An article about all the things that John Edwards did to keep his affair a secret, and still failed. I guess I would have no chance--getting a separate phone, the conference calls, and the covert hotel room rentals aren't things I would have thought of. Then again, even when I was 16 I wouldn't have the sex tape and the "don't worry about a condom because I won't get pregnant" mistakes.
http://www.slate.com/id/2243109/
QuoteHow He Got Caught
The elaborate tricks John Edwards used to keep his affair secret—and why they failed.
By Christopher Beam
Posted Friday, Jan. 29, 2010, at 6:32 PM ET
John EdwardsAmong the revelations in Andrew Young's new book about John Edwards is that once the whole sordid truth about Edwards and Rielle Hunter emerged, Bill Clinton "called the senator and said, in effect, 'How'd you get caught?' " It's not a surprising question, given the source. But the better question may be how Edwards got away with it for so long.
Between early 2006, when the senator's dalliance with his campaign videographer began, and August 2008, when he confessed to it, Edwards engaged in all sorts of subterfuges in an attempt to hide his liaison with Hunter from his wife, his staff, and the press. The Politician, written by Edwards' primary romantic facilitator, provides a blow-by-blow account how he did it—and why he failed. Consider this list a kind of public service to any elected official ever considering a secret romp.
Get a cell phone and use it exclusively for your affair. Once the affair took off, Edwards bought a cell phone to take calls exclusively from Hunter, which he dubbed the "Batphone." Edwards failed, however, to keep the phone hidden from his wife. Elizabeth discovered it ringing one night in his bag, answered it, and heard Hunter launch into a "romantic monologue." That's when Edwards confessed to Elizabeth that he'd had a "one-night stand." (An understatement.) From then on, Edwards and Young arranged handoffs so Edwards wouldn't have the Batphone while Elizabeth was around.
Use your calling plan's enhanced features. When Edwards didn't have the Batphone, Young set up three-way conference calls and had both Edwards and Hunter dial-in. That way there would be no record of the call when Elizabeth would check Edwards' call log, as she routinely did.
Use separate doors. And don't forget to stagger your entrances. Heading back to the campaign office in South Carolina after a rally, Edwards had Young drop him off in the parking garage, and he took the elevator up. Hunter entered through the front, where she ran into Elizabeth. Elizabeth later "confronted her husband about the glowing blond woman who had obviously arrived with him from the road."
Use cash. When Edwards gave Hunter his bank card, Elizabeth noticed money inexplicably withdrawn in New York. From then on, Edwards—through Young—gave her cash stipends and her own separate credit card. As one Edwards donor tells Young: "Old Chinese proverb: Use cash, not credit cards."
Funnel money. When Edwards started paying Hunter's living expenses, the money came from the nonagenarian philanthropist Rachel Lambert "Bunny" Mellon, who didn't ask any questions about where the cash was going. Mellon would pay her interior decorator, who would pass the money along to Young. The cash would be concealed in boxes of chocolates.
Destroy all evidence. Edwards was not as careful as he could have been. At one point, Edwards' nanny discovered a Marriott key card on the kitchen counter. Young noticed that when Edwards would receive notes from "eager women" on the campaign trail, he "occasionally pocketed" them instead of handing them off for disposal. And many nights, Edwards would take mysterious 2 a.m. "jogs."
Seriously, destroy all evidence. Elizabeth spent days going through the footage Hunter shot for the never-aired "Webisodes" of the Edwards campaign, searching for evidence of cheating. However, she was never able to find the tapes shot at the Edwards house while she was away. Young and his wife later allegedly found a half-destroyed tape, allegedly shot by Hunter, of her and the senator allegedly having sex. Allegedly. (Hunter has now filed for a restraining order to keep Young from releasing it.)
Don't canoodle in front of aides. While Elizabeth was on a book tour in 2006, Hunter came over to Edwards' house and the two spoke openly in front of Young about getting married in a rooftop ceremony with music played by the Dave Matthews Band. (The band didn't like her when they met her.) Hunter and Edwards would kiss in front of Young and cuddle in front other another aide, prompting him to ask Young, "What the hell is going on?"
Choose a discreet lover. Hunter was a noticeable presence on the trail, according to Young. She dressed in bright colors, talked loudly, and flirted constantly. She spoke to "close friends" about their affair, but trusted them because of their "spiritual connection." She recounted their sexual exploits to Young and his wife. She even talked to Newsweek's Jonathan Darman about having an affair with a powerful man whom she wouldn't name. (Darman knew she worked with the Edwards campaign.) When rumors of the affair started circulating, she continued to risk getting spotted in hotel lobbies and grocery stores. "I think she wanted to get caught," Young writes.
Maintain plausible deniability. Even after Young learned about the affair, Edwards continued to use vague language while on the phone with Hunter—just in case he or Young, who overheard them, had to deny it. When Hunter said she loved him, Edwards "would say only, 'Me too.' And if she asked him if he missed her, he would say, 'That's correct' ... but never, 'I miss you.' " On calls with Young, top Edwards donor Fred Baron would refer to Edwards as "the principal" and to Hunter as "her."
Don't sign any cards you send to the new mother of your child. When Hunter gave birth to their daughter, Frances Quinn Hunter, Young asked Edwards if he wanted to send her flowers. "Yeah, that's a good idea," Edwards said. "But don't sign it from me. Someone might see it.
Wear a condom. Edwards claims that Hunter told him she couldn't get pregnant. You know the rest.
Quote from: alfred russel on January 31, 2010, 03:38:22 PM
I guess I would have no chance--
I'm sure it's easier to hide an affair from one's spouse than from a hundred reporters. ;)
Maybe he's in a polyamorous relationship with a hundred reporters?
