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Title: so my dad just had a heart attack
Post by: Razgovory on February 16, 2015, 05:06:49 PM
I am at the hospital now typing on kindle.  He is getting a heart cath.

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Post by: Darth Wagtaros on February 16, 2015, 05:08:10 PM
Best wishes for you and your Razraz.
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Post by: Admiral Yi on February 16, 2015, 05:08:44 PM
Gluck bro.
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Post by: Jacob on February 16, 2015, 05:09:06 PM
Hope it turns out the best it can :console:
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Post by: Eddie Teach on February 16, 2015, 05:10:05 PM
/fingers crossed
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Post by: crazy canuck on February 16, 2015, 05:10:10 PM
I hope he recovers quickly  :)
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Post by: celedhring on February 16, 2015, 05:20:44 PM
Best wishes Raz. I hope everything turns out well for your dad.
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Post by: jimmy olsen on February 16, 2015, 05:21:00 PM
Good luck and God bless! :hug:

I'll be praying for your family.
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Post by: mongers on February 16, 2015, 05:27:52 PM
Hang in there Raz, hospitals now routinely do heart operations that would have been regarded as amazing a decade ago; a friend of mine over the last year has had all sorts of heart emergencies and life saving operations and he's made a good recovery.

Best wishes, Raz.
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Post by: alfred russel on February 16, 2015, 06:20:33 PM
Good luck Raz.
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Post by: Maladict on February 16, 2015, 06:30:44 PM
Best wishes Raz.
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Post by: Valmy on February 16, 2015, 06:38:49 PM
Wow that is scary.  I am glad you are there for him Raz I hope he is ok.  Keep us updated pal.
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Post by: Caliga on February 16, 2015, 06:39:00 PM
Sorry Raz.  Best of luck to your dad, man.
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Post by: The Larch on February 16, 2015, 07:21:10 PM
Best of luck Raz.
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Post by: Monoriu on February 16, 2015, 07:27:43 PM
Good luck.
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Post by: grumbler on February 16, 2015, 08:15:19 PM
Best wishes.  A good friend of mine just suffered a heart attack and ended up with no permanent damage, so fingers crossed that's the case here as well.
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Post by: Ideologue on February 16, 2015, 08:19:41 PM
Good luck to your dad, Raz.
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Post by: MadBurgerMaker on February 16, 2015, 08:37:38 PM
Best wishes to you and your family, Raz
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Post by: Razgovory on February 16, 2015, 09:14:57 PM
It's not good.  There don't think they can do a bypass, he's just to clogged up.  They are going to treat it with medication, but that's not much.
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Post by: Ed Anger on February 16, 2015, 09:35:15 PM
 :(

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Post by: jimmy olsen on February 16, 2015, 09:37:21 PM
 :(
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Post by: Syt on February 17, 2015, 05:40:22 AM
I'm sorry, Raz. :(
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Post by: Martinus on February 17, 2015, 05:44:01 AM
I'm really sorry to hear that, Raz. :console:
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Post by: Maladict on February 17, 2015, 05:56:24 AM
 :(
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Post by: Tamas on February 17, 2015, 06:17:59 AM
 :(
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Post by: dps on February 17, 2015, 07:28:37 AM
:(
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Post by: Valmy on February 17, 2015, 07:58:34 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on February 16, 2015, 09:14:57 PM
It's not good.  There don't think they can do a bypass, he's just to clogged up.  They are going to treat it with medication, but that's not much.

:( Oh wow.
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Post by: lustindarkness on February 17, 2015, 08:45:31 AM
Hope he recovers.
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Post by: The Brain on February 17, 2015, 10:55:10 AM
 :(
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Post by: KRonn on February 17, 2015, 11:24:40 AM
Sorry to hear Raz. I hope things can turn out ok for your father.
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Post by: Razgovory on February 17, 2015, 11:45:35 AM
It's been a tough night.  He head a massive heart attack 10 years ago, very nearly killed him.  They did a triple bypass then.  I'm not sure what can be done now.  He'll get the opinions of other doctors today.  I wonder if he could get a heart transplant.
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Post by: CountDeMoney on February 17, 2015, 11:47:38 AM
Damn, a triple bypass 10 years ago, and he's got all that blockage now?  Is it in the one artery they skipped with the triple, or is he one of those people that makes an ungodly amount of natural cholesterol?
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Post by: Razgovory on February 17, 2015, 11:49:11 AM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on February 17, 2015, 11:47:38 AM
Damn, a triple bypass 10 years ago, and he's got all that blockage now?  Is it in the one artery they skipped with the triple, or is he one of those people that makes an ungodly amount of natural cholesterol?

