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Title: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 02:27:34 PM
Prompted by the black and blue pic.

There's one guy who shows up from time to time at my karaoke hang who is strongly believed to have lit up one girlfriend.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Grey Fox on March 06, 2015, 02:29:37 PM
I don't think so, can't recall anyone.

My grandmother used to beat her kids(my mother & siblings).
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 02:30:08 PM
And how.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Valmy on March 06, 2015, 02:36:11 PM
Not that I am aware of.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 02:41:53 PM
Personally or professionally?
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: garbon on March 06, 2015, 02:43:08 PM
Yes?
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 02:44:21 PM
Quote from: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 02:41:53 PM
Personally or professionally?

Sure.  First name basis.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 02:45:28 PM
Quote from: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 02:41:53 PM
Personally or professionally?

Professional Woman-Smacker?  Where do I sign up, nyuk
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: sbr on March 06, 2015, 02:53:44 PM
I am not aware of anyone I know more than passingly hitting or striking a woman.

Back when I was 20 or so one of my best friend's girlfriend broke up with him, allegedly because 'things got physical'.  I'm 99% sure he didn't strike her, but pushed/restrained/moved her from one spot in the room to the other against her will; not that any of those are not bad.  Knowing him it wouldn't be the biggest shock in the world, but she was a drama queen and when they got drunk together things always got a bit tense.  She didn't want to be with him anymore, but didn't make a huge deal out of it either so I just let it be and continued to be friends with both separately.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Martinus on March 06, 2015, 02:53:55 PM
Not that I know of.

Dawid knew that one gay couple where one guy regularly punched the other, though. 
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: HVC on March 06, 2015, 03:10:32 PM
One that I know of. I also have a male friend who was abused by his girlfriend.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: derspiess on March 06, 2015, 03:19:22 PM
Never, as far as I know.  Probably wouldn't associate with a guy who did.  Unless he was really, really repentant.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: celedhring on March 06, 2015, 03:31:00 PM
Yes, but it was more a case of me being a friend of the victim, and thus knowing the asshole by extension. We weren't aware of it until the girl finally left him.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: lustindarkness on March 06, 2015, 03:37:13 PM
Not that I know of.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on March 06, 2015, 03:52:02 PM
Nope. Never.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Syt on March 06, 2015, 03:52:24 PM
Not that I know of, though I have a friend who does martial arts with his girlfriend.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 04:04:59 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 02:44:21 PM
Quote from: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 02:41:53 PM
Personally or professionally?

Sure.  First name basis.

Well, a few dozen then, professionally.  And I've become friendly with a few clients who have domestic assault convictions in their past (though that's hardly conclusive that they'd really been "woman beaters" in the classic sense).

Personally...one shitty alcoholic my cousin married.  My fondest memory of him is when we hosted a family reunion at our house when I was a kid, and he discreetly (at least in his own mind) made a few trips of filling his pockets with beer from the cooler and moseying over to deposit them in his car for later. :D

Oh and the boyfriend of one of my little sister's friends.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: viper37 on March 06, 2015, 04:24:42 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 02:27:34 PM
Prompted by the black and blue pic.

There's one guy who shows up from time to time at my karaoke hang who is strongly believed to have lit up one girlfriend.
My adoptive uncle apparently pushed one his girlfriend in a door frame, after one of her many jealousy crisis.  And he apparently slapped his daughter too, wich sent him back in jail.  Well, I think he spent 15 years in&out of jail.  Before that, it was only for drunken disorder.

Never considered him a wife beater or woman abuser of any kind though.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:29:02 PM
Quote from: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 04:04:59 PM
Personally...one shitty alcoholic my cousin married.  My fondest memory of him is when we hosted a family reunion at our house when I was a kid, and he discreetly (at least in his own mind) made a few trips of filling his pockets with beer from the cooler and moseying over to deposit them in his car for later. :D

But at least he didn't smoke.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Valmy on March 06, 2015, 04:30:42 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:29:02 PM
But at least he didn't smoke.

