Porn induced erectile dysfunction

[Barrister]

(ie loving and tender).

should sex be loving and tender?

Yes.

[LaCroix]

i guess it depends on how you view sex.

[Ideologue]

I'd say "with a romantic partner, usually yes, or at least that should be a major element of it."

With a merely friendly partner, yeah, sure, what's the harm?  You might not know them well enough to slap them around.

[Ed Anger]

Sex should be dirty and sweaty. With a hint of shame.

[LaCroix]

I'd say "with a romantic partner, usually yes, or at least that should be a major element of it."

[Ideologue]

Sex should be dirty and sweaty. With a hint of shame.

Sheilbh read that as "a hint of Michael Fassbender."

[Ideologue]

I'd say "with a romantic partner, usually yes, or at least that should be a major element of it."

[Ed Anger]

Sex should be dirty and sweaty. With a hint of shame.

Sheilbh read that as "a hint of Michael Fassbender."

And a Cumberbatch.

[garbon]

Sex should be dirty and sweaty. With a hint of shame.

Sheilbh read that as "a hint of Michael Fassbender."

And a Cumberbatch.

KNOT HAWT

[Ideologue]

Porn gives you the encumbered batch.

[Ideologue]

Also, garbon: THANK YOU.

That guy looks like a Jewish Grey.

[MadImmortalMan]

(ie loving and tender).

should sex be loving and tender?

Yes.

Not always. Ask your wife.

[Jacob]

But unless you haven't looked into it--and there's no reason for you to have, I guess--the vast, vast majority of porn is regular old sex jazzed up with a cinematic presentation.  Or at least the same kind of sex I've had with pretty much every partner I've ever had.  (Only one had an objection to facials, but did swallow.)

I think your liking of facials are a good indication of how porn has influenced sex, since they're pretty much the definition of an porn-like act performed for the camera. That you have developed such an attachment to that act is, I'd wager, down to your consumption of porn.

Now, I'm not saying it's particularly unhealthy, but it's a good illustration of how that influences how people approach sex.

I don't think that it's beyond the pale to assume that other acts and the general attitudes shown in porn also influences attitudes, especially in young people (and I believe a few people in this thread have said studies support that assumption).

Also, I think your assertion that most porn is "just two people fucking" is a little blithe - you've got all kinds of racial fetishization, all kinds of dominance and submission, all kinds of humiliation porn, all kinds of class and race conflicts, hints at inappropriate ages etc etc.

It's not that any given one of those types of porn are inherently "bad" - what consenting adults get off to is their business, as are their fantasies - but the aggregate of all this stuff nonetheless creates the illusion that there are all these hot chicks out there just gagging for your cock exactly the way that gets you off.

I wouldn't be surprised if the rise of the MRA, incels, red pill, PUA and other assorted masculinist losers is at least partially down to the prevalence of porn - their view of women and sex seems pretty consistent with the way they're depicted in porn these days at least.

[Jacob]

Yeah, I'd say like 50%.  I count that as normal DS.

50% of chicks like to be choked?

Do you mean, a hand placed near the throat or do you mean actually restricting airflow?

[Jacob]

If I'd had regular access to porn at that age, it's possible I wouldn't be as fucked up as I am.  Certainly, if I'd had regular sex in high school, I'd be president by now.  And I'm only 32.  That's the difference it would have made.

I think this is another example of how porn fucks people up. Lots and lots of people don't have sex in high school.