Question of the sexes

[Malthus]

 

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[mongers]

I dont understand the question.

This is The correct Languish response. 

MiM you should really have taken her response as an opportunity to question the definitions of the words she was using, then you could have got a semantic win and ended up feeling much better about yourself.

[mongers]

Yeah, Vikes you basically got the crux of my query in hand there.


Okay, so following the bleeding obvious question of have you asked her..

(Which I should have done first). I asked her.

Answer was that essentially, she responded much as I would have, the two of us having similar personality types. She said she was supportive though she didn't know what to say to express it. This, I believe.

On the other hand, I also think that it wasn't necessarily the correct move to bare everything. We've been married nearly 15 years. This was not an -OMG MIM is so sensitive I want to bone him- moment. It was more of a -MIM is sensitive and I put up with that even though it turns me off- sort of thing. She said she's been trying to think of ways to help me out ever since. She seems to genuinely want to support me however she can. I've always been the strong one here.

I don't mind being vulnerable, but I don't want to wreck the magic by going too far and abandoning my manhood. I think maybe there is a level of mystery that must be maintained for the sake of romance, but I wouldn't bet the farm on it. It depends on the girl, obviously. That I'm still figuring this out says I got married way too early in life and lucked the fuck out. 

Don't interpret this as anything serious that my relationship hinges on. It's not that big a deal. I just thought I should probably fine-tune my mojo a bit. I'm overthinking.

More seriously, doesn't sound like coolness, more like miscommunication, as this was the first instance, I wouldn't base much if anything on it, at another time and situation you'll both probably react more in sync. 

Yes you're over-thinking this, like me and probably the majority of languishites would, that's why we're here.