Gay marriage legal in Denmark

[Valmy]

The lesbians you know probably also have real jobs instead of whole communities working in some form of entertainment or other. 

It's true

[Barrister]

From years of watching the L Word, I can say two things: Lesbians are horny as heck, and there is a tendency for more feminine and less feminine lesbians to pair up.

I have to say I know quite a few Lesbians but I do not really think this stereotype holds up...but then I do admit I do not know any super feminine or super masculine lesbians.  They are just...erm....sorta normal.

The fairly small sample size of lesbians I know reveals them to be fairly consistently opposed to make up, but otherwise fairly normal.

Of course half of those were Yukon lesbians...

[Martinus]

there is a tendency for more feminine and less feminine lesbians to pair up.

I think this is an "optical illusion".

What I mean by that, people are different, and that means different people are more masculine or feminine compared to each other. It is rare for an average guy to be more feminine than an average girl (so in heterosexual couples, in most cases the guy will be more masculine than the girl), but when you have two guys or two girls, one will almost always end up being more masculine or feminine than the other one, as it is very hard to find two people of the same gender who are exactly as masculine or feminine. This creates an illusion/stereotype that gay or lesbian pairings are based on this difference, which is not the case.

To test this theory, think about a gay pairing of two random heterosexual guys or two random heterosexual women you know - and you will realize that one will be the "butch" and the other the "femme" (and, depending on the pairing, not always the same one will have the same role).

[Admiral Yi]

The two lebiang couples that hang out at my boozer (one broke up a while back) come straight out of central casting.  Butch has the short spiked hair and the cuffed jeans.

[Eddie Teach]

I think this is an "optical illusion".

Not so much on the show, they hardly ever put two "butch" girls together. There were a few lipstick pairings which were a sop to male viewers.

[Valmy]

Not so much on the show, they hardly ever put two "butch" girls together. There were a few lipstick pairings which were a sop to male viewers.

TV fails us once more

[Malthus]

Not so much on the show, they hardly ever put two "butch" girls together. There were a few lipstick pairings which were a sop to male viewers.

TV fails us once more

Not nearly as badly as porn has failed us on this topic! 

[derspiess]

I think this is an "optical illusion".

Are you basing this on any actual knowledge has to how the butch/femme thing works with lesbians, or just extrapolating how it works with gay men?

[PDH]

All I know is that when I got stopped in San Francisco because the Dykes on Bikes ride was going along a cross street the big mean looking butch lesbians had the little lipstick lesbians behind them on their Harleys.

[Valmy]

Ok does butch mean big and mean looking or just having spikey hair and wearing jeans and stuff?  Because if it is the former I have never actually met a butch lesbian.

[PDH]

Ok does butch mean big and mean looking or just having spikey hair and wearing jeans and stuff?  Because if it is the former I have never actually met a butch lesbian.

They Dykes on bikes are a special breed...

[Admiral Yi]

Butch means masculine.  Different ways of expressing it.

[Barrister]

The lesbians I know have been pretty ordinary looking.  Not "lipstick lesbians" and not noticeable "butch".  More like "comfortable pants and sensible shoes lesbians".  Oh and I think they all had fairly short (but not masculine) hair.