He doesn't eat right.  I've tried to get it him out of his bad habits, but can't.
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Post by: Caliga on February 17, 2015, 12:06:32 PM
 :(

We tried for years to get my dad to quit chain smoking.  He finally did when his lungs collapsed (pneumothorax) and he went into cardiac arrest.  He finally quit smoking after he managed to survive that, but he's gotten pretty frail now due to all of that damage.
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Post by: CountDeMoney on February 17, 2015, 12:09:53 PM
My friends' Dads, coworkers I've known, hell, even my own Dad...once a man gets to a certain age, they're just not going to change whether it's diet, smoking, drinking, what have you.  Not until it's too late, and then it's just too late.
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Post by: Grinning_Colossus on February 17, 2015, 12:09:56 PM
I'm so sorry, Raz. :(
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Post by: Tamas on February 17, 2015, 12:11:44 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on February 17, 2015, 11:45:35 AM
It's been a tough night.  He head a massive heart attack 10 years ago, very nearly killed him.  They did a triple bypass then.  I'm not sure what can be done now.  He'll get the opinions of other doctors today.  I wonder if he could get a heart transplant.

I am sorry Raz. :( Not sure what can be done by you except staying strong and trying to make sure he follows doctors' instructions.
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Post by: Grey Fox on February 17, 2015, 12:51:30 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on February 17, 2015, 12:09:53 PM
My friends' Dads, coworkers I've known, hell, even my own Dad...once a man gets to a certain age, they're just not going to change whether it's diet, smoking, drinking, what have you.  Not until it's too late, and then it's just too late.

My uncle died at the same time for smoking & stopping smoking. Smoking was killing him but it was 90% of his activities. When he stop, he let himself die of boredom.
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Post by: Berkut on February 17, 2015, 01:09:04 PM
Man, that sucks Raz, I hope things end up turning out ok. :(
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Post by: Jacob on February 17, 2015, 01:20:26 PM
Damn... :console:
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Post by: Razgovory on February 17, 2015, 01:40:48 PM
I think he'll be released from the hospital, but I don't know how long he will last.  I suspect he'll be on oxygen in the future.  He's had a rough last two years.  He was fired from his job, and then the office where he had worked closed up shop.  He takes it personally (he takes a lot personally).  Unfortunately he's spent the time sitting around watching TV and drinking cheap scotch.  He no longer smokes, but had been smoking for 30 years prior.  They ask why I don't drink or smoke.
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Post by: Josquius on February 17, 2015, 01:42:01 PM
Good luck.
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Post by: Pedrito on February 17, 2015, 04:32:26 PM
Best of luck, Raz.

L.
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Post by: viper37 on February 17, 2015, 04:58:59 PM
Best of luck Raz.
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Post by: Razgovory on February 20, 2015, 10:23:55 PM
He's coming back tomorrow.  He seems to be doing much better, he's not even on oxygen anymore.
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Post by: jimmy olsen on February 20, 2015, 10:30:36 PM
That's great news!
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Post by: Razgovory on February 20, 2015, 10:38:45 PM
I hope so.  I've very apprehensive.
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Post by: dps on February 20, 2015, 11:01:43 PM
Keep trying to get him to improve his diet.
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Post by: The Brain on February 21, 2015, 03:05:05 AM
Great news. :cheers:
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Post by: Martinus on February 21, 2015, 03:33:46 AM
Good news.   :hug:

More importantly, we can now all go back to bashing Raz.  :showoff:
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Post by: Richard Hakluyt on February 21, 2015, 04:47:41 AM
Sounds like a very similar trajectory to the one my father took back in the day. The big problem is that for some men in middle-age the drinking and smoking is their main entertainment and reason for living.

