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Title: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:24:34 PM
How did you propose or get proposed to?
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Tamas on January 29, 2013, 03:27:01 PM
 :ph34r:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:41:51 PM
Well I don't qualify for either but I did get proposed to a few times by someone. Sadly, although perhaps in line with my no, I can't remember the actual circumstances of any. :blush:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 03:42:56 PM
Never been close, but I've seen it happen a lot on TV.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:44:04 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 03:42:56 PM
Never been close, but I've seen it happen a lot on TV.

:hug:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:47:18 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 03:42:56 PM
Never been close, but I've seen it happen a lot on TV.

You've never even been close? That actually surprises me.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:47:40 PM
Quote from: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:41:51 PM
Well I don't qualify for either but I did get proposed to a few times by someone. Sadly, although perhaps in line with my no, I can't remember the actual circumstances of any. :blush:

Drunken proposals count. :hug:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:55:22 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:47:40 PM
Quote from: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:41:51 PM
Well I don't qualify for either but I did get proposed to a few times by someone. Sadly, although perhaps in line with my no, I can't remember the actual circumstances of any. :blush:

Drunken proposals count. :hug:

Actually the sad thing is I don't actually think any of them were made while drunk either. I think my memory is just hazy from that period of depression. Poorly formed memories?
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:59:59 PM
Quote from: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:55:22 PM
Actually the sad thing is I don't actually think any of them were made while drunk either. I think my memory is just hazy from that period of depression. Poorly formed memories?

I think it's sweet that someone wanted to marry you while you were going through such a hard time. Not everyone would be so understanding. Was it a long-term relationship?
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Darth Wagtaros on January 29, 2013, 04:05:43 PM
I said we should get married and she agreed.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Eddie Teach on January 29, 2013, 04:09:36 PM
Quote from: Darth Wagtaros on January 29, 2013, 04:05:43 PM
I said we should get married and she agreed.

How womantic. /swoon
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 04:15:30 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:47:18 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 03:42:56 PM
Never been close, but I've seen it happen a lot on TV.

You've never even been close? That actually surprises me.

Nope.  Anybody that I had ever even considered marrying went off and married somebody else.   :lol:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: DGuller on January 29, 2013, 04:27:05 PM
When that time comes, my plan is to invite her on a date to do the taxes, and then mention offhand how much money we would save if we were married.  Hopefully she'll get the hint.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 04:31:50 PM
Quote from: DGuller on January 29, 2013, 04:27:05 PM
When that time comes, my plan is to invite her on a date to do the taxes, and then mention offhand how much money we would save if we were married.  Hopefully she'll get the hint.

:lol:

Enjoy eternal bachelorhood. :hug:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Eddie Teach on January 29, 2013, 04:35:43 PM
Only an accountant would consider doing taxes a fun date idea.  :P
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: garbon on January 29, 2013, 04:40:47 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:59:59 PM
Quote from: garbon on January 29, 2013, 03:55:22 PM
Actually the sad thing is I don't actually think any of them were made while drunk either. I think my memory is just hazy from that period of depression. Poorly formed memories?

I think it's sweet that someone wanted to marry you while you were going through such a hard time. Not everyone would be so understanding. Was it a long-term relationship?

I think that's a rather nice Mom sort of response. :D

No, though perhaps in total hours of interaction as I recall for a period of several months we virtually lived together. Lethargy is good for that. :D -_-
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 04:40:55 PM
I paused Men In Black to propose.  The conversation was just going in that direction.  It was probably the least romantic proposal in history-- and I got away with it :D
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 04:46:36 PM
Quote from: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 04:40:55 PM
I paused Men In Black to propose.  The conversation was just going in that direction.  It was probably the least romantic proposal in history-- and I got away with it :D

No, I think DG has you on that one. :lol:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Barrister on January 29, 2013, 04:53:59 PM
It can't have been a total surprise because it's not as if we hadn't talked about getting married at some point.  I knew, for example, that she did not want to go ring shopping, so I had to go out and pick one up.

I had finally gotten the ring (which meant driving 2 hours into edmonton).  We lived in separate towns just over an hour apart.  I had kept missing opportunities to meet her and give it to her.  So, one day I drove down to her house and let myself in.  I brought 100 or so tea lights and set them up all throughout the living room.

She was going to take a job in the town I was in, so we had talked just a night or two before about how she would live at my place.  She said something about how it would just be like we were room mates.

So when she came home, she didn't quite get what all the candles were for.  I got down on one knee and said I didn't want to be just room mates, and would she marry me instead.

