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Title: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Faeelin on September 19, 2009, 12:12:12 PM
I'm curious; I've noticed I have a tendency to string out relationships at times because I hate dumping people, and worry about hurting the other person. Choosing the rational approach, I proceed to string it out and only worsen the pain for everyone involved. As such, I almost always prefer to be dumped; while it sucks, it's not me causing it, and I recover pretty quickly.

So I'm curious what everyone else prefers.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Lucidor on September 19, 2009, 12:17:53 PM
Getting dumped, oddly enough.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: HisMajestyBOB on September 19, 2009, 12:19:11 PM
I've always been dumped. Someday I might like to try dumping someone, might be fun.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Lucidor on September 19, 2009, 12:21:59 PM
Quote from: HisMajestyBOB on September 19, 2009, 12:19:11 PM
I've always been dumped. Someday I might like to try dumping someone, might be fun.
Trust me, it's not. Not if you want to stick around and have to comfort them. I wonder if it's not better just to say "it's over, woman! Now, bye!".
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Strix on September 19, 2009, 12:22:57 PM
I'd say getting dumped. Not as much guilt involved.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: HisMajestyBOB on September 19, 2009, 12:25:44 PM
Quote from: Lucidor on September 19, 2009, 12:21:59 PM
Quote from: HisMajestyBOB on September 19, 2009, 12:19:11 PM
I've always been dumped. Someday I might like to try dumping someone, might be fun.
Trust me, it's not. Not if you want to stick around and have to comfort them. I wonder if it's not better just to say "it's over, woman! Now, bye!".

In my mind I picture myself twisting the knife a bit before breaking off all ties forever. :menace:
But I'm too much of a nice, compassionate guy to ever do that.
The best would probably be a mutual break up, with both sides realizing that it won't work.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: PDH on September 19, 2009, 12:29:02 PM
I would like to try getting dumped without her taking all the money, stocks, and furniture.  Might be worth a shot.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Ideologue on September 19, 2009, 12:32:45 PM
^ :pinch:

I guess I would prefer getting dumped.  I don't really have much context for it.  I've only been dumped once, and while I was sad at the time, I'm glad she ended it, because she was a really lame girlfriend.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Martinus on September 19, 2009, 12:37:52 PM
Getting dumped, I guess. Not counting situations where there was a one night stand and I pretty much never called back, every time I actually dumped someone, I felt bad afterwards and tried to repair/restart the relationship.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Caliga on September 19, 2009, 12:43:20 PM
Never been dumped. :smoke:
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Josquius on September 19, 2009, 01:34:00 PM
Never really done either, have always just....split.
So no clue, to be the dumper I guess, then its my choice.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: MadImmortalMan on September 19, 2009, 01:58:44 PM
WTF  :lmfao:
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Admiral Yi on September 19, 2009, 02:46:47 PM
Neither is pleasant but getting dumped is the worse of the two.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: Threviel on September 19, 2009, 04:23:22 PM
I prefer to not answer the phone until they stop calling.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: garbon on September 19, 2009, 04:24:29 PM
Quote from: Lucidor on September 19, 2009, 12:21:59 PM
I wonder if it's not better just to say "it's over, woman! Now, bye!".

I find that refusing to return phone calls or speak to them when out on the street is best.
Title: Re: Do You Prefer to Get Dumped or to Dump?
Post by: saskganesh on September 19, 2009, 09:26:00 PM
It's far better to dump, but beware the mess. It demands emotional clarity, and people starting or ending relationships usually don't have much of that.