get married, I get a promotion, you get a promotion, we buy a bigger house. You really want kids, but I really want freedom, but we have a kid anyway, only to find that I am resentful, the sparks start to fade and to rekindle them we have two more lovely kids, but now I work too much to keep up with the bills, have no time for you, you're stressed and stop taking really good care of yourself, so to get past our slow sex life and my declining self-confidence I turn to an outside affair for sexual gratification. You find out because I'm careless and a lousy liar, you throw me out (justifiably so) and we have to explain to the kids why mommy and daddy are splitting up. That's just too sad. Think about the children. For God's sake, if you dance with me and we hit it off, let's just keep it sexual, because we both know where it's going.
Is this really a problem for gays? :D
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:07:56 AM
Is this really a problem for gays? :D
Given how we are beginning to become heteros with the pottery barn collection...:weep:
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:04:31 AM
I'm glad I didn't go to your college. :D
U of T in the early '90s was a paradise ... if you couldn't get laid, you needed to call 911 to check if you still had a pulse. :lol:
I think that is a primary difference between going to a big public school like you did and a tiny private school like I did. If I had gone to the University of Texas I would have had no problem I am sure.
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:10:03 AM
Given how we are beginning to become heteros with the pottery barn collection...:weep:
Brother! :hug:
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 11:12:34 AM
Brother! :hug:
Actually, I lied. I'm more Crate & Barrel. :blush:
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 11:12:34 AM
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:10:03 AM
Given how we are beginning to become heteros with the pottery barn collection...:weep:
Brother! :hug:
Neither of you have truly tasted the depths until you have beed dragged to look at vastly expensive kid's bedroom furniture at Potter Barn for Kids. :P
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:20:49 AM
Neither of you have truly tasted the depths until you have beed dragged to look at vastly expensive kid's bedroom furniture at Potter Barn for Kids. :P
I encountered children once in a children's furniture section at a regular Pottery Barn. Does that count?
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:20:49 AM
Neither of you have truly tasted the depths until you have beed dragged to look at vastly expensive kid's bedroom furniture at Potter Barn for Kids. :P
God.
The very idea of buying really expensive children's stuff makes me feel a bit ill. Kids should be happy with crappy hand me down shit. I mean they do not care about that stuff, talk about buying pearls for swine.
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:22:20 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:20:49 AM
Neither of you have truly tasted the depths until you have beed dragged to look at vastly expensive kid's bedroom furniture at Potter Barn for Kids. :P
I encountered children once in a children's furniture section at a regular Pottery Barn. Does that count?
No, you have to be publicly arguing with your partner about whether the little blue airplanes and trucks on the crib sheet set are too masculine for your newborn. :D
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:04:59 AM
I have a college friend who likes hanging out with guys but she doesn't want to go on dates/have a relationship right now. She always hopes that guys asking her for coffee just want to be friends. :(
She should probably just get cats.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 11:25:12 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:20:49 AM
Neither of you have truly tasted the depths until you have beed dragged to look at vastly expensive kid's bedroom furniture at Potter Barn for Kids. :P
God.
The very idea of buying really expensive children's stuff makes me feel a bit ill. Kids should be happy with crappy hand me down shit. I mean they do not care about that stuff, talk about buying pearls for swine.
Well, kids don't but your wife will.
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 11:25:12 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:20:49 AM
Neither of you have truly tasted the depths until you have beed dragged to look at vastly expensive kid's bedroom furniture at Potter Barn for Kids. :P
God.
The very idea of buying really expensive children's stuff makes me feel a bit ill. Kids should be happy with crappy hand me down shit. I mean they do not care about that stuff, talk about buying pearls for swine.
Kids don't care, or at least most little boys don't care. My niece is more particular about that sort of thing.
Few parents are capable of actually not caring though. :lol: The internal pressure to get "the best" for your kid is unrelenting, however illogical.
