Facebook Follies of Friends and Families

[Syt]

[11B4V]

 

[Habbaku]

My latest amusement comes from those that screech about how unified the media is against Trump as if that's some sure sign of collusion instead of a sign that Trump is truly awful enough to unify most journalistic outfits.

[Admiral Yi]

I get how a handful of people can say if everyone hates him he must be doing something right.  After all, this kind of thinking is not completely absent on the wacko left.  What I don't get is how 40% of my neighbors can think this way, or what other rationale they're using to continue supporting him.

[Eddie Teach]

You sure it's not 50+% in Iowa?

[Barrister]

So we have a wacky ex-nanny,  Boys like her, so we still use her as an occasional baby-sitter.  We're a bit upset with her as she house-say for us when we went camping over the summer and the house was a total mess (I cleaned up pet feces from out bedroom).  She's talked about being on the autism spectrum before, and she's a lesbian.

She's changed her first name on FB a few times so I don't know what reasons.  So right now on FB she goes by the name of "Holden [her last name]".

But yesterday she posted a couple things about transgenderism - in particular an article on "how I survived my first year post-transition" with her comment "Boy I needed that!".  And I just realized that FB uses male pronouns for her.

How do you ask someone if they identify as transgender?  I mean with her(him?) almost nothing would shock me, and I certainly would never pry, but this FB stuff (we are FB friends) is out there for me to see...

[crazy canuck]

Just ask the person how they would like to be addressed.  They will tell you the appropriate pronoun.

[Eddie Teach]

Some cisgendered people will be insulted by the question.

[garbon]

Some cisgendered people will be insulted by the question.

There isn't much you can do if people are going to get upset at polite behavior.

[Eddie Teach]

Some cisgendered people will be insulted by the question.

There isn't much you can do if people are going to get upset at polite behavior.

Would you find it polite if someone asked if you were a woman? 

I think bbs default position(don't pry) is generally best.

[Barrister]

Some cisgendered people will be insulted by the question.

There isn't much you can do if people are going to get upset at polite behavior.

I mean, that's one perspective.

But I can also tell you it's my personal practice to never, ever ask a woman if she is pregnant, no matter how far along, until they bring it up.

Question is - has my nanny "brought it up"?

[Syt]

"Btw, I noticed you changed your name on Facebook. Would you prefer we call you Holden from here on out?"

[Syt]

[garbon]

Some cisgendered people will be insulted by the question.

There isn't much you can do if people are going to get upset at polite behavior.

Would you find it polite if someone asked if you were a woman? 

I think bbs default position(don't pry) is generally best.

In what world is 'what pronouns do you prefer?' = 'are you a woman?'

Anyway, why would I be upset even if someone were to ask me if I was a woman. Do you think there is something wrong about being a woman?

[garbon]

Some cisgendered people will be insulted by the question.

There isn't much you can do if people are going to get upset at polite behavior.

I mean, that's one perspective.

But I can also tell you it's my personal practice to never, ever ask a woman if she is pregnant, no matter how far along, until they bring it up.

Question is - has my nanny "brought it up"?

Okay, so yet another unrelated question. Are you pregnant (with the risk the person is just fat) is not the same type of question.