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Title: 50 Not Out.
Post by: mongers on November 02, 2013, 05:52:16 PM
Just dawned on many of my friends/ex-friends and peer group will be going past a 'significant' milestone over the next few months or have already past it over the last couple of months.  Namely turning 50 years old ! ! ! ! !  :gasp:

So are these 'important' birthdays actually momentous to you or do they pass you by ?

Are they occasions to look back on your life, reflex on the future ?

Did any of the other significant dates, like turning 16,18,21 or 40 have any meaning for you ?

Are there any in the future that you dread ? 



Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: The Brain on November 02, 2013, 05:54:39 PM
Pain can be controlled.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Eddie Teach on November 02, 2013, 05:59:21 PM
I've had a really tough time enjoying being a layabout since turning 30.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 06:32:19 PM
I expect that at 40, I will simply dissolve back into the earth.  Maybe 35.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: The Brain on November 02, 2013, 06:34:35 PM
The beauty is that while I get older old people remain the same age. :cool:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: garbon on November 02, 2013, 06:38:31 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 06:32:19 PM
I expect that at 40, I will simply dissolve back into the earth.  Maybe 35.

With the amount of toxic crap you put in your body? Please. We'll have to scoop you into a landfill.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 07:20:17 PM
Good point.  I'm eating a bag of Fritos right now.  My grave will be like Carthage after the Romans.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: PDH on November 02, 2013, 07:22:10 PM
It will be more like a tire fire on the edge of the wrong side of town.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ed Anger on November 02, 2013, 07:23:30 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 07:20:17 PM
Good point.  I'm eating a bag of Fritos right now.  My grave will be like Carthage after the Romans.

A tiny bag, Ed anger hopes.
A large bag, Ed Anger expects.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: PDH on November 02, 2013, 07:31:31 PM
When I hit 50 I am going to have sex several times.

In the same day.

I hope.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 07:46:26 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 02, 2013, 07:23:30 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 07:20:17 PM
Good point.  I'm eating a bag of Fritos right now.  My grave will be like Carthage after the Romans.

A tiny bag, Ed anger hopes.
A large bag, Ed Anger expects.

What's 10 1/4 oz?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ed Anger on November 02, 2013, 07:48:57 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 07:46:26 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 02, 2013, 07:23:30 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 02, 2013, 07:20:17 PM
Good point.  I'm eating a bag of Fritos right now.  My grave will be like Carthage after the Romans.

A tiny bag, Ed anger hopes.
A large bag, Ed Anger expects.

What's 10 1/4 oz?

That ain't the tiny bag.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: PDH on November 02, 2013, 07:50:28 PM
Tire fire size
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ed Anger on November 02, 2013, 07:51:28 PM
Quote from: PDH on November 02, 2013, 07:31:31 PM
When I hit 50 I am going to have sex several times.

In the same day.

I hope.

It's overrated. The sex several times in a day, not the 50 part.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 02, 2013, 07:52:19 PM
18, 21, 30, 40, and 50 were all significant.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: PDH on November 02, 2013, 07:53:40 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 02, 2013, 07:51:28 PM

It's overrated. The sex several times in a day, not the 50 part.

It has only been overrated when I am getting it.  Last month...overrated.  This month, sadly underrated.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: dps on November 02, 2013, 08:38:17 PM
Only birthday that had any real significance to me was 18.  Legal adulthood.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: sbr on November 02, 2013, 08:43:17 PM
18 and 21 were very cool.

Turning 30 didn't affect me much, I was pretty happy and in a good place.  My little brother turning 30 4 years later affected me more.

I turned 40 3 years ago, that was the roughest ofo my birthdays so far.  I am dreading 50, but at 7 years away it isn't much more real than 70 or 80.

Both of my parents turn(ed) 70 this year and my youngest daughter turns 18 right after Christmas.  All of those have me more jacked up than any of my own personal birthdays so far.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: CountDeMoney on November 03, 2013, 10:42:35 AM
Quote from: sbr on November 02, 2013, 08:43:17 PM
I turned 40 3 years ago, that was the roughest ofo my birthdays so far.  I am dreading 50, but at 7 years away it isn't much more real than 70 or 80.

Both of my parents turn(ed) 70 this year and my youngest daughter turns 18 right after Christmas.  All of those have me more jacked up than any of my own personal birthdays so far.

Meh, I just put an extra round in the cylinder for the Russian Roulette Birthday Bash Extravaganza.  Beats adding more candles to the cake.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: sbr on November 03, 2013, 12:40:17 PM
I learned recently that on average electricians only live 5 years after retiring.  That works pretty well with my retirement plan, so Im pretty excited.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: mongers on November 03, 2013, 01:10:38 PM
Quote from: sbr on November 03, 2013, 12:40:17 PM
I learned recently that on average electricians only live 5 years after retiring.  That works pretty well with my retirement plan, so Im pretty excited.

