So I've been to a party at one of my female friend's house. Apparently all my female friends (not just the ones who were there, also e.g. Brazen) are intelligent women in their late 30s or 40s, almost always divorced, and in each case having younger and hot guys (to whom they are not married) as their life partners.
Feminism has made it to Poland. :cool:
Hope Nazism gets a second shot.
Relaxation of gender roles by itself is not enough. You need income inequality too. :ccr
Quote from: The Brain on August 24, 2012, 05:54:27 AM
Hope Nazism gets a second shot.
Well, Nazis made us heroes, Soviets made us shit. So after 50 years of occupation Poles are more shit than anything else. And it gets worse with new generation, EU being SU 2.0, but light, glamorous and quite discreet.
Maybe we're just idiots who chose poorly in the first place and only younger, dumber guys with few expectations will put up with us as all the men our age use their wealth to attract bimbos.
Quote from: szmik on August 24, 2012, 06:01:53 AM
Quote from: The Brain on August 24, 2012, 05:54:27 AM
Hope Nazism gets a second shot.
Well, Nazis made us heroes, Soviets made us shit. So after 50 years of occupation Poles are more shit than anything else. And it gets worse with new generation, EU being SU 2.0, but light, glamorous and quite discreet.
O'RLY? :yeahright:
Tell us more.
And why is this relevant enough to warrant a new thread?
Quote from: Admiral Yi on August 24, 2012, 05:59:51 AM
Relaxation of gender roles by itself is not enough. You need income inequality too. :ccr
I thought that was a given.
The chicks at the party were mainly rich lawyers. The guys were, in that order, a junior consultant, an IT technician and an unemployed artist. :P
Quote from: jimmy olsen on August 24, 2012, 06:18:46 AM
Quote from: szmik on August 24, 2012, 06:01:53 AM
Well, Nazis made us heroes, Soviets made us shit. So after 50 years of occupation Poles are more shit than anything else. And it gets worse with new generation, EU being SU 2.0, but light, glamorous and quite discreet.
O'RLY? :yeahright:
Tell us more.
China is a smoke screen, the EU is the real evil empire lurking in the wings. :yes:
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 24, 2012, 06:24:59 AM
And why is this relevant enough to warrant a new thread?
He now has to attention whore by association.
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 24, 2012, 06:24:59 AM
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"I don't hate breeders. some of my best freinds are women... but only after the age that they can breed. damn dirty breeders"
:P
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 24, 2012, 06:24:59 AM
And why is this relevant enough to warrant a new thread?
At least it is something different.
Quote from: szmik on August 24, 2012, 06:01:53 AM
Quote from: The Brain on August 24, 2012, 05:54:27 AM
Hope Nazism gets a second shot.
Well, Nazis made us heroes, Soviets made us shit. So after 50 years of occupation Poles are more shit than anything else. And it gets worse with new generation, EU being Soviet Union 2.0, but light, glamorous and quite discreet.
Whoa, I never thought of it that way. Brilliant.
Quote from: Martinus on August 24, 2012, 06:32:47 AM
The chicks at the party were mainly rich lawyers. The guys were, in that order, a junior consultant, an IT technician and an unemployed artist. :P
Brazen has a point. Either there simply aren't richer, single older men laying available about and thus they must "settle for" the Cougar-lovers, or maybe, MAYBE, they like these guys for other reasons (say personality, being funny, being a genuinely good guy and partner) since the whole provider issue is now moot: they aren't expect to provide, they are expected to make them happy, give them emotional support, and make the relationship fullfilling.
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 24, 2012, 06:24:59 AM
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Quote from: Drakken on August 24, 2012, 07:56:39 AM
Quote from: Martinus on August 24, 2012, 06:32:47 AM
The chicks at the party were mainly rich lawyers. The guys were, in that order, a junior consultant, an IT technician and an unemployed artist. :P
Brazen has a point. Either there simply aren't richer, single older men laying available about and thus they must "settle for" the Cougar-lovers, or maybe, MAYBE, they like these guys for other reasons (say personality, being funny, being a genuinely good guy and partner) since the whole provider issue is now moot: they aren't expect to provide, they are expected to make them happy, give them emotional support, and make the relationship fullfilling.
Oh please, you DIDNT get what The Brazen Beast said.
Quote from: Brazen on August 24, 2012, 06:02:37 AM
Maybe we're just idiots who chose poorly in the first place and only younger, dumber guys with few expectations will put up with us as all the men our age use their wealth to attract bimbos.
The hypothesis is that "B" women who get a chance at an "A" man take it (leaving him surprised how he ended up at the altar), same for the "C" women taking their chance with "B" men. The "A" women always wait for something better and seek the "A+" guy when they already have the "A". "A+" guys are one in a million and by the time the "A"s start hearing the ticking of the maternal clock the only guys available are the "C"s.
