Here's how to talk to women wearing headphones – without being an idiot

Started by garbon, August 31, 2016, 10:56:17 AM

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garbon

"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
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garbon

Quote from: Solmyr on September 01, 2016, 10:03:32 AM
Because that's what the article talks about? Because it's written about that specific subject?

Seriously, it's like you are asking why a book about WW2 does not mention every war in history ever.


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"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.

Valmy

Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 09:55:05 AM
I think the point is is that the article is telling you how to"force yourself" onto someone who isn't interested in talking to you. 


I would imagine you wouldn't have to get closer than 2m and wave your arms around if she had any interest in you.

Just because she is outside and breathing doesn't mean she whants or needs male attention.

I don't see any force there really. Say you see somebody you think is attractive and interesting at a book store looking at books you like and she is wearing headphones. You think 'hey we seem to have something in common and I might be interested if she is' and you decide to go up and strike up a conversation about your common interest to see if she has any interest. Did you just 'force yourself' upon her?

And how is she supposed to know if she has any interest in somebody if a conversation never takes place?
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

garbon

Quote from: Valmy on September 01, 2016, 10:08:31 AM
Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 09:55:05 AM
I think the point is is that the article is telling you how to"force yourself" onto someone who isn't interested in talking to you. 


I would imagine you wouldn't have to get closer than 2m and wave your arms around if she had any interest in you.

Just because she is outside and breathing doesn't mean she whants or needs male attention.

I don't see any force there really. Say you see somebody you think is attractive and interesting at a book store looking at books you like and she is wearing headphones. You think 'hey we seem to have something in common and I might be interested if she is' and you decide to go up and strike up a conversation about your common interest to see if she has any interest. Did you just 'force yourself' upon her?

And how is she supposed to know if she has any interest in somebody if a conversation never takes place?

Probably a pretty good rule to follow is that if someone is wearing headphones, they aren't really looking for a conversation.
"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.

sbr

Quote from: Martinus on September 01, 2016, 09:57:11 AM
Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 09:55:05 AM
I think the point is is that the article is telling you how to"force yourself" onto someone who isn't interested in talking to you. 


I would imagine you wouldn't have to get closer than 2m and wave your arms around if she had any interest in you.

Just because she is outside and breathing doesn't mean she whants or needs male attention.

Why is the bolded part relevant, again?
Because the article in question is addressed to single men looking to meet chicks.

Any other discussion about random peope violating people's personal space isn't that interesting.

Valmy

Quote from: garbon on September 01, 2016, 10:10:41 AM

Probably a pretty good rule to follow is that if someone is wearing headphones, they aren't really looking for a conversation.

Alright then. I did not realize that was common knowledge. My wearing of headphones has to do with whether or not I have something I want to listen to and not related to anything else.
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

Valmy

Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 10:10:47 AM
Because the article in question is addressed to single men looking to meet chicks.

Any other discussion about random peope violating people's personal space isn't that interesting.

Ok but talking to people is 'forcing yourself' upon them? Surely you can meet people out in public without it being compared to assault?
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

sbr

Quote from: Valmy on September 01, 2016, 10:08:31 AM
Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 09:55:05 AM
I think the point is is that the article is telling you how to"force yourself" onto someone who isn't interested in talking to you. 


I would imagine you wouldn't have to get closer than 2m and wave your arms around if she had any interest in you.

Just because she is outside and breathing doesn't mean she whants or needs male attention.

I don't see any force there really. Say you see somebody you think is attractive and interesting at a book store looking at books you like and she is wearing headphones. You think 'hey we seem to have something in common and I might be interested if she is' and you decide to go up and strike up a conversation about your common interest to see if she has any interest. Did you just 'force yourself' upon her?

And how is she supposed to know if she has any interest in somebody if a conversation never takes place?

To me wearing headphones in public is a big 'don't talk to me' sign.  If anyone has an interest in talking  to you I would imagine they would acknowledge your existence before you were within 6 feet and waving your arms.

The Brain

Quote from: Valmy on September 01, 2016, 10:15:24 AM
Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 10:10:47 AM
Because the article in question is addressed to single men looking to meet chicks.

Any other discussion about random peope violating people's personal space isn't that interesting.

Ok but talking to people is 'forcing yourself' upon them? Surely you can meet people out in public without it being compared to assault?

OK, caveman.
Women want me. Men want to be with me.

Valmy

Quote from: sbr on September 01, 2016, 10:16:32 AM
To me wearing headphones in public is a big 'don't talk to me' sign.  If anyone has an interest in talking  to you I would imagine they would acknowledge your existence before you were within 6 feet and waving your arms.

So don't talk to anybody looking at a book that you also love ever? How are they supposed to acknowledge your existence if they are looking at something else?
Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."

The Brain

Women want me. Men want to be with me.

garbon

I like to go to look at bookstores to look at people. I hate it when they talk to me. -_-
"I've never been quite sure what the point of a eunuch is, if truth be told. It seems to me they're only men with the useful bits cut off."
I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.

derspiess

"If you can play a guitar and harmonica at the same time, like Bob Dylan or Neil Young, you're a genius. But make that extra bit of effort and strap some cymbals to your knees, suddenly people want to get the hell away from you."  --Rich Hall

Valmy

Quote"This is a Russian warship. I propose you lay down arms and surrender to avoid bloodshed & unnecessary victims. Otherwise, you'll be bombed."

Zmiinyi defenders: "Russian warship, go fuck yourself."