'Seeking Asian Female' Takes A Close Look At A Fetish

[Malthus]

All things being equal, I have a preference for white girls.  But for some reason when you're also white no one calls that a fetish. 

Naw, you just get thought a milquetoast.

Of course, one look at you, and no-one would dream of thinking that. 

[derspiess]

[alfred russel]

It's hard to watch Seeking Asian Female, Debbie Lum's uncomfortably close look at the phenomenon some call "yellow fever" — when usually non-Asian men fetishize Asian women as romantic or sexual partners — without squirming. And at first, it seems like it wasn't so easy for Lum to document the phenomenon.

It seems to me she didn't really document the phenomenon, or being generous just touched on the most lunatic fringe of it. I think most of us have known someone that likes dating asian girls, but that really isn't the same thing as some loser ordering a mail order bride half his age.

[merithyn]

It seems to me she didn't really document the phenomenon, or being generous just touched on the most lunatic fringe of it. I think most of us have known someone that likes dating asian girls, but that really isn't the same thing as some loser ordering a mail order bride half his age.

I think the guy's response is that the director edited the film to give that appearance, and that he's not a loser ordering a mail order bride half his age, but rather a guy who met a woman online, fell in love, and married her. That his preference was for Asian women was a side note, from his perspective, and age wasn't really a factor.

Given how editing can seriously change the feel and impression of a subject, I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt on this. *shrugs*

[Malthus]

Heh, reminds me of that article on general preferences by racial characteristics in NA - as I recall Asian women did well, Asian men did poorly.

[merithyn]

Heh, reminds me of that article on general preferences by racial characteristics in NA - as I recall Asian women did well, Asian men did poorly.

It's very strange. I think that Asian men are attractive, but I've never had any desire to date one. No idea why.

[Jacob]

I'm continually weirded out by the American obsession with race and the multi-splendored ways in which it manifests itself.

[alfred russel]

I think the guy's response is that the director edited the film to give that appearance, and that he's not a loser ordering a mail order bride half his age, but rather a guy who met a woman online, fell in love, and married her. That his preference was for Asian women was a side note, from his perspective, and age wasn't really a factor.

Given how editing can seriously change the feel and impression of a subject, I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt on this. *shrugs*

I would probably say that too if I ordered a mail order bride half my age and this was documented in a film. 

[Tonitrus]

Somebody want to explain the difference between being attracted to and fetishizing?  And I am sort of taken aback that having a certain type you are attracted to is twisted somehow.

This is not the first time I have heard outrage over this before, as if non-asian men wanting to sleep with asian women is equivalent to the most vile racism, and I just do not get the horribleness of this.  How exactly is this any more creepy than Cal liking big boobs?

Yeah, I don't get it either;  it all falls under secondary sex traits.  Short hair, redhead, asian, bust size, etc.

And I don't see anybody stirring up any shit over the multitudes of women that won't date anybody under 5'10".

Meh, believe it or not, but height has never done me a damned bit of good.

[Barrister]

Of course, one look at you, and no-one would dream of thinking that. 

[merithyn]

I'm continually weirded out by the American obsession with race and the multi-splendored ways in which it manifests itself.

Max says the same thing. It actually repulses him a lot of the time. I had no idea how bad it was until he moved down here. I'm learning how bad we are, but it's a process to disengage from the public discussion. I always thought that I was pretty liberal in my thinking, but the more time I spend with Max, the more I realize that I'm no better than those I consider overly-concerned with race. All I can do is try to get better.

[The Brain]

I think race is fine as long as you act white.

[Valmy]

I'm continually weirded out by the American obsession with race and the multi-splendored ways in which it manifests itself.

I took a theatre class at UT last semester and it was overwhelmingly about race.  I was pretty weirded out.

[Jacob]

I took a theatre class at UT last semester and it was overwhelmingly about race.  I was pretty weirded out.

How so?

[Malthus]

Of course, one look at you, and no-one would dream of thinking that.