We haven't had an attention whoring thread from me for a while now, so here goes.
This year our firm decided to get a table at one of the upscale business balls here in Warsaw and my boss decided originally that, as far as lawyers from the firm are concerned, she (partnered but not married), another partner (single), myself and a female colleague of mine (married) are going (without a spouse/partner) and we are inviting clients for the remaining seats (there are 12 seats at the table).
At the end of the day it turns out however that both she and the female colleague are taking their boyfriend/husband, respectively, to the ball.
She knows that I am gay and that I am in a relationship of 3 years now but she did not ask if I would like to bring my boyfriend along too.
Should I feel snubbed?
I guess you should, what with the inferiority complex and all.
:P
Be glad you don't have to bring a date; should be easier to try to lay a client that way.
What about the other colleague? She isn't bring her spouse either?
Anyway, it's a client dinner. They might not care about your sexuality, but they might. Why test it? If it was a company dinner you might have cause to be annoyed.
:rolleyes: Stop being Gay in a none-friendly to gays country.
Quote from: HVC on January 10, 2013, 12:53:02 PM
What about the other colleague? She isn't bring her spouse either?
Uhm she does. It says so in my second paragraph. :huh:
Quote from: Martinus on January 10, 2013, 07:13:52 AM
We haven't had an attention whoring thread from me for a while now, so here goes.
This year our firm decided to get a table at one of the upscale business balls here in Warsaw and my boss decided originally that, as far as lawyers from the firm are concerned, she (partnered but not married), another partner (single), myself and a female colleague of mine (married) are going (without a spouse/partner) and we are inviting clients for the remaining seats (there are 12 seats at the table).
At the end of the day it turns out however that both she and the female colleague are taking their boyfriend/husband, respectively, to the ball.
She knows that I am gay and that I am in a relationship of 3 years now but she did not ask if I would like to bring my boyfriend along too.
Should I feel snubbed?
Maybe they just wanted to save your boyfriend the embarrassment of being seen in public with you. :P
Quote from: HVC on January 10, 2013, 12:53:02 PM
Anyway, it's a client dinner. They might not care about your sexuality, but they might. Why test it?
No kidding.
Pick some other time to be shrill about your fruity sexual politics, Marty. This isn't one of them.
Quote from: Martinus on January 10, 2013, 01:36:17 PM
Quote from: HVC on January 10, 2013, 12:53:02 PM
What about the other colleague? She isn't bring her spouse either?
Uhm she does. It says so in my second paragraph. :huh:
Sorry, I misread. I thought you were saying three female colleagues were going and only two were bringing dates.
Marti, it sounds like the two partners that are being taken are living together. You are not living with your boyfriend.
Quote from: Barrister on January 10, 2013, 02:59:20 PM
Marti, it sounds like the two partners that are being taken are living together. You are not living with your boyfriend.
She doesn't know that.
Quote from: CountDeMoney on January 10, 2013, 02:09:33 PM
Quote from: HVC on January 10, 2013, 12:53:02 PM
Anyway, it's a client dinner. They might not care about your sexuality, but they might. Why test it?
No kidding.
Pick some other time to be shrill about your fruity sexual politics, Marty. This isn't one of them.
I'm not being shrill. I just feel kinda bad about this and my boyfriend who says this is not a big deal but that he would have liked to go, had there been an opportunity. So it's bugging me a bit but I'm not going to make a scene.
Quote from: Martinus on January 10, 2013, 04:03:21 PM
Quote from: Barrister on January 10, 2013, 02:59:20 PM
Marti, it sounds like the two partners that are being taken are living together. You are not living with your boyfriend.
She doesn't know that.
Well, precisely. You know if someone has a live-in partner because the person will talk about it.
I think you were probably not asked to bring your boyfriend out of fear that some client might not approve or might pay it the wrong kind of attention. How to feel about it is up to you; it'd be much more of a snub if it were a company party, though.
I don't understand why so many people bring spouses or significant others along in business/state occasions.
If they are attractive, charming or successful they are a chance to increase your prestige in the eyes of your peers. If not, well, it is basically a mercy - a chance for you to show off to your spouse the respect and dignity of your employment.
There were a set number of seats available, right? So your boss had 2 openings and chose her own SO (duh) and your colleague's husband over your boyfriend.
Is this boyfriend the one named Dawid? Or have you moved on to a Wincent, Oliwer or Harwey?
Maybe he'll return to Wiktor? :P
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on January 10, 2013, 09:44:36 PM
There were a set number of seats available, right? So your boss had 2 openings and chose her own SO (duh) and your colleague's husband over your boyfriend.
Is this boyfriend the one named Dawid? Or have you moved on to a Wincent, Oliwer or Harwey?
No, it was not about having a number of openings, considering she is bringing a friend of hers. :rolleyes:
Quote from: Jaron on January 10, 2013, 11:14:20 PM
Maybe he'll return to Wiktor? :P
Why do you talk shit seeing how you know the answer. :huh:
Quote from: Martinus on January 11, 2013, 01:42:05 AM
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on January 10, 2013, 09:44:36 PM
There were a set number of seats available, right? So your boss had 2 openings and chose her own SO (duh) and your colleague's husband over your boyfriend.
Is this boyfriend the one named Dawid? Or have you moved on to a Wincent, Oliwer or Harwey?
No, it was not about having a number of openings, considering she is bringing a friend of hers. :rolleyes:
Ok you just don't rate. Bummer.
Quote from: Martinus on January 11, 2013, 01:46:36 AM
Quote from: Jaron on January 10, 2013, 11:14:20 PM
Maybe he'll return to Wiktor? :P
Why do you talk shit seeing how you know the answer. :huh:
You are back already? :huh:
They probably just feel uncomfortable asking. I wouldn't over analyse it and just ask "Are partners invited?"
Unless you have a significantly more stable relationship that you've mentioned on here before, I'm guessing you wouldn't invite him anyway.
Actually, I would consider inviting him. We are already at the stage of being invited to my friends' parties and events together (all my chick friends seem to love him :hmm: ).
I really don't see why it worth to risk hurting client relations.
Yes, clients who would be negatively affected by this are assholes, but you might need a reality check here. Here it goes: you live in Poland.
Yeah, it's an event for clients. Leave it at that.
As an aside, I wouldn't invite a partner to a work event even if it were an option. It's a recipe for boredom, resentment, and sleeve-tugging entreating to leave early. Or amusingly inappropriate drunkenness and embarrassing anecdotes about your out-of-work behaviour.
Quote from: Brazen on January 11, 2013, 08:06:21 AM
As an aside, I wouldn't invite a partner to a work event even if it were an option. It's a recipe for boredom, resentment, and sleeve-tugging entreating to leave early. Or amusingly inappropriate drunkenness and embarrassing anecdotes about your out-of-work behaviour.
Amen. Keep work and play separated as much as possible. Your sanity will appreciate it.
You are so smart, girl. Why haven't you been snatched up yet?
Quote from: Brazen on January 11, 2013, 08:06:21 AM
As an aside, I wouldn't invite a partner to a work event even if it were an option. It's a recipe for boredom, resentment, and sleeve-tugging entreating to leave early. Or amusingly inappropriate drunkenness and embarrassing anecdotes about your out-of-work behaviour.
Exactly. Utterly boring unless one gets pissed and causes trouble.
I used to network and form new paradigms when I went to the wifes boss's parties. JEWS EVERYWHERE.
Plus free food? Count me in.
She's just not that into you.