Question of the sexes

[garbon]

If showing yourself to be vulnerable wrecks the magic of your marriage, there are bigger issues going on, I would guess. I'm not saying being a blubbering idiot is attractive, but needing an emotional hand every now and then isn't going to destroy 15 years of love and affection, either.

@Ed - This

[crazy canuck]

Whoever bet MiM he couldnt pull off this troll has to pay up.

[garbon]

Whoever bet MiM he couldnt pull off this troll has to pay up.

And then hurt themselves as why would this be a particularly hard troll to pull off?

[merithyn]

Yay, he wins because Meri took something at face value on Languish? How is this news to anyone, or difficult to accomplish?

[derspiess]

My wife is always repulsed when she sees a man crying on TV (typically on reality-type shows) and has warned me from time to time not to turn into some blubbering wuss.  I'm not a very emotional person (particularly not outwardly) so it works out fine.

[Caliga]

My wife is always repulsed when she sees a man crying on TV (typically on reality-type shows) and has warned me from time to time not to turn into some blubbering wuss.  I'm not a very emotional person (particularly not outwardly) so it works out fine.

Your wife sounds awesome.

[garbon]

Yay, he wins because Meri took something at face value on Languish? How is this news to anyone, or difficult to accomplish?

We got caught by CC troll.

[CountDeMoney]

So, I'm having a conversation with my wife the other day. I got a little sappy and confessed I had been feeling a bit weak and depressed recently, and that I thought this was a time that I'd need her support more than usual. The result was...a bit withdrawn. It was like, yeah sure, but I got the impression that she really didn't want to be there. Like me being weak was a thing she really did not want to know.

I could more or less watch the vagina dry up as I was saying those words. It's like I tossed the most unsexy thing ever at her and she recoiled.

I LOL'd.

My question is this: Do women require their men to be strong or at least faking it? Is this the origin of the "men don't share their feelings" thing? Like if we do, we'll get punished for it in the sexual attraction department?

I don't think the tears matter as much as it is the communication.  They want you to talk.  And talk.  And talk some more.  Crying is not necessary.  But talking is.

Then again, who knows what they want.  Goofy ass creatures.

[merithyn]

I don't think the tears matter as much as it is the communication.  They want you to talk.  And talk.  And talk some more.  Crying is not necessary.  But talking is.

Then again, who knows what they want.  Goofy ass creatures.

That about sums it up. Talk.

Well, and compliments. Those tend to go over well, too.

[CountDeMoney]

My wife is always repulsed when she sees a man crying on TV (typically on reality-type shows) and has warned me from time to time not to turn into some blubbering wuss.

That explains so much.

[garbon]

My wife is always repulsed when she sees a man crying on TV (typically on reality-type shows) and has warned me from time to time not to turn into some blubbering wuss.

That explains so much.

[Ed Anger]

If showing yourself to be vulnerable wrecks the magic of your marriage, there are bigger issues going on, I would guess. I'm not saying being a blubbering idiot is attractive, but needing an emotional hand every now and then isn't going to destroy 15 years of love and affection, either.

@Ed - This

I said nothing. I wasn't getting involved in this thread.

[garbon]

If showing yourself to be vulnerable wrecks the magic of your marriage, there are bigger issues going on, I would guess. I'm not saying being a blubbering idiot is attractive, but needing an emotional hand every now and then isn't going to destroy 15 years of love and affection, either.

@Ed - This

I said nothing. I wasn't getting involved in this thread.

I just think of you now when I say "this".

[Ed Anger]

oh. 

[Admiral Yi]

I don't think MIM is trolling.  He is a pretty sincere poster an there's nothing in the post that gives me an insincere vibe.

What's interesting to me MIM is that, whereas most people would focus on the emotional/psychological response to an expression of vulnerability, you talked mostly about sexuality.  Was the wifey also unsupportive/unresponsive emotionally?