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Started by Phillip V, March 30, 2009, 09:15:29 PM

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Phillip V

March 30, 2009, 09:15:29 PM
People are picking on him at work. Coming to America with no education, he has worked in a factory starting at minimum wage in the same job and same position for 20 years.

My father is a small, quiet, Asian man who does not speak English well---making him easy pickings for bullies. I cry to think of a 52-year-old man being bullied. He has dealt with it for years, but it gets to you. The financial meltdown adds to his stress. He only started a 401k a few years ago, but now he is bewildered to see his savings vanishing. His account is managed by my older brother, who does not consult my father when moving around assets, adding to my father's sense of helplessness.
He has responded by working overtime even 7 days a week.

I only catch hints of the crap his co-workers put him through. For example, when I enlisted, they told him that I would get sent to Iraq and get blown up. Not even seasoned Soldiers understand the military path and contracts I am taking, so I bet the taunts scared him and hit him at his core.
I am going to meet my grandparents in Cambodia for the first time this May, and I heard my neighbor badger him for not accompanying his son. My father cannot afford to see parents or country he has not seen in over a decade. That probably made him sad, too.

My parents chose to live in a predominantly white, suburban community, which saved my siblings and me from crime and gangs, but left them without the traditional support network of fellow immigrants.

I had my share of bullying in the past, but I sucked it up because I was moving on to bigger things. What do you do with a man who has perhaps another 13 years of the same situation with no dreams of mobility?

Tamas

#1
March 30, 2009, 09:20:58 PM
:(

Well, I can't say anything positive. Blue collar workplaces usually has these loud adult bullies "running" things, as far as I can see it.

garbon

#2
March 30, 2009, 09:21:23 PM
My father has been sad since 1999.  However, his adamant that only white people see therapists.
"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.

Admiral Yi

#3
March 30, 2009, 09:31:29 PM
Tell him you appreciate all the sacrifices he has made on your behalf, and that as soon you start pulling in that ginormous army salary you will buy him a plane ticket to Cambodia and some deadly steel-tipped nunchaku to lay waste to his tormentors.  Then take him bowling.  Then explain his 401k to him.

Valmy

#4
March 30, 2009, 10:22:13 PM
Quote from: garbon on March 30, 2009, 09:21:23 PM
My father has been sad since 1999.  However, his adamant that only white people see therapists.

That is one of the weirdest things I have ever heard.
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

Korea

#5
March 30, 2009, 10:45:42 PM
:(

I know how you feel as my asian mom went through the same thing. Then she quit working and started living off of alimony/child support.  :rolleyes:
I want my mother fucking points!

Razgovory

#6
March 30, 2009, 10:50:24 PM
 :console:
I've given it serious thought. I must scorn the ways of my family, and seek a Japanese woman to yield me my progeny. He shall live in the lands of the east, and be well tutored in his sacred trust to weave the best traditions of Japan and the Sacred South together, until such time as he (or, indeed his house, which will periodically require infusion of both Southern and Japanese bloodlines of note) can deliver to the South it's independence, either in this world or in space.  -Lettow April of 2011

Raz is right. -MadImmortalMan March of 2017

Alcibiades

#7
March 31, 2009, 12:32:35 AM
J/w,  What's your MOS / Contracts you're getting.  No blue cord and all, piqued my interest.   ^_^
Wait...  What would you know about masculinity, you fucking faggot?  - Overly Autistic Neil


OTOH, if you think that a Jew actually IS poisoning the wells you should call the cops. IMHO.   - The Brain

Phillip V

#8
March 31, 2009, 12:54:20 AM
Quote from: Alcibiades on March 31, 2009, 12:32:35 AM
J/w,  What's your MOS / Contracts you're getting.  No blue cord and all, piqued my interest.   ^_^
Enlisted 2005 US Army Reserves 25B (IT Specialist)
Contracted 2008 SMP Cadet (ROTC in college while concurrently serving in Reserves)

Looking to do it for 20-40 years with active/reserve service mix; commissioning into Signal (IT) for four years, then switch into Civil Affairs

Lucidor

#9
March 31, 2009, 01:39:33 AM
Quote from: Phillip V on March 31, 2009, 12:54:20 AM
Quote from: Alcibiades on March 31, 2009, 12:32:35 AM
J/w,  What's your MOS / Contracts you're getting.  No blue cord and all, piqued my interest.   ^_^
Enlisted 2005 US Army Reserves 25B (IT Specialist)
Contracted 2008 SMP Cadet (ROTC in college while concurrently serving in Reserves)

Looking to do it for 20-40 years with active/reserve service mix; commissioning into Signal (IT) for four years, then switch into Civil Affairs
So, you are combatting the Chinese Super Hackers?

Phillip V

#10
March 31, 2009, 01:53:03 AM
Quote from: Lucidor on March 31, 2009, 01:39:33 AM
So, you are combatting the Chinese Super Hackers?
Taliban hackers. ;)

I am going to volunteer for deployment in 2012 and then do a tour at the White House Communications Agency when I get back.

Lucidor

#11
March 31, 2009, 02:19:56 AM
Quote from: Phillip V on March 31, 2009, 01:53:03 AM
Taliban hackers. ;)
Does not compute...

Richard Hakluyt

#12
March 31, 2009, 02:22:39 AM
Sorry to hear about the bullying your dad is enduring at his workplace  :(

It's bloody irritating that we have this enormous race relations industry, with all the excess that can entail, which exists alongside people like your dad who have to put up with this basic xenophobic shit  :mad:

Syt

#13
March 31, 2009, 05:15:25 AM
:(
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Proud owner of 42 Zoupa Points.

Zanza

#14
March 31, 2009, 06:19:22 AM
 :( Sorry to hear that. I hope you can offer him some consolation.
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