Warehousing the oldsters

[MadImmortalMan]

It's probably not a huge thing yet, but I am in the position where I'm essentially responsible for getting the older generation in some sort of responsible housing. Not in my home.

Am I the Gen X/Y pioneer in this?

I checked the housing prices in Dayton, Columbus and where my brother lives in Indiana. Essentially, I can buy my mother a whole damn neighborhood at those prices. But what then?

My mom would rather have an RV and live at June Lake.

What about that whole lifetime of things you collected mom? What about your obsessive hoarding of anything of sentimental value, mom?

Well, you can just store that until your brothers are ready to take what they want.


AAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

Excuse me, while I set fire to my mother and all her belongings.


I can get a nice place in Cabo for 70k. Even at the minimum SSA she might be able to afford that if she took on the occasional AirBNB thing. I'm trying very hard to love my mother, but this is like the seven hundred thousandth dollar I'm tossing in the ring for her...

Anyone shoved their loved ones overseas? Or found a way to murder them without incident? PM me por favor.

[mongers]

For some reason I thought the thread would be about storing classic cars. 


On topic, it has come or will come to most of us, no useful advice.

[PDH]

My Dad, an independent sort, got his whole senior thing going himself.  He lives in the convection oven that is known as Cathedral City.

[MadImmortalMan]

On topic, it has come or will come to most of us, no useful advice.

Some of you guys are much older than me. There must be some experience here.

[mongers]

On topic, it has come or will come to most of us, no useful advice.

Some of you guys are much older than me. There must be some experience here.

Experience, but no useful advice.

I think each situation/senior/parent differs too much to draw any guidance. 

[alfred russel]

An RV at June Lake sounds cool.

I've been trying to convince my father to get a condo in my complex for a few years. Since the prices have disintegrated he could get one super cheap. But he doesn't want to live in Atlanta. I don't know how long it will be tenable for him to live on his own though.

He also has the opposite storage thought process on sentimental items. I've gotten calls, "I had to throw out all your old video games and gi joes. Had to cut down on the clutter." You live alone in a 5 bedroom house and they were neatly in a couple of boxes in the garage. 

[Ed Anger]

My dad would kick my ass if I even hinted at him going into one of those retirement "communities".

[MadImmortalMan]

I was over there yesterday. Mom was watching the black church channel, which means crazy antics and baptist baptist baptist.

My mother was kicked out of a black baptist church in Indiana because she was white. This was in the 60s. Yeah that kind of shit happened too.

I think my mom always wanted to be in on that shit. Our whole life she kept telling us about it, but when the time came, we were too white. I didn't really get that as a ten year old. If I wanted to go to church I had to be an oppressor. I can't be one of the good guys. I'd rather watch Star Trek. Thanks mom.

[MadImmortalMan]

An RV at June Lake sounds cool.

Mom is surprisingly amenable to that solution. June Lake is pretty nice, but it's a camping place. I didn't expect mom to be cool about it.

I think I need more ideas because mine are too confined now.

[The Brain]

Lowest bidder will get my parents when the time comes.

[CountDeMoney]

At 69, pending any significant health concerns, my parents think they've got close to 10 years of independent living left in them.  I dunno about that.  Between Dad's forgetfulness and Mom's broken down body, I think they need to consider a senior-centered community.

Mom wants a smaller place, one floor.  Dad wants to stay in the house until they cart him out, and doesn't want shit to do with anybody else.  Unfortunately, that would leave me with no place to go, since as a member of the 44-and-older demographic conveniently ignored by the greater economy, as I will never regain decent professional employment ever again.

I'm glad my sister married into money so she can deal with all this bullshit.

[Barrister]

Neither my parents or my in-laws are there quite yet, but it has crossed my mind.

I do have to say you're more generous with your mom than I would be in the circumstances.

[Ideologue]

Two words: run, runner.

[viper37]

What about that whole lifetime of things you collected mom? What about your obsessive hoarding of anything of sentimental value, mom?

Well, you can just store that until your brothers are ready to take what they want.


AAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

Excuse me, while I set fire to my mother and all her belongings.

It's the new of life, I guess.  When I was young, I remember my uncles&aunts leaving stuff at their parents house.  And now it seems, it's the parents leaving their thrash at ther kid's house.  For fuck sake, he's got 3 garages, 1 warehouse, 1 small shed and that's still not enough room, I am supposed to live with all his stuff filling my very small-ish garage and my basement.

I tried to clean it up twice, the first time it all ended back here, the second time, he at least kept it in his new place, but I still got a lot of stuff.  And he complains I use too much space because I keep my electronic boxes!

Damn old folks!

[merithyn]

Two years ago, my mom, at the age of 70, informed me that she was selling my childhood home, her car, and everything she owned and moving to Florida. If I wanted anything, I was to get it before the move date two months out.

I got grandma's china and silver, some old family pictures and news articles, and a hug good-bye.