Science is still trying to develop a protocol for testing this hypothesis. But we have lots of invective anecdotes from women blaming us for this state of affairs.
This hypothesis makes intuitive sense to me. In my first trip to a strip club the fat ugly one jumped on me and told me that I was going to pay her for a lap dance. I was shocked into acquiescing. Yes I was a noob on my first trip to a strip club.
Viking, here is the scientific explanation for your intuition:
http://www.laddertheory.com/
Quote from: Viking on August 24, 2012, 08:26:46 AM
The hypothesis is that "B" women who get a chance at an "A" man take it (leaving him surprised how he ended up at the altar), same for the "C" women taking their chance with "B" men. The "A" women always wait for something better and seek the "A+" guy when they already have the "A". "A+" guys are one in a million and by the time the "A"s start hearing the ticking of the maternal clock the only guys available are the "C"s.
Not really. There are younger A's and divorced A's.
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on August 24, 2012, 08:33:32 AM
Quote from: Viking on August 24, 2012, 08:26:46 AM
The hypothesis is that "B" women who get a chance at an "A" man take it (leaving him surprised how he ended up at the altar), same for the "C" women taking their chance with "B" men. The "A" women always wait for something better and seek the "A+" guy when they already have the "A". "A+" guys are one in a million and by the time the "A"s start hearing the ticking of the maternal clock the only guys available are the "C"s.
Not really. There are younger A's and divorced A's.
Younger A's are martinus' cougars and divorced A's are now B's if they have kids and pay alimony.
I'm not saying this is how it is, I'm just saying this explains many of the facts and is contradicted by few.
What the fuck is an A? Is this some metric Euro shit?
Quote from: Ideologue on August 24, 2012, 11:52:51 AM
What the fuck is an A? Is this some metric Euro shit?
Using the A, B and C of the british class system leaves me with much less typing that the whole 10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2 and 1 traditional bit.
Quote from: Viking on August 24, 2012, 08:39:24 AM
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on August 24, 2012, 08:33:32 AM
Quote from: Viking on August 24, 2012, 08:26:46 AM
The hypothesis is that "B" women who get a chance at an "A" man take it (leaving him surprised how he ended up at the altar), same for the "C" women taking their chance with "B" men. The "A" women always wait for something better and seek the "A+" guy when they already have the "A". "A+" guys are one in a million and by the time the "A"s start hearing the ticking of the maternal clock the only guys available are the "C"s.
Not really. There are younger A's and divorced A's.
Younger A's are martinus' cougars and divorced A's are now B's if they have kids and pay alimony.
Are you talking about men or women? :huh:
Quote from: Ideologue on August 24, 2012, 11:52:51 AM
What the fuck is an A? Is this some metric Euro shit?
That's why you're a Delta and happy to be a Delta.
Quote from: garbon on August 24, 2012, 12:31:55 PMThat's why you're a Delta and happy to be a Delta.
That whole grading scheme is garbage.
Quote from: Jacob on August 24, 2012, 12:33:20 PM
Quote from: garbon on August 24, 2012, 12:31:55 PMThat's why you're a Delta and happy to be a Delta.
That whole grading scheme is garbage.
Oh I agree. I just wanted to poke fun at Ide. :D
That sounds horrid to me but if that is what they wanted good on those ladies I guess.
I wanna be an Alpha!
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Quote from: Martinus on August 24, 2012, 06:32:47 AM
The chicks at the party were mainly rich lawyers. The guys were, in that order, a junior consultant, an IT technician and an unemployed artist. :P
Lawyer chicks. :yuk:
So Poland has discovered Feminism before it discovered Plastics. Where are you guys putting your research points?
Ugh, 40 year old chicks.
Most of my female friends here seem to be in their 30s.
And most of them did seem to have a big serious relationship, occasionally marriage, in their 20s . Could be explained by Japan getting serious earlier than the west. And the quasi-west. And I did aquire most of them through teh gays too....
And yes, many a Saturday the internal question arrises about whether I should take a gamble. :ph34r:
Quote from: Tyr on August 25, 2012, 12:59:59 AMAnd yes, many a Saturday the internal question arrises about whether I should take a gamble. :ph34r:
What do you have to lose?
His virginity.
ooops sorry.......nasty hakluyt coming out there :Embarrass:
To put it another way, you should be playing strip billiards with those 30-somethings and having a good laugh, what could possibly go wrong?
My reputation.
Small town, small community.
Potentially also my freedom. Older ladies I'd imagine are looking for marriage asap and that sort of crap.
Find one whose father is already dead, then you don't have to worry about his shotgun.
Quote from: Tyr on August 25, 2012, 12:59:59 AM
Most of my female friends here seem to be in their 30s.
And most of them did seem to have a big serious relationship, occasionally marriage, in their 20s . Could be explained by Japan getting serious earlier than the west. And the quasi-west.