Quote from: Peter Wiggin on January 31, 2010, 04:19:18 PM
Quote from: alfred russel on January 31, 2010, 03:38:22 PM
I guess I would have no chance--
I'm sure it's easier to hide an affair from one's spouse than from a hundred reporters. ;)
I don't know--it seems his wife finding out was the major concern of a lot of the measures.
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Get a cell phone and use it exclusively for your affair.
Wrong. You never want to have a strange cell phone lying around that can be found. You get a separate SIM card that you can change in and out of your regular phone.
Quote from: DisturbedPervert on January 31, 2010, 04:37:15 PM
Wrong. You never want to have a strange cell phone lying around that can be found. You get a separate SIM card that you can change in and out of your regular phone.
Yeah but Edwards wouldn't have a clue what a SIM card is.
Quote from: Caliga on January 31, 2010, 05:13:45 PM
Quote from: DisturbedPervert on January 31, 2010, 04:37:15 PM
Wrong. You never want to have a strange cell phone lying around that can be found. You get a separate SIM card that you can change in and out of your regular phone.
Yeah but Edwards wouldn't have a clue what a SIM card is.
I don't have a clue what a SIM card is. :unsure:
Quote from: DisturbedPervert on January 31, 2010, 04:37:15 PM
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Get a cell phone and use it exclusively for your affair.
Wrong. You never want to have a strange cell phone lying around that can be found. You get a separate SIM card that you can change in and out of your regular phone.
Make sure your call and message history, address book, etc. is all saved to your SIM card, too. Or go through and delete everything incriminating every time you use it.
A strange phone can also be explained as a "business phone" or something like that.
Quote from: jimmy olsen on January 31, 2010, 06:45:11 PM
I don't have a clue what a SIM card is. :unsure:
I figured it was the thing Bourne slips in and out of the phone so he can kill everyone and not be found.
Quote from: HisMajestyBOB on January 31, 2010, 07:19:27 PM
Make sure your call and message history, address book, etc. is all saved to your SIM card, too.
Indeed. The SIM should only be in the phone while you're talking on it as well, at all other times it should be hidden. Sms should be the primary way of communication since the number should be off most of the time.
Quote from: Admiral Yi on January 31, 2010, 07:21:33 PM
Quote from: jimmy olsen on January 31, 2010, 06:45:11 PM
I don't have a clue what a SIM card is. :unsure:
I figured it was the thing Bourne slips in and out of the phone so he can kill everyone and not be found.
It is. The CDMA protocol as really screwed you guys.
Quote from: Grey Fox on January 31, 2010, 07:49:01 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on January 31, 2010, 07:21:33 PM
Quote from: jimmy olsen on January 31, 2010, 06:45:11 PM
I don't have a clue what a SIM card is. :unsure:
I figured it was the thing Bourne slips in and out of the phone so he can kill everyone and not be found.
It is. The CDMA protocol as really screwed you guys.
Meh, over half of the US is on GPRS-based tech now (AT&T and T-Mobile being the big two in that space).
From this thread I've learned I'm also not tech savvy enough to have an affair. :(
I've learned I'm too lazy, as keeping one relationship going it enough work.
I want a SIM card, and a 20-something to go along with it.
Pretty sure backwardsville, i mean Laramie has both?
You could also just get a mobile phone that allows for two SIM cards. A lot of "business" phones have that so you can have one SIM card for business and one for private connections.
Quote from: PDH on January 31, 2010, 10:42:21 PM
I want a SIM card, and a 20-something to go along with it.
Don't you still work at a University? The 20-something part shouldn't be too hard. ;)
Quote from: alfred russel on January 31, 2010, 03:38:22 PM
An article about all the things that John Edwards did to keep his affair a secret, and still failed. I guess I would have no chance--getting a separate phone, the conference calls, and the covert hotel room rentals aren't things I would have thought of. Then again, even when I was 16 I wouldn't have the sex tape and the "don't worry about a condom because I won't get pregnant" mistakes.
I don't see why anyone would allow themselves being taped having sex unless you: A) don't care who knows that you're having sex with whoever else is on the tape, and B) don't mind the possibility that it might end up posted on the web for everyone to see. Obviously, a married public figure having an illicit affair doesn't meet those criteria.
Public figures who have affairs are pretty much doomed. No matter what they do, their partners have very different incentives when it comes to talking.
Quote from: Zanza on February 01, 2010, 07:17:43 AM
You could also just get a mobile phone that allows for two SIM cards. A lot of "business" phones have that so you can have one SIM card for business and one for private connections.
You need to keep the one you're using for spying/cheating hidden away when you're not using it.
*destroys tapes*
There is also the problem that not all information (like numbers and messages) is stored on your SIM card. The memory on your SIM card is limited and if it's full the information is stored on your phone. If I'm not mistaken, changing SIM cards doesn't erase (hide) the information stored on your phone.
This is why if I am going to cheat I am going to tell my wife BEFORE I start my affair. Then I won't have to go through all the exhausting effort to hide it.
'Hey Honey? I am just calling to let you know I am going to cheat on you in about...30 seconds...as soon as she gets out of the shower. But we're still good right?'
Quote from: dps on February 01, 2010, 09:16:06 AM
I don't see why anyone would allow themselves being taped having sex unless you: A) don't care who knows that you're having sex with whoever else is on the tape, and B) don't mind the possibility that it might end up posted on the web for everyone to see. Obviously, a married public figure having an illicit affair doesn't meet those criteria.
Sometimes you have no choice. A man left my apt the other day and took a camera phone pic of me before I'd even noticed. :(