:lol:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Siege on November 03, 2013, 09:12:35 PM
Whoa, Mongers is 50?
Why do you keep acting like a teenager?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Valmy on November 03, 2013, 09:22:10 PM
I have set certain goals to reach by the time I turn 40 in 2017.  That is pretty much the only reason that milestone means alot.  If I make it, it will be one triumphant feeling.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Maladict on November 04, 2013, 03:48:37 AM
Quote from: Siege on November 03, 2013, 09:12:35 PM
Whoa, Mongers is 50?
Why do you keep acting like a teenager?

What's your age again?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Josquius on November 04, 2013, 05:01:18 AM
Every birthday is a time for panicked depression
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Eddie Teach on November 04, 2013, 05:23:58 AM
Quote from: Tyr on November 04, 2013, 05:01:18 AM
Every birthday is a time for panicked depression

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWTLUmUjo8A (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWTLUmUjo8A)
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: KRonn on November 04, 2013, 07:35:05 AM
I don't think I ever really got depressed over birthdays as I got older, or as I hit milestones like 30, 40, etc. I expected that I should feel depressed but it never really happened. Probably turning 30 was the most significant number because it seemed to signal the beginning of the end of youth, the beginning of getting older.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 08:59:23 AM
I celebrated my 21st birthday by working a third shift at a big box store.  That was a depressing milestone.

I had proposed to CB a week before my 40th birthday and moved to Florida a few months before that.  That was a period of change for me, but change for the better.   :)
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 08:59:49 AM
Quote from: Valmy on November 03, 2013, 09:22:10 PM
I have set certain goals to reach by the time I turn 40 in 2017.  That is pretty much the only reason that milestone means alot.  If I make it, it will be one triumphant feeling.

What are your 40 goals (if you don't mind sharing)?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Richard Hakluyt on November 04, 2013, 09:02:38 AM
Quote from: KRonn on November 04, 2013, 07:35:05 AM
I don't think I ever really got depressed over birthdays as I got older, or as I hit milestones like 30, 40, etc. I expected that I should feel depressed but it never really happened. Probably turning 30 was the most significant number because it seemed to signal the beginning of the end of youth, the beginning of getting older.

Yes, same for me.

I'm 57 later this month, most of the future milestones are pretty cool and involve getting pensions, senior discounts and so on.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 09:11:04 AM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 08:59:49 AM
Quote from: Valmy on November 03, 2013, 09:22:10 PM
I have set certain goals to reach by the time I turn 40 in 2017.  That is pretty much the only reason that milestone means alot.  If I make it, it will be one triumphant feeling.

What are your 40 goals (if you don't mind sharing)?

1. Finish my EE degree
2. Get an EE job in my city
3. Have a 3rd baby
4. Buy a new house
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 09:43:01 AM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 08:59:23 AM
I celebrated my 21st birthday by working a third shift at a big box store.  That was a depressing milestone.

I had proposed to CB a week before my 40th birthday and moved to Florida a few months before that.  That was a period of change for me, but change for the better.   :)

Try working in a K-Mart electronics/TV section.  :yucky:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 04, 2013, 09:47:04 AM
21 was less of a big deal for me because DC had recently raised the drinking age to 21 but I was grandfathered in at 18.

Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 10:10:07 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 09:43:01 AM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 08:59:23 AM
I celebrated my 21st birthday by working a third shift at a big box store.  That was a depressing milestone.

Try working in a K-Mart electronics/TV section.  :yucky:

I worked at the furniture section at a Meijer.  There aren't many people who come into the store after about 9 at night, but the ones who did were... different.  Some were eager to tell their life stories to lowly store clerks; others were eager to masturbate all over the Barbies. 
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 10:12:22 AM
Ahh, Meijers. Not a bad place to pick up college chicks in the wine section.

Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: KRonn on November 04, 2013, 10:24:37 AM
Quote from: Richard Hakluyt on November 04, 2013, 09:02:38 AM
Quote from: KRonn on November 04, 2013, 07:35:05 AM
I don't think I ever really got depressed over birthdays as I got older, or as I hit milestones like 30, 40, etc. I expected that I should feel depressed but it never really happened. Probably turning 30 was the most significant number because it seemed to signal the beginning of the end of youth, the beginning of getting older.

Yes, same for me.

I'm 57 later this month, most of the future milestones are pretty cool and involve getting pensions, senior discounts and so on.