He might have given her cancer instead of just hitting her!
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on March 06, 2015, 04:32:38 PM
Quote from: Valmy on March 06, 2015, 04:30:42 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:29:02 PM
But at least he didn't smoke.

He might have given her cancer instead of just hitting her!


The bastard! Did he give her a bunch of student loans too? What a dick.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 04:35:05 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:29:02 PM
Quote from: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 04:04:59 PM
Personally...one shitty alcoholic my cousin married.  My fondest memory of him is when we hosted a family reunion at our house when I was a kid, and he discreetly (at least in his own mind) made a few trips of filling his pockets with beer from the cooler and moseying over to deposit them in his car for later. :D

But at least he didn't smoke.

You know, I don't think he did. :D  Even though everyone else did, and holidays were held in a fog of cigarette, cigar, and pipe smoke that those little smoke-eaters strained to deal with.  Matching ashtrays with each place setting in the nice china, that's something you don't find much anymore.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Valmy on March 06, 2015, 04:36:20 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on March 06, 2015, 04:32:38 PM
The bastard! Did he give her a bunch of student loans too? What a dick.

Probably.  This smoking, drinking, loan sharking, beer stealing bastard is truly an appalling specimen of humanity.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:37:07 PM
Probably did something all liberal artsy, too.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Valmy on March 06, 2015, 04:37:53 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:37:07 PM
Probably did something all liberal artsy, too.

Comparative literature at a private school.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: garbon on March 06, 2015, 04:38:48 PM
Smoking is pretty low rent. Like yeah, I know I'm giving myself future cancer but fuck off!
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Capetan Mihali on March 06, 2015, 04:39:31 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on March 06, 2015, 04:32:38 PM
The bastard! Did he give her a bunch of student loans too? What a dick.

A few payday loans, but nothing serious.

EDIT:  Actually, the epilogue is that they had a son who has severe behavioral-developmental problems (not autism I don't think, more like ultra-ADHD), got divorced, and then I guess he's pulled it together since, and has played a decent role in his son's life thus far. :)
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:42:56 PM
Quote from: Valmy on March 06, 2015, 04:37:53 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 04:37:07 PM
Probably did something all liberal artsy, too.

Comparative literature at a private school.

Oh, fuck yeah.  That's the icing on the Woman Beater-Upper cake right there.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: The Brain on March 06, 2015, 05:02:38 PM
Not that I know of.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Barrister on March 06, 2015, 05:18:56 PM
No one has ever out-and-out admitted it, but it's been strongly implied my father-in-law was physically abusive with my mother-in-law.

A former boss of mine had heavy rumours that her husband would hit her.

I can say with some confidence that most likely everyone on this forum knows at least one person who is physically abusive with their partner.  It's such a wide-spread offence.  It's just never discussed.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 05:29:01 PM
Everybody poo-poohs the abuse, but nobody ever mentions the make-up sex.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: garbon on March 06, 2015, 05:30:58 PM
Quote from: Barrister on March 06, 2015, 05:18:56 PM
It's just never discussed.

Nah, it is pretty widely discussed in my father's side of the family.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 05:39:02 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 05:29:01 PM
Everybody poo-poohs the abuse, but nobody ever mentions the make-up sex.

So edgy.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Neil on March 06, 2015, 06:23:06 PM
No idea.  None of my business.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 06:25:34 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 05:39:02 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 05:29:01 PM
Everybody poo-poohs the abuse, but nobody ever mentions the make-up sex.

So edgy.

Just sayin'.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Monoriu on March 06, 2015, 06:48:51 PM
Not aware of any.  Not that I will ask. 
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Caliga on March 06, 2015, 07:00:24 PM
Nope. can't think of anyone I've known.  I've known of plenty due to my mother's work as a school counselor and her total disregard for students' privacy (at least around me and my brother).
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:31:53 PM
Quote from: Barrister on March 06, 2015, 05:18:56 PM
No one has ever out-and-out admitted it, but it's been strongly implied my father-in-law was physically abusive with my mother-in-law.

A former boss of mine had heavy rumours that her husband would hit her.