Good luck Raz.
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Post by: crazy canuck on February 21, 2015, 09:05:57 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on February 20, 2015, 10:23:55 PM
He's coming back tomorrow.  He seems to be doing much better, he's not even on oxygen anymore.

Great news Raz
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Post by: The Larch on February 21, 2015, 09:21:28 AM
Glad to hear that.  :)
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Post by: Darth Wagtaros on February 21, 2015, 09:43:39 AM
Sounds promising.
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Post by: mongers on February 21, 2015, 12:00:03 PM
Glad there's better news Raz, best wish Mongers.
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Post by: Eddie Teach on February 21, 2015, 12:54:17 PM
Quote from: Martinus on February 21, 2015, 03:33:46 AM
Good news.   :hug:

More importantly, we can now all go back to bashing Raz.  :showoff:

But bashing Martinus is more fun.  :hmm:
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Post by: Martinus on February 21, 2015, 01:14:49 PM
Quote from: mongers on February 21, 2015, 12:00:03 PM
Glad there's better news Raz, best wish Mongers.

I wouldn't wish Mongers on anyone.
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Post by: Razgovory on February 21, 2015, 08:34:11 PM
Well, he's home now.  It's really weird.  I expected him to be have oxygen or something.  Nope.  He's here just like nothing ever happened.
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Post by: mongers on February 21, 2015, 08:44:41 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on February 21, 2015, 08:34:11 PM
Well, he's home now.  It's really weird.  I expected him to be have oxygen or something.  Nope.  He's here just like nothing ever happened.

Good to hear Raz.  :cheers:
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Post by: Martinus on February 22, 2015, 03:44:31 AM
How old is your dad, Raz?
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Post by: celedhring on February 22, 2015, 05:06:15 AM
Happy to hear that your father seems to be recovering, Raz.

My mother was prompted to quit smoking after hearth trouble 10 years ago and did it overnight. Her health has improved significantly since then and hasn't had any hearth issues since then. So it can be done.
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Post by: The Brain on February 22, 2015, 05:22:50 AM
No hearth issues in my family (that I know of).
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Post by: Martinus on February 22, 2015, 05:47:59 AM
Both my maternal grandmother had and my mother has heart issues, and my paternal grandfather died of heart attack.
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Post by: celedhring on February 22, 2015, 10:48:12 AM
Quote from: The Brain on February 22, 2015, 05:22:50 AM
No hearth issues in my family (that I know of).

I always make that mistake. It's one of those words that make me second guess myself when writing.
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Post by: Richard Hakluyt on February 22, 2015, 12:39:12 PM
Quote from: The Brain on February 22, 2015, 05:22:50 AM
No hearth issues in my family (that I know of).

That is grate news, glad to hear it  :cool:
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Post by: Admiral Yi on February 22, 2015, 02:00:26 PM
I wood laugh, but I don't want to make Celery feel bad.
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Post by: KRonn on February 22, 2015, 02:01:51 PM
Good news Raz. I hope he makes a good recovery.
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Post by: Jaron on February 24, 2015, 02:50:55 AM
Martinus, you are EVIL monster.
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Post by: Razgovory on February 24, 2015, 08:28:18 AM
Quote from: Martinus on February 22, 2015, 03:44:31 AM
How old is your dad, Raz?

64
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Post by: Razgovory on January 03, 2018, 05:21:41 PM
Bit of an update.  My dad has been very ill since the spring of last year.  He's been in the hospital on and off for the last six months.  I was informed today that my Dad has congestive heart failure, and that he is in the final stage of his illness.  He is currently in the ICU and if he stabilizes he will be put in hospice care.  I don't think he will survive January
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Post by: Grinning_Colossus on January 03, 2018, 05:26:59 PM
That's terrible. I'm so sorry.
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Post by: Maladict on January 03, 2018, 05:27:58 PM
I'm sorry Raz  :(
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Post by: Berkut on January 03, 2018, 05:29:24 PM
That sucks, sorry to hear it Raz.
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Post by: Legbiter on January 03, 2018, 05:31:53 PM
Sorry to hear that raz.
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Post by: Barrister on January 03, 2018, 05:39:25 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 03, 2018, 05:21:41 PM
Bit of an update.  My dad has been very ill since the spring of last year.  He's been in the hospital on and off for the last six months.  I was informed today that my Dad has congestive heart failure, and that he is in the final stage of his illness.  He is currently in the ICU and if he stabilizes he will be put in hospice care.  I don't think he will survive January

I'm so sorry Raz.
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Post by: celedhring on January 03, 2018, 05:43:48 PM
That sucks Raz.  :(

I'm sorry.