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:25:26 AM
No, you have to be publicly arguing with your partner about whether the little blue airplanes and trucks on the crib sheet set are too masculine for your newborn. :D
:x
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:30:43 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:25:26 AM
No, you have to be publicly arguing with your partner about whether the little blue airplanes and trucks on the crib sheet set are too masculine for your newborn. :D
:x
At last, stare into the abyss created by the search for legitimacy. :D
Anyway, how gay is that? We've moved from leering at girls to chatting about furniture. :D
Quote from: Malthus on March 26, 2009, 11:32:18 AM
At last, stare into the abyss created by the search for legitimacy. :D
I'll always be illegitimate. I am unworthy. :(
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:32:36 AM
Anyway, how gay is that? We've moved from leering at girls to chatting about furniture. :D
More like the ways in which the one inevitably leads to the other. ;)
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:32:36 AM
Anyway, how gay is that? We've moved from leering at girls to chatting about furniture. :D
You are a thread turner.
I'm not sure I understand this thread. The OP is willing to fuck drunk girls at parties but is concerned as to how weird he comes off looking at a girl in class. Is that pretty much the gist of it?
Quote from: fahdiz on March 26, 2009, 11:56:25 AM
I'm not sure I understand this thread. The OP is willing to fuck drunk girls at parties but is concerned as to how weird he comes off looking at a girl in class. Is that pretty much the gist of it?
You just saved yourself 7 pages. That and in the end we are all gay furniture consumers.
Quote from: crazy canuck on March 26, 2009, 11:58:02 AM
You just saved yourself 7 pages. That and in the end we are all gay furniture consumers.
I see.
I also helped in this thread!
Quote from: PDH on March 26, 2009, 10:59:01 AM
I would suggest a form letter:
Dear (Man/Woman/Other),
I noticed you were (looking at me/staring in horrid fascination at me/not throwing up when looking at me), and I was (curious/flatulant/bi-curious) as to what that meant. Could it be that we (can hit it off with some wild sex/not proceed directly to the restraining order like my last date/can set up a nice healthy stalking relationship)?
Please remember, I am (not gay/totally gay/gay because it is cool) and I think this could (be great/never work out as you are actually breathing and thinking/be a feature on America's Most Wanted).
Love
(That weird person in class/that weird person in class/that weird person in class)
Yes, we can't overlook this gem.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 26, 2009, 10:15:58 AMHow bout you read the original post and see that I am asking for looking advice, not talking advice. I am not interested in her yapping my ear off about how the professor is boring, homework is so hard, rabble rabble. If she wants to ask me out, I can deal with that, but I ain't wasting my time on some random girl in class. If I want to pursue some ass, I go to a party and pick up some drunk girl for an easy time.
:blink: This post totally doesn't reconcile with the OP. Someone that picks up drunk girls at parties shouldn't need "eye flirting" advice or whatever it is you're asking for. :huh:
Quote from: katmai on March 26, 2009, 09:49:33 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 26, 2009, 08:32:05 AM
Quote from: katmai on March 26, 2009, 12:12:36 AM
dammit where is Ed Angerbutt when i need him!
1 am? You are kidding, right?
I knew where you were, but i wanted your rating system. ;)
I'd tag all four of them. At the same time even. While I service one, another can sit on her face while the other two work each other over.
happy now?
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 26, 2009, 12:14:43 PM
Quote from: katmai on March 26, 2009, 09:49:33 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 26, 2009, 08:32:05 AM
Quote from: katmai on March 26, 2009, 12:12:36 AM
dammit where is Ed Angerbutt when i need him!
1 am? You are kidding, right?
I knew where you were, but i wanted your rating system. ;)
I'd tag all four of them. At the same time even. While I service one, another can sit on her face while the other two work each other over.
happy now?
I agree with this statement. #5 please make contact between the girls & Dr. Butt possible.
Someone needs to hire a film crew. Katmai!
Ask her if she likes it rough.
Quote from: Grey Fox on March 26, 2009, 12:15:58 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 26, 2009, 12:14:43 PM
I'd tag all four of them. At the same time even. While I service one, another can sit on her face while the other two work each other over.
happy now?
I agree with this statement. #5 please make contact between the girls & Dr. Butt possible.
Someone needs to hire a film crew. Katmai!
No scribes allowed.
1 to 3 are definites but 4, no way, not even when drunk. She has fat arms and no chest. :scots:
Internet standards :lol:
But would you make eye contact with any of them?
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 01:31:27 PM
But would you make eye contact with any of them?
