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Title: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Martinus on September 23, 2011, 04:15:26 PM
I was looking for an old friend of mine on Facebook, but he is not there apparently (he is an old friend from school - we were good friends until we both went to college, then we went opposite ways). However, I found him on google, in a profile of his company, listing his job position and job e-mail address.

Would it be stalkerish/weird if I sent him an e-mail to that address, saying hi and whether he would like to go out for a coffee?

I feel like it would be, but maybe I'm over-sensitive.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Barrister on September 23, 2011, 04:18:30 PM
Not at all!
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: szmik on September 23, 2011, 04:19:03 PM
I'd go for it, worst thing he might ignore you   <_<
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Habsburg on September 23, 2011, 04:21:18 PM
Not to his office.

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Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Ed Anger on September 23, 2011, 04:36:04 PM
 :lol:

I like animated gif Habsy.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: crazy canuck on September 23, 2011, 04:37:17 PM
Quote from: Martinus on September 23, 2011, 04:15:26 PM
Would it be stalkerish/weird if I sent him an e-mail to that address, saying hi and whether he would like to go out for a coffee?

If you sent emails with the same frequency you have started threads lately then yes certainly.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Admiral Yi on September 23, 2011, 05:24:42 PM
Sounds OK to me.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Viking on September 23, 2011, 06:44:17 PM
if he defriended you then you can send a FACEBOOK message asking to renew the contact. If there has been no defriending or other breach of contact sending an email is suitable. However, if he declines to reply you have to leave well enough alone.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: sbr on September 23, 2011, 07:05:57 PM
Quote from: Viking on September 23, 2011, 06:44:17 PM
if he defriended you then you can send a FACEBOOK message asking to renew the contact. If there has been no defriending or other breach of contact sending an email is suitable. However, if he declines to reply you have to leave well enough alone.

Quote from: Martinus on September 23, 2011, 04:15:26 PM
I was looking for an old friend of mine on Facebook, but he is not there apparently

:huh:
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Caliga on September 23, 2011, 07:44:36 PM
Mart: I think it'd be ok.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Habsburg on September 23, 2011, 08:53:39 PM
People need to work at work, not get personal e-mails from stalkers.

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Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: The Brain on September 24, 2011, 01:52:30 AM
It's OK.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Richard Hakluyt on September 24, 2011, 05:06:20 AM
Not stalkerish at all, but, as viking says, just keep it to the single email.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Admiral Yi on September 24, 2011, 06:01:47 AM
Marty: the dude put his address on his fucking Facebook page.   He's not hiding it under a rock.  Drop him a line.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Martinus on September 24, 2011, 06:09:35 AM
He does not have a facebook page - I thought I said so. The address is on his company's page, right next to his picture and name (so I know it's him).
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Admiral Yi on September 24, 2011, 06:11:37 AM
Oh.  Takes backs.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Zanza on September 24, 2011, 08:52:53 AM
Why would sending an old friend an e-mail be stalkerish?
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: CountDeMoney on September 24, 2011, 09:36:59 AM
Great, another thread on more Martinus I'm-horny-should-I-or-shouldn't-I bullshit.  Super.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Ideologue on September 24, 2011, 10:02:46 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 24, 2011, 06:09:35 AM
He does not have a facebook page - I thought I said so. The address is on his company's page, right next to his picture and name (so I know it's him).

Russianbeef.com?
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Razgovory on September 24, 2011, 02:41:13 PM
Melody certainly thought so. :(
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Martinus on September 27, 2011, 02:59:41 PM
So we went out to grab a couple of beers. He is not exactly my type/hot (so we didn't end up having sex tonight but I do not exclude that in future especially as he also has a foot fetish), but is still fun and I invited him to go out with my gay pack to a club this weekend. He is between boyfriends now so has free time. We spent 2 hours discussing guys from high school we wanted to fuck (surprisingly similar taste in men). :P
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: The Brain on September 27, 2011, 03:01:31 PM
 :yuk:
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: crazy canuck on September 27, 2011, 03:21:02 PM
Quote from: Zanza on September 24, 2011, 08:52:53 AM
Why would sending an old friend an e-mail be stalkerish?

The thread was started by Marti.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Grey Fox on September 28, 2011, 06:29:15 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 24, 2011, 06:09:35 AM
He does not have a facebook page - I thought I said so. The address is on his company's page, right next to his picture and name (so I know it's him).

Oh, he's got one. It's just not searchable.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Martinus on September 28, 2011, 07:13:00 AM
He told me he does not have one as he is boycotting Facebook for some reason.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Grey Fox on September 28, 2011, 07:16:36 AM
I guess you contacted him then!
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Martinus on September 28, 2011, 07:29:43 AM
Quote from: Grey Fox on September 28, 2011, 07:16:36 AM
I guess you contacted him then!

How did you guess? Perhaps a post on how I went out with him for a beer implied that!
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Grey Fox on September 28, 2011, 07:32:43 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 28, 2011, 07:29:43 AM
Quote from: Grey Fox on September 28, 2011, 07:16:36 AM
I guess you contacted him then!

How did you guess? Perhaps a post on how I went out with him for a beer implied that!

:lol: No. I missed that post.  :blush:
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: PDH on September 28, 2011, 07:54:46 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 28, 2011, 07:29:43 AM
Quote from: Grey Fox on September 28, 2011, 07:16:36 AM
I guess you contacted him then!

How did you guess? Perhaps a post on how I went out with him for a beer implied that!
We mostly don't listen to what you say, to be honest.
Title: Re: Is it stalkerish to reconnect with someone via their public/job e-mail address?
Post by: Razgovory on September 28, 2011, 08:25:52 AM
Quote from: Martinus on September 27, 2011, 02:59:41 PM
So we went out to grab a couple of beers. He is not exactly my type/hot (so we didn't end up having sex tonight but I do not exclude that in future especially as he also has a foot fetish), but is still fun and I invited him to go out with my gay pack to a club this weekend. He is between boyfriends now so has free time. We spent 2 hours discussing guys from high school we wanted to fuck (surprisingly similar taste in men). :P

Well, I'm glad it turned out so well. :)