I am so glad that I planned pretty well, or well enough, on when I'd be retiring, which will be in a few years or likely less. Else with little or no IRAs or savings it would look pretty bleak. For anyone youngish here try and start saving. Retirement age will be there soon enough even though your 60s age seems so far away.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 10:28:03 AM
I would love to save but I have debts to pay first  :(

I am putting money away in my pension though.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 04, 2013, 10:30:12 AM
Quote from: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 10:28:03 AM
I would love to save but I have debts to pay first  :(

I am putting money away in my pension though.

Same thing.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:25:55 AM
Quote from: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 09:11:04 AM
1. Finish my EE degree
2. Get an EE job in my city
3. Have a 3rd baby
4. Buy a new house

Good goals all around; how close are you to being done with your EE degree?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 11:27:16 AM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:25:55 AM
Quote from: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 09:11:04 AM
1. Finish my EE degree
2. Get an EE job in my city
3. Have a 3rd baby
4. Buy a new house

Good goals all around; how close are you to being done with your EE degree?

I will be finished December 2014 (I will be 37).  One year to go!  Senior project starts next semester I have to design and actually build something.  I presume it also has to work.  Scary.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:27:59 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 10:12:22 AM
Ahh, Meijers. Not a bad place to pick up college chicks in the wine section.

Heh, I thought only Michiganders put the invisible "s" at the end of Meijer.  (We do that for Fords, Strohs, Labatts, K-Marts and Walmarts as well.)
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:35:38 AM
Quote from: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 11:27:16 AM
I will be finished December 2014 (I will be 37).  One year to go!  Senior project starts next semester I have to design and actually build something.  I presume it also has to work.  Scary.

Just say you'll fix it in production if it doesn't.   :bowler:

My own free (and worth every penny) advice is take the FE exam now while undergraduate engineering is still fresh.  I took it several years after graduating and had to relearn how to do basic things like balance chemical equations.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: CountDeMoney on November 04, 2013, 12:48:59 PM
Quote from: Valmy on November 04, 2013, 09:11:04 AM
1. Finish my EE degree
2. Get an EE job in my city
3. Have a 3rd baby
4. Buy a new house

I always find it easier when it comes to lists, wait a while then take another look at it and edit it to achievable, realistic and tangible goals, like so:


Quote1. Finish my EE degree
2. Get an EE job in my city
3. Have a 3rd baby
4. Buy a new house

That way, disappointment is reduced.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: derspiess on November 04, 2013, 01:02:19 PM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:27:59 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 10:12:22 AM
Ahh, Meijers. Not a bad place to pick up college chicks in the wine section.

Heh, I thought only Michiganders put the invisible "s" at the end of Meijer.  (We do that for Fords, Strohs, Labatts, K-Marts and Walmarts as well.)

No, that's alive & well here in Southwest Ohio as well :bleeding:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: mongers on November 04, 2013, 02:08:07 PM
Quote from: KRonn on November 04, 2013, 07:35:05 AM
I don't think I ever really got depressed over birthdays as I got older, or as I hit milestones like 30, 40, etc. I expected that I should feel depressed but it never really happened. Probably turning 30 was the most significant number because it seemed to signal the beginning of the end of youth, the beginning of getting older.

:yes:

I prefer those sort of things to pass quietly, without anyone making too much of a fuss.  :)

Yeah, and I'd echo what Tricky said, there Are good things to look forward to as you get older, free bus passes.  :D
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 04:16:06 PM
Quote from: derspiess on November 04, 2013, 01:02:19 PM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:27:59 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 10:12:22 AM
Ahh, Meijers. Not a bad place to pick up college chicks in the wine section.

Heh, I thought only Michiganders put the invisible "s" at the end of Meijer.  (We do that for Fords, Strohs, Labatts, K-Marts and Walmarts as well.)

No, that's alive & well here in Southwest Ohio as well :bleeding:

It's the kentuckians moving north. The Michigan ones didn't run out of gas.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: mongers on November 04, 2013, 04:25:57 PM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 08:59:23 AM
I celebrated my 21st birthday by working a third shift at a big box store.  That was a depressing milestone.

I had proposed to CB a week before my 40th birthday and moved to Florida a few months before that.  That was a period of change for me, but change for the better.   :)

:thumbsup:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: The Brain on November 04, 2013, 04:27:44 PM
Change. Change never changes.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: mongers on November 04, 2013, 04:29:23 PM
Quote from: The Brain on November 04, 2013, 04:27:44 PM
Change. Change never changes.

Resting rarely resolves restlessness.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Caliga on November 05, 2013, 12:03:00 PM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 04:16:06 PM
It's the kentuckians moving north. The Michigan ones didn't run out of gas.
Here are some pronunciations from Princesca's grandmother:

K-Mart = K-Mart's
Wal-Mart = Wal-Mark's
Meijer = Mars
DVDs = BVDs
Oprah Winfrey = Oprey Winfery
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Maximus on November 05, 2013, 01:45:11 PM
Quote from: derspiess on November 04, 2013, 01:02:19 PM
Quote from: Savonarola on November 04, 2013, 11:27:59 AM
Quote from: Ed Anger on November 04, 2013, 10:12:22 AM
Ahh, Meijers. Not a bad place to pick up college chicks in the wine section.