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Post by: The Brain on January 03, 2018, 05:46:13 PM
:(
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Post by: mongers on January 03, 2018, 06:10:42 PM
I'm so very sorry, Raz  :(
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Post by: jimmy olsen on January 03, 2018, 06:17:14 PM
So sorry to hear that Raz. Your family will be in my prayers. :(
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Post by: Caliga on January 03, 2018, 06:20:59 PM
I'm sorry, Raz. :(
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Post by: Camerus on January 03, 2018, 06:47:30 PM
 :(
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Post by: grumbler on January 03, 2018, 08:07:49 PM
Sorry to hear that, Raz.  My deepest sympathy.
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Post by: 11B4V on January 03, 2018, 08:10:16 PM
My condolences Raz.
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Post by: dps on January 03, 2018, 09:35:27 PM
I'm sorry to here this, Raz.

Not to be crass or anything, but will you be OK financially without him?

EDIT:  If that's none of my business, I don't mind if you say so.  I'm just expressing concern, not digging for financial details.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 03, 2018, 09:46:39 PM
Yeah, I'll be okay financially for a while at least.
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Post by: Jacob on January 03, 2018, 11:20:11 PM
Sorry to hear Raz :(
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Post by: Razgovory on January 03, 2018, 11:49:04 PM
He's still alive right now, but my mom gave consent for the "Do Not Resuscitate" this afternoon.  My Dad has only been home about three weeks since July, so I'm kinda prepared for this.
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Post by: Josquius on January 04, 2018, 03:17:36 AM
Sorry to hear it.
I guess, should the worst happen, you can be thankful you've had all this time since the bad stuff started and hopefully he will pull through yet again.
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Post by: HVC on January 04, 2018, 09:21:21 AM
Sorry to hear Raz.
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Post by: derspiess on January 04, 2018, 10:00:25 AM
Sorry Raz :(
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Post by: Savonarola on January 04, 2018, 10:07:48 AM
Sorry, Raz
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Post by: merithyn on January 04, 2018, 01:51:16 PM
:hug:

I'm sorry, Raz. No matter how prepared you are, it still sucks.
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Post by: Pedrito on January 04, 2018, 01:52:36 PM
Sorry to hear that Raz  :(

L.
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Post by: ulmont on January 04, 2018, 02:19:07 PM
I'm sorry, Raz.  That's painful.   :(
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Post by: crazy canuck on January 04, 2018, 03:32:14 PM
My deepest sympathies Raz.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 05, 2018, 10:22:59 AM
We got a call about two days ago that my dad was on his last leg, he was only being kept alive by Dopamine and that we would "need to make a very hard decision soon".  The only time we could see the doctor was at 5 A.M , so we showed up there this morning.  We were a bit surprised to see my dad sitting up doing fine (we were told he hasn't been awake in days), and the doctor tells him and us that he doesn't have much longer.  Maybe a minute, maybe a year. <_<  I could have kicked her ass up and down the ICU.  I hate doctors.  He's still in critical condition, so I don't know what to think.
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Post by: Tamas on January 05, 2018, 12:10:40 PM
 :( Yeah doctors can be real jerks, I guess it comes with growing insensitive to what they witness all the time. Recently, two different doctors told my mom that the kidney results show that her mother should already be dead. Great comfort!

But it sounds like your dad is putting up a tough fight. Shows a resilience he and you can be proud of.

There isn't much for you to do or think but to help him with this as much as possible, I guess. If he is indeed feeling better (considering the circumstances) maybe it is the time to raise the subject of what to do when the "very hard decision" referred by the doctors comes around for real? And just respect his choice.
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Post by: dps on January 05, 2018, 12:14:14 PM
Quote from: Tamas on January 05, 2018, 12:10:40 PM
If he is indeed feeling better (considering the circumstances) maybe it is the time to raise the subject of what to do when the "very hard decision" referred by the doctors comes around for real? And just respect his choice.

