Florida man accused of fraud after taking wife's name

[Valmy]

There's no such thing as a dealbreaker. Just symptoms. Too many reveals a problem. One or two is probably no big deal.

Stealing my identity to get credit turned out to be a deal breaker for me.  No I did not wait around to find the second problem

[Ed Anger]

There's no such thing as a dealbreaker.

How can you say you love her if you won't eat her poop?

[Camerus]

FWIW, I could never see myself agreeing to take my wife's name.

Why not?

Firstly, I like my family and my family name, and there's no reason to change it. 

Secondly, although I know it will ruffle some feathers, I'd lose some of my self-respect if I took on my (imaginary) wife's name.  Maybe I've just been brain-washed by the patriarchy and whatnaught, but in my cultural background, doing that would imply a serious lack of balls.

[garbon]

There's a reason why it is called a background.

[Iormlund]

Any problem with Spanish namings customs?

It's a bit excessive.  And confusing.

Heh. I have an extremely rare surname, but like Valmy says there are others that are very common (García, Martín, González, López ...). Using both surnames makes confusing two people pretty much impossible.

[derspiess]

Okay, I guess I can accept that for Spain.  In Argentina though there's a lot more variety in surnames.

[ulmont]

There's no such thing as a dealbreaker.

Oh, I think if one party wants kids and the other doesn't, that would qualify. Or if they're set on living in different countries.

Sometimes people change their mind about those things later, even if they agreed in the beginning. Especially the having kids one. If you don't want to scuttle the relationship you have to deal with it. Sometimes give in, sometimes talk it out, whatever. Otherwise, you've invested twenty years of your life into a failed relationship just because one of you got baby rabies? Not worth it.

That perspective seems odd. After all, those 20 good years suddenly don't count for anything if you decide to end it?

Except that it's usually more like 10 good years followed by 10 years of increasing shit.

[mongers]

There's no such thing as a dealbreaker.

Oh, I think if one party wants kids and the other doesn't, that would qualify. Or if they're set on living in different countries.

Sometimes people change their mind about those things later, even if they agreed in the beginning. Especially the having kids one. If you don't want to scuttle the relationship you have to deal with it. Sometimes give in, sometimes talk it out, whatever. Otherwise, you've invested twenty years of your life into a failed relationship just because one of you got baby rabies? Not worth it.

That perspective seems odd. After all, those 20 good years suddenly don't count for anything if you decide to end it?

Those are sunk costs, so shouldn't have any impact on your decision to go with the expansions.

That's kind of what I'm saying and counter to what MiM is saying.

I'm agreeing with you and channelling Grumbler at the same time. 

[Eddie Teach]

What happened to grumbler anyway? Has he mellowed out in his old age and no longer roams the internet seeking arguments? Or has he just found a new forum with unsuspecting prey?

[The Larch]

Any problem with Spanish namings customs?

It's a bit excessive.  And confusing.

Heh. I have an extremely rare surname, but like Valmy says there are others that are very common (García, Martín, González, López ...). Using both surnames makes confusing two people pretty much impossible.

The funny thing is when people end up being recognized by their 2nd surname because the 1st one is pretty common.