Do you want your wife to use your name?

[ulmont]

I'm trying to find a shit to give for this issue, let alone two shits, and I cannot.  A non-issue for me.

I would prefer that no one changed their names upon marriage, as it's One More Goddamned Thing To Remember, and it takes me several years post-name change until I can keep it straight, but that's just me.

My wife kept her name, which was less work than changing it, so yay.

[CountDeMoney]

My wife kept her name, which was less work than changing it, so yay.

When my sister got married, while she took her husband's last name she also took the opportunity to drop her first name--which she hated and never used, we always called her by her middle name anyway--and she made her maiden name her middle name since she still considered it her identity, married or not.

[Eddie Teach]

My mom dropped her middle name and used her maiden name as her new middle name as well. AFAIK, all my sisters just replaced the last name completely.

[Ideologue]

I'm trying to find a shit to give for this issue, let alone two shits, and I cannot.  A non-issue for me.

I would prefer that no one changed their names upon marriage, as it's One More Goddamned Thing To Remember, and it takes me several years post-name change until I can keep it straight, but that's just me.

My wife kept her name, which was less work than changing it, so yay.

Does it cost money?  It does, right?

Marriage is free in South Carolina.  Just start introducing her as your wife and filing jointly.

[Capetan Mihali]

No.  Couldn't imagine it out of the serious relationships I've had; all with "unconventional" women, I guess. 

My mother never formally changed names, she used both depending on circumstance.  It created a variety of minor hassles, as CC mentioned; people did tend to think my parents were divorced, but I had lots of friends with either divorced parents or a one-parent household (probably the majority), so it wasn't really an issue at all when I was a kid.

We had a bad border crossing problem when my mother was trying to take us on the bus to Canada, to meet my father later, but our (my and my sister's) names didn't match my mother's, and we almost got sent back (pre-9/11, of course) -- them insinuating a custody-grab -- but for us calling my father up at work and getting him to say it was all good.

[MadImmortalMan]

The joke is, she takes your name along with the rest of your shit. 

[Capetan Mihali]

The joke is, she takes your name along with the rest of your shit. 

She kind of takes the rest of your shit regardless, no?

[Valmy]

We had a bad border crossing problem when my mother was trying to take us on the bus to Canada, to meet my father later, but our (my and my sister's) names didn't match my mother's, and we almost got sent back (pre-9/11, of course) -- them insinuating a custody-grab -- but for us calling my father up at work and getting him to say it was all good.

See?  This is the kind of nonsense I wanted to avoid.  Everybody has one last name, I don't care what it is.

[Malthus]

We had a bad border crossing problem when my mother was trying to take us on the bus to Canada, to meet my father later, but our (my and my sister's) names didn't match my mother's, and we almost got sent back (pre-9/11, of course) -- them insinuating a custody-grab -- but for us calling my father up at work and getting him to say it was all good.

See?  This is the kind of nonsense I wanted to avoid.  Everybody has one last name, I don't care what it is.

It doesn't matter what your names are. Crossing a border these days with kids, if you are going with only one parent, it is advisable to have a letter signed by the other to avoid trouble.

http://travel.gc.ca/travelling/children/consent-letter

[Malthus]

What we did is this: no-one changed their names; the kid takes my last name, and learns his mother's language as well as English.

[Valmy]

What we did is this: no-one changed their names; the kid takes my last name, and learns his mother's language as well as English.

On the other hand your son was not given the secret Jewish Conspiracy handshake.

[Malthus]

What we did is this: no-one changed their names; the kid takes my last name, and learns his mother's language as well as English.

On the other hand your son was not given the secret Jewish Conspiracy handshake.

There is still time for that, when he's old enough to appreciate world domination.

[Admiral Yi]

Around Bar Mitzvah time?

[Valmy]

Around Bar Mitzvah time?

Malthus' son is not a Jew I don't think.

[derspiess]

When my sister got married, while she took her husband's last name she also took the opportunity to drop her first name--which she hated and never used, we always called her by her middle name anyway--and she made her maiden name her middle name since she still considered it her identity, married or not.

My buddy's wife did pretty much the same thing, as she previously had no middle name.