Most of the chicks at the party (and my other female friends) got married in their 20s, too. :contract:
Quote from: Tyr on August 25, 2012, 10:55:43 PM
My reputation.
Small town, small community.
Potentially also my freedom. Older ladies I'd imagine are looking for marriage asap and that sort of crap.
I wouldn't be too sure about that, older women can be pleasingly pragmatic about what they want and what they are likely to get :hmm:
Marriage rates and fertility rates are way down in Japan; one would hope that this didn't mean that people were going without.
Quote from: Tyr on August 25, 2012, 10:55:43 PM
My reputation.
Small town, small community.
Potentially also my freedom. Older ladies I'd imagine are looking for marriage asap and that sort of crap.
So to omotteru. I agree, don't fuck with your reputation, even if you aren't there for a long time. You "represent" gaijin to the organisation that brought you over and they will have to stand for your behavior. You will not get into trouble but your friends and colleagues will.
BTW, you are fully permitted to be as debauched as you like with other foreigners though....
Quote from: Tyr on August 25, 2012, 10:55:43 PM
My reputation.
Small town, small community.
Potentially also my freedom. Older ladies I'd imagine are looking for marriage asap and that sort of crap.
Life is often better when you don't limit your options by thinking you already know what people want.
Quote from: Martinus on August 26, 2012, 01:31:05 AM
Most of the chicks at the party (and my other female friends) got married in their 20s, too. :contract:
Does knowing Marty ruin your relationships? :hmm:
:P
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 24, 2012, 06:24:59 AM
And why is this relevant enough to warrant a new thread?
This is OTT fodder.
Quote from: Jaron on August 26, 2012, 06:24:31 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 24, 2012, 06:24:59 AM
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Quote from: Viking on August 26, 2012, 04:42:08 AM
So to omotteru. I agree, don't fuck with your reputation, even if you aren't there for a long time. You "represent" gaijin to the organisation that brought you over and they will have to stand for your behavior. You will not get into trouble but your friends and colleagues will.
BTW, you are fully permitted to be as debauched as you like with other foreigners though....
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Surely you can find some local Jap who dig gaijin-samas without shaming their families and ancestors. You're capable of being discreet, right? RIGHT?
You're forbidden fruit, and it pulls so better enjoy it. :perv:
Oh yeah, sure, I hope so at least.
Lets not hijack the thread with my love like/lack thereof though. :p
I never got the impression that humping a gaijin was any real taboo in Japan.
I want some Jap strange. :mad:
Quote from: Ed Anger on August 26, 2012, 07:59:27 PM
I want some Jap strange. :mad:
Buy an "okiya" over there. :P
Quote from: Admiral Yi on August 26, 2012, 07:57:16 PM
I never got the impression that humping a gaijin was any real taboo in Japan.
Yeah, I don't think it is. There's a big chunk of Japanese for whom foreigners are not interesting; then there's a sizeable group for whom foreigners are interesting. Try to hook up with girls in the second group. It's possible.
As for reputation, I'm pretty sure that as long as you're not some crazy horn dog trying to juggle five different girls at the same time or slobbering uncontrollably over girls who you shouldn't look at (like say your students or their mothers or high school girls or whatever), then you're fine. Try to date more or less one girl at her time and treat her decently and your reputation will be fine.
Quote from: Jacob on August 26, 2012, 10:01:51 PM
as long as you're not some crazy horn dog trying to juggle five different girls at the same time or slobbering uncontrollably over girls who you shouldn't look at (like say your students or their mothers or high school girls or whatever), then you're fine.
Well, shit.
Quote from: CountDeMoney on August 26, 2012, 10:03:27 PMWell, shit.
Well, you can still do that - and some try - but people will consider you a disreputable foreigner. Not to your face, though.
We can't have that, then.
I would want to fit in like a Japanese businessman chain smoking in sunglasses at a titty bar.
humping a foreigner- no tabboo.
humping somebody with whom you don't have a language in common-huge tabboo.
:P
QuoteAs for reputation, I'm pretty sure that as long as you're not some crazy horn dog trying to juggle five different girls at the same time or slobbering uncontrollably over girls who you shouldn't look at (like say your students or their mothers or high school girls or whatever), then you're fine. Try to date more or less one girl at her time and treat her decently and your reputation will be fine.
Hence my not giving in to the 30 plussers. :contract:
A bit of fun- sure, some of them are hot, they probally know their stuff. If I could sleep with them guarantied no strings and nobody finding out....then there are definitely more than a few I'd be willing to have a crack at.
For a girlfriend though? No, it can never go anywhere and it ruins my potential for getting anywhere with a girl who is a viable option.
Quote from: garbon on August 24, 2012, 02:43:49 PM
Quote from: Siege on August 24, 2012, 01:39:29 PM
I wanna be an Alpha!
Epsilon-plus on a good day.
He's too dysfunctional. He's somewhere in New Mexico cutting himself.