Would you consider your spouse getting fat a good reason for divorce?

[garbon]

Also this line strikes me as a bit off:
"my fat was part of the package, not something that could (or should) be changed."

[Barrister]

I don't actually see her addressing watching what she eats.

True.  I assumed it with the "we both get plenty of exercise", plus the fact she doesn't seemed to have gained any significant amount of weight either.

[crazy canuck]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

[Barrister]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

[Valmy]

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

He went through law school so....

[frunk]

Taken the other way, I'd rather be married to someone who was slightly overweight rather than thin and constantly obsessed with staying that way.  That just strikes me as being far too narcissistic.

[crazy canuck]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

?

[crazy canuck]

Taken the other way, I'd rather be married to someone who was slightly overweight rather than thin and constantly obsessed with staying that way.  That just strikes me as being far too narcissistic.

Why do you think fit peope constantly obsess about staying thin rather than simply having a healthy lifestyle of eating properly and exercising.

Granted that isnt the norm anymore so people that dont eat junkfood and do exercise might seem a bit odd.

[Barrister]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

?

I thought that would be a fairly well-known myth...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sisyphus

[garbon]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

?

I think he's going with her suggestion that weight loss was pointless as she always gained back more.

[frunk]

Taken the other way, I'd rather be married to someone who was slightly overweight rather than thin and constantly obsessed with staying that way.  That just strikes me as being far too narcissistic.

Why do you think fit peope constantly obsess about staying thin rather than simply having a healthy lifestyle of eating properly and exercising.

I'm not necessarily referring to fit people who have a normal exercise routine and eat healthily.  I mean people whose only topic of conversation is their weight and what they are doing about it.  The issue isn't their weight or fitness but their ability to hold an interesting conversation.  I'm just not that interested in their personal body maintenance.

[crazy canuck]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

?

I thought that would be a fairly well-known myth...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sisyphus

It is but I have no idea why you are mentioning it based on my post.

Are you implying trying to be fit is hopeless?

[Legbiter]

Finally read the article. Painful.

"Fat acceptance" is just....wow.

[Barrister]

It's really no different from any other form of self-harm: "honey, I can't stop my drinking, you will just have to love a drunk". That's different from "honey, I have a drinking problem. Please work with me on this". Same with obesity. Only, obesity is often even harder to deal with, as one *can* just give up drinking but just giving up eating is impossibe.

Agreed. 

The article in the OP seems to indicate a woman who just gave up.  That personality trait is something I would have trouble dealing with.

So Sisyphus is a role-model to you?

?

I thought that would be a fairly well-known myth...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sisyphus

It is but I have no idea why you are mentioning it based on my post.

Are you implying trying to be fit is hopeless?

Fit?  Absolutely not.

But then again you can be fit and healthy and still have excess fat.

For some people trying to be skinny is hopeless (absent absolutely herculean sub-1000 calorie permanent diets).

[derspiess]

Sorry Beeb, I agree with you on most things but you're just going to have to admit you're wrong here

For people who "just can't seem to lose weight" (aka people who take big portions & snack a lot, then lie to themselves about it), there's always weight-loss surgery to help them along.