Briefly. I wouldn't want to creep them out or anything.
Quote from: Warspite on March 26, 2009, 01:26:41 PM
1 to 3 are definites but 4, no way, not even when drunk. She has fat arms and no chest. :scots:
You got to be kidding me.
I mean she might by a goddess statue but she is pretty cute.
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 02:18:07 PM
Briefly. I wouldn't want to creep them out or anything.
:lol:
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 02:18:07 PM
Quote from: Brazen on March 26, 2009, 01:31:27 PM
But would you make eye contact with any of them?
Briefly. I wouldn't want to creep them out or anything.
Bravo!
:lol:
Quote from: Warspite on March 26, 2009, 01:26:41 PM
1 to 3 are definites but 4, no way, not even when drunk. She has fat arms and no chest. :scots:
Yeah, but 3 looks like that too. 1 & 2 would the preferable choice for a threesome.
I would do them all no questions ask.
I would too. But 1 and 2 are the best looking imo.
Quote from: fahdiz on March 26, 2009, 11:56:25 AM
I'm not sure I understand this thread. The OP is willing to fuck drunk girls at parties but is concerned as to how weird he comes off looking at a girl in class. Is that pretty much the gist of it?
It's an optimization problem I think. Our protagonist wants to maximize the chances of the female in question making the first move without falling into the time-consuming dating trap.
I'd say greetings and introductions.
Quote from: garbon on March 26, 2009, 11:32:36 AM
Anyway, how gay is that? We've moved from leering at girls to chatting about furniture. :D
Thank Christ, because the last thing I need after a day at work is to read 9 pages of Emo Eye Fail.
I gave you all the advice you need, Phillip. LISTEN TO THOSE WHO KNOW
Youth is wasted on the young.
Interesting.
That is all. :D
Quote from: The Minsky Moment on March 26, 2009, 05:34:40 PM
Youth is wasted on the young.
Boy, isn't that the fucking truth?
Quote from: The Minsky Moment on March 26, 2009, 05:34:40 PM
Youth is wasted on the young.
[Fireblade]Drugs are wasted on the elderly.[/Fireblade]
Quote from: Valmy on March 26, 2009, 02:18:33 PM
Quote from: Warspite on March 26, 2009, 01:26:41 PM
1 to 3 are definites but 4, no way, not even when drunk. She has fat arms and no chest. :scots:
You got to be kidding me.
I mean she might by a goddess statue but she is pretty cute.
No way. She's butters.
Quote from: fahdiz on March 26, 2009, 06:00:37 PM
Boy, isn't that the fucking truth?
I know I wasted mine.
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 09:19:39 AM
Because she's ugly?
Young, nice skin, pretty eyes, nice hair...works for me.
Of course I bet you look like a fitness model.
:yes: She is in no way a "butter face". I agree she's the least hot one there, but that's not saying a whole lot.
It's her shirt & position. If she was facing the camera, the conversation would be different.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 26, 2009, 03:39:35 PM
It's an optimization problem I think. Our protagonist wants to maximize the chances of the female in question making the first move without falling into the time-consuming dating trap.
Success! For example, girl in another of my classes did the initiating a few weeks ago. We caught each others' eyes, and she added me on Facebook. With that go-ahead, I started engaging her without fear that she might think I was coming on to her. She sent me a message tonight asking for me to come over and help with her work. I said it was too late, but I would drop by tomorrow since it was "on my way". I believe that we are mutually looking for friendship (Facebook says she is in a relationship ;) ), but now I secured a female companion who happens to be Latina. I have been meaning to connect with the small, but vibrant Hispanic community at my university, so this was the ideal eye-ing situation. Very minimal effort and risk on my part.
(https://languish.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fphotos-a.ak.fbcdn.net%2Fphotos-ak-snc1%2Fv369%2F103%2F69%2F9508298%2Fn9508298_32322928_5323.jpg&hash=986d5184d08a9dd146aec2c731ced3585a14bd26)
:thumbsup: :perv:
I'd dunk her head in the toilet.
