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Last post by Valmy - Today at 08:31:01 PM

I think that's a very kind reading. My first thought would be that I now have a stalker who, a week (and hundreds of deliveries) later still remembers where I live.

Maybe but he is also just a kid thus prone to making well meaning idiotic choices. But sure.

Also it just shows that approaching women, and gay men apparently, will make them think you might be a stalker. So, again, don't fucking do it.

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Last post by Sheilbh - Today at 08:28:59 PM

I think that's a very kind reading. My first thought would be that I now have a stalker who, a week (and hundreds of deliveries) later still remembers where I live.

#3

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Last post by Valmy - Today at 08:25:32 PM

But I don't feel that's anything like a delivery guy dropping off some furniture (or a cabbie or whatever else) "stopping by" to hit on you a week later.

That is why I think he wanted to say something at the time but chickened out or wisely realized how unprofessional that would be and then some of his "friends" encouraged or pressured him to go back and take a shot at it. You normally wouldn't wait a week to do that.

#4

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Last post by Sheilbh - Today at 08:21:10 PM

Really? I would be like "holy shit, somebody thinks I am super hot? I mean thanks pal but I am married and straight."

I mean the closest anything like that has ever happened to me is when I was with a group of my guy friends in Vegas and a bunch of women came up to us and were like "you guys are cute come party with us" and we had to politely turn them down. Only the fact they were just wearing normal street clothes has me sort of convinced they weren't sex workers.

But I don't feel that's anything like a delivery guy dropping off some furniture (or a cabbie or whatever else) "stopping by" to hit on you a week later.

(Practically speaking I might wonder about moving flat but it would also depend what this twenty-something delivery guy looked like - but that's just male privilege )

#5

Off the Record / Re: Being a boy in 2024

Last post by Valmy - Today at 08:11:48 PM

Something I have been surprised at, looking at my son going through Middle School, current aged 13, is how little actually has changed since I was in his shoes back in 1990. The same kind of stupid shit seems to still be going on.

#6

Off the Record / Re: Israel-Hamas War 2023

Last post by Valmy - Today at 08:09:33 PM

You need to have means to get to America frpk house countries, though.

I am not saying the majority of Muslims in Europe want caliphate I am sure they do not. What I am unsure about is how many of them are opposed to the thought enough to work against it, but that part shan't become an issue for many decades.

But I think it's naive to think they or their families have come to Europe because of shared values. I am pretty sure most migrants everywhere are economic ones and they settle in their new countries despite and not because of the cultural differences from their original home.

Koopman's studies point to about 40% to 50% of muslims being fundamentalist.

How many of those live here vs Saudi Arabia, Iran, Turkey and other shitholes?

In the United States I find Muslims statistics sort of hard to understand because they are compared to Christian and Jewish stats and I don't know if they are comparable.

For example weekly service attendance is a big indicator for Jews and Christians at how religious they are. Like 55% of Protestants in the United States attend church once a week or more. 25% of Jews do. 30% of Catholics do. That is pretty important information to know how religious Protestants are compared to Jews and Catholics. Also how sometimes being a Catholic or a Jew doesn't actually have much to do with actually doing Catholic or Jew religious things but kind of an identity.

Whereas 42% of Muslims attend religious services once a week or more and 30% for Muslims between 18 and 30. Does that mean that Muslims in the United States are less religious than Protestants? That young Muslims are comparable to Jews in how seriously they take practicing the religion? Or does that stat really compare? Are Muslims even expected to go to Mosque once a week like Christians and Jews are? Don't know.

Likewise what sort of qualities would a Muslim have to be considered "fundamentalist"?

#7

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Last post by Valmy - Today at 07:52:46 PM

The problem with the above is not what he said, it is that he took advantage of knowledge gained in a professional/business transaction (her address) to be a creep and go back to say it.

I guess. I can see that kid going "wow she was really beautiful" and then people going "oh yeah? Just go back and talk to her, you'll make her day" or some shit. And the dude got up the nerve and walked up there and instead freaked her the fuck out. Or maybe he is just a creepy asshole...who knows I wasn't there.

But still. Don't ever do that. Ever. That's the lesson. And don't listen to those well meaning fools who want you to approach them.

Yep - and if that happened to me I'd be basically be thinking about whether I need to move flat.

Really? I would be like "holy shit, somebody thinks I am super hot? I mean thanks pal but I am married and straight."

I mean the closest anything like that has ever happened to me is when I was with a group of my guy friends in Vegas and a bunch of women came up to us and were like "you guys are cute come party with us" and we had to politely turn them down. Only the fact they were just wearing normal street clothes has me sort of convinced they weren't sex workers.

#8

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Last post by Sheilbh - Today at 07:49:15 PM

Yep - and if that happened to me I'd be basically be thinking about whether I need to move flat.

#9

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Last post by Tonitrus - Today at 07:47:49 PM

So this just happened:
My doorbell rang. I opened the door to find one of the men (half my age) who delivered my furniture last week standing there saying, "I stopped to say hello & tell you how beautiful you are."
Next time I buy furniture I'm requesting it be delivered by bears

Heh. that takes me back. ...

The problem with the above is not what he said, it is that he took advantage of knowledge gained in a professional/business transaction (her address) to be a creep and go back to say it.

#10

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Last post by Valmy - Today at 07:47:00 PM

But the Raz's of the world should be actively ignored.  What is so simple for a guy can be very meaningful to a woman.

Raz is a self-professed shut in though.