Should a man ask for permission from his future bride's parents?

[Eddie Teach]

A plate of delicious. Once you scrape the icky corn off there.

What's wrong with corn? 

[Zoupa]

Corn is what you feed chicken and hogs.

[Eddie Teach]

So it's cheap, still tasty with lots of butter.

[Ideologue]

Corn is only good in chip or wrap form.

[CountDeMoney]

Corn is only good in chip or wrap form.

After a big holiday dinner at my grandmother's and her fabulous creamed corn, there was always that one fucking kernel that would never flush.

[crazy canuck]

If you want a dowry.

Dowry is paid by the groom's father to the bride's father.
You westernessers got it wrong.

Pretty sure the standard in Central Asia is for the Bride's Father to pay the Groom's.

It works differently in different places.

Dowry is where the wife's family pays, Bride price is where the husband or his family pays.

I dont think that is universally true.  In some parts of China a dowry can also be the husband's family paying the wife's family.  For some Chinese families that tradition has carried on after they moved to Canada.  As an example of this one of my associates is often teased by her father that she needs to get married so that he can recover the dowry he had to pay when his son got married.  They dont refer to it as a "bride price".

[Martinus]

I dont think that is universally true.  In some parts of China a dowry can also be the husband's family paying the wife's family.  For some Chinese families that tradition has carried on after they moved to Canada.  As an example of this one of my associates is often teased by her father that she needs to get married so that he can recover the dowry he had to pay when his son got married.  They dont refer to it as a "bride price".

It wouldn't be the first time when someone misuses a word, especially one with historical/traditional connotations. Especially when herself she is coming from a different culture/language (Hint: English is not the first language for people living in "some parts of China"). 

According to wiki, Raz is right:

A dowry (also known as trousseau or tocher or, in Latin, dos) is the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings forth to the marriage.[1][2] It contrasts with bride price, which is paid to the bride's parents, and dower, which is property settled on the bride herself by the groom at the time of marriage.

[MadImmortalMan]

My wife's dowry was a bunch of college debt.  :/

[Razgovory]

I dont think that is universally true.  In some parts of China a dowry can also be the husband's family paying the wife's family.  For some Chinese families that tradition has carried on after they moved to Canada.  As an example of this one of my associates is often teased by her father that she needs to get married so that he can recover the dowry he had to pay when his son got married.  They dont refer to it as a "bride price".

Oh, I imagine they don't call it "bride price" or "dowry". They probably have their own word for it.  The Chinese are so troublesome like that, they have to have a separate word for everything.  I got my definition from so college course I took a long time ago.  Sociology or anthropology or something like that.

[Grey Fox]

I dont think that is universally true.  In some parts of China a dowry can also be the husband's family paying the wife's family.  For some Chinese families that tradition has carried on after they moved to Canada.  As an example of this one of my associates is often teased by her father that she needs to get married so that he can recover the dowry he had to pay when his son got married.  They dont refer to it as a "bride price".

Oh, I imagine they don't call it "bride price" or "dowry". They probably have their own word for it.  The Chinese are so troublesome like that, they have to have a separate word for everything.  I got my definition from so college course I took a long time ago.  Sociology or anthropology or something like that.

Zu ma!

[Martinus]

We need a poll "Should a man ask for permission from his future bride?".

[Valmy]

We need a poll "Should a man ask for permission from his future bride?".

Why not just ask her?  Having to ask permission to propose and THEN propose seems a little redundant.

[derspiess]

I didn't ask.  We eloped, and then after a few months decided to break the news to them by scanning & emailing them our marriage certificate.  I never really thought the asking the father thing was a big deal...

until my daughter was born earlier this year

[The Brain]

I didn't ask.  We eloped, and then after a few months decided to break the news to them by scanning & emailing them our marriage certificate.  I never really thought the asking the father thing was a big deal...

until my daughter was born earlier this year

You regret not asking the father of your daughter?

Thank you.

[crazy canuck]

I dont think that is universally true.  In some parts of China a dowry can also be the husband's family paying the wife's family.  For some Chinese families that tradition has carried on after they moved to Canada.  As an example of this one of my associates is often teased by her father that she needs to get married so that he can recover the dowry he had to pay when his son got married.  They dont refer to it as a "bride price".

It wouldn't be the first time when someone misuses a word, especially one with historical/traditional connotations. Especially when herself she is coming from a different culture/language (Hint: English is not the first language for people living in "some parts of China"). 

According to wiki, Raz is right:

A dowry (also known as trousseau or tocher or, in Latin, dos) is the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings forth to the marriage.[1][2] It contrasts with bride price, which is paid to the bride's parents, and dower, which is property settled on the bride herself by the groom at the time of marriage.

Yeah Marti, my associate who speaks Mandarin, Cantonese, French, English and some Spanish would be completely oblivious to any language nuance.  I should definitely trust wiki on this one.  There could never be a different use of the words.