:mmm:
:bleeding: <- at the text, not the photo. :P
Quote from: garbon on March 27, 2009, 10:19:41 AM
:bleeding: <- at the text, not the photo. :P
Text? :unsure:
Quote from: Valmy on March 27, 2009, 10:24:11 AM
Text? :unsure:
Yes all of the text of P's post. "we are mutually looking for friendship" :x
Quote from: Valmy on March 27, 2009, 09:20:32 AM
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 09:19:39 AM
Because she's ugly?
Young, nice skin, pretty eyes, nice hair...works for me.
Of course I bet you look like a fitness model.
Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car.
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 10:58:02 AM
Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car.
Totally irrelevant analogy. :(
Quote from: garbon on March 27, 2009, 10:58:57 AM
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 10:58:02 AM
Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car.
Totally irrelevant analogy. :(
It's perfectly relevant.
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 10:58:02 AM
Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car.
But does that mean you regard everything short of a Ferrari as a shitty car? Because if you cannot afford one that seems like condemning yourself to be miserable your whole life.
Quote from: Valmy on March 27, 2009, 11:20:50 AM
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 10:58:02 AM
Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car.
But does that mean you regard everything short of a Ferrari as a shitty car? Because if you cannot afford one that seems like condemning yourself to be miserable your whole life.
Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life.
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:23:02 AM
Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life.
So if the best you can do is a fugly girl you have to call that girl attractive? That makes no sense.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 27, 2009, 11:28:46 AM
So if the best you can do is a fugly girl you have to call that girl attractive? That makes no sense.
You might as well, but that is not exactly what we are getting at.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 27, 2009, 11:28:46 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:23:02 AM
Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life.
So if the best you can do is a fugly girl you have to call that girl attractive? That makes no sense.
Try "acceptable" rather than "attractive". The alternative is to be celibate, which is unnatural and IMO very unhealthy phsychologically.
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:23:02 AM
Quote from: Valmy on March 27, 2009, 11:20:50 AM
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 10:58:02 AM
Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car.
But does that mean you regard everything short of a Ferrari as a shitty car? Because if you cannot afford one that seems like condemning yourself to be miserable your whole life.
Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life.
Well damn, then I must just not realise my luck in doing better than #4. :P
And as for the Ferrari quote, well you are the one who said fitness model :P My point applies equally with an Audi A4 instead :p
I'm with Yi, fugliness is not a function of whether you have banged someone or not.
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 11:37:24 AM
I'm with Yi, fugliness is not a function of whether you have banged someone or not.
Well let's just say I find the cute blonde far from fugly and we obiviously differ on that opinion.
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 11:34:59 AM
And as for the Ferrari quote, well you are the one who said fitness model :P
That was me -_-
All four of the girls look ok or better to me; once that criterion is met it then becomes a matter of their personality, mental stability, understanding that a bloke likes to go to the pub to bullshit about history with his mates.....and so on :huh:
I respect Arky's opinion of her looks.
I for one, think Monica Bellucci looks like a greasy wop, but others like her. And that is cool.
Quote from: Richard Hakluyt on March 27, 2009, 11:42:15 AMunderstanding that a bloke likes to go to the pub to bullshit about history with his mates
The weird thing is that I have known far more girls that think that sort of thing is cute/endearing than would refuse to date you for it, including plenty of HOTT ones. I think most chicks are drawn to men they perceive to be "smart" or erudite or whatever.
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 27, 2009, 11:43:07 AM
I respect Arky's opinion of her looks.
I for one, think Monica Bellucci looks like a greasy wop, but others like her. And that is cool.
I think a number of us are in agreement that she's the least attractive one, but I think it's a stretch to call her "fugly".
re: Monica Bellucci comment - die in a fire.
Quote from: Caliga on March 27, 2009, 11:45:30 AM
re: Monica Bellucci comment - die in a fire.
I'd haunt your kid's dreams then.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 27, 2009, 11:28:46 AM
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:23:02 AM
Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life.
So if the best you can do is a fugly girl you have to call that girl attractive? That makes no sense.
Not exactly. It is a matter of defining what you are basing "fugly" and "attractive" on.
If your range is based on a solid diet of supermodels and famous actresses, the "fugliest" one of which is likely to be better-looking than anyone you actually know in real life, this skews the perception in a way not conducive to future contentment.