I can say with some confidence that most likely everyone on this forum knows at least one person who is physically abusive with their partner.  It's such a wide-spread offence.  It's just never discussed.

You all realize this, yet oppose surveillance.  Does that mean you're enablers of spousal abuse?  Yeah, it does.

Anyway, I've known women who had been in abusive relationships, and I represented a CDV defendant once.  I saw it happen once when I was about sixteen, and didn't know how to respond. :(

Oh, and I smack my girlfriend all the time, but that's consensual.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Caliga on March 06, 2015, 08:32:59 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:31:53 PM
Oh, and I smack my girlfriend all the time, but that's consensual.
Elaborate.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:33:43 PM
Quote from: MIMstudent loans

Quote from: CDMliberal artsy

It's edifying to have reframed the debate on education on Languish, pretty much singlehandedly. :)
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:35:53 PM
Quote from: Caliga on March 06, 2015, 08:32:59 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:31:53 PM
Oh, and I smack my girlfriend all the time, but that's consensual.
Elaborate.

Semi-light DS play.  It would be unseemly to really throw out a whole laundry list.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Razgovory on March 06, 2015, 08:39:49 PM
Sure.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 08:42:49 PM
Quote from: Caliga on March 06, 2015, 08:32:59 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:31:53 PM
Oh, and I smack my girlfriend all the time, but that's consensual.
Elaborate.

Considering his definition of "girlfriend", I'd be wary of his definition of "smack".
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:45:26 PM
Do I have an odd definition of "girlfriend"?  I usually have a discussion with whomever I'm having sex with and we decide that it's the case.  I was under the impression this was indeed the custom of the land. :lol:
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ed Anger on March 06, 2015, 08:48:23 PM
Yes. Was a piece of shit, still is a piece of shit. Even after he found Jesus. Jesus should have hid better.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Neil on March 06, 2015, 08:48:56 PM
Given that CdM's definition of 'girlfriend' is on the Austrian paradigm, I wouldn't take it to heart, Ide.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:06:21 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:45:26 PM
Do I have an odd definition of "girlfriend"?  I usually have a discussion with whomever I'm having sex with and we decide that it's the case.  I was under the impression this was indeed the custom of the land. :lol:

Falling in love within 7 to 10 business days is not really the custom of the land, unless you're a 7th grader.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Jacob on March 06, 2015, 09:31:29 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:06:21 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:45:26 PM
Do I have an odd definition of "girlfriend"?  I usually have a discussion with whomever I'm having sex with and we decide that it's the case.  I was under the impression this was indeed the custom of the land. :lol:

Falling in love within 7 to 10 business days is not really the custom of the land, unless you're a 7th grader.

We haven't heard any "in love" yet, have we? Just "girlfriend".
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 09:32:30 PM
Of course, not falling in love in something like 15 years puts CDM a lot further on the other side of that particular bell curve.

It's been two months.  Like I mention every little thing to you gossipy fucks.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:33:56 PM
Quote from: Jacob on March 06, 2015, 09:31:29 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:06:21 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 08:45:26 PM
Do I have an odd definition of "girlfriend"?  I usually have a discussion with whomever I'm having sex with and we decide that it's the case.  I was under the impression this was indeed the custom of the land. :lol:

Falling in love within 7 to 10 business days is not really the custom of the land, unless you're a 7th grader.

We haven't heard any "in love" yet, have we? Just "girlfriend".

No, "girlfriend" is after the mandatory 5 day waiting period.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:39:43 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on March 06, 2015, 09:32:30 PM
Of course, not falling in love in something like 15 years puts CDM a lot further on the other side of that particular bell curve.

Meh.  garbon seems to do OK without it.

QuoteIt's been two months.  Like I mention every little thing to you gossipy fucks.

And two months from now, I'll be here to coach you through the inevitable Lakehurst of Love.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Neil on March 06, 2015, 09:52:54 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:39:43 PM
Meh.  garbon seems to do OK without it.
People don't act as cruel as garbon does because they're doing A-OK.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:55:36 PM
Quote from: Neil on March 06, 2015, 09:52:54 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:39:43 PM
Meh.  garbon seems to do OK without it.
People don't act as cruel as garbon does because they're doing A-OK.