Well, Raz's mom did already sign a DNR form, so I think we can figure out what his father's wishes are.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 06, 2018, 05:06:58 PM
Well, I got an idea of an endgame now. Sometime next week they are going to take him off the medications he's on.  If he survives, he will come home to die.  We are thinking of having the funeral in St. Louis where most of my family is.
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Post by: Ed Anger on January 06, 2018, 09:18:10 PM
Sorry Raz.
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Post by: mongers on January 06, 2018, 11:12:46 PM
I'm sorry Raz.
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Post by: KRonn on January 07, 2018, 12:54:26 PM
Sorry to hear this Raz, my condolences. :(
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Post by: Drakken on January 08, 2018, 07:24:13 AM
I am so sorry Raz. My deepest condolences.
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Post by: merithyn on January 08, 2018, 10:26:05 AM
Conjestive heart failure is fun like that. My dad lived a solid five years after his expiration date was given. A nightmare five years for all of us.

Thinking of you,  Raz.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.
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Post by: PDH on January 12, 2018, 10:59:18 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

Raz, I am sorry.
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Post by: Admiral Yi on January 12, 2018, 10:59:36 PM
Sorry Raz.
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Post by: 11B4V on January 12, 2018, 11:10:35 PM
Condolences Raz
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Post by: dps on January 12, 2018, 11:26:35 PM
I'm sorry.
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Post by: katmai on January 12, 2018, 11:34:55 PM
Your pops seemed to be one tough SOB. Sorry Raz about his death.
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Post by: Valmy on January 12, 2018, 11:44:25 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

I am so sorry Raz. We all know this day is coming for most of us, if it has not already, and I can only imagine how painful it must be.
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Post by: Barrister on January 12, 2018, 11:51:12 PM
Quote from: Valmy on January 12, 2018, 11:44:25 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

I am so sorry Raz. We all know this day is coming for most of us, if it has not already,

Are some of us posting from the great beyond? :unsure:

My condolences Raz.  May your father rest in peace.
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Post by: Valmy on January 13, 2018, 12:21:25 AM
Quote from: Barrister on January 12, 2018, 11:51:12 PM
Quote from: Valmy on January 12, 2018, 11:44:25 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

I am so sorry Raz. We all know this day is coming for most of us, if it has not already,

Are some of us posting from the great beyond? :unsure:

My condolences Raz.  May your father rest in peace.

I meant the deaths of our parents dude. Raz himself didn't die.
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Post by: Barrister on January 13, 2018, 12:37:14 AM
Quote from: Valmy on January 13, 2018, 12:21:25 AM
Quote from: Barrister on January 12, 2018, 11:51:12 PM
Quote from: Valmy on January 12, 2018, 11:44:25 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

I am so sorry Raz. We all know this day is coming for most of us, if it has not already,

Are some of us posting from the great beyond? :unsure:

My condolences Raz.  May your father rest in peace.

I meant the deaths of our parents dude. Raz himself didn't die.

There was some ambiguity in your statement, and I thought a little levity might be appreciated by Raz. :)

We just went through the death of Mrs. B's dad this past summer.  I know what it's like - it sucks.  If I could bring a smile to Raz's face though I was going to go for it.
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Post by: DGuller on January 13, 2018, 01:06:02 AM
My condolences.  :(
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Post by: Valmy on January 13, 2018, 01:44:30 AM
Quote from: Barrister on January 13, 2018, 12:37:14 AM

There was some ambiguity in your statement, and I thought a little levity might be appreciated by Raz. :)

We just went through the death of Mrs. B's dad this past summer.  I know what it's like - it sucks.  If I could bring a smile to Raz's face though I was going to go for it.