Quote from: Phillip V on March 27, 2009, 10:00:28 AM
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Mmmm butter.
I can find something beautiful in anyone. :)
Except Raz. :Embarrass:
Quote from: Warspite on March 27, 2009, 11:37:24 AM
I'm with Yi, fugliness is not a function of whether you have banged someone or not.
I'm not suggesting it is.
Quote from: Caliga on March 27, 2009, 11:54:34 AM
I can find something beautiful in anyone. :)
I hope you don't use knives in your search. :D
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:57:32 AM
Quote from: Caliga on March 27, 2009, 11:54:34 AM
I can find something beautiful in anyone. :)
I hope you don't use knives in your search. :D
No, but maybe I should. Ohhhhhhhhh Raz.... :menace:
It's the single chaps that are knocking the girls' looks :lol:
I think we staid married folk are more worried about non-surface features, like......does she make good pies?......will she get annoyed by the amount of time I spend playing computer games? and so on
Quote from: Richard Hakluyt on March 27, 2009, 12:00:32 PM
It's the single chaps that are knocking the girls' looks :lol:
I think we staid married folk are more worried about non-surface features, like......does she make good pies?......will she get annoyed by the amount of time I spend playing computer games? and so on
It's always that way. :lol:
My brother has insanely high standards as well... and is unsurprisingly perpetually single.
The challenge of striving for perfection vs. settling.
Quote from: Richard Hakluyt on March 27, 2009, 12:00:32 PM
It's the single chaps that are knocking the girls' looks :lol:
I think we staid married folk are more worried about non-surface features, like......does she make good pies?......will she get annoyed by the amount of time I spend playing computer games? and so on
It's all true :blush:
Though I found myself making a checklist of personality traits and interests and caring less about just phyiscal appearance the more women I went out with.
Quote from: garbon on March 27, 2009, 12:04:24 PM
The challenge of striving for perfection vs. settling.
Or rather finding what will really make you happy versus chasing what turns out really doesn't matter that much.
Dude she likes you.
Quote from: BuddhaRhubarb on March 27, 2009, 12:07:33 PM
Dude she likes you.
First one is in a relationship...the Latina we know nothing about besides her hotness and the fact he has a self picture of her.
Quote from: Valmy on March 27, 2009, 12:06:31 PM
Or rather finding what will really make you happy versus chasing what turns out really doesn't matter that much.
Whatever makes it work for you. :)
Quote from: garbon on March 27, 2009, 12:23:55 PM
Whatever makes it work for you. :)
It does, thanks :)
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:53:21 AM
Not exactly. It is a matter of defining what you are basing "fugly" and "attractive" on.
If your range is based on a solid diet of supermodels and famous actresses, the "fugliest" one of which is likely to be better-looking than anyone you actually know in real life, this skews the perception in a way not conducive to future contentment.
When you say that skews the perception that means there is unskewed, unbiased perception, which gets us back to my previous statement that if the best you can do is fugly you have to call her something other than fugly (because that is "conducive to future contentment"). We're talking about two seperate tests. There's the settling that :mellow: mentioned and then there's sensory pleasure. When I talk about pretty/fugly I'm referring to the second.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 27, 2009, 12:33:16 PM
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 11:53:21 AM
Not exactly. It is a matter of defining what you are basing "fugly" and "attractive" on.
If your range is based on a solid diet of supermodels and famous actresses, the "fugliest" one of which is likely to be better-looking than anyone you actually know in real life, this skews the perception in a way not conducive to future contentment.
When you say that skews the perception that means there is unskewed, unbiased perception, which gets us back to my previous statement that if the best you can do is fugly you have to call her something other than fugly (because that is "conducive to future contentment"). We're talking about two seperate tests. There's the settling that :mellow: mentioned and then there's sensory pleasure. When I talk about pretty/fugly I'm referring to the second.
Well, sure, there is no totally objective standard for fugly - there is at best a range. Basing that range on some unobtainable ideal based on a bevy of movie stars strikes me as being self-defeating - if one cannot get "sensory pleasure" from someone who isn't a movie star or a supermodel, quite frankly I feel sorry for them - that's not a realistic measure.