I forgot to actually get the ring out at first, but she said yes, we kissed, and then I said "but I haven't even shown you the ring!".
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: garbon on January 29, 2013, 04:59:03 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 04:46:36 PM
Quote from: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 04:40:55 PM
I paused Men In Black to propose.  The conversation was just going in that direction.  It was probably the least romantic proposal in history-- and I got away with it :D

No, I think DG has you on that one. :lol:

Well Der's has happened. :P
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:01:14 PM
Quote from: Barrister on January 29, 2013, 04:53:59 PM
It can't have been a total surprise because it's not as if we hadn't talked about getting married at some point.  I knew, for example, that she did not want to go ring shopping, so I had to go out and pick one up.

I had finally gotten the ring (which meant driving 2 hours into edmonton).  We lived in separate towns just over an hour apart.  I had kept missing opportunities to meet her and give it to her.  So, one day I drove down to her house and let myself in.  I brought 100 or so tea lights and set them up all throughout the living room.

She was going to take a job in the town I was in, so we had talked just a night or two before about how she would live at my place.  She said something about how it would just be like we were room mates.

So when she came home, she didn't quite get what all the candles were for.  I got down on one knee and said I didn't want to be just room mates, and would she marry me instead.

I forgot to actually get the ring out at first, but she said yes, we kissed, and then I said "but I haven't even shown you the ring!".

Okay, that's adorable. Well done, BB. :hug:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:01:50 PM
Quote from: garbon on January 29, 2013, 04:59:03 PM

Well Der's has happened. :P

True.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: PDH on January 29, 2013, 05:07:22 PM
I really don't want to remember.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: mongers on January 29, 2013, 05:09:56 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:01:14 PM
Quote from: Barrister on January 29, 2013, 04:53:59 PM
It can't have been a total surprise because it's not as if we hadn't talked about getting married at some point.  I knew, for example, that she did not want to go ring shopping, so I had to go out and pick one up.

I had finally gotten the ring (which meant driving 2 hours into edmonton).  We lived in separate towns just over an hour apart.  I had kept missing opportunities to meet her and give it to her.  So, one day I drove down to her house and let myself in.  I brought 100 or so tea lights and set them up all throughout the living room.

She was going to take a job in the town I was in, so we had talked just a night or two before about how she would live at my place.  She said something about how it would just be like we were room mates.

So when she came home, she didn't quite get what all the candles were for.  I got down on one knee and said I didn't want to be just room mates, and would she marry me instead.

I forgot to actually get the ring out at first, but she said yes, we kissed, and then I said "but I haven't even shown you the ring!".

Okay, that's adorable. Well done, BB. :hug:

He didn't mention having to call the fire brigade because the candles set fire to the drapes, and then she had no option but to move in, whilst her house was renovated.   :P
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 05:12:35 PM
My brother & I both lucked out when it came to rings.  His in-laws had bought the diamonds ages ago for both their daughters' rings, so all he had to do was have it set.  I proposed to my wife without a ring because I knew she would want to wear her grandmother's engagement ring more than anything I would have picked out.

My other brother had to buy a ring but his marriage only lasted 2 or 3 years so it almost doesn't count.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:16:44 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:24:34 PM
How did you propose or get proposed to?

I took her for a nice walk in Stanely Park on a sunny summer day.  Stopped in the middle of the rose garden, got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. 
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: mongers on January 29, 2013, 05:20:01 PM
Quote from: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:16:44 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:24:34 PM
How did you propose or get proposed to?

I took her for a nice walk in Stanely Park on a sunny summer day.  Stopped in the middle of the rose garden, got down on one knee and asked her to marry me.

That must have been the first time you'd seen eye to eye on anything.  :P


:cheers:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:21:38 PM
Quote from: mongers on January 29, 2013, 05:20:01 PM
Quote from: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:16:44 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 03:24:34 PM
How did you propose or get proposed to?

I took her for a nice walk in Stanely Park on a sunny summer day.  Stopped in the middle of the rose garden, got down on one knee and asked her to marry me.

That must have been the first time you'd seen eye to eye on anything.  :P


:cheers:

:lol:

Well done, CC. :cheers:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:22:30 PM
I have to say that the traditionalist in me thinks it's very sweet that many of you guys went down on one knee, though I've never understood the significance of doing so. What is it meant to represent?
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Admiral Yi on January 29, 2013, 05:23:13 PM
Courtly romantic love.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 05:23:25 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:22:30 PM
I have to say that the traditionalist in me thinks it's very sweet that many of you guys went down on one knee, though I've never understood the significance of doing so. What is it meant to represent?

It's a pretense of humbling yourself before her.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: PDH on January 29, 2013, 05:24:32 PM
It is genuflecting.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:25:58 PM
Quote from: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 05:23:25 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:22:30 PM
I have to say that the traditionalist in me thinks it's very sweet that many of you guys went down on one knee, though I've never understood the significance of doing so. What is it meant to represent?

It's a pretense of humbling yourself before her.

