What I Learned From Gay Sex: Misogyny and Homophobia

[garbon]

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

I've no idea. I don't know who goes in for twinks...though I don't think they generally are counted as femmes...

[Josquius]

I think it makes an interesting point about pervasive misogyny, even though that's something of an aside.

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

I want to go with hot tall girls with big boobies. Doesn't mean I get them.

[Eddie Teach]

I think it makes an interesting point about pervasive misogyny, even though that's something of an aside.

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

If you were gay, you'd want different traits than you do now. It's kinda in the definition of gay. It's not like a straight guy who's got a gun to his head and told to fuck dudes.

However, if gays are anything like the lesbians on the L Word, you may have a point. The androgynous Shane was a mac daddy while the much hotter Jenny had more struggles. 

[Ideologue]

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

I've no idea. I don't know who goes in for twinks...though I don't think they generally are counted as femmes...

There are other kinds of twinks than full-on femme twinks, but as I understand the usage all twinks are a little femmy by definition by body structure and appearance.

[Eddie Teach]

As I understand the usage, twinks are overpowered and fun to play, but take no skill.

[Martinus]

Doesn't it stand to reason that if a man is interested in men he will be interested in men fit the image of what an attractive man is? This of course doesn't mean effeminette.

Of course, different people have different types, but even girls who are into more flowery and emotional sorts of guys tend to like some 'manliness'.

Yes.

[Martinus]

I think it makes an interesting point about pervasive misogyny, even though that's something of an aside.

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

Twinks and fems are different things.

Twinks are masculine, but boyish/young. Bears/muscle daddies are masculine, but older. Neither are the same as effeminate.

[Martinus]

I think it makes an interesting point about pervasive misogyny, even though that's something of an aside.

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

If you were gay, you'd want different traits than you do now. It's kinda in the definition of gay. It's not like a straight guy who's got a gun to his head and told to fuck dudes.

However, if gays are anything like the lesbians on the L Word, you may have a point. The androgynous Shane was a mac daddy while the much hotter Jenny had more struggles. 

I think it differs from a person to a person but I always said that if I wanted to have sex with something that looks like a woman, acts like a woman and talks like a woman I'd be straight.

[Josquius]

Wonder if there's more of a preference from bi guys for the more feminine men

[garbon]

I think it makes an interesting point about pervasive misogyny, even though that's something of an aside.

Nevertheless, I'm not sure I buy that there is this critical mass of gay men who demand non-femmy partners.  If that were the case, how are all the shockingly twinky gay men I've met getting laid?  I mean, I can practically guarantee that if I were gay, I'd probably still want to fuck skinny people that were shorter than me.

If you were gay, you'd want different traits than you do now. It's kinda in the definition of gay. It's not like a straight guy who's got a gun to his head and told to fuck dudes.

However, if gays are anything like the lesbians on the L Word, you may have a point. The androgynous Shane was a mac daddy while the much hotter Jenny had more struggles. 

I think it differs from a person to a person but I always said that if I wanted to have sex with something that looks like a woman, acts like a woman and talks like a woman I'd be straight.

Ah so I guess you don't take issue with the homophobia as you project it everyday.

[Valmy]

That, though, allows much more opportunity for one to be pleasantly surprised.

Not really.  If you have an open mind, you have an open mind.  People create their own opportunities.

[Valmy]

According the signs I see around campus we are up to LGBTQIA (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transexual Queer Intersex Asexual) if you are scoring at home....or even if you are by yourself.  Yes fight for the right to be Asexual.

[Lettow77]

 Oh, yeah. For sure- I think y'all are an older set and so out of touch with what the tumblr hambeast crowd has to say, but that's very common there, and they are largely the face of college..stuff. I know a few folks who identify as asexuals and are quite vigorous about the right to be so. (an accompanying issue is wishing there were no third person gendered pronouns, so an unjust identity could not be projected upon you.)

[Valmy]

I know a few folks who identify as asexuals and are quite vigorous about the right to be so.

Interesting.  What are their demands?

[garbon]

According the signs I see around campus we are up to LGBTQIA (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transexual Queer Intersex Asexual) if you are scoring at home....or even if you are by yourself.

Which is absurd. Such an umbrella really can't stand for anything or hope that it's diverse membership will really see eye to eye on issues.