Also, the notion that "the best you can do is fugly you have to call her something other than fugly " implies that there is some sort of objective standard of "fugliness" that you know but that others are simply in denial about - I can assure you this is not the case: I'm not
faking it when I state that lots of women I know are 'not fugly', I really believe it - looking at them gives me pleasure; I assume many others are the same ... if looking at such women
gives you no pleasure, if you are forced to "settle" with women you find "fugly", then I repeat: that sucks.
Quote from: garbon on March 27, 2009, 12:04:24 PM
The challenge of striving for perfection vs. settling.
Don't worry, there's a Pottery Barn waiting for you. ;)
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 01:24:18 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 27, 2009, 12:33:16 PM
Well, sure, there is no totally objective standard for fugly - there is at best a range. Basing that range on some unobtainable ideal based on a bevy of movie stars strikes me as being self-defeating - if one cannot get "sensory pleasure" from someone who isn't a movie star or a supermodel, quite frankly I feel sorry for them - that's not a realistic measure.
If some poster had stated that they only find unobtainable women attractive I would agree that disfunctional. But since no one has this is a total strawman.
QuoteAlso, the notion that "the best you can do is fugly you have to call her something other than fugly " implies that there is some sort of objective standard of "fugliness" that you know but that others are simply in denial about - I can assure you this is not the case: I'm not faking it when I state that lots of women I know are 'not fugly', I really believe it - looking at them gives me pleasure; I assume many others are the same ... if looking at such women gives you no pleasure, if you are forced to "settle" with women you find "fugly", then I repeat: that sucks.
Then we agree that Ustashe Boy is allowed to call anyone he wants fugly, with no regard whatsoever to obtainability.:cheers:
Your coding confuses and frightens me. :cry:
The point is not whether some poster states that they "find only unobtainable women attractive", but that having obvious 'internet standards' usually pretty strongly implies it - well, either that, or that the poster in question is Hott Shit himself and can regularly date supermodels. Which I suppose is always possible.
QuoteThen we agree that Ustashe Boy is allowed to call anyone he wants fugly, with no regard whatsoever to obtainability
Hello? What is this bullshit? I am not allowed to disagree with him? Fuck that shit. I will say whatever I want about whatever opinion is posted on this board I want thanks.
Beyond that I certainly do not recall anybody saying anybody was not allowed to think somebody is fugly. Simply their choice of who was or was not fugly was pretty absurd.
Oh shit Valmy is bringing the 'tude. Sexy.
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 01:44:04 PM
Your coding confuses and frightens me. :cry:
It wasn't on purpose. And I don't know how to turn it off. :weep:
QuoteThe point is not whether some poster states that they "find only unobtainable women attractive", but that having obvious 'internet standards' usually pretty strongly implies it - well, either that, or that the poster in question is Hott Shit himself and can regularly date supermodels. Which I suppose is always possible.
And I think you or anyone else who accuses him of internet standards based on the OPic is bonkers.
Quote from: Valmy on March 27, 2009, 01:44:27 PM
Hello? What is this bullshit? I am not allowed to disagree with him? Fuck that shit. I will say whatever I want about whatever opinion is posted on this board I want thanks.
Beyond that I certainly do not recall anybody saying anybody was not allowed to think somebody is fugly. Simply their choice of who was or was not fugly was pretty absurd.
Of course you're allowed to disagree with him. I was merely pointing out the logical flaw in your critique of his statement of *subjective* taste.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 27, 2009, 01:52:40 PM
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 01:44:04 PM
Your coding confuses and frightens me. :cry:
It wasn't on purpose. And I don't know how to turn it off. :weep:
QuoteThe point is not whether some poster states that they "find only unobtainable women attractive", but that having obvious 'internet standards' usually pretty strongly implies it - well, either that, or that the poster in question is Hott Shit himself and can regularly date supermodels. Which I suppose is always possible.
And I think you or anyone else who accuses him of internet standards based on the OPic is bonkers.
I haven't accused anyone in this thread of having such standards. :huh:
I was responding to this:
"Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car."
"But does that mean you regard everything short of a Ferrari as a shitty car? Because if you cannot afford one that seems like condemning yourself to be miserable your whole life."
"Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life. "
Last quote is mine ...
