http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/08/13/do-single-women-seek-attached-men/?hp
QuoteResearchers have debated for years whether men or women are likelier to engage in "mate poaching." Some surveys indicated that men had a stronger tendency to go after other people's partners, but was that just because men were more likely to admit engaging in this behavior? Now there's experimental evidence that single women are particularly drawn to other people's partners, according to a report in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology by two social psychologists, Melissa Burkley and Jessica Parker of Oklahoma State University.
Noting that single women often complain that "all the good men are taken," the psychologists wondered if "this perception is really based on the fact that taken men are perceived as good." To investigate, the researchers quizzed male and female undergraduates — some involved in romantic relationships, some unattached — about their ideal romantic partner.
Next, each of the experimental subjects was told that he or she had been matched by a computer with a like-minded partner, and each was shown a photo of an attractive person of the opposite sex. (All the women saw the same photo, as did all the men.) Half of the subjects were told that their match was already romantically involved with someone else, while the other half were told that their match was unattached. Then the subjects were all asked how interested they were in their match.
To the men in the experiment, and to the women who were already in relationships, it didn't make a significant difference whether their match was single or attached. But single women showed a distinct preference for mate poaching. When the man was described as unattached, 59 percent of the single women were interested in pursuing him. When that same man was described as being in a committed relationship, 90 percent were interested. The researchers write:
According to a recent poll, most women who engage in mate poaching do not think the attached status of the target played a role in their poaching decision, but our study shows this belief to be false. Single women in this study were significantly more interested in the target when he was attached. This may be because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit and in some ways his qualities have already been ''pre-screened" by another woman.
Well, that makes sense. But I asked Dr. Burkley, a professor of social psychology at Oklahoma State, if the correlation could also be due to another factor at work in some women: fear of intimacy. Could their interest in unavailable guys be what was keeping them single in the first place?
Maybe, Dr. Burkley replied. "There are many possible explanations for our results," she told me, "and future research needs to identify exactly why single women prefer taken men. Our lab is currently conducting studies to try and tease apart the different potential explanations for our findings, but your explanation seems quite plausible."
Well, what do you think?
How much do wedding bands go for? :unsure:
:cool: :shifty:
Quote from: DGuller on August 13, 2009, 01:14:48 PM
How much do wedding bands go for? :unsure:
Here ya go:
http://www.amazon.com/Tungsten-Carbide-Polished-Wedding-5-15-5/dp/B001GJ99RE
Happy hunting.
Quote from: Malthus on August 13, 2009, 01:09:27 PM
Well, what do you think?
I applaud this behavior. Similarly, I support poaching the other way as well.
If it was a solid relationship, it would not be vulnerable to such fishing.
I realized this at an early age. In high school I noticed that I would get a lot more attention from girls if I was dating someone.
But I never: cheated :mellow:
I don't believe that for a moment. White men are known to be unable to resist cheating, especially with women of darker flesh.
Quote from: Jaron on August 13, 2009, 02:54:21 PM
I don't believe that for a moment. White men are known to be unable to resist cheating, especially with women of darker flesh.
You know it. Sha'twonda down at the wig store on 6th street is just too much woman to pass up :blush:
Wake me up when something new is discovered. :zzz
Of course taken men are prefered by single women, just like women dig men who are popular with women and surrounded by them. They are already deemed valuable by a woman or a group of women, and thus socially presented as valuable and attractive.
Plus, unless totally emasculated, the husband is validated and finding comfort while being in couple, and so can act in a more relaxed and confident manner around other women, especially his wife's girlfriends. This helps to create more attractiveness.
Couple that with intrasexual competitiveness and coveting, and voilà.
Quote from: Drakken on August 13, 2009, 03:07:44 PM
Wake me up when something new is discovered. :zzz
Of course taken men are prefered by single women, just like women dig men who are popular with women and surrounded by them. They are already deemed valuable by a woman or a group of women, and thus socially presented as valuable and attractive.
Plus, unless totally emasculated, the husband is validated and finding comfort while being in couple, and so can act in a more relaxed and confident manner around other women, especially his wife's girlfriends. This helps to create more attractiveness.
Couple that with intrasexual competitiveness and coveting, and voilà.
QuoteThis may be because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit and in some ways his qualities have already been ''pre-screened" by another woman.
:contract:
It's like why an old guy who is still single should be avoided. Obviously something is wrong with him. :yes:
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:32:38 PM
Quote from: Drakken on August 13, 2009, 03:07:44 PM
Wake me up when something new is discovered. :zzz
Of course taken men are prefered by single women, just like women dig men who are popular with women and surrounded by them. They are already deemed valuable by a woman or a group of women, and thus socially presented as valuable and attractive.