Gotcha. I will keep this in mind should I ever need a funeral comedian :P
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Post by: PDH on January 13, 2018, 01:51:59 AM
Quote from: Barrister on January 13, 2018, 12:37:14 AM
I thought a little levity might be appreciated by Raz. :)

Dude, don't be a douche.  The person at the center of this should be the one to initiate levity.
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Post by: The Brain on January 13, 2018, 03:35:13 AM
I'm sorry Raz. :(
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Post by: Sophie Scholl on January 13, 2018, 03:55:25 AM
 I'm sorry, Raz.  :console:
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Post by: Richard Hakluyt on January 13, 2018, 04:57:11 AM
Condolences Raz  :(
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Post by: Tamas on January 13, 2018, 05:09:21 AM
I am sorry Raz.
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Post by: Eddie Teach on January 13, 2018, 05:51:19 AM
Raz, I'm sorry for your loss.  :(
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Post by: jimmy olsen on January 13, 2018, 06:00:50 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

So sorry to hear this. :console:

God bless you and your family. :(
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Post by: mongers on January 13, 2018, 08:09:56 AM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

Raz, my sincere condolences to you and your family.
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Post by: Grinning_Colossus on January 13, 2018, 08:37:21 AM
I'm sorry, Raz. That's a hell of a thing to go through.
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Post by: crazy canuck on January 13, 2018, 09:02:18 AM
My condolences Raz
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Post by: Camerus on January 13, 2018, 10:35:37 AM
I'm sorry for your loss.  :(
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Post by: Caliga on January 13, 2018, 11:00:13 AM
I am so sorry for your loss, Raz.  :(
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Post by: Razgovory on January 13, 2018, 12:04:30 PM
Quote from: Valmy on January 13, 2018, 01:44:30 AM
Quote from: Barrister on January 13, 2018, 12:37:14 AM

There was some ambiguity in your statement, and I thought a little levity might be appreciated by Raz. :)

We just went through the death of Mrs. B's dad this past summer.  I know what it's like - it sucks.  If I could bring a smile to Raz's face though I was going to go for it.

Gotcha. I will keep this in mind should I ever need a funeral comedian :P


Eh, it's okay.  I think I'm taking it well.  This was something I knew was coming, and it didn't shock me.  I've seen him pull out of so many nose-dives I thought he would do so again, but in the back of my mind I always knew this was an eventuality.
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Post by: Pedrito on January 13, 2018, 01:42:18 PM
Raz, I am sorry for yor loss  :(

L.
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Post by: citizen k on January 13, 2018, 03:01:17 PM
My condolences, Razgovory. I hope things get better for you. Take comfort in that his suffering has ended.  :cry:


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Post by: alfred russel on January 13, 2018, 03:32:43 PM
Sorry Raz.  :(
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Post by: grumbler on January 13, 2018, 06:45:14 PM
My condolences, Raz. 
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Post by: Maladict on January 14, 2018, 07:59:59 AM
Sorry for your loss Raz  :(
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Post by: celedhring on January 14, 2018, 08:17:05 AM
My deepest condolences Raz. I hope that you and the rest of your family can pull through this.
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Post by: The Larch on January 16, 2018, 11:33:50 AM
Sorry to hear that, Raz. At least his ordeal is over, in a certain level it must be a relief, I guess. How's the family dealing with this? Hope you're all doing the best you can in such a situation and you're able to carry on.
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Post by: The Minsky Moment on January 16, 2018, 01:13:56 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 12, 2018, 10:57:59 PM
My father died today.  The hospital called me and said that he didn't have much time left, so I called up my immediate family (my sister had come down the day before), and we sat there watched has expired.  God, that was gruesome.

That's the toughest part.  Sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Berkut on January 16, 2018, 01:15:51 PM
SOrry Raz, lost my mom last year, and it is not easy. My sympathies.
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Post by: Jacob on January 16, 2018, 02:08:48 PM
My condolences Raz. Hope you and your family are dealing with it as well as you can.
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Post by: MadBurgerMaker on January 16, 2018, 03:09:48 PM
Raz, I'm so sorry to hear that.  My condolences to you and your family. 
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Post by: Maximus on January 16, 2018, 07:48:43 PM
Sorry, Raz. We were sure my dad was going to go before xmas, but he's doing better.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 26, 2018, 02:34:18 PM
The memorial will be tomorrow in St. Charles (town outside St. Louis).  My brother wanted to give the eulogy, but backed out today because writing and speaking is hard.  So it looks like I'm up to bat.  I'll see what I can do tonight.
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Post by: The Brain on January 26, 2018, 02:38:01 PM
:hug:
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Post by: Valmy on January 26, 2018, 02:43:32 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 26, 2018, 02:34:18 PM
The memorial will be tomorrow in St. Charles (town outside St. Louis).  My brother wanted to give the eulogy, but backed out today because writing and speaking is hard.  So it looks like I'm up to bat.  I'll see what I can do tonight.