Really?  So what's your fucking excuse, Love-a-Lot Bear?
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Eddie Teach on March 06, 2015, 10:56:39 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:06:21 PM
Falling in love within 7 to 10 business days is not really the custom of the land, unless you're a 7th grader.

(https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/d6/65/d0/d665d068beaf2cf483330a6533cc216a.jpg)
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ed Anger on March 06, 2015, 10:59:14 PM
I get weepy when she gets blown up.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: sbr on March 06, 2015, 11:22:02 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 06, 2015, 08:48:23 PM
Yes. Was a piece of shit, still is a piece of shit. Even after he found Jesus. Jesus should have hid better.

Don't be so hard on yourself.  :hug:
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 11:35:30 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 06, 2015, 10:59:14 PM
I get weepy when she gets blown up.

Eddie Wiggins forgets there was a big old formal eggplant courtship.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Eddie Teach on March 06, 2015, 11:41:23 PM
Sure, but you were talking about love, not marriage.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 11:43:45 PM
Bah.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Neil on March 07, 2015, 12:23:34 AM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:55:36 PM
Quote from: Neil on March 06, 2015, 09:52:54 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:39:43 PM
Meh.  garbon seems to do OK without it.
People don't act as cruel as garbon does because they're doing A-OK.
Really?  So what's your fucking excuse, Love-a-Lot Bear?
I'm kind.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: The Brain on March 07, 2015, 03:54:54 AM
OK I guess I do know one. Wtf Ide? :wacko:
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: garbon on March 07, 2015, 04:16:11 AM
Quote from: Neil on March 06, 2015, 09:52:54 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:39:43 PM
Meh.  garbon seems to do OK without it.
People don't act as cruel as garbon does because they're doing A-OK.

Me? Cruel? :huh:
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Syt on March 07, 2015, 04:19:35 AM
Words hurt, man. Words hurt.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: The Brain on March 07, 2015, 04:23:36 AM
Quote from: Syt on March 07, 2015, 04:19:35 AM
Words hurt, man. Words hurt.

Everything hurts. Sometime. :rolleyes:
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: garbon on March 07, 2015, 04:23:49 AM
Sounds like you are thinking of Marti.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Sheilbh on March 07, 2015, 06:27:07 AM
I've known a couple of girls who were in that type of relationship. Though I didn't like the guys they were with I didn't know until after they'd split up.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Ed Anger on March 07, 2015, 10:11:00 AM
Quote from: sbr on March 06, 2015, 11:22:02 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on March 06, 2015, 08:48:23 PM
Yes. Was a piece of shit, still is a piece of shit. Even after he found Jesus. Jesus should have hid better.

Don't be so hard on yourself.  :hug:

Go fuck yourself, you worthless pile of dried dog shit.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Neil on March 07, 2015, 10:15:16 AM
Quote from: garbon on March 07, 2015, 04:16:11 AM
Quote from: Neil on March 06, 2015, 09:52:54 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on March 06, 2015, 09:39:43 PM
Meh.  garbon seems to do OK without it.
People don't act as cruel as garbon does because they're doing A-OK.

Me? Cruel? :huh:
Bitchiness is cruelty.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: garbon on March 07, 2015, 01:20:50 PM
Nah.
Title: Re: Have You Ever Known Someone Who Smacked Women?
Post by: Norgy on March 07, 2015, 01:39:53 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on March 06, 2015, 02:27:34 PM
Prompted by the black and blue pic.

There's one guy who shows up from time to time at my karaoke hang who is strongly believed to have lit up one girlfriend.

One of the neighbours where I spent my childhood beat his wife. Quite severely at times. Sunglasses couldn't cover up those bruises. He also beat his daughters.
And he threw a clog at us kids for playing soccer nearby. Charming man.
My stepdad has beaten my mum out of frustration when she's been suffering from hypoglycemia. I don't know what to add to that.