So this may be a heavily cultural thing, but I thought it might be interesting to discuss. Just read an article discussing whether it's a good idea to kiss your child in the lips, and at what ages.
Anyway, I kissed both my parents (and brother) in the lips when I was a child, this became cheek kisses once I approached puberty. Nowadays, I kiss my mother in the cheek whenever I meet her, but my male close relatives (father and brother) only in emotional situations or celebrations.
We are latins so we have a gross (consensual) misregard of personal boundaries, so I guess that may differ for other languishites.
Yeah, no, eww.
When I was a kid I was really against physical contact. Aunts trying to give you a kiss is basically a childhood-horror trope.
Always uncomfortable for me in Switzerland to do the whole 3 kiss by the cheek thing. Here that's basically just for pretentious posh people.
With my kids I'll kiss them on the cheek/head, but lips... icky. Too much drool.
Kissing on the lips is creepy.
Also I guess it shows that I'm childless that I titled the thread "Kissing your parents" instead of "Kissing your children", given that we have many dads among us :Embarrass:
Quote from: Tamas on November 21, 2024, 04:25:18 AMKissing on the lips is creepy.
Communist heads of government frown on your shenanigans.
Quote from: The Brain on November 21, 2024, 06:43:45 AMQuote from: Tamas on November 21, 2024, 04:25:18 AMKissing on the lips is creepy.
Communist heads of government frown on your shenanigans.
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I don't remember my parents kissing me. (Excluding on the cheeks greeting as adults)
I don't remeber kissing my kids on the lips. I am much more a on top of the head person.
My kids did grow up in the Covid era too, so that limited the desire for face kiss.
Quote from: celedhring on November 21, 2024, 04:08:32 AMSo this may be a heavily cultural thing, but I thought it might be interesting to discuss. Just read an article discussing whether it's a good idea to kiss your child in the lips, and at what ages.
Anyway, I kissed both my parents (and brother) in the lips when I was a child, this became cheek kisses once I approached puberty. Nowadays, I kiss my mother in the cheek whenever I meet her, but my male close relatives (father and brother) only in emotional situations or celebrations.
We are latins so we have a gross (consensual) misregard of personal boundaries, so I guess that may differ for other languishites.
That's pretty much exactly the way I was raised and the way we interact with our kids.
Generally I don't kiss my kids on the mouth, though if a very young child insists I will do it. Generally I will kiss my (12 and 13 years old) boys on the top of their head and tossle their hair. I guess when or if they grow taller than I am I might just give them a hug at some point.
My daughter is only five so I don't know if that will look any different when she gets into her teens.
I don't recall ever kissing or being kissed by my parents. We hugged a lot though.
I kissed my boy on the cheek at his Masters' graduation ceremony.
Until now I didn't think there was anything unusual in that.
Quote from: crazy canuck on November 21, 2024, 08:35:54 AMI kissed my boy on the cheek at his Masters' graduation ceremony.
Until now I didn't think there was anything unusual in that.
I don't think there is.
Kiss on the cheek is normal where I am from. Kiss on the mouth is super-rare, if it exist at all.
Quote from: Valmy on November 21, 2024, 08:39:05 AMQuote from: crazy canuck on November 21, 2024, 08:35:54 AMI kissed my boy on the cheek at his Masters' graduation ceremony.
Until now I didn't think there was anything unusual in that.
I don't think there is.
:)
Quote from: crazy canuck on November 21, 2024, 07:51:58 AMQuote from: celedhring on November 21, 2024, 04:08:32 AMSo this may be a heavily cultural thing, but I thought it might be interesting to discuss. Just read an article discussing whether it's a good idea to kiss your child in the lips, and at what ages.
Anyway, I kissed both my parents (and brother) in the lips when I was a child, this became cheek kisses once I approached puberty. Nowadays, I kiss my mother in the cheek whenever I meet her, but my male close relatives (father and brother) only in emotional situations or celebrations.
We are latins so we have a gross (consensual) misregard of personal boundaries, so I guess that may differ for other languishites.
That's pretty much exactly the way I was raised and the way we interact with our kids.
Same here.
Kiss your parents as often as you can; cause you won't always be able to. :(
I kissed my kids on the lips when they were little. Now (oldest 14, youngest 11) it cheeks/forehead.
But I'm not going to apologize for kissing my kids. I'm of the generation where my parents weren't very physically affectionate, and I'd like to be different with my kids.
Quote from: Josephus on November 21, 2024, 11:00:35 AMKiss your parents as often as you can; cause you won't always be able to. :(
Yep. :(
Quote from: Josephus on November 21, 2024, 11:00:35 AMKiss your parents as often as you can; cause you won't always be able to. :(
:console:
Quote from: celedhring on November 21, 2024, 04:08:32 AMSo this may be a heavily cultural thing, but I thought it might be interesting to discuss. Just read an article discussing whether it's a good idea to kiss your child in the lips, and at what ages.
Anyway, I kissed both my parents (and brother) in the lips when I was a child, this became cheek kisses once I approached puberty. Nowadays, I kiss my mother in the cheek whenever I meet her, but my male close relatives (father and brother) only in emotional situations or celebrations.
We are latins so we have a gross (consensual) misregard of personal boundaries, so I guess that may differ for other languishites.
Same - I still kiss my dad on the cheek when I see him and would other close male relatives too.
I kiss female (and some male friends) on the cheek when I see them (or in sort of emotional/celebration circumstances).
Growing up I kissed/was kissed by my parents on the cheek, just once. Now my mother is significantly shorter than me, so I kiss her in the forehead while mocking her height. She does not approve :lol: Extended family gets the double cheek kiss and Portuguese acquaintances get the performative double cheek touch kiss the air thing. Like, Josq I hated it as a kid. Personal space isn't a thing for iberians :D . Now it doesn't bother me,
A peck on the cheek for close family.
When they kids were really young they went for the lips. Our youngest still goes for that, on occassion.
As they grew older it was/is cheek and now more often (especially with our olders, who's going on 14) on the top of the head or forehead. Alternatively a hug, big hug or manly hug as situation requires.
Tender hugs too, again if the situation requires it.
Nothing wrong with it and the sooner they learn that hugs are for all ages the better. No one should ever be without hugs either... as that rather sucks
My dad gets a hand-shake or shake'n-hug. Mom gets a peck-on-cheek-with-hug.
I kissed my Mom and Dad on the lips as a kid, when I grew up Dad switched to hugs but greeting or saying goodbye to Mom was always peck on the lips (same with my Nana too).
I think that is good, and when Mom was in the hospital for the final time, it was good to be unconcerned about giving her a kiss.
We just hug.
In Norway, we give a hug. Kisses are for girlfriends, fringe lovers, wives.
Not that my parents were ever particularly physical, but I always gave mum a hug when I came to visit. Dad? Never.