You can do it Raz! I believe in you.
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Post by: Barrister on January 26, 2018, 02:43:41 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 26, 2018, 02:34:18 PM
The memorial will be tomorrow in St. Charles (town outside St. Louis).  My brother wanted to give the eulogy, but backed out today because writing and speaking is hard.  So it looks like I'm up to bat.  I'll see what I can do tonight.

That's a hell of a thing to drop on your lap 24 hours before.

Just speak from the heart Raz, and you should be fine.  And don't worry if you tear up giving it (or, conversely, don't worry if you don't - grief is a funny thing).
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Post by: Admiral Yi on January 26, 2018, 02:58:47 PM
Gluck raz.
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Post by: Admiral Yi on January 26, 2018, 03:37:12 PM
FYI, when I stood up at my mom's funeral I found that not looking anyone in the eye helped with the blubbering.  Unless you want to blubber.
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Post by: Jacob on January 26, 2018, 03:51:41 PM
:hug:
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Post by: mongers on January 26, 2018, 05:18:36 PM
Wishing you the best Raz, with this difficult duty.

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do this, maybe the only mistake is to try too hard, try for too much profundity. Keeping it straight forward and short works.

My brother did a good job at my old man's one in front of a large parish church full of people, sticking to an everyday conversational level; I'd have tried too much and have gone on for far too long, so he was the better choice.
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Post by: KRonn on January 26, 2018, 10:25:23 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 26, 2018, 02:34:18 PM
The memorial will be tomorrow in St. Charles (town outside St. Louis).  My brother wanted to give the eulogy, but backed out today because writing and speaking is hard.  So it looks like I'm up to bat.  I'll see what I can do tonight.

Good luck, you'll be fine doing it. Talk to your family about what to say and just speak from the heart.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 29, 2018, 10:07:28 PM
The memorial went well, I got to talk to all my cousins and such.  I wish I lived near St. Louis so I could spend more time up there.  I'm tired of living alone in the Ozarks.  The priest gave his eulogy for my dad, a man he had never met.  It was hilarious, I guess wires got crossed somewhere because he was describing my mother, who's alive, rather than my father.  He priest described my dad as a political activist.  The closest my dad got to political activism was the time he was appeared on front page of the news paper as "unidentified man sleeping at city council meeting".

My eulogy went over well, everyone said it was good at least.  Of course, it wasn't like they were going to say "that was shit".  Still, I have a weird talent for public speaking, and I can string a basic sentence together.  Sometimes I forget that outside languish I'm considered quite clever.
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Post by: DGuller on January 29, 2018, 10:22:44 PM
I've always considered you quite clever.
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Post by: crazy canuck on January 30, 2018, 01:49:49 PM
Good job Raz.  That is a very hard thing to do.
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Post by: Jacob on January 30, 2018, 04:22:44 PM
Well done.

I don't suppose it's at all practical to move closer to the family?
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Post by: Legbiter on January 30, 2018, 04:29:20 PM
Quote from: Razgovory on January 29, 2018, 10:07:28 PMMy eulogy went over well, everyone said it was good at least.  Of course, it wasn't like they were going to say "that was shit".  Still, I have a weird talent for public speaking, and I can string a basic sentence together

Good job Raz.
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Post by: Razgovory on January 31, 2018, 02:41:48 AM
Quote from: Jacob on January 30, 2018, 04:22:44 PM
Well done.

I don't suppose it's at all practical to move closer to the family?


I would very much like to do so.  My mom is hesitant.  I want her to sell the house in Jefferson City and move to North County or St. Charles. (the area around St. Louis that my family lives in).  North county is a bit dicey, it has an extremely high crime rate and racial tensions are pretty bad, but I'd like to be near family.