Quote from: Malthus on March 27, 2009, 01:56:51 PM
I haven't accused anyone in this thread of having such standards. :huh:
I was responding to this:
"Totally irrelevant point, just because one cannot afford a Ferrari does not make a Lada a good car."
"But does that mean you regard everything short of a Ferrari as a shitty car? Because if you cannot afford one that seems like condemning yourself to be miserable your whole life."
"Yup, that's "internet standards" in a nutshell.
Better to base your standards on what is actually available in real life. "
Last quote is mine ...
"Yup, that's 'internet standards' in a nutshell" is not accusing anyone of having internet standards?
Only read the first post, why can't people be social, even since high school I talk and say hi to anyone and everyone, cute girl or ugly girl, she looks at me, I look back and say hi. Easy really, no matter who it is.
Girl 4 has a prettier face than Girls 1 & 3. She may have the least attractive body of the group but it's hard to tell. Certainly not "fugly."
Quote from: Phillip V on March 27, 2009, 10:00:28 AMSuccess! For example, girl in another of my classes did the initiating a few weeks ago. We caught each others' eyes, and she added me on Facebook. With that go-ahead, I started engaging her without fear that she might think I was coming on to her. She sent me a message tonight asking for me to come over and help with her work. I said it was too late, but I would drop by tomorrow since it was "on my way". I believe that we are mutually looking for friendship (Facebook says she is in a relationship ;) ), but now I secured a female companion who happens to be Latina. I have been meaning to connect with the small, but vibrant Hispanic community at my university, so this was the ideal eye-ing situation. Very minimal effort and risk on my part.
Ask her why she's taking photos of herself in a hotel bathroom.
Congratulations, you've scored : a professional cam girl. She'll wait for the 2nd date before she asks for your 3-digit security code on the back of your credit card. Revolving monthly subscriptions FTW!
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 27, 2009, 06:06:52 PM
Ask her why she's taking photos of herself in a hotel bathroom.
Yeah, that seems like a pretty reasonable question :D
Quote from: fahdiz on March 27, 2009, 06:21:27 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 27, 2009, 06:06:52 PM
Ask her why she's taking photos of herself in a hotel bathroom.
Yeah, that seems like a pretty reasonable question :D
Well, whatever she was up to, I'm sure it involved the caveat "...but I'm doing it because I'm working my way through college."
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 27, 2009, 06:06:52 PMAsk her why she's taking photos of herself in a hotel bathroom.
Congratulations, you've scored : a professional cam girl. She'll wait for the 2nd date before she asks for your 3-digit security code on the back of your credit card. Revolving monthly subscriptions FTW!
:lmfao: I was assuming it was a dorm room, but now that you mention it, it looks like every Super 8/Holiday Inn/Best Western bathroom I've ever seen.
Quote from: Caliga on March 27, 2009, 06:28:43 PM
:lmfao: I was assuming it was a dorm room, but now that you mention it, it looks like every Super 8/Holiday Inn/Best Western bathroom I've ever seen.
Isn't the counter usually in a separate section from the toilet?
Quote from: The Nickname Who Was Thursday on March 27, 2009, 06:33:13 PM
Quote from: Caliga on March 27, 2009, 06:28:43 PM
:lmfao: I was assuming it was a dorm room, but now that you mention it, it looks like every Super 8/Holiday Inn/Best Western bathroom I've ever seen.
Isn't the counter usually in a separate section from the toilet?
Who are you, the fucking Holiday Inn fairy?
Well, douchbag, did you ask her what the story is with the hotel room?
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 27, 2009, 06:06:52 PM
Ask her why she's taking photos of herself in a hotel bathroom.
Congratulations, you've scored : a professional cam girl. She'll wait for the 2nd date before she asks for your 3-digit security code on the back of your credit card. Revolving monthly subscriptions FTW!
Amusingly ... specific. :D
Quote from: Malthus on March 30, 2009, 06:07:55 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 27, 2009, 06:06:52 PM
Ask her why she's taking photos of herself in a hotel bathroom.
Congratulations, you've scored : a professional cam girl. She'll wait for the 2nd date before she asks for your 3-digit security code on the back of your credit card. Revolving monthly subscriptions FTW!
Amusingly ... specific. :D
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