Plus, unless totally emasculated, the husband is validated and finding comfort while being in couple, and so can act in a more relaxed and confident manner around other women, especially his wife's girlfriends. This helps to create more attractiveness.
Couple that with intrasexual competitiveness and coveting, and voilà.
QuoteThis may be because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit and in some ways his qualities have already been ''pre-screened" by another woman.
:contract:
It's like why an old guy who is still single should be avoided. Obviously something is wrong with him. :yes:
He could be a widower. :lol:
Quote from: Drakken on August 13, 2009, 03:34:48 PM
He could be a widower. :lol:
Could be, although is that really a commendable quality? Always living in the shadow of the dead wife now turned saint?
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:36:38 PM
Quote from: Drakken on August 13, 2009, 03:34:48 PM
He could be a widower. :lol:
Could be, although is that really a commendable quality? Always living in the shadow of the dead wife now turned saint?
You could always hope she was a bitch who died young.
Quote from: HVC on August 13, 2009, 03:37:38 PM
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:36:38 PM
Quote from: Drakken on August 13, 2009, 03:34:48 PM
He could be a widower. :lol:
Could be, although is that really a commendable quality? Always living in the shadow of the dead wife now turned saint?
You could always hope she was a bitch who died young.
Better hope he's not like this guy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Joseph_Smith
'Once is a tragedy, twice is a coincidence, three times starts to look like carelessness ...'
Quote from: Malthus on August 13, 2009, 03:39:42 PM
Quote from: HVC on August 13, 2009, 03:37:38 PM
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:36:38 PM
Quote from: Drakken on August 13, 2009, 03:34:48 PM
He could be a widower. :lol:
Could be, although is that really a commendable quality? Always living in the shadow of the dead wife now turned saint?
You could always hope she was a bitch who died young.
Better hope he's not like this guy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Joseph_Smith
'Once is a tragedy, twice is a coincidence, three times starts to look like carelessness ...'
Meh, he is an amateur compared to the French Bluebeard.
(https://languish.org/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fscenedecrime.blogs.com%2Fphotos%2Funcategorized%2F2008%2F08%2F17%2Fhenri_dsir_landru.jpg&hash=e7df48766b68006e0b493b3aed01b1e53614d183)
Quote from: Malthus on August 13, 2009, 03:39:42 PM
Better hope he's not like this guy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Joseph_Smith
'Once is a tragedy, twice is a coincidence, three times starts to look like carelessness ...'
QuoteNeil hired several experienced female divers of the same size and build as the victims. He tried to push them underwater by force but there would be inevitable signs of struggle. Neil then unexpectedly pulled the feet of one of the divers, and her head glided underwater before she knew what happened. Suddenly Neil saw that the woman was no longer moving. He quickly pulled her out of the tub and it took him and a doctor over half an hour to revive her. When she came to, she related that the only thing she remembered was the rush of water before she lost consciousness. Thus was Spilsbury's theory confirmed.
Science! :lol:
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:45:11 PM
Quote from: Malthus on August 13, 2009, 03:39:42 PM
Better hope he's not like this guy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Joseph_Smith
'Once is a tragedy, twice is a coincidence, three times starts to look like carelessness ...'
QuoteNeil hired several experienced female divers of the same size and build as the victims. He tried to push them underwater by force but there would be inevitable signs of struggle. Neil then unexpectedly pulled the feet of one of the divers, and her head glided underwater before she knew what happened. Suddenly Neil saw that the woman was no longer moving. He quickly pulled her out of the tub and it took him and a doctor over half an hour to revive her. When she came to, she related that the only thing she remembered was the rush of water before she lost consciousness. Thus was Spilsbury's theory confirmed.
Science! :lol:
He blinded me with science! :lol:
Was she: Miss Sakamoto!
Basically it is a clear sign that some woman who knows this man has been willing to commit her life to him. He must be worth having if some other woman wants him.
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:32:38 PM
It's like why an old guy who is still single should be avoided. Obviously something is wrong with him. :yes:
doesn't matter. I am covered by a warranty.
Quote from: garbon on August 13, 2009, 03:32:38 PM
:contract:
It's like why an old guy who is still single should be avoided. Obviously something is wrong with him. :yes:
True but old women are pretty hard up so he will be pretty popular anyway.
Someday they will be lined up to have a chance with CdM and his cat army.
Quote from: Valmy on August 14, 2009, 09:23:24 AM
Someday they will be lined up to have a chance with CdM and his cat army.
And he will ignore them hoping for a shot at the 40-somethings. Way of the world.