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Started by MadImmortalMan, June 16, 2011, 05:17:41 PM

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MadImmortalMan

 :lol: Oh, this is gonna be good.



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'Obedient Wives Club' blames social ills on women who aren't 'good sex workers to their husbands'

Earlier this month, a controversial new club launched in Malaysia. Dubbed The Obedient Wives Club, the 800 or so members are certain that they've found the key to a long and happy marriage: Obey your husband without question, and cater to his every sexual whim.

"Disobedient wives are the cause for upheaval in this world," the club's vice president and co-founder, Dr. Rohayah Mohamad, told told the Associated Press. She blames the country's rising divorce rate—as well as incidents of prostitution, rape, and even incest—on wives who have neglected to keep their husbands satisfied in bed.

"When husbands come home, wives do not welcome their husbands with warm alluring smiles and sexy dressing ... That is the reality today," she said. "A good wife is a good sex worker to her husband."

The Obedient Wives Club is the creation of Global Ikhwan, a religious group founded by former members of Al-Argam, a sect that was outlawed in 1994 for straying too far from the tenets of Islam. In 2009, Global Ikhwan caused an uproar when it set up a polygamy club that "encourages husbands to take more than one wife to satisfy their masculine desires," The Malay Mail newspaper reported. Most of the members of the Obedient Wives Club are also members of Al-Argam.

Last week, a representative of the Malaysian Prime Minister said that the club was deliberately creating controversy to gain publicity and more members.

"My guess is that the group is conducted by their husbands and they might be sending the wrong message to wives on what constitutes obedience to a husband," Dr. Masitah Ibrahim told the Malay Mail. " She says she is concerned about the club because the term "obedient" can be used to manipulate women.  "For example, a husband can use the term to ask his first wife to seek the hand of another woman to be his second wife, and that if she doesn't do it, she is regarded a disobedient wife. It will be a husband's weapon to manipulate the situation," she said.

The club, which was first formed in Jordan on May 1 and established in Malaysia on June 4, has sparked outrage among women the world over. Even so, new branches are planned around the globe; a chapter in Indonesia opens later this week, and clubs are planned for parts of Europe later this year. There is no official group in the U.S. so far, but some say its principals are similar to the movement founded in 2001 by Laura Doyle with the publication of her book, "The Surrendered Wife."

In her book, Doyle says that "The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage" and promises marital happiness and peace as long as women "Give up unnecessary control and responsibility" and "Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage, from sexual to financial."

But there is a key difference: While the advice in "The Surrendered Wife" hinges on trust and self improvement ("I am not saying that you are responsible for every problem in your marriage," Doyle writes in her book. "You are not. Your husband has plenty of areas he could improve, too, but that's nothing you can control. You can't make him change, you can only change yourself") the Obedient Wives Club seems to hold women responsible for every social and marital problem in existence.

"The club preaches that the key to a successful and happy marriage is something other than an equal partnership," said Melissa Dowler of The Long Haul Project, a documentary she and her husband, Tom, are working on about the state of modern marriage. "They claim that the world would be a better place if women were to subjugate themselves emotionally and sexually to their husbands. We couldn't disagree more with this concept or their implication that strong, empowered women are responsible for the world's ills."

"This group sets women, and the institution of marriage, back decades if not centuries," Dowler added.

What do you think? Is it fair to blame society's problems on "disobedient wives," or is the club using "obedience" as a way to manipulate women?

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/obedient-wives-club-blames-social-ills-on-women-who-arent-good-sex-workers-to-their-husbands-2496424/




"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

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CountDeMoney

Blow jobs die at the altar.  That's a motherfucking fact.

MadImmortalMan

Quote from: CountDeMoney on June 16, 2011, 05:18:43 PM
Blow jobs die at the altar.  That's a motherfucking fact.

Don't forget: "The most effective libido-suppressant for women is wedding cake."
"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

"Complacency can be a self-denying prophecy."
"We have nothing to fear but lack of fear itself." --Larry Summers

Razgovory

Quote from: CountDeMoney on June 16, 2011, 05:18:43 PM
Blow jobs die at the altar.  That's a motherfucking fact.

When did you get married?
I've given it serious thought. I must scorn the ways of my family, and seek a Japanese woman to yield me my progeny. He shall live in the lands of the east, and be well tutored in his sacred trust to weave the best traditions of Japan and the Sacred South together, until such time as he (or, indeed his house, which will periodically require infusion of both Southern and Japanese bloodlines of note) can deliver to the South it's independence, either in this world or in space.  -Lettow April of 2011

Raz is right. -MadImmortalMan March of 2017

CountDeMoney

Quote from: Razgovory on June 16, 2011, 05:21:01 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on June 16, 2011, 05:18:43 PM
Blow jobs die at the altar.  That's a motherfucking fact.

When did you get married?

I've seen far too many men felled in battle.  I mourn the dead.

Neil

Quote from: CountDeMoney on June 16, 2011, 05:18:43 PM
Blow jobs die at the altar.  That's a motherfucking fact.
Nyuh-uh.
I do not hate you, nor do I love you, but you are made out of atoms which I can use for something else.

CountDeMoney


Zeus

Quote from: MadImmortalMan on June 16, 2011, 05:17:41 PM
Obey your husband without question, and cater to his every sexual whim.

I can dig it.
To be cunning and vicious is a fairly obvious shortcut to total victory.

MadImmortalMan

Shortly after I got married, my wife made an offhand comment along the lines of "sex is fun, but it's not necessary for a healthy relationship". I had to nuke that from orbit. Repeatedly. Just to be sure. Religious upbringing is the relationship-killer.


Edit: Which is ironic given the OP.  :lol:
"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

"Complacency can be a self-denying prophecy."
"We have nothing to fear but lack of fear itself." --Larry Summers

Ed Anger

Stay Alive...Let the Man Drive

Neil

I do not hate you, nor do I love you, but you are made out of atoms which I can use for something else.

CountDeMoney

Quote from: MadImmortalMan on June 16, 2011, 05:29:06 PM
Shortly after I got married, my wife made an offhand comment along the lines of "sex is fun, but it's not necessary for a healthy relationship".

Dude, that's the sort of shit that needs to be vetted before the wedding.

MadImmortalMan

Quote from: CountDeMoney on June 16, 2011, 05:37:57 PM
Quote from: MadImmortalMan on June 16, 2011, 05:29:06 PM
Shortly after I got married, my wife made an offhand comment along the lines of "sex is fun, but it's not necessary for a healthy relationship".

Dude, that's the sort of shit that needs to be vetted before the wedding.

I know! I could have made a huge mistake. Although, such a thing has GOT to be incredibly solid grounds for annulment. Right? That's, like, breaking the first vow. To love.   :P


Luckily, it got sorted.
"Stability is destabilizing." --Hyman Minsky

"Complacency can be a self-denying prophecy."
"We have nothing to fear but lack of fear itself." --Larry Summers

Scipio

Luckily, my wife didn't eat any wedding cake.
What I speak out of my mouth is the truth.  It burns like fire.
-Jose Canseco

There you go, giving a fuck when it ain't your turn to give a fuck.
-Every cop, The Wire

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-John Hurt

Caliga

Quote from: Scipio on June 16, 2011, 06:00:50 PM
Luckily, my wife didn't eat any wedding cake.
Same here, and neither did I.  GODDAMN GREEDY HILLBILLIES. :ultra:
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