OK Mr. pausealot, you couldnt even bother with the pretense.

But as every man who stays married for long knows - happy wife happy life.  So if it really is just a pretense to you, have fun with your misery.  You deserve it.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:29:18 PM
Quote from: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:25:58 PM

But as every man who stays married for long knows - happy wife happy life. 

As Max can attest, I hate this saying. (It's an HGTV staple that usually means, "Whatever she wants, she gets. My opinion isn't as important as hers is." Drives me nuts.)

I mean, I get what it's trying to convey, but shouldn't be happy couple happy life? I know, not as poetic, but there doesn't appear to be anything that says that the husband should be happy, too.

Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: garbon on January 29, 2013, 05:31:33 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:29:18 PM
I mean, I get what it's trying to convey, but shouldn't be happy couple happy life? I know, not as poetic, but there doesn't appear to be anything that says that the husband should be happy, too.

I'd like "Single person, no kids, happy life" :D
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:32:55 PM
Quote from: garbon on January 29, 2013, 05:31:33 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:29:18 PM
I mean, I get what it's trying to convey, but shouldn't be happy couple happy life? I know, not as poetic, but there doesn't appear to be anything that says that the husband should be happy, too.

I'd like "Single person, no kids, happy life" :D

:lol:

Okay, you got it.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:37:51 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 05:29:18 PM
Quote from: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:25:58 PM

But as every man who stays married for long knows - happy wife happy life. 

As Max can attest, I hate this saying. (It's an HGTV staple that usually means, "Whatever she wants, she gets. My opinion isn't as important as hers is." Drives me nuts.)

I mean, I get what it's trying to convey, but shouldn't be happy couple happy life? I know, not as poetic, but there doesn't appear to be anything that says that the husband should be happy, too.

Happy couple for life would be a nice concept but how is a couple happy?  Its when the wife is happy. 
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Berkut on January 29, 2013, 05:45:20 PM
It was my turn to cook dinner and I proposed that rather than making me cook dinner, we go buy an engagement ring instead.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: derspiess on January 29, 2013, 05:47:04 PM
Quote from: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 05:25:58 PM
OK Mr. pausealot, you couldnt even bother with the pretense.

But as every man who stays married for long knows - happy wife happy life.  So if it really is just a pretense to you, have fun with your misery.  You deserve it.

What makes you think I'm miserable?  My wife is happy.  I'm happy.  And all somehow in spite of me not dropping to one knee :o
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 06:10:22 PM
Quote from: Berkut on January 29, 2013, 05:45:20 PM
It was my turn to cook dinner and I proposed that rather than making me cook dinner, we go buy an engagement ring instead.

Well, that's one way to get out of cooking. :D
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Ed Anger on January 29, 2013, 06:12:53 PM
Proposed in hospital ER room, post miscarriage.

Totally romantic.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 06:26:18 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on January 29, 2013, 06:12:53 PM
Proposed in hospital ER room, post miscarriage.

Totally romantic.

Oh, Ed. I'm sorry. :(
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: crazy canuck on January 29, 2013, 06:37:44 PM
Quote from: Berkut on January 29, 2013, 05:45:20 PM
It was my turn to cook dinner and I proposed that rather than making me cook dinner, we go buy an engagement ring instead.

:lol:

Anything to get out of household chores!
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Caliga on January 29, 2013, 06:58:47 PM
I am extremely risk averse so I asked her repeatedly if she would say yes over a year long span just to make sure I would succeed. :cool:

When I decided to finally do it, I took her up to Rockport and we bought the engagement ring together because I wanted to make sure I'd get her something she would like.

I then asked her to marry me at this famous vista:
(https://languish.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fupload.wikimedia.org%2Fwikipedia%2Fcommons%2Fthumb%2Fa%2Fa0%2FMotif_Number_One.tif%2Flossy-page1-730px-Motif_Number_One.tif.jpg&hash=e6b66a8fae673e4ac138153c69658b497be4c53f)
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: mongers on January 29, 2013, 07:31:45 PM
Jaws ? :unsure:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 08:43:31 PM
"You're gonna need a bigger ring."
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: MadBurgerMaker on January 29, 2013, 08:59:55 PM
I got down on one knee on a beach somewhere to the east of Pensacola and presented her with a printed out copy of the BAH pay table.  :)
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 09:01:34 PM
Quote from: MadBurgerMaker on January 29, 2013, 08:59:55 PM
I got down on one knee on a beach somewhere to the east of Pensacola and presented her with a printed out copy of the BAH pay table.  :)

The what? :huh:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Ed Anger on January 29, 2013, 09:05:10 PM
Who did a pre-nup? I DID.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: PDH on January 29, 2013, 09:05:50 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 09:01:34 PM
The what? :huh:

Don't be a Tim.  Google it if you don't know.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: PDH on January 29, 2013, 09:06:53 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on January 29, 2013, 09:05:10 PM
Who did a pre-nup? I DID.