Heh, I thought only Michiganders put the invisible "s" at the end of Meijer.  (We do that for Fords, Strohs, Labatts, K-Marts and Walmarts as well.)

No, that's alive & well here in Southwest Ohio as well :bleeding:

Here too.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 02:00:28 PM
Sounds like it might be time for the Pop/Soda Map again.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:17:24 PM
I'm scared by the 30th milestone that is little over 7 months away.

Where as my life gone? What have I accomplished?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 03:18:47 PM
No need to sweat 30 dude.  The 30's are a man's best decade.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Valmy on November 05, 2013, 03:20:14 PM
Man I sure hope my 40s are my best  :lol:

This EE-kids-crap job death march has not been too unpleasant but I sure hope it goes up from here.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: The Brain on November 05, 2013, 03:29:51 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 03:18:47 PM
No need to sweat 30 dude.  The 30's are a man's best decade.

Fuck.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Barrister on November 05, 2013, 03:33:08 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:17:24 PM
I'm scared by the 30th milestone that is little over 7 months away.

Where as my life gone? What have I accomplished?

Err, you have two kids, a house and a full time job.  How much more were you hoping to accomplish by this point?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:40:40 PM
Quote from: Barrister on November 05, 2013, 03:33:08 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:17:24 PM
I'm scared by the 30th milestone that is little over 7 months away.

Where as my life gone? What have I accomplished?

Err, you have two kids, a house and a full time job.  How much more were you hoping to accomplish by this point?

That's what makes it so insecurely frustrating, I don't know.  :(

However, a quick search I say I would have like a job with better prospects & some RL friends too.

None-Emo answer : have sex with 100 different women. Fizzled out way before that.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: mongers on November 05, 2013, 03:42:42 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:40:40 PM
Quote from: Barrister on November 05, 2013, 03:33:08 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:17:24 PM
I'm scared by the 30th milestone that is little over 7 months away.

Where as my life gone? What have I accomplished?

Err, you have two kids, a house and a full time job.  How much more were you hoping to accomplish by this point?

That's what makes it so insecurely frustrating, I don't know.  :(

However, a quick search I say I would have like a job with better prospects & some RL friends too.

None-Emo answer : have sex with 100 different women. Fizzled out way before that.

You breed them.   :contract:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 03:45:33 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 03:18:47 PM
No need to sweat 30 dude.  The 30's are a man's best decade.

Yeah.  Sure.
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 03:46:21 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:40:40 PM
Quote from: Barrister on November 05, 2013, 03:33:08 PM
Quote from: Grey Fox on November 05, 2013, 03:17:24 PM
I'm scared by the 30th milestone that is little over 7 months away.

Where as my life gone? What have I accomplished?

Err, you have two kids, a house and a full time job.  How much more were you hoping to accomplish by this point?

That's what makes it so insecurely frustrating, I don't know.  :(

However, a quick search I say I would have like a job with better prospects & some RL friends too.

None-Emo answer : have sex with 100 different women. Fizzled out way before that.

Stop stealth bragging about your life.  It's fine.

Edit: well, except for the no friends thing.  Same boat. :(
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 03:49:03 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 03:46:21 PM
Stop stealth bragging about your life.  It's fine.

You're one to talk, Chief Counts-His-Coup.  :glare:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 04:03:55 PM
Yeah, I've had one potentially pleasing, non-frustrating sexual encounter in ten months, that actually ended disastrously.  I'm a real monster of rock.

P.S. TBRS. :ultra:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 04:05:09 PM
I spoke in code.  You outed yourself.  :contract:
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Barrister on November 05, 2013, 04:08:53 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 03:46:21 PM
Edit: well, except for the no friends thing.  Same boat. :(

That seems to be a common Languish problem then. :(
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 04:11:53 PM
Quote from: Admiral Yi on November 05, 2013, 04:05:09 PM
I spoke in code.  You outed yourself.  :contract:

:P
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: The Brain on November 05, 2013, 04:19:10 PM
Are there even 50 posters here who aren't out?
Title: Re: 50 Not Out.
Post by: Razgovory on November 05, 2013, 04:51:23 PM
Quote from: Barrister on November 05, 2013, 04:08:53 PM
Quote from: Ideologue on November 05, 2013, 03:46:21 PM
Edit: well, except for the no friends thing.  Same boat. :(

That seems to be a common Languish problem then. :(

It's a problem I have, but that's to expected for a shut in.