There were no nups when I got married at 26.  Oddly enough, there weren't after I got divorced either.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: katmai on January 29, 2013, 09:07:00 PM
Quote from: PDH on January 29, 2013, 09:05:50 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 09:01:34 PM
The what? :huh:

Don't be a Tim. 
Is there any crueler insult in this world?
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: MadBurgerMaker on January 29, 2013, 09:07:05 PM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 09:01:34 PM
The what? :huh:

http://www.military.com/benefits/military-pay/basic-allowance-for-housing?comp=7000023431425&rank=1

It was actually a ring ( ;)), but the idea was first floated between us as a way to scam the government make more money.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Caliga on January 29, 2013, 09:17:00 PM
Quote from: CountDeMoney on January 29, 2013, 08:43:31 PM
"You're gonna need a bigger ring."
:rolleyes:

Troglodytes.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: MadImmortalMan on January 29, 2013, 09:37:00 PM
I said hey I'm moving to Texas. Wanna come?


Edit: Then I moved and left her there.  :P

Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Ed Anger on January 29, 2013, 09:39:25 PM
My bride got to wipe my ass for nine months as a present. I am so sentimental.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: lustindarkness on January 29, 2013, 11:16:20 PM
She is still waiting for me to propose. :D I told her she would dump her boyfriend and marry me. I bought her the ring and put it on display on my dresser, told her she could put it on whenever she was ready. She dumped the boyfriend, moved in with me and 6 months later we were married. :wub:








16 years happily married. I've been happy, she's been married.  :lol:
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Martinus on January 30, 2013, 01:58:22 AM
Quote from: merithyn on January 29, 2013, 04:31:50 PM
Quote from: DGuller on January 29, 2013, 04:27:05 PM
When that time comes, my plan is to invite her on a date to do the taxes, and then mention offhand how much money we would save if we were married.  Hopefully she'll get the hint.

:lol:

Enjoy eternal bachelorhood. :hug:

Enjoy eternal poverty.  :P
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Syt on January 30, 2013, 03:33:06 AM
Quote from: DGuller on January 29, 2013, 04:27:05 PM
When that time comes, my plan is to invite her on a date to do the taxes, and then mention offhand how much money we would save if we were married.  Hopefully she'll get the hint.

It's basically how my Scottish co-worker and his girlfriend have come to the conclusion to get married, after all (that and inheritance laws). They've been together for 10 years now and hadn't intended to get married, ever.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Brazen on January 30, 2013, 04:30:42 AM
It accidentally slipped out at a company Christmas do when he was very, very drunk. His colleague overheard and made him get down on one knee and make me a ring using the foil from a beer bottle. He was sick on the way home.

The next day I assumed he was too drunk to mean it and he couldn't remember what my answer was so we didn't mention it!
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Josquius on January 30, 2013, 04:37:42 AM
At new years my oldest friend was getting some major shit thrown his way by the other men. He proposed to his girlfriend in a super cheezy way, taking her to a hotel in the countryside, building a path to the bed covered in fake rose petals and all that jazz.

If/when I do it suffice to say it will be largely a business decision.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: dps on January 30, 2013, 05:51:13 AM
Quote from: Tyr on January 30, 2013, 04:37:42 AM
At new years my oldest friend was getting some major shit thrown his way by the other men. He proposed to his girlfriend in a super cheezy way, taking her to a hotel in the countryside, building a path to the bed covered in fake rose petals and all that jazz.

If/when I do it suffice to say it will be largely a business decision.

Ah, so you're gonna buy a mail-order bride.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Martinus on January 30, 2013, 06:30:59 AM
Quote from: Brazen on January 30, 2013, 04:30:42 AM
It accidentally slipped out at a company Christmas do when he was very, very drunk. His colleague overheard and made him get down on one knee and make me a ring using the foil from a beer bottle. He was sick on the way home.

The next day I assumed he was too drunk to mean it and he couldn't remember what my answer was so we didn't mention it!
How British.
Title: Re: To the married folk (or previously married)
Post by: Josquius on January 30, 2013, 07:37:08 AM
Quote from: dps on January 30, 2013, 05:51:13 AM
Quote from: Tyr on January 30, 2013, 04:37:42 AM
At new years my oldest friend was getting some major shit thrown his way by the other men. He proposed to his girlfriend in a super cheezy way, taking her to a hotel in the countryside, building a path to the bed covered in fake rose petals and all that jazz.

If/when I do it suffice to say it will be largely a business decision.

Ah, so you're gonna buy a mail-order bride.
Maybe if I misjudge how long I have left to find someone good and don't settle on someone alright in time.
But I mean it'll probally be for visa reasons.